Help!!! my daughter hair is curly n dry!!!!!

Christina - posted on 08/18/2009 ( 48 moms have responded )

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both of my daughters are mixed with black n asian. their hair texture is in between but corse curly n dry. what can i put in their hair for it not to look to dry or too greasy? the oldest curls don't stay curled when i put mositurizer in it. it loooks soo pretty when her hair is wet but when it drys look out!!! the oldest wants to wear it down but she has to much hair .it fluffs out!!!! help anyone?

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Ashley - posted on 09/18/2009

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I went through the same thing with my daughter's hair( she is mixed with white & black) but the hair sounds the same.I tried Pink Lotion,& all kinds of other stuff, what I found to work on my daughters hair was a texturizer from "Just Me" I believe.( the box has gotten 2 mixed girls on the front of it and something about sunflower oil) but it worked wonders for her hair.And now all I have to do is put that in it about every 8 weeks or so..But also after i wash it & dry it I straighten it with a flat iron, and it looks so pretty and she likes it too..It doesnt hurt her to get her hair brushed this way either.I have her pics on her if anyone wants to see the outcome of it..Goodluck

Laura - posted on 08/18/2009

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http://www.biracialhair.org/Welcome.aspx



I went into a thread about biracial hair on this site and found a link to the above link. This may sound crazy but I read the directions on how to wash and condition hair and it made a world of difference. My husbands family has always given me hell about my kids hair, especially my daughters, but they never showed me how to wash it and of course I never thought to ask. I'm white and my hair is fine, thin, and as straight as a board, my husband was black. My daughter's hair sounds alot like yours. Try this site, it really helped me.

Kara - posted on 08/18/2009

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use less shampoo and more conditioner. look for conditioners with silicon in the top ingredients. i use olive oil on my daughters and my hair. if u have any more questions just message me. my daughter and i have the same kind of hair your explaining. im black and white, her dad is black.

Me - posted on 01/18/2013

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I have struggled with natural curly hair for years. In fact I hated it so much that I would spend hours to straighten it. Finally I gave up and accepted that it was ruining my hair and decided to deal with the curls. I finally found Garnier's Sleek and Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment. I have a shower routine that I follow for my hair. Shampoo as needed (not everyday). The hair does feel better if I shampoo it and follow the rest of my routine. In the shower, I add in a good amount of conditioner (I like biologe) to my hair making sure to keep the hair very wet as I massage it into my scalp and to the rest of my hair. I let that sit for about five minutes. Then I add the Garnier Sleek and Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment to it and let it sit on for a few more minutes. While I let them sit in my hair I usually shave, wash face body etc. After it sits for a while, I gently run my hands down my hair to make sure that it is soft to touch and that I do not feel any tangles. If it is not soft or I feel tangles I run my hand under the water and splash it on my head and the rest of my hair and let it sit. If that doesn't work then I add more Garnier Sleek and Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment. After it is soft and without tangles, I rinse it out with cool water (to reduce the frizz). I then use my hands to get the extra water off my head and hair by twisting the hair a little. I usually have to do that twice as my hair is down to my butt. I do NOT comb, brush my hair as that is very bad for it. I use my hands to comb it out. Then I take the Garnier Sleek and Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment and put it in my hair to act as a leave in conditioner. I take a cotton clothe and wrap my hair in it and pat it down. Towels tend to take out all of the moisture and make it frizzy and unmanageable. I always let my hair air dry. After doing this for three days I begin to notice how nice my curls had relaxed which made them look like nice and soft and looked more like curls rather than a frizz ball. i have been using this for a few weeks now and my hair has never looked or felt greasy. In fact I have never had greasey hair because natural curly hair is natural dry and low on moisture. I got Garnier Sleek and Shine Moroccan Sleek Oil Treatment at walmart for $4.00. Hope this helps.

Monica - posted on 03/08/2011

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If you are not wanting to spend $20/bottle. Try the L'oreal Nature's Therapy - Mega Moisture line at Sallys Beauty. Lots of good natural things in it and really retains moisture. I also use the conditioner as a leave in when I wet and finger curl my baby daughters hair each day. A little goes a long way! Trust me, I've tried the pricey stuff - Bumble & Bumble, Aveda etc..
I am 1/2 asian n black. we need lots of good conditioning and leave in conditioners! and don't ever let anyone tell you to relax their hair (my mom totally messed mine up when she did) I have 2 girls - My older daughter has really coarse hair I blow dry it with the attachment and flat iron it with the CHI - so pretty! But I do have to keep moisturizing lotion/cream in hers.

