Angi - posted on 04/14/2010 ( 16 moms have responded )
My daughter is bi-racial. She has no memory of her bio-father, he has been out of her life since she was about 2 1/2 she will be 4 the end of April. When the bio was asked to pay child support he refused and agreed to sign away his rights so that he wouldn't have to. My husband now is white and he adopted my daughter a few months ago. He has always treated her as if she was his, she calls him daddy and they are attached at the hip when they are together.
So my problem....
We have just had a son in Jan. and she has started asking questions or making statements about her skin color. She gets very upset if anyone tells her that she is "brown" We have told her that we love her no matter what color she is. That it is how smart you are not the color of your skin that makes you who you are, but she is 4 and just really doesn't understand. We don't know how to expain to her that my husband is not her bio-dad and that is why she looks different. There is no option of her meeting her bio-father, I have no clue where he lives and his family refuse to tell me, and we really don't want her around him anyway. He sold drugs, and just had alot of issues. Are we wrong? I just don't know.
any one have any suggestions?