how to manage mixed race kids hair?????
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Amanda Shawn Renea - posted on 03/06/2013
I have A bi-racial daughter and her hair is very curly and I will wash it and then pick it out but two days later she has like these knots in her hair that are very hard to comb out I have tried just about everything but I don't know how to take better care of her type of hair is there anyone who can help me out with this??
Dolores - posted on 09/14/2012
Hey Kellie! I have 16 month old twin daughters, I am half puerto rican and half italian and their dad is black, I've had such a hard time dealing with my daughters hair type, Its very long (to the middle of their backs when stretched),its Very curly, and very dry!ft) something i would compare to a carpet (lol) but with lots of potential. I bought everything possible over the counter for my girls hair and nothing seemed to work for the roughness or frizz so I did some research online, and I came accross some products that everyone seemed to love on youtube so i purchased two different kinds and since i have twins I got to do two experiments, and these are the products and my opinions.... product- Johnson&Jhonson extra conditioning shampoo for thick/curly hair.
*** it works awesome! I just put it in and detangled their hair in the bathtub and washed it out, NO TANGLES LEFT! only soft managable hair. but its only good for the first step.
Next product is Curl Creme Brule by CURLS (I got if from target) 8oz for 10$ and you only need a little!
*** It seemed to be my perfect choice while it was wet but as it dried it wasnt what I expected, I have to say though, I would definitely still reccommend this product, Its good for someone who wants all the frizz gone, to elongate the curls, and to do it all with no stiffness but someone who wants a all natural look (I like the semi wet look). overall my daughter Layla's hair is bouncy and her curls are very defined, It does everything they claim it to do!
Last product and in my opinion the best product ever!! Is Kinky Curly Curling Custard (i got it from target) 8oz for 16$ but you only use a little!
*** This product is awesome!! I will start off by saying the texture is gross (snot like goo) but you add it into wet hair and when it dries its no longer gooey, it definded My daughter leahs curls and they look beautiful! her hair is soft, shiny and it elongated her curls so much! I give this one 5 stars easy!
NOTE: all of these products are all natural and dont contain sulfates, silicones, parabens, mineral or patroleum oils!
Also try virgin coconut oil its exta healthy and does wonders for the hair! I use it to cook and for their hair, oh and it smells sooo good! but make sure its cold pressed organic virgin coconut oil. (its found in the food section of a super market or health food store)
I KNOW MY COMMENT IS LOOONG BUT I HOPE IT HELPS! GOOD LUCK!
Nes - posted on 11/05/2013
For everyone taking care of mixed race hair (child or otherwise)...curly hair is super fragile. So just follow these steps.
1. Wash no more than once a week with a silicone free Shampoo. Giovanni makes a good conditioner and shampoo for like $6. You can rinse the hair all you want during the week but try not to wash it more than once a wk (some people even go two to three weeks depending on product build up). Part hair in four sections and wash each section separately. Simply twist each section after you've finished washing. This keeps hair from tangling. Consider an ACV wash (apple cider vinegar) look it up online for recipe or a clay hair wash if you want to go complete natural and chemical free.
2. Condition like its going out of style. So after you wash (keeping hair in four sections) use a water based conditioner and do a light finger detangling. Leave conditioner in for 30+minutes. Put your kid in a shower cap and let them watch a movie or make a snack. Rinse out. Dry hair with an old t-shirt (press hair dry do not use friction or you will cause frizz).
3. Add an oil or oil mixture of your choice to each section. This seals in moisture. Jojoba, castor, avocado, almond, and olive oils can be mixed together or used alone to achieve this. OR buy one already made from the store, just make sure it's silicone free.
4. Add a creme like Shea Butter, Jane Carter Nourish & Shine, or what ever creme based product you like to each section.
5. Add creme and comb through each section with a wide tooth comb one section at a time. After combing out section, put in braid or two strand twist. When bed time comes wrap hair in silk scarf (or have child sleep on silk pillow case) to prevent hairline breakage.
6. Style hair in the morning however you wish just be sure to lightly dampen first with spray bottle. Never comb curly hair while dry or you'll rip it out.
Sleeping with braids or twists overnight will keep hair tangle free and will stretch curl out making it easier to work with. Throughout the week or until the next wash, at night just keep hair in lose sections and braided or twisted each night before bed, cover with a scarf and style in the morning. Sometimes you can get away with styling it at night and just taking off the scarf in the morning. Careful not to tug too much near the hairline or you'll break the hair in the area where you've pulled it too tight for too long. Hope this helps.
For style inspiration and to see what i've described check out Naptural85 on youtube.
Marcia - posted 2 days ago
Hi there, my cousin has a site called www.biracialhaircare.com/ that might help. He's in a mixed relationship and came up with the sire with his wife, as my little cousins hair is quite different to the normal textures you might see.
Good luck all :-) .
Kitty - posted on 04/07/2014
Hi, I'm a mixed race girl (dad Nigerian/Jamaican; mum English) My mum struggled for years and just before I went off to University we worked it out. I only ever comb my hair wet to detangle otherwise it breaks. I wet my hair then work Kids Organic Shea butter moisteriser into it and comb out that way. It makes the hair really slippery and the knots fall out.
I have since relaxed my hair and still do the same thing, I wash, blow dry and straighten my hair on a sunday night, leave it that way throughout the whole week then jump in the shower and repeat the process- no dry combing and easy to deal with knots, hope this helps- my mum used to be in tears (as did I!!) trying to do my hair
Lora - posted on 04/06/2014
KEY 1:TRESEMME MOISTERIZING CONDITIONER!!
A.CONDITION THE BIRACIAL/CURLY HAIR WITH IT IN THE SHOWER/BATH!!
C. REAPPLY TRESEMME MOISTERIZING CONDITIONER RIGHT AFTER YOUR CHILD IS OUT OF THE BATH/SHOWER WITH AMPLE AMOUNTS USING A WIDE TOOTH COMB OR DENMAN BRUSH.
D. LEAVE THE CONDITIONER IN. I REPEAT. LEAVE IT IN-LOTS OF IT.
E. DO NOT USE A HAIR DRYER, ALLOW TIME TO AIR DRY.
IT IS A LIFE SAVER/MIRACLE!!!