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Morgan Savannah Paige - posted on 12/05/2012

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Use Pantene Curly I got my hair shaved into a bush on November 15 and my hair is already back at my shoulders its more taimed nd not greasy and always has the nice pretty wet look

Tomeka - posted on 03/04/2011

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I think the best thing to do would be to apply pure extra virgin olive oil/ jojoba oil to dampen hair after shampoo. Do not blow dry hair when it is wet but only slightly damp. Also use a shampoo with humecto in it nexxus make a good one. The must sleep on a satin pillow case or with a satin bonnet. It retains hair mosture and prevents breakage and split ends cause by cotton sheets.

Monica - posted on 09/24/2009

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try teatree oil and head and shoulders. that is what i had to do to my daughters hair. don't use the dryer on it much either. I will just braid it up and let it dry on its own at night

Vicki - posted on 09/24/2009

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Hey Kara, My baby girl has the dry frizzy hair and I wash once a week so i am definately trying the olive oil thanks.

Sarah - posted on 09/23/2009

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I have the perfect solution!!!! My older son had the exact same problem until i found this stuff. Johnson and Johnson makes a detangling leave in conditioner. What I do is in the morning i just put him in the shower with me to get his hair wet and when we get out i just towel dry his hair and put about a half dollar amount in the palm of my hand and just rub it through his head and let it sit for a while and then brush it and fluff it out and he has great curls that are not greasy but don't look dry!!

Trudy - posted on 09/22/2009

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Just keep experimenting. One of my daughters has totally taken over the care of her hair and she is 10. My 9 year old would never brush it or put the moisturizers in it if I did not insist.

Jennifer - posted on 09/21/2009

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I use frizz ease in my 9 yr olds hair when it's wet and it seems to keep the curls looking nice you might want to try it and see if it works for you

MARIE - posted on 09/21/2009

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I use mane n tail on me and my daughter's hair.She is three years old.We both have very curly hair.It keeps the hair moisturized but doesnt weigh the hair down.They have alot of different products.Shampoo,conditioner I also use the detangler on her hair also.its safe for kids and adults. www.manentail.com

Chezronda - posted on 09/20/2009

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yes, less shampoo! but also use a moisturizing conditioner when you wash their hair!

Priscilla - posted on 09/15/2009

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use hair gel designed for black hair. an also i've found that Biosilk an silk therapy they tha same thang jus diff brands.. work really good at smoothing an moisturizing hair,, also always use conditioner an leave-in in conditioner an just for me hair setter or sumn works really good

Delia - posted on 09/15/2009

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Try hair serum but put it in after you wet and brush it! then add a good amount and let air dry and always style when wet should dry soft and stil have shine and not to gressy ;)

Delia - posted on 09/15/2009

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Quoting christina:

Help!!! my daughter hair is curly n dry!!!!!

both of my daughters are mixed with black n asian. their hair texture is in between but corse curly n dry. what can i put in their hair for it not to look to dry or too greasy? the oldest curls don't stay curled when i put mositurizer in it. it loooks soo pretty when her hair is wet but when it drys look out!!! the oldest wants to wear it down but she has to much hair .it fluffs out!!!! help anyone?


 

Janice - posted on 09/15/2009

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There is a hair care line my daughter loves call Mixed Chicks. Their website is at mixedchicks.org.

Alex - posted on 09/14/2009

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My son's hair is the same way. I wash his hair with normal shampoo and put blue magic only on his scalp after bathing and sometimes in the morning i use pink lotion. I hope this will help.

Shakeshia - posted on 09/14/2009

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i agree with kara also and my two girls have simular hair, really my oldest has the difficult hair, i am black and their dad is black and white. i have found the product replenishing pack by organic root stimulator to be good for mine and my daughters hair and i also am able to leave it in as well and it makes their curls so soft! i have no chemicals in my hair and neither do they so in that case you need to use products that are natural, and i also forgot to mention that i am a hairstylist. good luck!

Robin - posted on 09/13/2009

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Have you ever tried any of the cholesterol products? Olive oil worked great on my daughters hair too. Also, how often to you wash their hair? Over washing can dry it out.

Sarah - posted on 09/12/2009

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www.blendedbeauty.com has some wonderful products as well as demo videos on hair care. My daughter is only 6 months and doesn't have enough hair for products yet, but my friends daughters use these products and the before and after was amazing!

Dawn - posted on 09/12/2009

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My son is mixed and when he was a baby had beautiful big curls...I did what Kara said, used less shampoo and more conditioner..I also used the Pink Oil Lite and I believe it was Soft Sheen shampoo and conditioner for babies hair products. You can also use Carol's daughter, their products are great for our kids hair. It doesn't leave it greasy or anything, it leaves it soft and the curls look so cute. The link is http://www.carolsdaughter.com . A close friend of mine uses it for both of her daughter's hair. Just like Michelle also said, I only washed my son's hair about 3 times a week, because I didn't want to dry it out. Hope this helps. God Bless.

