How long does it take for biracial babies to get darker?

Jenny - posted on 09/07/2010 ( 64 moms have responded )

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Well I had my son 2 weeks ago. He's doing well and I'm just glad he's been doing so well since he was born so premature. My fiance and I have moved in together and are now just preparing for our baby to come home. The thing is my fiance is like questioning my son now. I think it's cuz he's blond hair with blue eyes but that's how most of my family is when they were born but we're mostly spanish when we grow up. Just because of how he was born a lot lighter than he expected. He's saying he can't have a kid that white looking. I just wish he'd wait. I think all is needed is time really. He's half black half native american and white. While I'm white and latino like only an 1/8. I know it's his he's the only one I've ever been with. It's just hard getting him to believe me even though I've been faithful to him these 3 years. But anyway, how long did it take for your baby to get darker?

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Amber - posted on 05/07/2013

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Yea I was wondering the same thing. My baby is 2 months old. I'm black and his dad is white and my son is pale. I know most children are born light and darken up soon after birth but my white still looks white like he doesn't belong to me

Stephanie - posted on 02/22/2011

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Take a look at the picture I have of my husband and our daughter, Talitha. You will see that not all mixed race babies get dark. Your baby may never get darker. I pray that your man will realize that genetics is a funny thing and since you both have white in you, the baby make end up looking white.

Maria - posted on 10/16/2010

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Depends on the Baby, Both mine were very light skinned when they were born though with My Daughter you could tell she was mixed (dark curly Hair) she started getting darker around 2 years old. My son looked like a little white boy, lighter skin than me & straight blond hair! The nurses were looking at us very strange. He was so white I told daddy I would not be offended if he wanted a DNA test. (I knew He was the only one) But I have a great Man who said "No way! Thats MY son!" Plus He did have daddy features aside from His coloring. He Has never gotten to much darker and His hair is stil blond though very curly att 2 years old. I cant wait to see what our new baby Sam looks like since the other 2 are so different!

Dana - posted on 04/07/2013

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Yes, my 3 biracial-black sons all did get darker around a year old. I am white-Scottish and German decents, so fair skinned and the fathers are darker-skinned. While they were noticeably mixed at birth, their skinned got darker around a year and a little more after that.

Albaneze - posted on 07/21/2013

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Tell him to calm his ass down! All of what your asking varies genetically. And all babies (even the chocolate ones) don't get color for a while and it also depends on if you take him outside or not. There's too many variables to go through to give you a real answer! Plus if he's that concerned about it, tell his questionable ass to take a DNA test if he feels like that.
But seriously it's depend on you and him! Two extremely dark people ( I mean so black they look purple) can have a child that looks damn near pale! It all depends and in some rear cases your son might be a melano?! You never know!

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Judy - posted on 08/03/2014

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Quick question what is wrong for ur biracial children looking black since u r mating with a black man...most of these comments sickens me, you dont want ur children looking black but u having kids with blacks that's hypocritical racist n selfish

Katie - posted on 01/01/2014

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My son has what i thought was a bruise on his but and they told me that was due to him being African American which i didnt know. He is a month tomorrow and when helays on me he looks super tan, and compares to my daughter he is really tan. The doctor told me one it takes on average six to nine months to fully have their pigment change. A nurse said on average the color of a boys testicles is generally what color their skin will be.

Eric - posted on 11/24/2013

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My fiance' is from Kenya. She is very dark, but her facial features are not typically African. She has a small nose, a small pointed chin, average lips, not the slightest hint of a projecting lower face, and a large vertical forehead (even more so than mine). I am white of Northern European descent, with blue eyes, long face shape, and Rh-negative blood. I'm whiter than most white people. Our baby daughter is very pale, and the hands and feet are especially white. Mom is a bit uncomfortable that this white baby came out of her. I really was expecting the reverse, that the baby would be a bit darker, but have no African facial features because even her Mom doesn't have them.

Kristin - posted on 06/04/2013

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Sometimes they don't get any darker. My daughter is extremely light-skinned, but she tans very easily. During the summer she looks truly mixed because she gets so tan haha!
It's probably because I have Irish heritage and they are known for being fair-skinned, so those genes were just passed down to her.

Victoria Lee - posted on 11/27/2012

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did he have the mongolian mark on his butt? a lot(most) mixed babies have it.. it looks like a bruise on the butt.. but it is a birthmark.. its wat african american babies get.

Jami - posted on 11/24/2012

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I have a girl friend who is black and her hubby is white. Her son was born pure white with brownish hair and blue eyes. He looks just like his white dad and even at a year old still looks pure white. There is clearly no paternity issue. Genetics is a funny thing. Just enjoy ur baby and tell the dad if he don't think its his then he can pay for a DNA test.