KEY 2: PUT THE HAIR UP AT NIGHT. IF IT IS DOWN- YOU ARE ASKING FOR KNOTS AND TANGLES!! GENTLY PUT HAIR UP ON TOP AND PUT IN A BUN OR CLAMP IT UP.
I read the book I bought off of Amazon- " Curly Like Me". It was a God send!!! If you order it- it gives so many ideas on what you can do for your child's hair!! ALWAYS BRUSH THE HAIR WET !! ALWAYS!! You do not have to brush it everyday as bad as that sounds-you will only damage the hair if your baby has the curly biracial hair like mine does. Here is the KEY- LOOK FOR SILICONES IN THE INGREDIENTS!!!!- THE MORE SILICONES THE BETTER!!! They make the hair slick. Put LOTS OF THIS ON HER/HIS HAIR. Put her in the tub and get a BIG cup. Pour warm water all through her hair. If she is older, she can use the shower of course. Put the MOISTERIZING TRESSEMME INTO HER HAIR AND LET IT SIT AND WORK UNTIL SUPER SLIPPERY. Take a wide toothed comb and while holding the hair-begin combing FROM THE BOTTOM!! Work the tangles out EASILY from the ENDS to the top. The tangles come out so much easier this way. Continue until it is slick in shower/tub all the way to scalp. Pour a little warm water over hair while combing to get the hair/conditioner even easier to handle. When shower/bath is over- wrap the towel carefully around her head. Easily squeeze the hair dry. Immediately apply AMPLE TRSEMME TO THE HAIR FOR THE FINAL SET. After combing the conditioner through the hair in the style you want-LEAVE IT ALONE. It will only bush the hair up the hair to over brush at this point. The only other thing I do on occasion is to put a hair shine or argan oil if it is a special occasion and she wants her hair very shiney. Biracial hair is VERY SENSITIVE!! Do not pull to hard on your baby's head- it is very tender. The book said to treat the hair delicate like silk.
There are other brands that can be used IF the have several SILICONES as ingredients- such as Dimethicone etc. The higher these are on the ingredient list the better the concentration to keep the frizzys down.
I do this procedure and put 2 snap bows on each side of her head the day of washing so she can wear it to school so pretty down that day or to church.
DAY 2, 3 AND MAYBE 4. The days after wash, you reapply conditioner with your HANDS FLAT. Put the conditioner on your hands add a little warm water and with one hand under the hair and the other on the top of the hair rub it straight down. DO NOT RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH BECAUSE IT PROBABLY HAS SOME LITTLE KNOTS AGAIN BY NOW- DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT!!! This procedure will refresh the look. We usually do a ponytail on day 2.
We do not wash her hair everyday as biracial hair is very dry. No more than 2x per week is BEST!! By the next wash- There will be tangles-NO WORRIES.
We do: Day 1: Down, Day 2: Ponytail, Day 3: Bun...Day 4: Bun OR RECONDITION IN SHOWER/BATH.
My daughter's hair was SO unmanageable before I found this and now her hair is long. Quality conditioner is key and NO YOU DON'T HAVE TO SPEND A FORTUNE. Just take some time finding the silicone conditioners!!!!
Occasionally 1x or 2x per month you can SCALP ONLY wash with Tresemme moisturizing shampoo. This will clean the scalp. Just rinse it through the rest. If you aggressively wash it all hard with shampoo... extra tangles!! Don't do it.
Use the conditioner. Use ALOT of it. When you think it is too much.. it's not!! TOO MUCH IS JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT. If it dries and you see some white at all just apply a little warm water to that spot to dissolve it.
PS. THIS IS THE SAME OR BETTER THAN THE MIXED CHICKS PRODUCTS!! SAME INGREDIENTS AND LESS $$
Good Luck!! and I hope this works for you like it did my baby!!!
Adina - posted on 02/25/2014
AN ALMOST COMPLETE GUIDE -
This comment is long, but I tried to include almost everything I know about type 4 hair so it is more of a guide than a comment. This post is for you and anyone else who needs it. It might be helpful to just copy and paste this into a word document and save what you need and erase what you don't. Also, I am sorry if I go into too much detail when illustrating with words my appearance and my experiences (I am not that vain)..but I am a visual learner and artist and so I tend to always illustrate or paint pictures with words and elaborate everything in great detail.
1.Chemical treatments might not be the best solution- relaxers can do tremendous damage to the hair line, hair follicles, new growth, and older hair (due to overlapping of the relaxer and thus over processing). TEXTURIZING is a method of straightening the hair somewhat with a mild relaxer*..but it is difficult for even the most experienced hairstylists to "get it right". I am mixed. I am african american (black and irish), native american, and cape verdean (portuguese, british, and african). My hair has different curl patterns, and my hair is twice as thick and coarse as my sisters' hair, and I would guess three times thicker and coarser than my african american mom's hair (she is black, irish, and native american and her hair is thin/fine and 3a, waist length). Stylists have texturized my hair..the result..some parts are too bone straight (my hair there was 3a and 3b)..some parts are semi straight (my hair there was 4a) and other parts did not straighten at all (it is still 4a/4b)...so i still have to spend hours detangling, blow drying, and flat ironing my hair (hair smells like smoke and you can't get it wet or it reverts). The almost bone straight parts take no time to straighten..but the different patterns of straightness makes my hair look messy..and my hair is weaker now..and damages more easily.Also, when I got my hair RELAXED every 3 months for 6 years, my hair was always under processed by stylists (non professional results and destroys hair at hairline) and i still had to use multiple methods to straighten it (hair smells like smoke or burned sulfur and straightening only lasts 3 days but takes 4 hours to do). But 95% of my stylist only offered me relaxers. (Stylists told me my hair is too thick and that most of my hair is coarse, and heat and chemical resistant $$.
2. Humidity and mixed texture/african american hair - I live in a city where it is hot and humid 4 months a year...check out youtube videos on how to braid extensions or on any other way to style hair..In this humid city I see black women sewing or clipping in extensions, wearing wigs, wearing weaves*, wearing braid extensions, wearing short fade cuts (if they have the face shape for it), wearing their hair natural, or wearing their hair in an almost bone straight relaxed state.