Surapi - posted on 09/12/2009

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do u live in england? If so u need to go to black hair shop or market stall and get some hair grease called sofn'free which is a 2 in1 curl activator and put it in the hair 1st thing in the morning. Trust me its great stuff!!

750ml bottle for about £4

Lydia - posted on 09/11/2009

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Christina, My daughters and I have discovered some fantastic products -- a bit pricey but well worth the effort. Check out Carol's Daughter: http://www.carolsdaughter.com/?gclid=CI-...



My oldest is a Peace Corps volunteer in Azerbaijan and was quite worried about what to do with her hair (not to mention she was raised in Nome, Alaska). She tends toward wanting natural products and Carol's Daughter's products are great. She sent me the most amazing note about how great it was for her hair (which is natural now), as did her sister.

Christina - posted on 09/11/2009

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i have tried everything u can think of except for the mixed chicks. iwill order it n let u know how it does. i wash her hair 1 a week. not everyday. her hair is more corase dry curly. not sure if she will have t owaer pigtails all her life.

Christina - posted on 09/11/2009

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i'm sorry it has took me so long to get back t ou guys. i have tried that pink and it did not help!!! it made her hair worst !!!!!!

Adriane - posted on 08/24/2009

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There is this great product called mixed chicks. I highly recommend it. Go to the web site.

Rose - posted on 08/22/2009

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The best thing I have found for dry hair types no matter what ethinicty you are is this "Cholesterol". It's in a round container and it can most commonly be found at Wal*Mart's or even like a Family Dollar store. It works wonders on my son's hair. Let me know if it works.

Caroline - posted on 08/21/2009

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The most important thing is don't wash her hair every day. This is extremely drying to that type of hair, I should know because I have it. : )

Lisa - posted on 08/20/2009

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Both my daughters are mixed race, white and afro caribbean, my youngest has the most coarse hair and it tends to grow up and out ! I use a really great detangling spray and cream moisturiser from the ' dark and lovely beautiful beginnings ' range, they moisturise her hair without weighing it down or making it look greasy !

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TEA TREE OIL !! put a LITTLE in palm of your hand mixed with mousse rub together really good start at the ENDS.. and work thru.. the tea tree oil is great on ends..but if you put too much in it looks greasy.. my daughter is mixed white/black and has very frizzy hair but she manages to make it look great with the right mix of tea tree oil and mousse..and gel.... ALSO hair polisher works great too.. and theres a olive oil serum that works good too.....the oily bases work the best..

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I have the shampoo and conditioner thing down although I am wondering if my child will have to wear pigtails for the rest of her life!

Laurena - posted on 08/20/2009

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try pink lotion..or motions moisturizing lotion... and put a little leave in conditioner ...idk how old they are but you can try gel i use herbal essence spray gel... i'm mixed with white and cuban and my hair is really curly and dry. hope it helps.

Tara - posted on 08/19/2009

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http://www.curls.biz/

Go to this website & read the article about biracial children's hair! The products are AMAZING! My daughter(african-american & white) can wear her hair down & it looks beautiful =)



Trust me there's so much you need to know~ you're little girls with thank you!

Charlet - posted on 08/19/2009

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BYT SOME ELSE RECCOMENDED THE SAME THING DOWN FURTURE..IM TELL YOU THIS STUFF WORKS BETTER THAN ANY PINK OIL, HERBAL ESSENCE, SALLY BEAUTY STORE LOL ITS A WINNER!

Charlet - posted on 08/19/2009

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Ok, SO IM NEW TO THIS WHOLE POST AND COMMUNITY THING BUT THIS QUESTION CAUGHT MY EYE! I HAVE THE CORRECT ANSWER FOR YOU AND ANY OTHER MOTHER OF A CHILD THAT IS BI-RACIAL OR JUST HAPPENS TO HAVE CURLY HAIR THAT NEEDS TO BE TAMED WITHOUT THE GREASE AND STILL KEEPING IT LOOK CURLY AND MOISTURIZED! ITS CALLED WWW.MIXEDCHICKS.NET

