Xandria - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
I am a 26 year old black female born and raised in south Georgia. I have never dated a black guy, not because I don't find them attractive or wouldn't go out with one but where I am from I am considered kind of odd because I don't drink, hang out, and I like to read and stay home most of the time so most black guys my age found me to be boring. I am now married to a white guy and I am extremely happy and I have never been bothered by my family and their stupid comments before but now that my daughter is here it is starting to piss me off and I don't know what to do so I have been avoiding them which is hard to do since most of them don't live close by but I am running out of excuses to dodge them.
Here are examples of the things that they say and do that just through me. For my baby shower they had them remove the baby from the cake because it was a black baby and didn't think it was appropriate. My aunt swears that my daughter who is seven months old and has seen her three times won't go to her not because she is unfamiliar but because she is never around (points to her skin and mouths black people). Hello, WTF! I am black, I'm darker than most of my family! They call my daughter whose middle name is LIlliana "White Lily" mind you I named her Lilliana because she was born exactly the right time after my wedding and my wedding bouquet and table arrangements were lilies so I thought it was appropriate. One of my cousins has made the comment that she had to be switched at the hospital because there is no way that she is black, (I will admit that if people don't see her dad who she looks just like they think she is hispanic).
I think the thing that gets me the most is that it's my family that says it. I expect it from strangers who don't know any better but what do you say to your own family. It's jacked! If I can't protect her from the comments of my family who tell me that I am overreacting and that I need to lighten up and get a sense of humor then how do I keep her from getting screwed up when other people who don't know her make comments later?