My hair style choices (wigs (due to hair turning white prematurely (hereditary), tree braids, sometimes but rarely hair is straightened) - My facial features and bone structure makes me look totally Caucasian, and my bronze skin and hair color and texture makes me look part black or hispanic. When my hair is straightened I look exactly like the white female actresses who wore bronze makeup to look like native americans/pocahontas in black and white/ or technicolor older films. My facial features and bone structure look like the adult model in the yellow dress who is dancing in this video (Brazilian?). However, my hair was like hers until the age eleven..now it is damaged and shoulder length, 4a/4b (mostly due to mechanical damage or rough handling) and hormones:
Relaxers and texturizers are usually not worth the costs - I think it is awesome to assimilate and in the work place I have heard that it is sometimes necessary " to take hair out of the equation" and wear hair straight to look like others in the workplace...but for instance, relaxers and heat have caused irreparable damage to hair line and shortened the length of my hair and who knows what kind of damage they have done to my hair follicles/hair cycle. even excessive heat can damage hair follicles. also, going natural is not necessarily easier..i tried it for 1.5 years only..and it was too hard to manage ("scab" hair) and had a lot of breakage...but it's harder to fight against hair's natural state in a humid climate. (Dominican blowouts don't involve the use of chemicals but the excessive heat from blow dryers, hood dryers, and flat irons, and fine tooth combs used on wet and dry tangled hair can be too painful and damaging). For the most part..hairstylists with years of experience have ripped me off due to doing more damage to my hair than can be fixed and not being helpful/saying they could not give me any advice and because they never really fixed the problem. For example, when I asked them how to improve the manageability of my type of hair ...their answer, "Just keep coming back. We'll take care of it for you (temporarily straighten hair super thick hair that reverts in two days when it gets wet or sweaty). Hairstylists' under processing and damaging hair with unwise methods complicates matters for people with already difficult to manage hair = $$$ + damaged/unattractive hair.
My SISTER # 1 = Has 3c, 4a thin hair - she gets relaxers (since age 21) and her hair "takes" to the relaxer, becoming practically bone straight. She likes it. She keeps it shoulder length (relaxed hair is difficult to grow long due to dryness/breakage). It takes little time to do.My mom touched her hair and said it was so dry and felt so unhealthy. Once my sister got an 1.5 inch wide, 4 inch long bald patch at the bottom back edge of her nape due to a stylist not rinsing her nape thoroughly....
SISTER# 2 - had 3b, 3c thin hair. her hair was below knee length- (curly, it was slightly below waist length) - stylists convinced her to get a mild relaxer and major hair cut. They cut her hair to waist length and relaxed it regularly for 2 years...In two years the breakage shortened her hair to shoulder blade length. she refuses to get relaxers know..and only braids it...after 4 years..her hair is close to waist length again.
BROTHER #1 - has 3c hair (his hair was 2c but hormones changed that). he has gorgeous spiral curls and he told me to just use any garnier fructis conditioner and water to syle hair because that is what he does.
My mom's hair is mostly 3a and also thin and very soft and long. She got a mild relaxer once. It became bone straight. She hated the limpness of it. She refused to get relaxers again. She only air dries her hair and flat irons it on low heat and her hair is also waist length.
What other people say: Most people like the braid or twist out style when I wear it since my hair is so thick. Some people say that my hair would probably look nicer straight since it is a "simpler" looking style. My boyfriend who is Persian does not care about what my hair looks like, but instead my intelligence and soul/personality are what he cares about. He says natural hair styles, or human hair wigs are fine to wear (easy, low maintenance, not time consuming, cost effective, does not smell like smoke). Sometimes he suggests that I just cut it all low and wear wigs to major functions since there are more important things in life to do than hair that is resistant. I agree. My mom hates the natural look.she favors the straight relaxed or flat ironed style because she thinks it looks neater/ more professional/ more sophisticated...but she does not understand why I have to wear hair nonstraight sometimes because her hair is 3a and easier to straighten and keep straight. mine is fine 2c/3a(around and behind ears, around hairline and porous), 3a and 3b(at crown which drapes over the 4a through 4c hair (porous)), (mostly 4a/4b (nonporous) due to under processed relaxed hair. I still have mostly heat resistant and chemical resistant hair.
What I say: I love all hair types. I just think all hair looks best if it is healthy/taken care of and styled properly . Type 4 hair is very delicate! I didn't realize this in my teens and twenties, and stylists never told me this.
3. Hormone changes = hair texture changes. Kids' hair textures and colors can change. My hair was bone straight until I was 2 years old and as I got older it got curlier every couple of years or so. My hair texture changed the most due to hormonal changes when I was 11. It became twice as tightly curly and dry and fragile and I asked my mom to hot comb it..which damaged my hair also and so what was once knee length super thick hair before age eleven, became an inch below shoulder length hair which has never grown past that and I am in my thirties now. Before the age of eleven..my mom only used a johnson and johnson no more tears detangle spray daily (sometimes stretched/diluted with water), a regular medium tooth comb and soft brush, VO5 conditioning hair dressing on the scalp sometimes, and vitapointe or vaseline on the ends sometimes. She detangled my hair immediately after washing it while it was dripping wet.I remember sitting on a towel. I think the petroleum jelly or vitapointe on the ends helped to seal moisture into my wet hair. I hear that it might not be good to put petroleum on the scalp (some think it clogs pores) or hair (some think it causes dryness/locks moisture in, blocks moisture out)..but that could be a myth..my mom brushed the little bit of ( Vo5 or vitapointe) that she put on my scalp, downward so that it distributed evenly from root to tip. I would wear my hair in a ponytail or ponytails for a week and before bed the hair elastic that bound my hair was unbound but the braid stayed in tact, and I wore a scarf, and in the morning my hair around the crown was sprayed first with the diluted detangle spray, brushed back, and the elastic was rebound. my mom unraveled my hair, finger combed it and rebraided it (less than 10 minutes to do daily). My hair was washed every week, and it always took my mom 1.5 to 2 hours to detangle my (below waist length) healthy hair on the weekends (ouch!) . my mom never used heat on my hair before the age of eleven. people told my mom that she should have been a stylist - but she always disagreed.
these days - it is not clear whether or not petrolatum or mineral oil in products cause harm...so use them just on hair ends or on teenager's hair. the thicker the hair..the thicker the styling product one needs to "weigh the hair down"- so raw african shea butter or silicones, creamy custards, or thick oils maybe castor or olive oil would be best to seal in moisture and weigh hair down. I would detangle with a wide tooth comb and wash their hair braided or twisted so that it gets less tangled...as far as trims...trims do not guarantee hair will gain length..but will definitely make the ends look even. trimming away split ends is more efffective than cutting the ends of both healthy and split hair. finger combing is best for tight curly hair..and using fingers to untangle knots is best. but in my opinion, everyone's hair should be combed.
