I need bi-racial hair help...

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I am the mother of a white/African American daughter. Her hair is is also a mix.(not all African American or white texture to it) Her hair is very thick shoulder length and very, very curly. It takes about an hour to an hour and a half to comb her out after a wash. Her curls are so pretty while they are wet. However after combing it will dry and become very frizzy and wild. I am scared to relax her hair dont want to use chemicals on her. I did have her hair treated with Karitin one time but it di nothing to help relax the curl or make it easy to comb. So what should I do. What products will help relax her curl so that it is easy to comb and keep her curls pretty not frizzy. Should I relax her hair? If so what products are safe for kids? Any suggestions would be so helpful. She is now eleven and I am at my wits end. I would love for her to be able to comb and style her own hair sometime soon but because of how thick/ hard to deal with, her hair is that may never happen. PLEASE HELP THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

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Maddy - posted on 10/09/2012

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DONT RELAX HER HAIR! I am 19, and mixed. My mother and I have been attempting to tame my hair for years! When I was a kid I just wanted to keep my hair long, and my mother did everything in her power to try to convince me to cut it. I finally relented when I was about 16, and I have kept my hair in a curly afro for a couple of years now, and I love it! So here are my hopefully helpful tips. NEVER try to comb through her hair dry, I am sure you have already discovered this but it is so important. I use a shampoo called Shea Moisture, moisture retention shampoo, you can find the whole Shea Moisture product line at Target. This shampoo is good because it doesn't strip her hair of the good oils, but still keeps it clean. For conditioner I use Aussie's hydrating conditioner. Heres the thing, mixed hair needs tons and tons of conditioner, and I don't buy the expensive stuff because I go through it SO fast. You just need a conditioner with lots of slip, and Aussie has it down. Ok, so after she has shampooed her hair and rinsed, put the conditioner in it, and comb through it in the shower with a pick comb. Then rinse about 70% of the conditioner out. Towel dry her hair gently, you don't want to frizz her curls. In fact the less you touch the curl the better it will look. Now here is my SECRET, my styling products! All together I use, Moroccanoil Intense Curling Cream, Deva Curls' Set me free spray, and Shea Moisture's Curl and Style Milk and their, Curl Enhancing Smoothie. I make what I call a hair product cocktail, which means I take about a tablespoon of each of the four products, mix them together and carefully run it through my hair. For best results I recommend not blow drying her hair, but if you do use a diffuser. Letting her hair dry naturally is the best option because that is how you keep the pretty curl, without the frizz. Now I know that four hair product are a lot, so if you don't feel like buying all four then I strongly suggest getting the Moroccanoil Intense Curling Cream and the Deva Curl Set me Free spray. I hope that was helpful!

Autumn - posted on 03/17/2013

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Please do not relax her hair...allow her to embrace and be proud of her hair...

My daughters hair isn't super curly but it's fine, wavy/curly, frizzy, and gets very tangled. My favourite products I've used on her hair is the "mixed chicks" children's (or adult) hair care...(shampoo, conditioner, detangler, leave I'm conditioner) and I also put some "morrocanoil" through her hair. (You can get these only from salons or beauty supply outlets) if you can't find morrocanoil (blue bottle) then check for Marakesh oil by earthly body.

Every now and then I'll also treat her hair with a homemade olive oil mask...you can find lots of different recipes online... I usually just use pure olive oil and let it sit for 15-20 minutes then wash it out.

Be careful as well not to over wash it which will cause dryness!

One previous post suggested also getting trims and I also feel that's important...if I leave my daughters hair to grow eventually her ends will get dry....no matter what I do or products I use i can't avoid it!

Kristin - posted on 06/04/2013

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I'm not sure if anyone has mentioned this yet but have you ever tried the WEN haircare products? They're pretty pricey, but if you can afford them they work WONDERS on mixed hair. I used to work for a company that sold them, which is the only reason I even bought some (at a discount of course). But it's the only thing I can find that makes my daughter's hair manageable.
Luckily if you can snag a bottle of the conditioner thats really all you need and it will last FOREVER. I think you can buy it at Saphora?

Verna - posted on 03/13/2013

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I have a mixed 13 year old daughter. She's white and african american. At the age of 8 her hair changed. Her hair got frizzy and flyaway and very tangled. Before that I could just wet it and moisturize then comb and I was done. But its different now. I have tried everything from expensive to inexpensive products. What works for us now is garnier frutis sleek and shine shampoo and leave in conditioner for frizzy, dry and unmanageable hair. And the anti frizz serum is awsome because it also detangles and moisturizes the hair. For extra moisture I use 2 products and alternate them they are old school vitapointe, and blue magic hair dress. I'm just glad I found something that works finally. And I found the garnier line at Dollar General for only about 11 dollars. Hope this helps and DON'T PERM HER HAIR. If it does'nt work for you keeping trying you'll find something and don't give up.