Cathy - posted on 11/22/2012

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my son is 7 months im white, and the father is black (dark skinned) My son is very white, same color as me! I'm still waiting for him to darken up some but no luck. I have a friend how ever has a mixed child as well he started off as a blue eyed n blonde hair. Now he has nappy dark reddish gold hair he's darker, you can tell he's mixed!

So your man needs to chill, its about who's genes are stronger....

Jay - posted on 03/31/2011

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most mixed babies with white are born white!

I was actually worries I wouldnt be able to bond with my son because I thought he would be born very dark, but my husband told me he would be born white and change, can take up to 5 years for them to darken fully.

my lil lad is 5 weeks now and getting darker all the time, so jelous of his tan now!!

( dont ask about the bonding thing, dont know what was up but it was a real worry for me!)

He does have his dad's nose, lips and ears, and is looking more like a white version of his dad every day! x

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my daughter is 7 black/white and she has gotten may 1shade darker. that is it! i dont think mixed kids get too dark. I have a multitude of mixed cousins that in their 30's and they are all light skinned. never to got dark at all!

Tahisha - posted on 10/24/2010

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I am Puerto rican and look "black" but my daughter's father is biracial (black and white). We expected our daughter to be dark skinned, but came out so white it shocked the heck out of me. I didnt even cry when she was born, cause I honestly was so shocked! She stayed white for a long time. She is a year now and she has a nice tan color, but really hasnt gotten any darker. So, he needs to accept that this is how his child will look! the baby may not ever get darker! Like I said its a shocker, but he will come to terms with it!

Miranda - posted on 10/20/2010

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That happened to me with my oldest. She was whiter than me and her dad is black.So I told him to get a dna test. and he did and nothing more was ever said.But she is still light comp.

Heidi - posted on 10/16/2010

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It is a genetic thing, three of my six children are biracial, all are adopted. Two are brothers with the same parents, the dad is white, the mom is biracial. Each one takes after one parent, the mom was told that she couldn't be the mother of the younger one because he was too white. Ignorance is just that, people honestly don't know or understand. I believe it is important to educate people for my childrens sake and present a positive perspective. Ones appearance is not the most important part of who a person is, who they are when no one is looking is what society should be more concerned with. Variety is beautiful!

Victorya - posted on 10/06/2010

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I think he is being very ignorant. I was told 2 weeks for my sons skin color to come in. hes black white and native american. and 5months later he is steadily getting darker.

Jenn - posted on 09/20/2010

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about a month and a half, but my son's father is all black. your df is only half so he might not even get that dark

Nicole - posted on 09/19/2010

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im mixed (black and white) myself and my husband is puerto rican. We have 3 kids and my duaghter is tan like me (started out white), my oldest son just kept his white skin and his hair lightened up ALOT. My newest has blue eyes and light brown hair. No question they are all his and they all look different. Ur husband will get over it. and if he doesnt then you can get a DNA test to prove him wrong. ;) good luck. Some babies change but then again some dont. I got darker as i grew up and my sister stayed pretty light skinned and we have the same parents.



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Valencia - posted on 09/19/2010

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Just so you know, there's actually a chance that your son may not even darken. I am mixed with mexican and black. My 3 sisters and I have the same parents. My oldest sister and I are very light skin or tan while my two yuonger sisters are dark skin. My dad doubted my oldest sister was his child and adored my younder sisters when each of them were born because of their darker color. This happens with a lot of bi- or multi-racial kids. Depending on what you are and what the father is, your son may always be fair skin, blond hair, and blue eyes. Its just the way genetics works. Just love you and your baby. Skin tone/color should be the last thing on your mind to worry or stress about. If the father doesnt want to be with you or believe you, then it is up to you to decide what you think would be better for you and the baby.

Jenny - posted on 09/17/2010

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yea well the test came back so he's the dad he isn't asking me nomore that's good.



and I'm not white. I am latina half portuguese though.

Elvy - posted on 09/17/2010

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My babies all have the same dad, a dark skinned Australian Aboriginal, while I'm a light skinned Australian Aboriginal. They've all come out different colors at birth, but all ended up the same lovely tanned color. Our fifth baby was very pale...paler than me even, with ivory skin until she was MONTHS old...she's now no different from our others. Our premmie (26 weeker) was also very pale, he took months to darken up too. I recently (two weeks ago) had twin boys, whose features look identical, but one has ruddy colored skin while the other is much paler. My partner always knew that our babies were his and his alone, there was never any question. I hope your partner mans up soon, it's hard enough just having a baby, let alone a premmie one, without your partner questioning your integrity and his child's parentage.