4. Products/"solutions" in a bottle - almost all keratin treatments and alternatives have formaldehyde and other aldehydes..do your homework. if they are dangerous, don't try them. Also..everyone will tell you about products that work for them or their kids...but everyone's hair is different. Experiment to find products that work..return products that don't. Sally's, Walmart, and Target allow returns. Some companies give away free samples...like biosilk (I believe).....My hair looks its best when I use Shea moisture natural products (I add olive oil to the shea masque/deep conditioner), Mixed Chicks, and biosilk (has quality silicones). People have told me that salon quality and sally's beauty supply generics of expensive or professional brands work better than the drug store kind. Two black women here in this humid city told me that "ion brand" straightening stylers work well. coconut oil, olive oil, or other leave in conditioners work better than commercial hair products in my opinion.
5. Salons - most hair stylists (I've had probably 20) prefer to handle straightened or relaxed hair because it's easier for them to do. Spanish or dominican stylists will almost always and only tell women with 4a-4c hair that they NEED relaxers. No one necessarily needs a relaxer. The only hair style options or main options most black and spanish salons offer are high maintenance and damaging ones...from relaxed to straight using hood dryers, hand dryers, flat irons, and curling irons all in one visit..If you have to get her hair done for a special occasion someday take her to a black "Hair Care", "Braiding", or "Natural" hair salon.
Key suggestions: low manipulation and moisturizing are key, condition daily deep condition weekly, do protective styles yourself like braids (great pictures of wedding braided hairstyles), do synthetic extension braids that are not done too tightly (don't create traction alopecia) or pay someone who will braid LOOSE not tight and the braids should not be too small or too thick, or too long. don't keep it in one style for too long - switch it up. experiment to find the right products, don't chemically treat her hair with relaxers (including texturizers/"mild" relaxers). (some safe* conditioners can loosen curls temporarily). Get salon or HAIR SCHOOL consultations while they are still young.. hairstylists are usually more helpful (when their clients are children rather than when they are adults). My mom took us girls to hair schools sometimes if she needed to get our hair blown out for a big event and she was pressed for time. She would always end up taking over and instructing the students and teachers, however. Lol! : D Our hair back then was a lot like Kimora Lee Simmons daughters hair.
Also, the girls will almost never have a bad hair day if they wear their her hair braided or twisted. some of my relatives who are native american/white and native american white and black (like my mom) always wore their hair in one or two braids and their hair was healthy, very shiny, and waist length. They never wore it loose. my mom flat irons her hair though on a low heat setting (takes 30 minutes) so although her hair is waist length, her hair's ends are a bit damaged/uneven. She only applies a few products to her hair which I think is key. One of my sister's hair looks healthier than mine and is waist length like my mom's..She is ten years younger than I am. her hair is thin, 3c/4a and natural. She wears her hair in braids or does "braid outs" ; and she only applies water and sometimes oil to her hair daily.
Ethnic hair styles/tigre women and children
I am not a hairstylists, but I style my own hair because I do a better job of it than 90% of hairstylists - (my personality is almost identical to my mom's and many of our native american and part native american relatives). I break my own hair less, style it in a more attractive way, use mostly natural ingredients, and use clean hair supplies (not dirty supplies that have been used on other clients hair). I used to get my hair done at the salon every 2 weeks for 3 years, and did whatever the stylists told me my hair "needed" . they only offered me relaxers and said they did not know how to fix it any other way. I told them I wanted my hair to gain length...after 3 years my hair was shorter than before I let them handle it and beyond repair. Also hairstylists have only counseled me to do the highest maintenance and sometimes even most unhealthy hair style methods 1) relaxers 2)keratin treatments. heat heat heat and chemicals and $3000 to $6500 a year (about $600 and up per session because of my hairs lack of manageability). non formaledhyde keratin treatments can be a great solution - but i heard that it basically covers up damage and or can be damging plus it uses chemicals - and i look ten times better with curly hair because my facial features look strong. once a stylist said she would charge $300 just to wash my hair (with some special shampoo). None have offered alternatives such as wet sets. ALso, clients should never know more about how to manage their hair than their stylists, but it seems like this is the case for me every time I see one. most don't know how to wet set, or tree braid, never heard of pre-poo treatments or "texlaxing", or thio straightening, or loosening curls with curly perm solutions etc...maybe i will get my hair license. i already have a science degree and learning a trade might be beneficial.
Alternatives to braids - in terms of damage i have done research and from the research it appears that relaxers are the most damaging> which is more damaging than body perms>which is more damaging than the "gina curl" > which is more damaging than than formaldehyde free keratin treatments. Water changes shape of hair ..and so the gina curl skips a chemical process by changing hair shape with water instead of a chemical which makes it easier to set the hair on perm rods = less damaging. but perms can be drying and cause hair loss too. if you opt to get a teeneager's hair body wave permed or thio perm have a stylist do a test first. let her perm a sample of hair to show you how the hair will look permed. keep the test strand conditioned well for 2 months..if the test strand is still very healthy...get her a gina or body perm.
best braids = the best braids are tree braids. tree braids uses human or synthetic hair which creates a "blanket" covering braids and natural hair to protect natural hair and braids and is free flowing and looks like a weave or wig. tree braids are less time consuming than microbraids and box braids and other braiding styles..just cornrow and gently pull or separate small sections of the synth./natural (you are adding) out of the braid you are braiding so that every half inch or so, hair hangs out of the braid looking like this image of a braid: _/_/_/_/_/_/_ (this is a tree braid) the horizontal dashes are the braid, the diagonal slashes are the strands of loose hair left out of the braid while you braided it. i braid my own tree braids and do not go to stylists anymore because i do it responsibly in a knowledgeable way giving me control over the quality of the results and the health of my hair and hairline. all of my stylists (about 20) did an unprofessional job anyway = lacked knowledge. i keep my hair in tree braids so that i can cut off the underprocessed relaxed hair - i might get a cute cut and find a stylist who can do a thio straightening or curly perm on test strands...since hair has so many wild textures especially the premature white hair.