CCG - posted on 10/01/2013

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Hi,

I am bi-racial, Mexican and African American mix. I am now 24 years old and I found this site still trying to find solutions for my mixed hair! I have vivid memories of sitting at the edge of my mom's bed while she combed through my waist length hair in sections while it was still soaking wet. She would then take Luster's Pink Oil Moisturizer and saturate my hair in it and then part my hair into four sections and create four ponytails tight to my scalp. Next, she would comb through each ponytail again, and braid them and then secure the ends with rubber bands. When i woke up in the morning, my hair was gorgeous!

Now after some 13 years of doing my own hair, I find myself doing the exact same thing! And it works, I sometimes exchange the Pink Moisturizer for Conditioner as a moisturizer, but beware- the conditioner can dry and create white flakes. So I am contemplating returning to the moisturizer.

I also had a relaxer in my early teens--didnt do much--not worth it! Keratin didn't work either.

The important thing is to come out and moisturize the hair while still wet and then quickly braid or twist ponytails so they set.

I hope this helps! God bless! And be sure to check out my church: www.ImmanuelsTemple.com or @ItscTemple or you can like us on Facebook!

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Jazmin - posted on 07/14/2014

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You have gotten a ton of post already but I feel the need to add in my advice as well. I am 20 and completely relate to the struggle of dealing with bi-racial hair. My mom let me start doing my own hair when I was around your daughter’s age and honestly it was one of the best things for me. I was still young enough that occasionally my mom would help me out but I really needed to learn to do my own hair.

It was a ton of trial and error. I did put texturizers, relaxers and color in my hair myself after buying products from CVS. I learned from those experiences to never do that again. It wasn't a big deal when I was younger but as I'm growing into my own I have learned to claim my own hair. It’s not black and it’s not white so you can't treat it one way or the other. All mixed hair is different and has different needs but one thing all mixed hair must have is OIL OIL OIL. I have tried pretty much all products out there but the original Moroccan Oil (blue bottle) is the best I have found and honestly worth the price. It controls frizz, keeps my curl healthy and adds a little shine without leaving a nasty greasy feeling. (That last point is super important because people love to touch curly hair, even though we hate having our hair touched, and I was always insecure about kids making fun of me for how my hair felt). If you don't want to spend the money then there is Oil Of Morocco by Marc Anthony sold at CVS and it is my second fave and cheaper.

Another great thing to use in conjunction with oil is a leave in conditioner. My favorite at the moment is Cantu Shea butter. It smells awesome and makes soft defined curls. It can also be found at CVS and lasts way longer than all my other hair products.

As far as frizz is concerned try using an old t-shirt instead of a towel to gently dry your daughters hair. This is a new tip I just learned myself. It really cuts back on the amount of frizz I had in my own hair. Another tip is to ask people you see out and about what they use on their hair if you like the way it looks. That’s how my mom and I found some really great products to try out on my hair when I was younger.

Washing and conditioning- I wash my hair more than I should (every other to every three days) but I play D1 basketball and sweat a ton everyday, your daughter probably only needs to use shampoo once or twice a week tops. And when she washes it make sure to go gentle on the curls and focus mostly on scrubbing her scalp to clear out buildup. I use a clarifying shampoo whenever I notice my hair is getting dull but that’s only about once or twice a month. Conditioner is the important part; I have used L'Oreal nature’s therapy mega moisture nurturing crème for years. Even though I occasionally try other products this is still one of my favorites. It has lots of slip and is great for when I swim a lot in the summer. After gently combing through my hair with a wide tooth comb and conditioner I twist my curls and help seal the cuticle by pulling the conditioner down over the hair. Then I rinse only about 50% of it out. After using the t-shirt to gentle squeeze excess water out of my hair I add my oil and leave in conditioner (don’t be afraid to lay on the oil it will absorb and if you go over board one time her hair will thank you and then just back off a little next time). You can stop and let it air dry but I do hit my hair with the blow dryer with a diffuser attached because I love having big curly hair.

Healthy hair is happy hair! Good Luck!

P.S. at least every two weeks I do a deep conditioning/oil treatment on my hair.

Missie - posted on 07/01/2014

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If you use too many products (e.g. leave in conditioners, gels and what not) the hair will be come hard, wiry, fizzy, and break easily. Phyto organics liquid styler is a wonderful product to use on towel dry hair, to make it manageable. apply and braid let it dry complete then apply oil to the scalp, and a dab to the hair.