Nbailey207 - posted on 09/16/2010

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Neither of my boys' complexion changed much after birth honestly. Some of their black features became more defined such as their hair, but my oldest was very light complected when he was born and still is to this day (he's 11 years old now). It really all depends on the genes and with you being white and your fiance being mixed with white, the white genes are probably going to be more dominant and your fiance should do a little research on this in my opinion. No offense to either of you, but you just had a baby and your hormones are all over the place and the last thing you need is the father of your brand new baby saying "it ain't mine". I would shove an anatomy book in his face and tell him to shut up!

Jessica - posted on 09/16/2010

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Both my boys are black/white and when my youngest son was born he was as white as me and I knew that he was my husbands son but my inlaws tried to get it in his head that it was his child bc he was too white. It took my son about 2 yrs to start getting darker but he's still not as dark as my oldest son.

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Although I can't create a time line for you about "getting darker," here are some things I CAN say:

A baby and young child that has ANY Caucasian racial component is OFTEN (though not always) going to be born with eyes that look sort of blue, and with lighter hair than he/she will have later. My own half-Asian child had sort of midnight blue eyes and dark hair that immediately fell out--to be replaced by light brown hair until she was about three years old. Her father and I were, respectively, black-haired and dark-brown-haired, so there didn't seem to be any possibility that she'd be other than very dark-haired in the long run, and that proved to be the case.

The baby's father definitely needs to wait and see--and to study up on his genetics. What anyone's baby looks like isn't an ego trip; it's a function of some very definite possibilities (but STILL, a VARIETY of possibilities) based on who the parents were.

Incorrigibly,

Sharon

Kelly - posted on 09/15/2010

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I just had my son 17 days ago (I am white and his dad is black) and he came out light with the exception of his ears and private area. He has darkened up quite a bit since coming home. However with your son being premature not everything was developed all the way yet. According to the pediatrician the baby will have his/her color by the time they are 6mos. And with having a boy the best bet is how dark the private area is. That will give you a good indication of what color he will be...maybe a shade lighter or so...hope that helps.

Ashley - posted on 09/15/2010

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My daughter is 5yrs and she is half native and half white, her is skin is a little darker in tone than mine but she really has never gotten darker, you can sure tell thru her facial features that she is indeed native and the fact that she look identical to her father when born, and most often the child will take on the fathers racial background, it sometimes takes on the mothers, so my advice is try to find some simialirities between your baby and the father thru baby pics and what not!!

Sara - posted on 09/14/2010

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My son is white an Mexican, and other than the "hispanic ears" (which I LOVE, so don't take it wrong)..... he's JUST starting to get darker at almost 2....and tell dad that skin tone isn't an idicator of paternity,my stepdad was AFRICAN and my sister was born with blonde hair.....he may have a light skinned relative back on the family tree. Genetics are strange and unless he's a geneticist, tell him to be nicer!

Vicki - posted on 09/14/2010

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I agree with a prior poster. Does he have mongolian spots at all? My daughters showed up by 1mo and I was actually freaked out because they look like bruises. She has them on both hips and her tailbone. Never went away either. She is now 18mo and over time her skin tone got darker (mostly because of summer sun) but her hair is lighter. My husband is 100% guatemalan and I am caucasian. Her hair is just starting to get a curl like my husbands side, but still thin and fine like mine. I always thought she would have his dark thick hair so it was a surprise to me too. All babies are different. Even with my husbands siblings they are all 100% guatemalan but still all varying degrees of dark. The youngest is almost as light as me when I'm tan. Just give it some time. He'll come around.

Heather - posted on 09/14/2010

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Hello Jenny,
Sorry to hear that you're having problems with this issue, hoping that time will heal everything :) I'm white and my husband is Indian (from India). His features are dark; our son was born white with dark undertones & black hair. He is now 20 mos. old with sandy brown hair, white skin (pink complexion), but has his dad's eyes, lips, and nose. Nobody would ever know by looking at him that he's biracial with Indian ancestry. Happens my genes are stronger in the color department. You mentioned that you both have white ancestors, that's the most likely reason your baby is light colored (and may never turn dark). Your husband happened to pass his caucasian DNA to your son and has to accept that this is possible (not your fault). Every child is unique and amazing in their own ways, embrace it.