native american sites about hair management:
ALSO - hair straightens by 1) heat training 2) tension (pulling hair back/ wearing pony tails stretches hair making the hair lose elasticity which loosens the curls over time 3) water temporarily "relaxes" the hair. when my mother combed my (knee length when straightened) hair, she always diluted the liquid detangler solutions in a spray bottle with water and mainly used water to "straighten" my hair. the more tangled my hair was, the more water she sprayed on the tangled area until the hair was soaked, dripping wet, looser, more flexible, weighed down, and more slippery, making the hair easier to detangle. God gave us a very cheap temporary relaxer and detangler on this earth and that is WATER. (I heard that soaked hair is weaker...but water also detangles tightly curled hair. in my experience dry tightly coiled hair breaks MUCH easier than soaking wet very curly hair.
If maintaining long hair is too time consuming or if braiding hair is too difficult for you, cutting the hair short might be a good option - especially if where you are is not too humid. even if it were humid just make sure the short hair is very moisturized. if she were in her late teens she could always put on a hair "fall" or have someone braid extensions into her hair (hair should be at least 4 inches long) so that she can wear her hair long sometimes and shorter hair would fit under a "fall" much easier than voluminous puffy long hair. My hair is so thick and curly that my natural hair cannot fit under a wig, hat, hood, and blocks my peripheral vision.
* children's mixed race hairstyles: http://mixedracehairstyles.com/2014/01/1...
natural hair styles
short fade on a woman with a feminine "baby" face: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/15861121809...
heatless long curls: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIEpDL1kv...
keratin or smoothing treatments - i would have tried a keratin treatment if one of my stylists offered one that did not have formaldehyde or other aldehydes...but they didn't. so...i had to get more knowledge..see articles "7 hair smoothing treatments that really work" by instyle.com...maybe the kids can try a chemical smoothing treatment when they are older/in COLLEGE...some smoothing products are pretty safe - like smoothing conditioners.
what are my solutions? - it's all about trial and error for you and for me - you have to experiment every few months or so with different returnable products, and hair styles to find what works. i got relaxers in my twenties- if all the black and spanish salons i call in this city where i moved to don't offer safe keratin treatments.(most white salons i have walked into (before the relocation) that offered safe keratin treatments had stylists that shouted that they don't do black hair as soon as i walked into their salons) ...then i guess i will try a curly perm on new growth (on test strands first) to loosen the curls since i need* wash and go hair (i am so busy)! I would do a keratin treatment or give myself a curly perm since i think that i have the ability...but in most salons i have been to .. it took 3 people to do it..so you can imagine that even if i were a stylist with years of experience..it would be unwise/too challenging to attempt to do a chemical process on my own very thick coarse curly hair. so the fail proof guaranteed solutions for now are :
1) tree braid in winter - my hair is too thick to be adding in extra hair and wearing double the hair in the summertime
2) blowdrying and braiding in the humid summer and spring (takes 1.5 hours and lasts 11 days depending on how oily the scalp is)- natural 4 type hair is fragile and always gets single stranded knots and gets matted/tangled too easily if it is wet, or loose, not straightened, and not twisted or braided - so wash and go's don't work since wetting hair daily dries hair out, creates jumbo knots, and dryness causes frizz. so the solution is to straighten it indirectly using a blow dryer (with a diffuser) and deep conditioner - and braid or twist it after it blowdried. Only blow dry hair until it is 50 or 75% dry and then moisturize and braid the hair. Alternatively you could just add oil to hair and braid it while wet...but in my experience...4a hair that is not blow dried shrinks a lot, and the braids are bulkier, harder or coarser, and feels less conditioned when it is not blow dried with olive oil using a diffuser on low heat. Blow drying helps hair to stretch and minimize detangles and thus retain length - in my senior year of high school and freshman year of college i blow dried only on medium heat and did not flat iron for 2 years and my hair retained 4 inches of hair making it bra strap length! before returning to school for sophomore year i went to a stylist who was supposed to only straighten the hair and she begged me to trim my hair - she hacked off 5 inches of hair. after two chops with the scissors i looked at my hair and complained that she cut too much off and she apologized and said that my hair needed a cut not a trim and so she took the liberty to cut it. that was the longest my hair has been since eleven. anyway this works:
a) i blow dry slightly damp hair with tresemme heat protectant (water is a main ingredient) and OLIVE or COCONUT oil (i dip a finger into the oil and apply it onto an entire section) - i use tresemme only on the ends. also, the oil penetrates into the shaft and thus disappears leaving the hair conditioned and non oily. I use the tension method and a paddle brush (only sometimes) to blow dry..this makes my hair puffy but so soft, stretched, and easy to comb and evens my uneven hair textures. : )
b) to style it (takes 30 mintues) i apply a half dollar sized amount of creamy leave in conditioner and spritz blow dried hair with water, and then make 5 or 7 french / fish braids (i have a lot of hair) on my head's crown, and put braided and non braided hair into a fancy bun. on the second day i leave it in a bun or i unravel 3 inches of the crown's braids and braid in yaki synthetic or natural hair which gives my hair length, weight, and protection (takes 30 minutes). to tame fly aways at the hair's crown i spray braids with water, and dab not brush gel onto hairline and put on a du rag (men use this to create waves) or silky scarf for ten minutes.this also creates beautiful waves in my hair everywhere. also. i don't watch tv anymore. i only read*..so 2.5 hours every eleven days = only 15 minutes spent on average per day...pretty good and not too much time is wasted.
Blow drying on low or medium heat does not create flat limp sleek hair...but it sure is soft, easy to comb every other day if desired, easier to fit under a hat or hood, and quick and easy to detangle and braid, and if wet it reverts a little..but who cares? the objective is not to have super straight hair anyway - just hair that is easier to manage! Also..blow drying works for me because as I said ...my hair is very heat resistant and the heat helps my hair to absorb conditioner..so it is all about trial and error to find what works for me or for your own kid(s) hair type.