Missie - posted on 07/01/2014

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First oil her hair dry hair and scalp really well. I use a mixture of different oil (e.g.olive oil, castor oil, coconut oil, etc) but can use a single oil if you do not have oils on hand. Cover her hair with a plastic bag and either wrap it with a towel or put a hat on her head for at least and hour, longer it stays the better. I then but some moisturizing shampoo before washing and let it sit for a few minutes, this will help to wash the oils. I, then put shampoo (without water) on the hair, this will make the oil easier to remove, work it in really well, and then rinse the hair with water.

If you have been using a lot of products on her hair, you can follow up with a mixture of conditioners and baking soda, this will clarify without stripping the hair and help to moisturized it more. rinse and apply a conditioner you can De-tangle the hair too before rinsing it off. Then comb and braid the hair in a could sections. Wait for a few hours or the next day, lightly oil the scalp before taking down the braid. once you have completed the oiling, remove the braid massage the oils into the scalp and add a dime size about oil to the palm of your hand rubbed between your hands, then smooth it over the hair by sections. After the oil is apply brush the hair.

The other thing you can do before washing is mix honey and oil together and apply to dry hair, wait for 20 minutes then apply a moisturizing shampoo, work it in and rinse.

Always apply oil to the dry hair before washing for at least 30 minutes. Our hair is naturally dry.

K - posted on 07/01/2014

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HAIR One is the Sally's Version of WEN and it is Great Cost Effective. Gourmet Hair Food makes a great leave in conditioner that will hydrate hair, let you flat iron and protect from heat without the GREASE!!!

Lora - posted on 04/06/2014

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KEY 1:TRESEMME MOISTERIZING CONDITIONER!! REAPPLY AND LEAVE IT IN THERE AFTER YOU CONDITION THE BIRACIAL/CURLY HAIR WITH IT IN THE SHOWER/BATH!! IT IS A LIFE SAVER/MIRACLE!!!

KEY 2: PUT THE HAIR UP AT NIGHT. IF IT IS DOWN- YOU ARE ASKING FOR KNOTS AND TANGLES!! GENTLY PUT HAIR UP ON TOP AND PUT IN A BUN OR CLAMP IT UP.

I read the book I bought off of Amazon- " Curly Like Me". It was a God send!!! If you order it- it gives so many ideas on what you can do for your child's hair!! ALWAYS BRUSH THE HAIR WET !! ALWAYS!! You do not have to brush it everyday as bad as that sounds-you will only damage the hair if your baby has the curly biracial hair like mine does. Here is the KEY- LOOK FOR SILICONES IN THE INGREDIENTS!!!!- THE MORE SILICONES THE BETTER!!! They make the hair slick. Put LOTS OF THIS ON HER/HIS HAIR. Put her in the tub and get a BIG cup. Pour warm water all through her hair. If she is older, she can use the shower of course. Put the MOISTERIZING TRESSEMME INTO HER HAIR AND LET IT SIT AND WORK UNTIL SUPER SLIPPERY. Take a wide toothed comb and while holding the hair-begin combing FROM THE BOTTOM!! Work the tangles out EASILY from the ENDS to the top. The tangles come out so much easier this way. Continue until it is slick in shower/tub all the way to scalp. Pour a little warm water over hair while combing to get the hair/conditioner even easier to handle. When shower/bath is over- wrap the towel carefully around her head. Easily squeeze the hair dry. Immediately apply AMPLE TRSEMME TO THE HAIR FOR THE FINAL SET. After combing the conditioner through the hair in the style you want-LEAVE IT ALONE. It will only bush the hair if you over brush at this point. The only other thing I do on occasion is to put a hair shine or argan oil if it is a special occasion and she wants her hair very shiney. Biracial hair is VERY SENSITIVE!! Do not pull to hard on your baby's head- it is very tender. The book said to treat the hair delicate like silk.

There are other brands that can be used IF the have several SILICONES as ingredients- such as Dimethicone etc. The higher these are on the ingredient list the better the concentration to keep the frizzys down.

I do this procedure and put 2 snap bows on each side of her head the day of washing so she can wear it to school so pretty down that day or to church.

DAY 2, 3 AND MAYBE 4. The days after wash, you reapply conditioner with your HANDS FLAT. Put the conditioner on your hands add a little warm water and with one hand under the hair and the other on the top of the hair rub it straight down. DO NOT RUN YOUR FINGERS THROUGH BECAUSE IT PROBABLY HAS SOME LITTLE KNOTS AGAIN BY NOW- DO NOT WORRY ABOUT IT!!! This procedure will refresh the look. We usually do a ponytail on day 2.

