HELP, my daughters hair is so dry

Julie - posted on 01/14/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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My daughter is Irish/ Nigerian, her hair is so difficult to manage, i need some advice as to what to use in it, its very very dry n coarse not only has she got afro but its mixed with my fuzzy curly thick hair type , i have had it relaxed a few times but after a few weeks its back dry n hard to manage, so if anyone could give any advice it would be very helpful.. thanks

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Nikia - posted on 06/27/2011

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Okay I suggest for your little one that you use all natural oils..olive oil, coconut oil, and 100 % shea butter. Do not relax her hair, you will damage it. Just add a little bit of each of the oils to a spray bottle and add water. That will help keep her hair and scalp moisturized because all of those oils retain moisture and create a nice balance in the hair. Just a little bit of each though...dont oversaturate. And though it may be difficult embrace it, and teach her to embrace it as well so that she doesnt grow up thinking she has "bad hair". Just love it, embrace it and throw a flower in it lol.



AND NO MORE RELAXERS. You will have a bald child if you continue to do so. She is way to young...you are actually making her hair harder to manage. Go the natural route so that you can restore moisture. ALL natural oils. No grease. Grease just lays on the hair, it doesn't penetrate it. :)



And definitely no heat now that you have relaxed it.

User - posted on 07/16/2011

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WOWZ ! Horrible replies. Im sorry, I am going to be honest. If you are unsure .. ask the black father ! If he doesnt know.. there is a huge problem ! Moms, I dont blame you, but dont be afraid to ask your babies father what to do. At either rate. I am black and puerto rican. First of all.. DONT relax your childs hair. Its the worst thing to do. Second. Get a good shampoo and conditioner. I recomend all natural products . Try going to carols daughter for products. Oil is key to our hair. NOT just any oil or grease , make sure it has some things like shea butter , coconut oil, Olive oil etc in it. Once you get a good grip on the hair it should be easy to take care off. Keep it mostured. ALSO, African americans DONT wash there hair as much as white people. So stop with the every day washing. Go for every 3 days of so. It dries our hair out and we need the extra mosture which is the opposite from you all. Best of luck.

Kerrie - posted on 07/13/2011

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hi there
my daughter has my ringlets and her hair used to be slightly dry (i know this is totally different to afro hair) i use johnsons baby shampoo and then i use johnsons leave in detangling srpay which also has very light conditioning agents in it. this keeps it soft but also taks the wildnss out and keeps it lovely and curly.
dont mean to sound rude but surely having it relaxed would dry it out???
hope this helps x

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Hi there, we adopted our daughter who is African-American. You need to find a store/hair salon that sells products specifically for her hair. I used a product called TCB on her hair. It is hair and scalp conditioner. I use it at least once a day during the winter, sometimes morn and night. Make pars through her hair and put it liberally on the scalp. You don't rub it into her hair, just the scalp. Then comb and brush through. It will make it so manageble. You can also try Marc's Lano-Lustre scalp remedy. For itchy and flaky scalp. I like TCB so much better, I noticed a diff. right after using it. Also, does she wear a satin night cap at night and naptime? That will also keep the moisture in her hair. The de-tangler I use is called Sofn'free n'pretty olive oil detangler. It also has vitamin E in it, which is great for giving moisture. Also, Palmers has a good lotion with Vit. E for "ashy skin" I found that at Walmart. My daughter has extreemily dry skin. We use lotion every day. I hope this helps.

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Brittany - posted on 07/06/2011

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well you fist should never relax her hair ever but dont wash her hair everyday 3 to 4 times a week is good and i use tresseme' shampoo/cond and then i use miss jessies baby buttercream in her hair it just make her curls lay down and not frizz out and just for me 2 in 1 conditioning detangler and started using curls lotion from walgreens it ant realy lotion it is like a clear gel and it makes her hair so nice and cute and helps with the dryness of it but do not us pink lotion it dries it out baby oil to but try some of thows and the only place you can get miss jessie's is target it is not cheapat all like 45 bucks for a 16 oz jar but the stuff is great well worth the price

User - posted on 06/29/2011

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Julie,
I would say get some deep conditioner for her and also, when her hair is damp, apply a drop of cold pressed castor oil. This should help a lot.

Tabitha - posted on 01/25/2010

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Frizz Ease in the purple bottle! I am telling you it is amazing. I used it for both of my boys and I had a friend whos daughter had the thickest prettiest curls ever and the only she has ever used on her daughters hair was frizz ease for coarse hair! Her curls are perfect ringlets!