HAIR COLOR some say that repeated henna applications loosens curls and strengthens hair. never done it before..would i recommend that a young person try it...it all depends..it is a lot safer than a relaxer if it works like a texturizer (for some types of hair). but, i will get my white hair colored with henna by a local Indian salon where the Indian stylists said she does Black hair too. i hope it takes...if it doesn't..i will keep my white hair..i look ten years younger than my age ..but my hair makes me look ten years older - weird! sorry, i am unwilling to use toxic hair dyes - i am way too young for that!..if my hair is more than 60% white by the time i am 40 i would rather go blond than use darker commercial hair dyes with toxic chemicals in them. strangely my premature white hair seems stronger/tougher and grows longer than my black hair and almost all of it grows in bone straight (hormonal?)? i might look like the X-men character storm by the time I turn 40. Watch out Halle Berry, LOL!
The best thing about resistant hair is that it is fairly strong or can damage less. But remember Afro hair is thirsty hair. any hair will break more if it is dry.
Amber - posted on 12/29/2013
Every child's hair is different. The key to managing it is to find a routine for washing, conditioning and detangling the hair. Next experiment with different products meant for curly hair (mixed chicks, miss jessies and carols daughter, to name a few) until you find a product to meet your needs. If you need more info feel free to visit my website : www.lilmisscurl.com or get my newest blogs at www.facebook.com/lilmisscurl
Sarah - posted on 10/29/2013
When my kids were little I just mixed Suave kid's conditioner w/ water in a spray bottle and used it every time I combed their hair. My daughter's hair (which was longer) we braided most of the time to keep it from getting tangled.
Never ever get their hair straightened - so much damage and loss. My daughter insisted on trying it and she's been so frustrated ever since waiting to have her hair grow longer after trimming off the straightened part.
Does anyone have children with two-different textures of hair? My daughter has that issue.
Saiqa - posted on 10/29/2013
I use 'mixed chicks' for kids. All 3 products - shampoo, conditioner, leave in
During bath time I only shampoo once a week ( You DO NOT want to dry out their hair) and condition every other day, sometimes consecutively depending on how much product I've used in her hair.
Daily - I condition with coconut oil, mix of hair oil (all natural it's called "hair repair -vital oils), shea butter and water -whatever I feel like at the time, the consistency of all products are different so it depends on what you're looking for. As well I condition with the leave in conditioner by Mixed Chicks.
Once Ive conditioned/moisturized her hair I detangle her hair.... ALWAYS comb it wet, start from the ends, work your way to the root. Detangle in sections.
You can get different types of combs/picks for tighter/looser curls. I know GOODY sells a variety pack of like 6-7 combs for $8-$12. It's fabulous.
Dry their hair with a tshirt - not a towel, dab tshirt to remove excess moisture. You can also use a micro-fibre cloth, again dab, rubbing vigorously and towels will just make a mess of their hair and defeat the purpose of not frizzing their hair.
Sleep time - Tie hair in a ponytail literally on top of their head, like how a pineapple looks lol this helps keep it from getting knotted/tangled/dried out, when they sleep.
Use satin pillow cases for them, this well also help prevent knots/tangles.
It sounds like a lot of work, but essentially all you are doing is moisturizing their hair, and the end result are gorgeous curls =)
Ken - posted on 10/18/2013
Hello Kellie i am really having trouble with my daughter hair it looks dry and she always scratching at her scalp.I am a single parent of 2 bi-racial kids she is 2 and mi son is 1.I am really concerned about her hair her mother was putting baby oil in her hair,i told her i didn't think it was a good idea but she cont.I REALLY NEED SOME HELP PLEASE
Sarah - posted on 09/18/2013
I have a 3 year old biracial daughter I have just started putting her hair up as it was getting to tangled, but she has little bits of frizz can anyone recommend a gel or spray to control these little bits? I don't want anything harsher cos she's only little.
Martine - posted on 08/31/2013
fab lol. how annoying! of him. I just simply use normal shampoo and the normal conditioner. and I brush the knots out section bye section in the bath with the conditioner still in it don't roughly towl dry cos itll go frizzy just dab it gently Daz is the only thing I use to put moisture bach in and make it look shiney and itll only look nice for two days three the max. if I braid it. I used to stick her at the sink whilst she played with water to keep her buisy and now shes older she plays the x box for a hour or so whilst I braid it. start early xx
Martine - posted on 08/31/2013
Too Crazy! too crazy for you. her hair is what it is. My daughters hair is like your daughters hair and because the majority of girls in her class have blond straight hair I make a point of letting her know her hair is wonderful, not too crazy, as ive noticed her saying she wants hair like them. I love playing with her hair. after ive braided it, I see her check her hair out in the mirror with a sence of pride. embrace it don't find it crazy because your daughter will take on the same beliefes. :(
Mrs Melonie - posted on 08/19/2013
My daughter has beautiful hair but it too crazy my daughter half white /black I've treated everything I really like sofnfree but can be greasey I've just ordered some detangled stuff shampoo etc called dark and lovely I've never tried it when I will try I will let u all know if it work my biggest problem it trying to buy a right brush them tangle tester are cheap waist of money any tip on brushes pls?
Chyna - posted on 04/09/2013
I have tried mix-chicks it doesnt work for my daughter because she has thick black hair,and she can leave it out by washing it and putting shea butter on it then it bunches up. She wants it 2 just hang and not bunch up. I have tried alot of things they just dont work. I would recommened that u use Redken. Im going to try that in my daughters hair,please tell me if you have any other suggestions.
Autumn - posted on 03/07/2013
Mixed chicks has a great line for children that I use for my daughter and it works great in her hair...also I find that using "Moroccanoil" (it comes in blue packaging and can only be bought through salons or beauty supply stores) works so great in her hair and keeps it very healthy and doesn't dry it out. I also love Marrakesh oil, shampoo and conditioner by Earthly Body...they work great and smell so good!!