We do not wash her hair everyday as biracial hair is very dry. No more than 2x per week is BEST!! By the next wash- There will be tangles-NO WORRIES.

We do: Day 1: Down, Day 2: Ponytail, Day 3: Bun...Day 4: Bun OR RECONDITION IN SHOWER/BATH.

My daughter's hair was SO unmanageable before I found this and now her hair is long. Quality conditioner is key and NO YOU DON'T HAVE TO SPEND A FORTUNE. Just take some time finding the silicone conditioners!!!!

Occasionally 1x or 2x per month you can SCALP ONLY wash with Tresemme moisturizing shampoo. This will clean the scalp. Just rinse it through the rest. If you aggressively wash it all hard with shampoo... extra tangles!! Don't do it.

Use the conditioner. Use ALOT of it. When you think it is too much.. it's not!! TOO MUCH IS JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT. If it dries and you see some white at all just apply a little warm water to that spot to dissolve it.

Good Luck!! and I hope this works for you like it did my baby!!!

Shirley - posted on 03/31/2014

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my daughter is 13 years old she wares her hair in a bumo and pony tail because I cant comb threw it...please help!!!! it is matted and in knots I need a home remendy please I cant afford to take her anywhere to have it done....she is getting ready to go to jr high and kids these days are so curl im afraid there r gonna be really mean to her please email me info please (nadine1967@yahoo.com)

Sara Lynn - posted on 03/15/2014

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I use aloe vera that is found in the sun screen area of the drug store after using a shampoo and conditioner for dry / curly hair. Joico has some great products with the correct PH 5 - 3.5. It would be good to use coconut oil, olive oil or almond oil before washing, and a bit of oil on her scalp after her hair drys.

The aloe vera gel will not dry out her hair.

Shirley Kay - posted on 03/01/2014

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Hello my name is Kay I'm a stylist I'm mixed with black,white, Indian I specialize in biracial hair and natural hair I am a licensed cosmetologist been doing hair all over 25 years please visit kaystouch of class.com look forward to meeting you Thanks

Shirley Kay - posted on 03/01/2014

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Kaystouchofclass.com please I'm a God send I will help you maintain your childrens hair

Adina - posted on 02/20/2014

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HOW TO MANAGE DIFFICULT TO MANAGE CURLY HAIR- ( AFRICAN AMERICAN HAIR, BIRACIAL HAIR, MIXED RACE HAIR, OR OTHER RACE TIGHTLY CURLY HAIR)

AN ALMOST COMPLETE GUIDE -
This comment is long, but I tried to include almost everything I know about type 4 hair so it is more of a guide than a comment. This post is for you and anyone else who needs it. It might help to just copy and paste this into a word document and save what you need and erase what you don't. Also, I am sorry if I go into too much detail when illustrating with words my appearance and my experiences (I am not that vain).. i am not a stylist but I am a visual learner and artist and so I tend to always paint pictures with words or elaborate on everything in great detail. i also have a science degree and enjoy learning about the chemistry of hair

1.Chemical treatments might not be the best solution- relaxers can do tremendous damage to the hair line, hair follicles, new growth, and older hair (sometimes due to overlapping of the relaxer and thus over processing). TEXTURIZING is a method of straightening the hair somewhat with a mild relaxer*..but it is difficult for even the most experienced hairstylists to "get it right". I am mixed. I am african american (black and irish), native american, and cape verdean (portuguese, british, and african). My hair has different curl patterns, and my hair is twice as thick and coarse as my sisters' hair, and I would guess three times thicker and coarser than my african american mom's hair (she is black, irish, and native american and her hair is thin/fine and 3a, waist length). Stylists have texturized and relaxed my hair..the result. it never completely relaxed.some parts are too bone straight (my hair there was 3a and 3b)..some parts are semi straight (my hair there was 4a) and other parts did not straighten at all (it is still 4a/4b)...so i have always had to spend about 4 hours detangling, blow drying, and flat ironing my hair (hair smells like smoke and you can't get it wet or it reverts). The almost bone straight parts take no time to straighten..but the different patterns of straightness makes my hair look messy..and my hair is weaker now..and damages more easily. (Stylists told me my hair is too thick and that most of my hair is coarse, and heat and chemical resistant $$). I wonder if my hair is flame retardant too?..Just kidding! Lol! Why would I keep getting my hair relaxed even if it only straightened hair at the crown? Answer..it made my hair more porous or less resistant to heat and at least the crown was semi-straightened.