YOU WILL NEVER BUY ANY GREASE, SPRAY, OIL, MOOSE, OR GEL AGAIN EVER IN UR LIFE! I ACTUALLY USE THE PRODUCT I FOUND OUT ABOUT THESE 2 WOMEN WHO MADE THE PRODUCT ALL NATURAL THE PRODUCTS HAVE NEVER BEEN USED ON ANIMALS REALLY GREAT! I FOUND OUT ABOUT THIS PRODUCT FROM ACTUALLY A WHITE FRIEND (BTY I AM CREOLE BLK, WHIT, AND NATIVE AMERICAN) MY FATHER IS FRENCH AND MY MOTHER IS NATIVE AMERICAN AND BLACK! ) AND I WAS AT FRIST INSULTED LIKE WHAT DOES SHE KNOW ABOUT "MY HAIR" WELL I USED A SAMPLE THAT SHE WAS GIVEN AND DIDNT OBIVS. NEED TO USE IT AND I HAVE BEEN A USER AND BELIEVER SINCE THEN ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO THEY HAVE GOTTEN MUCH INTERNATIONAL ATTENTION NOW AND THERE PRODUCTS HAVE GROWN AND EVERYONE I EVER COME IN CONTACT NO MATTER WHAT THE RACE/MIX IS I TELL TO BC FOR ME IT WAS A GODSEND, IT DIDNT MATTER HOW MUCH I WASHED MY HAIR , COMBED IT, CONDITION IT, THIS LEAVE IN CONDITIONER WORKS AND I BET MY LIFE ON IT..I LOVE GETTING COMPLIMENTS ON MY HAIR AND PEOPLE CAN ACTUALLY TOUCH IT BC ITS NOT DOSED WITH HAIRSRPAY OIL GREASE ETC..PLS AT LST LOOK AT THE WEBSITE SEE ACTUALLY TESTIMONIES AND THEN BUY A 1.00 SAMPLE FOR YOU KIDS HAIR AND YOU WILL NOT BE LET DOWN! I KNOW I SOUND LIKE I MADE THE PRODUCT LOL BUT I DIDNT IM JUST A MIXED 28ROOLD 4M CALI WITH ONE SON HIS FATHER WAS BLK AND NOW IM MARRIED AND HAVING MY 2ND CHILD AND MY HUSBAND IS ASIAN! SO PLS TRY IT OUT YOU WONT BE SORRY! WHEW! LOL...

Molly - posted on 08/19/2009

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I use LIV in my daughters hair... she is black, indian, mexican and white, her hair is curly and has a lot of it... this stuff works GREAT!!! i get it at SALLY's if u have one of those where ur at. ur girls will b able to wear it up or down and it should not fluff out.

Christine - posted on 08/19/2009

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i really like using herbal essences leave-in creme...pink just made both of my kids hair greasy and weighed down looking....ive also tried many different creams and conditioners, and herbal essences seems to work the best...the only down side is i have to use two good size amounts every day...but it doesnt make it look greasy..and it smells really good....

Barbara - posted on 08/19/2009

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There is hope! M y daughter is almost 12 and has a ton of hair. The advice you've recieved is good. Here's advice for YOU. Don't stress about it!!!!! Her hair is not going to do what yours or mine will. Less is more, MOM. lol.My daughter is almost 12 and

is old enough to take care of her own hair, what works best is tons of conditioner (love the pantene marketed to women of color) and the already mentioned herbal escense. She uses conditioner everyday, when hair is wet she/we use a huge toothed comb, shake out, and finger fluff those out of control curls. She likes using gels to control frizz. Loose scrunchies are her best friend. We get her ends trimmed every 6 or 7 weeks.

Lisa - posted on 08/18/2009

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I spent a bunch of money on different products for this same issue - it is definitely a combination of what has been suggested. I cut down washing to 1 time a week and use Herbal Essense "hydrolycious" (I think that's correct). Then olive oil worked best for her and she also has a satin pillow case (but I may opt for the sheets, they don't always stay on the pillow).

Kara - posted on 08/18/2009

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i forgot to tell u, after i shampoo i deep condition. i just use the conditioner that i use on a regular bases. i only shampoo our hair about every 2-3 weeks, and condition wash the rest of the time.

also use silk caps at night. i know kids will not keep them on so i got my 18 month old satin sheets. cotton takes all the moister out of the hair. curl hair needs all it can get. lol

Michelle - posted on 08/18/2009

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Kara is right. Also you might want to cut back on the times per week you shampoo their hair. I only shampoo mine once per week but may condition 3 times per week. If the olive oil (a fabulous hair moisturizer, I swear by it) is too oily you may want to try Pink Oil Lite, a lotion like hair cream but the lite version has less oil than the regular. You could also try hot oil treatments or deep conditioners once per week. I do this once every two weeks where I put on a really rich conditioner and a plastic cap and wear it for a couple hours. I am black white and Native American by the way with hair that is also curly and coarse.

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