Mel - posted on 09/14/2010

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My son is quite fare (he;s 17 months old). Im very fare with red hair and my partner is tongan (and quite dark). When i was pregnant we just presumed he would be dark being that dark skin is usually the stronger gene (and red hair isn't very dominant either). Isaac was born fare and is still quite fare. He does have very dark hair and very dark eyes but skin is fare. I think its important to not be concerned about it. Afterall does it really matter. Sometimes the weaker genes will just show through. I agree with the first comment by tara, enjoy him being so small and adorable. Jenny you will find this time will fly and you don't want to waste it worrying about skin colour. Also you dont want your insecurities to rub off on your baby as he gets older. Absolutely point out the similarities to your husband. Just enjoy this time while you can. Skin colour doesnt really matter the important thing is you have a happy healthy baby.

Tammie - posted on 09/14/2010

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I have a friend that his children have a black mother and he is white, their son is as white as he is and the daughter looks hispanic. It truly just all depends on the genetics the child received, your son just might of got more of you.

Carri - posted on 09/14/2010

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Don't be alarmed I have seen native american babies born with blonde hair and blue eyes. Actually about 15 years ago I had a friend who was native american and her husband was white and they had a set of twins a boy and a girl and the boy had blonde hair and blue eyes and the girl had brown/black hair with brown eyes. Its really not uncommon.. The blonde hair will darken as he/she gets older. I also have 2 native american boys they are my oldest and ones 20 and the other is 18 and my 20 year old took him until his teens to get darker. I am white and the father is native american my 18 year old was always dark he just got darker as he got older. Its crazy now adays how everyone is always telling some they cheat. But its nothing to be alarmed about especially since its a mixed child. It takes time.. Have a good day

Natalie - posted on 09/13/2010

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My step son was born the same way but had his daddy's ears for sure!! his eyes gradually changed during the 1st two years and the color was within the 1st year. No worries, he will come around. If this is his 1st child then he is just not experienced with newborns, a lot of them come out that way

Carol - posted on 09/13/2010

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I had the same problem. My son is darker then his sister as he took after me and sissy after her daddy. He has brown hair, brown eyes, tan skin, (im 1/2 black, 1/2 white already so hes not very dark) and the only thing he has of his father is his hands and feet. My daughter is white and as dark as she is getting, my son is tan but not dark. It took him a few months to get this shade but my husband used to take him to the gym and people would be like ' your son isnt all white is he?" He looks alot like his grandpa!

Kelly - posted on 09/13/2010

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What color is he behind the ears? My mother-in-law told me to look there when our daughter was born and that she would turn dark to match the skin back there. It seems to be true since she's slowly darkened to match...

Wanda - posted on 09/13/2010

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Just because you have a baby with a dark toned man doesn't mean you baby will automatically be darker. It all depends on what genes were passed on to the baby. Especially since your fiance is also multiracial, it's totally possible you 2 could have a blond hair, blue eyed child. Try not to let him stress you out.

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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yea well I had the test done so that's not an issue anymore I suppose. And yea I've noticed he has his nose. But I guess overall for now he's going to look just like me.

Heather - posted on 09/13/2010

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my daughter is 14 months old. her father is black and very dark and i'm white (really pale) my daughter is just a bit darker than me. you can't tell she's mixed by her color at all. but she has super curly thick hair. and some of her features look like her dad. her hair didn't even start getting curly until 6 or 7 months. it all depends on the genetics.

Cassandra - posted on 09/13/2010

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U CANT GO BY THAT!! I AM WHITE N MY HUSBAND OF 7 YRS IS BLACK! WE HAVE TO BOYS N WE R EXPECTING A GIRL IN DEC! WHEN MY BOYS WERE BORN THEY WERE AS WHITE AS ME! THEY HAVE A PECAN TAN NOW N THATS ONLY DURING THE SUMMER...THEY GET A LIL LIGHT IN WINTER..BUT THEY R 100% HIS!! U CAN OF COURSE TELL THEY R MIXED BC OF THE HAIR LIPS N NOSE ..NOT TO MENTION THE FACT THAT THEY LOOK JUS LIKE THEIR DAD! BUT WHEN THEY WERE BORN THEY WERE SO WHITE BUT THEIR DAD IS LIGHT SKINNED SO THAT ALSO PLAYED A ROLL IN IT! HE CANT JUDGE A BABY LIKE THAT N IF HE REALLY MUST KNOW GET A DNA..IF UR SURE ITS HIS IT WONT COST U NOTHIN HE WILL HAVE TO PAY...BUT IF ITS NOT HIS U WILL HAVE TO PAY! GOOD LUCK N GOD BLESS

Courtney - posted on 09/12/2010

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My daughter is bi-racial, as are most members of my family (my mom and her sister's wanted to make sure most of their kids could tan, lol, except me of course). The actual color of my family members ranges SO much! My sister is mixed, has black features, but actually has an olive color tone, almost like italian or greek. My daughter is fairly light, with just a hint of caramel. Some of my cousins, while their dad is extremely dark black, have blonde hair and blue eyes and you wouldn't know they were anything other than like Swedish if you looked at them. Some of my cousins (actually sibilings of the Swedish looking ones) are very brown. It just depends on what mix of genes they got from each parent. Your son just may not get darker, but after a few days, even weeks, you'll start to see the features of both of you coming out...