I got my hair RELAXED every 3 months for 5 years (in several states by many different people) I would have underwent a keratin treatment that two of them offered, but after some research, I decided not to because they had formaldehyde. 95% of the other stylists only offered me relaxers as a way to manage my hair. SIGNS OF HAVING COARSE HAIR: I remember that many of my stylists would try to figure out how much heat it took to straighten it and they would just "scratch their heads" and just set the heat setting to the maximum level and say, "Girl, your hair takes A LOT of heat!", or some would burn their fingers on the heat that was absorbed by my hair because it was too hot, or a few would always* pop pain reliever pills into their mouths. before engaging in the arduous task of straightening my thick chemical and heat resistant hair. Hairstylist would typically overlap or relax my hair twice claiming that a double processing was needed to relax the majority of my under processed hair. Also, product seems to just sit on coarse hair rather than penetrate it.

HAIRSTYLISTS For the most part.. have ripped me off due to doing more damage to my hair than can be fixed and not being helpful. For example, when I asked them how to improve the manageability of my type of hair ...their answer was almost always, "Just keep coming back. We'll take care of it for you (like temporarily straighten super thick hair that reverts in three days if it gets wet or sweaty or is in humid conditions). Hairstylists' under processing and damaging hair with unwise methods complicates matters for people with already difficult to manage hair = $$$ + damaged/unattractive hair and dependence on weekly services. = Ineffective. For example if a shampoo leaves behind a residue..it defeats the purpose of what it is supposed to do.

2. Humidity and managing African American hair/ Mixed texture hair - I live in a city where it is hot and humid ABOUT 8 months a year...In this humid city I see black women sewing in or clipping on extensions, wearing wigs***, wearing weaves***, wearing braid extensions, wearing dyed short fade cuts (if they have the face shape for it), wearing their hair natural and dyed (blond, brown, or red), or wearing their hair in an almost bone straight relaxed state. The more conservative or possibly prejudiced the work place, community, town, city, or state African american women live in, the more European the hairstyles I tend to see African American women wear, and the more blond hair colors I see Caucasian women wear, and the more blond, brown, or reddish colors I see Latinas and Asian women wear ..and I have lived in many different states...The cultural trend in most corporate and other conservative places is to wear European hair (and clothing) styles...so I see that for women..if they cannot make it (European like hair)..they fake it (it's easier) and add on or put on that kind of hair..or change it's color. However, some women do look 100 times better with their natural hair cut in a very flattering way...so I think that whatever style a women wears, it should enhance her looks by complimenting face shape,height (ie. short women often look taller with short hair) etc. Also, check out youtube videos on how to braid extensions or on any other way to style hair..

3. Hormone changes = hair texture changes. Kids' hair textures and colors can change. My hair was bone straight until I was 2 years old and as I got older it got curlier every couple of years or so. My hair texture changed the most due to hormonal changes when I was 11. It became twice as tightly curly and dry and fragile and I asked my mom to hot comb it..which damaged my hair also and so what was once knee length super thick hair before age eleven, became an inch below shoulder length hair which has barely grown past that and I am in my thirties now.

MY MOTHER'S HAIR CARE METHODS Before the age of eleven..my mom only used a johnson and johnson no more tears detangle spray daily (sometimes stretched/diluted with water), a regular medium tooth comb and soft brush, VO5 conditioning hair dressing on the scalp sometimes, and vitapointe or vaseline on the ends sometimes. Some people say this is harmful, but my mom always brushed my wet hair once after she detangled it and just before she braided it so that the braid looked neat.She detangled my hair immediately after washing it while it was dripping wet.I remember sitting on a towel. I think the petroleum jelly or vitapointe on the ends helped to seal moisture into my wet hair. I hear that it might not be good to put petroleum on the scalp (some think it clogs pores) or hair (some think it causes dryness/locks moisture in, blocks moisture out)..but that could be a myth..my mom brushed the little bit of ( Vo5 or vitapointe) that she put on my scalp, downward so that it distributed evenly from root to tip. I would wear my hair in a ponytail or ponytails for a week and before bed the hair elastic that bound my hair was unbound but the braid stayed in tact, and I wore a scarf, and in the morning my hair around the crown was sprayed first with the diluted detangle spray, brushed back, and the elastic was rebound. my mom unraveled my hair, finger combed it and rebraided it (less than 10 minutes to do daily). My hair was washed every week, and it always took my mom 1.5 to 2 hours to detangle my (below waist length) healthy hair on the weekends (ouch!) . my mom never used heat on my hair before the age of eleven. people told my mom that she would have been a great hair stylist - but she always disagreed. people have told me the same - but like her I have also disagreed and worked in healthcare instead which is what she will be doing after retirement (our personalities are alike).