Isolina - posted on 01/03/2013
I found the PERFECT products for mixed race hair, especially to help detangle. Nutress Hair has all of the products necessary to make styling less of a chore. The products are so versatile, I even use them on my hair. Super affordable too!
Eileen - posted on 12/17/2012
Hi Kellie...my children are half white and half black.....my daughter is 14 and her hair has always been a struggle....I have seriously tried every shampoo, conditioner and styling product known to man...the absolute BEST in my opinion is Nexxus Therappe Shampoo and Nexxus Humectress Conditioner...they are more expensive but they work really well...we are still working on a product to use so she could wear her hair out and curly and not have it look like a big frizz ball by the end of the day...any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Sonja - posted on 12/15/2012
i am baby sitting 3 mixed children and the girl has crazy hair and it drives me nuts! I need to know what i should be putting in their hair and if i should be washing it at every bath time! the mother said i can use vasoline or the bag balm i have and it works the same. Am i doing wrong by this if so pls help! I am going to try my hand at cornrows n see how good that turns out! Also she has some beads n i think i might try n put some of those in there as well! if you can help me pls email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Tracie - posted on 10/28/2012
HELP!!! My boyfriend and I have a 20 month old bi-racial son together. I have 3 white children from a previous marriage and he has an older mixed child from a previous relationship.
We fight incessantly over the care of his hair. Because my other children are white, he discredits any thing I say about the care of our son's hair. His daughter is now 21 and has typical dry course mixed hair that she always keeps back in a ponytail. He claims that she has "good" hair, but I don't see it.
When he piks our son's hair out, he does it very rough and I can hear his hair snapping and breaking. I keep telling him to hold the base of his hair and tease the ends free of tangles and he just yells at me and tells me that this is how "black" hair is done. Our son's hair is curly and about 6-7 inches long on top when stretched. Its pillow soft on top and getting rather nappy at the back where he didn't have hair for a long time. He wants to start putting Pink's lotion in it too, but I don't like the look that it gives to most people I know that use it and his scalp is so sensitive that he often gets a rash if I switch his shampoo. Right now, I'm using Just Hatched baby shampoo and I put Just Hatched baby lotion in it while its still wet (its very light and natural and goes into his hair nicely but as he's getting older, I can tell its not quite enough to control frizz anymore).
I just started putting some conditioner in after shampooing and I want to start getting a good wash and styling routine down for him before his father ruins his hair. How do I get my son's hair, AND his father that insists his hair is black, under control?
Monica - posted on 10/12/2012
Stick to moisturizing shampoos and conditioners. (Suave, or L'oreal Natures Therapy mega moisture line) you can use water and some of the conditioner every day with a big wide tooth comb for detangling. Use a boar head type brush only for smoothing her edges and ponytail. A wide tooth comb is all you use for detangling. If its super dry you can use some coconut oil as well every now and then.
Kristie - posted on 10/12/2012
hello i have a 2 yr old daughter whos puerto rican?wht who has very curly,course frizzy hair. it gets very poufy and ive tried so many different products but her hair is so dry, tangles so easy and just a mess. i dont know what to do with it. i was always told dont brush curly hair as it will get frizzy but my puerto rican husband says no that you have to brush it to get tangles out... can anyone help me please?? ty in advance..
F - posted on 08/29/2012
I'm biracial myself. Mum's english (white), dads jamaican (west indian) and I have very curly hair. I can say i've tried literally everything out there. I really don't like to use 'grease' per say because it really weighs mye hair down. What I find that works wonders for me is, Pure Coconut oil (you can buy it in the baking aisle in your local grocer..i got mine at kroger for 6 bucks and so far has lasted about 3 months with barely half gone!), extra virgin olive oil (also available at the grocery store), moroccan argan oil (found a cheapie @ walgreens on sale for $2.97!), infusium 23 Leave in and aveda smooth infusion. Normally after I wash (burts bees mango shampoo...sulfate free) and condition (organix morrocan argan oil conditioner) I comb mye hair lightly, then put about a quarter size of conditioner all throughout. Normally, i would apply each product separately, but to cut back on steps i put just a small amout (adjustable with the length and thickness of your hair) of the olive oil, argan oil, coconut oil, leave-in, and the smooth infusion into a small spray bottle and spray all over mye hair, then scrunch a little and WA-LA. I've always had trouble keeping mye hair moist, but this works wonders! Not to mention, it defines mye curls and keeps them soft. (i hate hard hair from gels or mousse.) Mye best friend is white with 2 biracial (blk/white) children, and it helped her with her daughters hair, so hopefully it'll help yous guys!
BG - posted on 08/23/2012
My mixed daughter is a pre teen, and is always worrying about how she looks. her hair is so thick and curly it`s rediculous!. I made her get layers in Januaury and she hates them. She complains all the time and kids pic on her at school. I am let her get a brazilin blowout and I get a touch up once a month. she loves it and is always playing with her hair. its not a curly as it was, it is more straight, but her hair is slightly wavy at times.
I am open for tips to help my daughter and would be happy to help another mom and give suggestions.
Monica - posted on 03/08/2011
If you are not wanting to spend $20/bottle. Try the L'oreal Nature's Therapy - Mega Moisture line at Sallys Beauty. Lots of good natural things in it and really retains moisture. I also use the conditioner as a leave in when I wet and finger curl my daughters hair each day. A little goes a long way! Trust me, I've tried the pricey stuff - Bumble & Bumble, Aveda etc..
Pantene has too many chemicals in it from what my hair stylist told me.
Heather - posted on 02/02/2011
I would of been clueless if it wasnt for my mother n law.. She hooked me up with some of that WEN shampoo from TV.. It works very well.. I also use Silken Child its a mousturizing her hair.. I also use that for my 2 yr old son.. I was using pink lotion for the both of them but it dried their hair out real bad,,, but you can get the silken child at sallys the shampoo work also..
Sabrina - posted on 04/06/2010
Hello everyone, well i have 2 children whos daddy is black and i have to say that my son turned out with the easy to manage pretty soft and curly hair and my daughter well let me tell you until i learned how to braid she had bad hair days just about every day...
I really think every mother with children whos hair requires skill (nomatter what race) should aquire that skill or at least try to...
I had to learn how to braid and i have to say it gets better every time ...i also asked many other moms on how to handle my daughter coarse hair, and received many great tips on what product to use and wich ones to keep out of my cabinets.