And another thing that you can look for, there are some birth marks that are fairly common with mixed raced children (especially black and white). My daughter has what are called Mongolian Spots. Blue spots on her butt that actually look like strange bruises, but they don't go away. Many of my cousins have the same spots. IDK why it always seems to affect their little hineys, but that's where they usually show up...

Ray - posted on 09/12/2010

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it all depends on genetics...they can be totally unpredicatble, my son is half black half white and is now 8mnths and havent darkened much at all

Jenny - posted on 09/12/2010

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yea I think he'll probably be spanish looking like me I guess judging by the skin tone there so yea...

Sylvia - posted on 09/11/2010

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You may just end up with light skinned child. I have 2 biracial children and neither are the same color. They both have the same father. My daughter get more of my coloring and son is more his father's color. When my son was born he had white blonde hair and he has light brown eyes. My daughter has my skin tone and dark brown hair. I am of African American decent there father is white. One way you can determine how dark your child will be is to look at the tops of their ears and the nail bed of their fingernails.

Christina - posted on 09/11/2010

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It takes awhile sometimes. My daughter who is 8 has always been dark and my son who is one just started to get darker. Just because he's not that dark doesn't mean anything. He just took alot from your side is all. Most little boys look like their moms anyway.

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Well I have 5 inter racial children and normally by 18 months is the darkest the child will be...my doctors said the child will be the color of the top of their ear...lol....the 18 month rule is about right.

Tara - posted on 09/11/2010

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I have responded to this same kind of question before. I have 4 kids my 2 boys father is light skinned and is the lightest out of his older sister and younger brother. As a matter of fact both his parents are darker skinned with brown eyes. His sister is mocha complected with brown eyes and his younger brother is dark skinned with brown eyes, he is light skinned with green eyes. Our oldest son is dark skinned with brown eyes, and the other boy is very light skinned with green eyes. My 2 daughters father is very dark skinned the older of the two girls has caramel colored skin, and the youngest is more of a mocha complection. They all have different types of hair too. My oldest has the typical black mans hair, my second boy has thick wavy brown hair, the older of the two girls has very curly wild hair, and the youngest has very long thick wavy hair. It all has to do with family genes and you can never predict who the child is going to take after, even myself both my parents have brown eyes, and I have very bright grey eyes. Tell him he needs to get a grip and love that baby no matter who he looks like.

Heather - posted on 09/10/2010

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some children are just lighter then others. I actually have a few friends that are white and there other half is black, each have 2 children, 1 is dark, and the other is very light (blonde hair blue eyes). When you have a mixed child you never know how they will look. He just has to understand that there is alot of things that go into making a baby, and there are 2 peoples genes mixing together, so maybe you have stronger genes. This is common, don't worry about it, you know the truth, and he should too.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/10/2010

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hi, i had a daughter on feb 11th. im white, my fiance is mixed, his dad is black and his mom is white. but my fiance is black. well my daughter turned out with blondish blue eye's. i heard from people when they had mixed babies ttheir sons turned at 6 months. i thought my daughter would honestly get darker but she hasn't she's taking more of my finnish side of the family and his mom's side of the family.. but yet again he can change but then he can stay the way he is. but he should except the way he is and love him with all your heart no matter what it's just a skin color. My fiance makes joke's about it but he loves his daughter with all his heart. she's just looking alot like me then taking after him...

Candace - posted on 09/09/2010

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I'm black and my hubby is white and persian. When our son was born he was little dark, darker than me even but over time he's gotten lighter and he's light now, probably not as light as my hubby or anyone else thought he would be. My family always tells me they thought he'd be lighter but then again his dad is half persian so that may have something to do with it. It really does depend on the genes and not really what the mother and father looks like, it could go as far back as great grandparents and so forth

Jenny - posted on 09/09/2010

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yea I talked about that. We have an appointment for it. But still I don't like the remarks from others. I mean I don't want rumors to go around just cuz ppl are ignorant.

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