TIPS - it is not clear whether or not petrolatum or mineral oil in products cause harm...so use them just on hair ends or on teenagers' hair. the thicker the hair..the thicker the styling product one needs to "weigh the hair down"- so raw african shea butter or silicones, creamy custards, or thick oils maybe castor or olive oil would be best to seal in moisture and weigh hair down. I would detangle with a wide tooth comb and wash their hair braided or twisted so that it gets less tangled...as far as trims...trims do not guarantee hair will gain length..but will definitely make the ends look even. trimming away split ends is more efffective than cutting the ends of both healthy and split hair. finger combing is best for tight curly hair..and using fingers to untangle knots is best. but in my opinion, everyone's hair should be combed with a comb.

4. Products/"solutions" in a bottle - almost all keratin treatments and alternatives have formaldehyde and other aldehydes..do your homework. if they are dangerous, don't try them. Also..everyone will tell you about products that work for them or their kids...but everyone's hair is different. Experiment to find products that work..return products that don't. Sally's, Walmart, and Target allow returns. Some companies give away free samples...like biosilk (I believe).....My hair looks its best when I use Shea moisture natural products (I add olive oil to the shea masque/deep conditioner), Mixed Chicks, and biosilk (has quality silicones). People have told me that salon quality and sally's beauty supply generics of expensive or professional brands work better than the drug store kind. Two black women here in this humid city told me that "ion brand" straightening stylers work well. coconut oil, olive oil, or other leave in conditioners work better than commercial hair products in my opinion. My neighbor, who was Caucasian (blond and very pretty and petite with small facial features like Gwenyth Paltrow) told me that she is a hairstylist and her daughter is half black and has hair just like mine (mostly 4a). She told me to try the conditioner "Serious", because it (seriously) works. She said that "Serious" smooths hair similar to the way a relaxer does. Also, people have told me that Cowboy magic and Sabino moisture block are great "humidity proof" heat protectants to use in moist or humid places like Washington, San Francisco, some parts of Texas, Florida, the Northeast's coast, etc.

5. SALONS - an assistant to a stylist told me that most hair stylists (I've had probably 20) prefer to handle straightened or relaxed hair because it's easier for them to do. Spanish or dominican stylists will almost always and only tell women with 4a-4c hair that they NEED relaxers. No one necessarily needs a relaxer. The only hair style options or main options most black and spanish salons offer women with 4 type hair are high maintenance and damaging ones...from relaxed to straight using hood dryers, hand dryers, flat irons, and curling irons all in one visit..If you have to get her hair done for a special occasion someday take her to a black "Hair Care", "Braiding", or "Natural" hair salon. AVEDA is great! If a hairstylist shows poor technique by 1)combing from top to bottom and breaking apart knots 2) does not base scalp or protect hairline with oil or petroleum when relaxing 3) uses very dirty supplies like dirty towels dirty combs and sinks...and only offers relaxers to improve manageability - leave the salon.

THE PREGNANT AND HAIR COLOR . I don't think pregnant women should color their hair unless they use edible materials to color it like sage, chamomile, tea, (coffee or burgundy wine if no ill side effects), etc. i am looking to color hair that turned white in my early twenties. my sibling is about 1.5 years younger than I am and she has twice as many white strands!. i look ten years younger than my age ..but my hair makes me look ten years older - weird! i am unwilling to use toxic hair dyes though- i am way too young for that!..if my hair is more than 60% white by the time i am 40 i would rather go blond using Cassia Obovata or Senna and by opening cuticles with a chelating or deep cleansing shampoo (going blond can otherwise be damaging and expensive) than use darker commercial hair dyes with toxic chemicals in them. other than herbatint - even henna has been claimed to be toxic.strangely my premature white hair seems stronger/tougher and grows longer than my black hair and almost all of it grows in bone straight like it did when I was a baby (hormonal?). i might look like the X-men character Storm by the time I turn 40. Watch out Halle Berry, LOL!

The best thing about resistant hair is that it is fairly strong and should grow long which is why keratin treatments can be great for afro hair that is not as strong. but remember afro hair is usually thirsty hair, and any hair that lacks moisture and is tightly curly (every bend in the hair is a weak point) will break more easily no matter how resistant it is.

Science - I have read scientific articles on hair..and from what I can recall (hopefully it is accurate). straight hair may have more estrogen in its follicles than non straight or curly hair ..and that inexpensive unfermented ((possibly having more estrogen or phytoestrogens) soy products placed on follicles significantly changed curly hair to straight hair over a fairly short period of time.this might also explain why some men with straight hair also have problems with growing facial hair due to having so much estrogen in hair follicles...I tried to find the articles on this..but can't find them anymore..perhaps they were removed from the web? further studies probably have to be done to prove, disprove, or discover the side effects of such treatment. the study might have been funded by loreal, but i read many articles then (2005- 2010). and know that I read articles about how hormone pills could change the texture of people's hair, but those articles are not the same as the one I mentioned above. Hormone pills that change hair texture could be very costly, whereas soy is very accessible and not costly at all. I remember that the scientists from a foreign country were very excited about the results of the study and believed it to be a much less harmful and less costly way of straightening hair than other traditional methods.

