I know I should be used to this by now but why?

Angelica - posted on 11/30/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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My child is bi-racial, half black half white. But I still get weird looks as if my child is an alien. I think it's his blue eyes but that still doesn't mean they got to stare.

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Candi - posted on 12/07/2009

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Try to look at it like they have never seen such a beautiful child. As the mother of two stunningly beautiful little girls, I try to always maintain a positive outlook. It's crucial to show our children that being different is something to embrace and enjoy. Congratulations to what I'm sure is one of the most unique and beautiful babies out there. I would have loved it if one of my girls got my eyes. :)

Manon Alexe - posted on 12/04/2009

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I used to get it all the time. I than moved to a very small village and i've only been asked once if i'd adopted her... It used to upset me greatly, now i just hug and kiss her lots if i see people looking funny at us. Plus she stares right back then pulls a funny face and make the people laugh. Think she made it into a game, and she's only 14months old. Lol

Kimberly - posted on 12/04/2009

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I'd stare. He sounds beautiful. I think its a bit odd that I'm obsessed with bi racial babies. I think its wonderful for a black baby to have blue eyes, or a white baby to have thick hair. I love that bi racial make race irrelevant in their beauty. By the way where are you from??? I ask because I'm "Lott"-Castillo :-))

Lisa - posted on 12/03/2009

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You are not alone. People think I'm the nanny. My husband is white and I am black. I Isa got his eyes that change color blue green grey and people say. she is soooooo pretty. Is she yours? Then when I say yes there like oh yeah she looks just like you.....lol.

Jaimee - posted on 12/02/2009

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girl you know not everybody is working with a full deck of cards. Don't worry about it love. Your family is beautiful...........maybe they aren't use to seeing perfection up close and personal. Screw em love

Sam - posted on 12/01/2009

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they will, folks always will. I'm puerto rican and my husband is black. You have to learn to not care. people would stare if your kid had a tail or a lopsided eye so dont worry about it. itll be ok.

Tiana - posted on 12/01/2009

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I am sure your baby is super cute and other people wonder why their own children are not.

Stephanie - posted on 11/30/2009

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My boys are black/white, but they look like they are white. People look at us funny from time to time and comment on their blue eyes. I thought their eyes were gonna end up being green like mine, but at 5 and 3 I don't think they are gonna change, lol. People say they are open minded, but they aren't. I get comments from "friends" saying oh I've never seen a black child with blue eyes and I'm like...their father is white and has blue eyes...its not impossible obviously. Don't worry about people like that. I make sure my boys know that they are special and that God loves them just the way they are. Thank God no one has made a rude comment to them directly. I just focus on the positive. Both my family and my husband's family have ALWAYS accepted our marriage and our children and those are the only people who truly matter. Not some ignorant person in the grocery store or on the street!! Hope this helps : )

Nichole - posted on 11/30/2009

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Alot of times people look at me and my daughter and they question whether she is mine. Kind of like when my husband and I are asked if we are together sometimes. Please are just unsure and intrigued by the difference of our appearance. I look at it like this, I am glad I can give people an experience that helps them become used to seeing bi-racial kids and bi-racial couples.

Maria - posted on 11/30/2009

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A lot of people are just naturally curious, specially when it comes to interracial children. I have to tell you that from my experience, one could never really get used to it.:) Here's a suggestion: you can take it either of two ways and that is, you can look at the situation more positively, which I did by the way, and beam with pride when people look at your children, smile at these people and walk away. Or, you can take it in a negative light and be paranoid about it and it'll live with you for a long time. It's a matter of personal choice. Personally, what others think don't really matter; our kids are always beautiful in our eyes! :) You only are responsible to the Man Upstairs for the care of your child. Hope this helps!

Corrina - posted on 11/30/2009

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people will stare at babies for many different reason and you may feel put out but as long as you dont care why should it matter you have abeautiful baby so hold your head high it is none of there business and its not like you are gona see them again

Stephanie - posted on 11/30/2009

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Where do you live? I think that some people are more prejudiced in small towns than urban cities. And who's doing the staring? I think people stare because they're curious or jealous.



For instance, I wear a headcover, and sometimes people will stare at me. A lot of the time, it's children staring. I think they stare because they're curious, not because they're being rude.



If the looks bother you, don't let it show. Sometimes people want a reaction, that's all. It makes them feel better about themselves to make others feel inferior. But don't let it show that you're upset, especially with your children. If your kids see you're upset, they may feel hurt, too.



As they grow older, explain to them that they're beautiful (because they ARE) and that not everybody is as nice as they are.



As for blue eyes, tell him he's lucky.....a LOT of people want blue eyes and are cursed with dark ones, haha (like me)!! Blue eyes are beautiful.....and remind him that God made him the way he is.



Everybody is unique in their own way. And some people never change, even as the world and "thought" progresses into more sophistication.



Good luck and stay strong!

Moana - posted on 11/30/2009

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My kids are Japanese and white and my son looks like me (who is very white in comparison to his sister) and when people find out that shes mine too they get surprised and say oh I wouldn't have guessed! But other than that people don't give us dirty looks or anything like that, just some people are ignorant and you need to remember that it doesn' matter what other people think your, child is beautiful and great and that's all that matters!!

Jillian - posted on 11/30/2009

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Its disgusting that theres still people out there like that. the town I live in, there are a lot of mixed babies..so its a common thing. people havent stared at my baby, just said how beautiful she is and just asked what she is mixed with. black and white people. its so common, thats its mostly accepted here, but of course ya got those few people where its not. I'm sorry that you live in such a town. If people stared at my baby (in a bad way, that is) I'd probably turn to them and just say, she's beautiful isnt she..yea, i cant take my eyes off her either! haha

Jael - posted on 11/30/2009

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They are probally just looking at how beautiful your baby is. Because any mixed kid with blue eyes is beautiful! Think positive.

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