My baby girl is now almost 8 and is stylin all the time...lol (if i must say, with the risk of sounding conceidet)
I want to tell everyone that you cant generalize cause all hair is different but i am open for any tips and questions anyone has...
Thanks to all !!
Kelly - posted on 04/05/2010
I need help...
My daughter has a lot of hair, but is on the thiner side. She has very tight curls that are frizzy only on the top of her head. The underneath part is fine. When she was younger her hair was really easy to deal with but now I am having problems. I have tried so many products and ideas. Nothing has worked. I would like her to be able to wear her hair down. When hair is down it tends to pluff up and is very light... Any suggestions?
Emili - posted on 03/08/2010
i have four biracial babies. i use pantene's relaxed and natural shampoo and conditioner. (its great for people with a tight budget!!!) and then use motions hair lotion. its around 10 dollars for all three! and they work great!!!
Melanie - posted on 03/02/2010
Seems like you found some great products for her hair, but another tip would be to use a satin pillowcase. The smoother fabric decreases friction when she's moving around in her sleep and therefore decreases the amount of tangles. My daughter is half black and half white and her hair is very thick and curly, she has the "good hair" but I feel for you because it can take up to half an hour to get through my daughter's hair. I've been told by several that once or twice a week is plenty for washing it. Hope this also helps!
Kellie - posted on 02/28/2010
well, i have tried the pantene for curly hair and i must say this one is the best so far....
as soon as i started combing the ends i loved it, and my daughter also said she liked it.
i then used the elasta QP moistourizer and it is excellent. her hair looks like it does when it is wet, just gorgeous!!!!!! definitly recommend it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Roxanne - posted on 02/27/2010
my son has long curly hair & loves to have "bouncy curels" best combo I have found is: Panteen shampoo & conditioner for curley hair. Then infusium leav in treatment - then I comb it through with a wide comb (Walmart has a great pack of combs that haw a few really wide ones and one with a mettal tip on it that is also great for setting lines for brading -they are orange and in a plastic case and only costs like $4.00) then I put in a small amount of panteen gell for curly hair. his hair looks great, not dry, stays nice all day.
When it is in braids I am very picky about it looking fussy & unkept...so what I have found works for him is to have him sleep with a cap / or doo-rag....Then in the morning I spray the infusium on the braids and then PUT THE CAP BACK ON....that is the biggest part! I leav it on till he is ready to walk out the door (about 20 min or so) and he goes to school with his hair looking fresh and nice every day. It also keeps his scalp & braids from drying out.
He's 7 and it took a while to come up with a system that worked & stayed that way all day......this one has worked for us for about 1 1/2 yrs so far....hope it helps!
Kellie - posted on 02/27/2010
just to let you know that australia does not stock pantene for women of colour, unfortunately we miss out on that even though there is so many races here.... i ended up getting pantene for curly hair and got elasta QP olive oil and mango butter moisturizer. so i will try them tomorrow and let you know how they go..... thanks again for all you advice and tips....kellie...
Terri - posted on 02/26/2010
That's so true GJ. I don't treat her hair as if it was simply African-American. She is mixed, so is her hair. I was going to buy some of the Pantene for AA hair, but my mil said that it didn't work. Mind you, she hasn't washed her hair in forever, so I don't know how she knows. But, as to having braids too tight or in for too long. i will never forget this little girl whose mom wanted me to see if I could help. When she came over, her hair hadn't been washed in a week and it was in braids. It was so dirty, my white shirt turned black. I advised her to wash it more than once a week (as she had been told) and to try different products. Saw her today and her babys hair looks MUCH healthier....
G - posted on 02/26/2010
I agree with you, Terri, we do need to do what is best for their hair. Just because they have african american in them, doesn't mean they have to wear the same hair styles. So mixed childrens hair, I feel, can be too, dry and course sometimes and some moisturizer's do not work on their hair types. If braids are too tight and too dry they could possible fall out. I have seen it happen.
My daughters hair is in between, Some days its great and other days, well that is another story, lol.... I tried different varieties of moisturizer's and creams.. Some of them would not hold in her hair, and some would just saturate it. Just have to find what is best...
I don't know how you all feel but (sunsilk) in the little bottles. The leave in conditioner, for curly or frizzy hair seems to work well for us. But I don't just stay on one type, I go back and forth...Right now we are using SoftSheen Carson Optimum Care... its a leave in conditioner, and anti breakage therapy. I was really impressed with the line Pantene brought out as well in the brown bottles.
But diffenently stay away from the harsh chemicals, relaxers, and stuff..They can lead too hair loss if you don't know what your doing...as well as being too harsh and drying!!!!!
Terri - posted on 02/25/2010
Hi Kellie. I have three bi-racial girls. The oldest and youngest have a mixture of mine and their daddy's hair. It's naturally curly and soft. The middle baby, she is a bird of another feather. I am white, her daddy is Puerto Rican, African-American, and Indian. She has thick coarse hair. We use a variety of different products like Infusium leave in conditioner, Motions hair lotion and a herbal oil. After reading the posts, I am going to try the Pantene for her hair. We comb her hair and moisturize it daily and wash it every other day. I was told to wash it once a week, but after two weeks of doing this, I was tired of washing it for 30 minutes trying to get it clean. Plus her Grandma, who is one of the people who told me to wash it once a week, said that her hair would have to be done more often. LOL No disrespect, but African-American hairdressers think that if we do our kids hair like they were black, everything would be ok. Well, fact is, they are not only black, but white, puerto rican, etc. Their hair is different and we have to do what has to be done to keep it clean and healthy.
Kelsey - posted on 02/25/2010
naturallycurly.com is my go-to resource for all things curly. I am a mother of a bi-racial child and having perfectly straight hair myself, I had to really research and experiment how to take care of hers. I use no-poo shampoos & conditioners, blended cutie leave in conditioner, and 2xs a week we do a deep conditioning. I whole heartedly agree with the other posters that chemicals should be avoided completely ie sulfates, phosphates-- as those are drying agents. Can't say enough about naturallycurly though-- and there is a fantastic book CurlyGirl by Lorraine Massey which is an excellent read as well.
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