If you know this - women with facial hair tend to have a sensitivity to testosterone and COARSER hair than other women who are not as sensitive to this hormone. Testosterone probably = coarser hair. A British study once said that a higher proportion of estrogen to testosterone at birth seems to result in differences in eye color and hair color like red, blond, green or blue eyes, etc.

Note: some women have noticed hair texture changes while pregnant or while on birth control pills, during menopause, or in old age. hormones/ biochemicals might affect a lot more than some people think. I wonder if birth control pills alter normal hormone cycles of a mother after they are discontinued or the hormones of a fetus if she becomes pregnant while on them, or if feeding babies soy infant formula or milk with hormones might affect the sexual orientation of these babies that will someday be grown adults? For instance, scientific articles have claimed that PCB'S and phthalates and or other chemicals in air fresheners (for example) might have this kind of effect. I was just wondering and wish that scientists would do more research on that.


KEY SUGGESTIONS: low manipulation and moisturizing are key, condition daily deep condition weekly, do protective styles yourself like braids (great pictures of wedding braided hairstyles), do synthetic extension braids that are not done too tightly (don't create traction alopecia) or pay someone who will braid LOOSE not tight and the braids should not be too small or too thick, or too long. don't keep it in one style for too long - switch it up. experiment to find the right products, don't chemically treat her hair with relaxers (including texturizers/"mild" relaxers). (some safe* conditioners can loosen curls temporarily).

CONSULTATIONS Get salon or HAIR SCHOOL consultations while they are still young.. hairstylists are usually more helpful (when their clients are children rather than when they are adults). My mom took us girls to hair schools sometimes if she needed to get our hair blown out for a big event and she was pressed for time. She would always end up taking over and instructing the students and teachers, however. Lol! : D Our hair back then was a lot like Kimora Lee Simmons daughters hair.

HUMIDITY Also, the girls will almost never have a bad hair day if they wear their her hair braided or twisted. if you cannot braid - two strand twist! some of my adult relatives who are native american/white and native american white and black (like my mom) always wore their hair in one or two braids and their hair was healthy, strong, very shiny, and waist length. They never wore it loose. my mom flat irons her hair though on a low heat setting (takes 30 minutes) so although her hair is waist length, her hair's ends are a bit damaged/uneven. She only applies a few products to her hair which I think is key. One of my sister's hair looks healthier than mine and is waist length like my mom's..She is ten years younger than I am. her hair is thin, mostly 3c but also 4a and natural. She wears her hair in braids or does "braid outs" ; and she only applies water and sometimes olive oil mixed with a little essential oil to her hair daily.

Inspiration:
Ethnic braided hair styles/tigre women and children

http://www.tigraionline.com/bahlina.html

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I am not a hairstylists, but I style my own hair because I do a better job of it than 90% of hairstylists (I am not bragging - unfortunately it is true) . I break my own hair less, style it in a more attractive way, use mostly natural ingredients, and use clean hair supplies (not dirty supplies that have been used on other clients hair) . I used to get my hair done at the salon every 2 weeks for 3 years, and did whatever the stylists told me my hair "needed" . I told them I wanted my hair to gain length...after 3 years my hair was shorter than before I let them handle it and beyond repair.

HAIRSTYLISTS' COUNSEL a few hairstylists have counseled me to get several costly treatments keratin treatments = heat heat heat and chemicals and $3000 to $6500 a year (about $600 to $800 and up per session because of my "relaxed" hair's lack of manageability). non formaledhyde keratin treatments can be a great solution - but i heard that it basically covers up damage and or can be damaging for some people - and in other's opinions I look ten times better with curly hair because my facial features are pretty and feminine but strong. once an African American stylist said she would charge $300 just to wash my hair (with some special shampoo). Yet, none have offered alternatives such as wet sets or cutting hair in layers to improve manageability. ALso, clients should never know more about how to manage their hair than their stylists, but it seems like this is the case for me every time I see one. most don't know how to wet set, or tree braid, never heard of pre-poo treatments or "texlaxing", or thio straightening, or loosening curls with curly perm solutions or cutting hair according to face shape, etc...maybe i will get my hair license. i already have a science degree and learning a trade might be beneficial.