Karolyn - posted on 01/24/2010

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Your daughter's hair should NEVER have a relaxer in it so young! Relaxers are mature hair, 16 and older only! When you make a commitment to have a bi-racial child, you need to learn how to take care of their hair. Their hair is not what your use to. My advise to you is 1, go to a Black beauty supply and buy a jar of Liv! It comes in a white jar with red letters. 2, take you daughter to a black salon, they will know how to take care of it, at lease once so you can get some pionters.Dont for get Liv

KAREN - posted on 01/22/2010

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You need oils for her hair...use it everyday...Stop relaxing her hair...those chemicals are ruining her hair....I'm a haridresser by trade...and I'm not black...it's not neccessary to go to a black salon..you just need a good hairdresser...who can get you some oil sheen or some oil for hair..ex: 7 vitamin oil etc..

Robyn - posted on 01/22/2010

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Get it under control while the child is young. It will only get worse. Best case, take your child to a salon where they can give you a "course". Otherwise, make sure you part hair into 4 sections and comb each section with a wide tooth comb. When you're combing start at the bottom of the hair strands and work your way up detangling. A good oil moisturizer is needed. There are numerous products available, but don't use one made for white people.

Crista - posted on 01/21/2010

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My daughter is New Zealand/Jamaican, so she has the afro curls but with my softer texture. I never brush her hair, only ever comb it, otherwise it puffs up lol. I use a spray in conditioner with some anti-frizz serum in it, just to help keep her curls and ringlets nice.

Lezzett - posted on 01/21/2010

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Hi, I have/had very curly, kinky, frizzy,nappy, dry, unruley hair (you name it, I got it). I even have thin and thick strands. Straight & curly. My hair...its weird. I tried Aussie products but it began to dry my hair out even more...switched to dandruff shampoo/cond. bc I had dandruff too...but then it dried my hair out EVEN MORE...Now, I am using Tresseme' products. If your child is really too young to try the shampoo & cond. just try using the products that won't be washed in her eyes. I use Curl Enhancer (I think that's what its called) & frizz control creams. My hair has become soft, my curly hair doesn't look frizzy anymore & Its soft to touch. My hair is actually manageable now. Try it & let me know how it worked for your daughter. Hope it helps.

Rachel - posted on 01/20/2010

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Well i have three mixed daughters and fist of all you should not relax their hair because their hair is not mature until their like 12 or 13 years old. Second I have used soooooooo many different thing you have to find what will work for ur childs hair. Myself have used pretty much every thing. But i like the best is Dr. Miracles hair products and also pretty and silky newgro hairdress but also Let's Jam. Dr. Miracles is like grease and so is the pretty and silky,but the Jam is like gel but grease and gel in one. My kids hair is so kinky and curly and is just like black folks hair. I taught myself how to corn roll so i do their hair and i cut it also. Hope this works for you. Try not to relax it anymore though b/c it makes it worse and if you dont do hair take them to someone who knows how to manage their hair. Good Luck!!

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2010

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relaxers are only going to make it worse. even the children's one is horrible. when you're buying a conditioner for her hair don't buy anything that says creme, it dries your hair out. my hairdresser almost punched me in the face when i told i was using a "moisterizing" cream. it may work wonders for "white hair" but it horrible for "nappy hair." try having it braided, it's low maintnence and they look adorable on little girls. one other thing that i find works wonders on my hair, is this hair grease made with coconut oil. i can't remember the name of it for the life of me but it comes in a little blue and clear plastic jar. they sell it at cvs. that and a good boar hair brush should do that trick. sorry about the ridiculously long post, but i had to cut over a foot of my hair off when i was in 6th grade because my mom insisted on perming my hair rather than keep it braided. i'd hate for you guys to go through that.

BRANDY - posted on 01/18/2010

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i USED LiGHT PiNK 0il M0iSTERiZER F0R MY liTTlE GiRlS HAiR AND iT W0RKS MiRAClES

Phoebe - posted on 01/15/2010

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I have found that a good children's moisturizer can work wonders. I sit down with a good brush and a little moisturizer and go to it. Sometimes the brushing can take a while depending on the level of coarseness. You may have to try a few different types before you find the right one, but hang it there, you'll gt it ;)

Jessica - posted on 01/15/2010

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I used olive oil for my lil ones. I wouldn't recommend using a relaxer on her hair until she is at least 12 years old. The chemicals in relaxers are very harsh and can make her break out in hives. I agree with Kasha on taking your sweety to a salon. Also, Chi makes great hair products to help manage her hair without too much chemical.

Shantae - posted on 01/15/2010

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i know is sounds crazy but use baby lotion and lots of it my hair is the same way and that is the only thing that works

Kasha - posted on 01/14/2010

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OMG! Don't relax her hair. You are ruining her hair. Go to a black salon STAT. You need someone to show you proper hair care. Try this website too curls.net.



I do not believe in relaxing little girls hair at all. I would wait till she is in high school but thats just me. Not to mention I have never relaxed my own hair. Notice the picture. If you need help finding a salon, let me know the city your in and I will find you a great salon in that area.



In the meantime sounds like she needs an oil treatment and good conditioning. Black hair is such a story of constant refinement. Now you know :( good luck). Your little one is too cute.

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