.see articles "7 hair smoothing treatments that really work" by instyle.com...maybe the kids can try a SAFE smoothing treatment when they are older/in COLLEGE...some smoothing products are pretty safe - like smoothing conditioners. But, I do not advise that you let stylists do keratin treatments to your children's hair. I have done hours of research...and it seems that some women have had great results with it but many women have reported only having good results the first couple of times and then their hair fell out by the hand full every wash for up to 14 months or more (hair bulb and all), until 50% or so of their hair shed away leaving them with itchy scalps, redness, severe balding especially at the crown, and the extra expense of dermatology visits, deep conditioning, sulfate or clarifying shampoo treatments, prenatal vitamins, etc. etc. If U.S. regulations are lax do you think that all hair products sold in America have to list all of their ingredients?..probably not! So even if you have looked up the safety of a keratin treatment's ingredients ..you may not know if it is a safe. ALWAYS HAVE A STYLIST DO ALLERGY TESTS..OR do the tests yourself for all products even if you have used them before because allergies can develop over a short period of time..the longer the keratin treatment lasts...the more likely it could have something very harmful in it. I will never get a keratin treatment no matter how hard the stylists/sales people try to sell it to me until possibly twenty years from now after more research has been done and safer versions with no hidden ingredients are available.


My conservative hair style choices in a very humid* place are not getting relaxers, wearing wigs (due to hair turning white prematurely (hereditary), tree braids, semi blow drying and braiding, twisting, or pin curling hair that is layered and collar bone length), getting white hair colored 3 or four times a year at Aveda and by using Cassia obovata to color hair bi-monthly - hair care choices - use products with natural ingredients like shea moisture and wash hair in jumbo/large loose braids. My curly hair would frizz and shrink too much if I cut it too short. Medium length layered curly hair suits my short stature too.my face shape is slightly oval, but jaw is slightly square and I have high cheekbones and narrow, high bridged, and prominent attractive nose. Curly hair would make my nose look less prominent/less almost Native American looking -My eyes are shaped like Brittney Spears and eyebrows look Portuguese or Middle Eastern like Kim Kardashian. In other words, my facial features and bone structure makes me look totally Caucasian, and my bronze skin and hair color and texture makes me look Ethiopian,Moroccan, part black, Brazilian, or Hispanic. When my hair is straightened with a flat iron I look exactly like the white female actresses who wore bronze makeup to look like Native American women/Pocahontas in black and white/ or technicolor old films. My facial features and bone structure look sort of like the adult model in the yellow dress who is dancing in this video (Brazilian?). However, my hair was like hers until the age eleven..now it is damaged and shoulder length, 4a/4b (mostly due to mechanical damage or rough handling) and hormones:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8mz9uOvF...


MAKING HAIR PIN STRAIGHT - I used to live in a place that was desert dry and Springtime cool almost year-round. My hair would get pin straight and stay that way - Method = 1) wash, deep condition with slight amount of protein (shea moisture deep masque plus olive oil and or mayo), 2) very cool thorough* rinses, 3) apply garnier fructis or other leave in conditioner and heat protectant like biosilk*) blow dry to 80% to 85 percent dry and make it as straight as you can so that you barely have to flat iron it to make it straight, 4) make two braids - air dry over night, (some might argue against doing this - but hey EVERY hair stylist did this so I blow dry on high heat to get hair super straight before flat ironing). 5) apply a little more biosilk if desired and flat iron at 360 to 410 degrees / the temperature it takes to make hair pin straight/shiny - straight hair reflects light.

My mother does not use biosilk - she uses Organic Root STIMULATOR Olive Oil Sheen Spray as a heat protectant - which I don't think people should do.(I think she should use Motions sheen spray heat protectant)..but some hairstylists do this too and she is not aware of this and I looked up it's ingredients today...it actually has a water soluble dimethicone/heat protecting silicone! No wonder her hair is slightly below waist length, shiny, silky, and unfrayed and the product washes out easily - no need for sulfate shampoos (it's also because of genetics (lol)) !


In short: I think it is awesome to assimilate and in the work place I have heard that it is sometimes necessary " to take hair out of the equation" and wear hair straight to look like others in the workplace...but for instance, who knows what kind of damage relaxers and heat can do to hair follicles/hair cycle. even excessive heat can permanently damage hair follicles, and they can recede or do some damage to the fine hair along one's hair line . So - RELAXERS AND TEXTURIZERS are usually not worth the costs..

GOING NATURAL going natural is not necessarily easier..i tried it for 1.5 years only..and it was too hard to manage ("scab" hair), too much volume, and had a lot of breakage...but it's harder to fight against hair's natural state in a humid climate. (Dominican blowouts don't involve the use of chemicals but the excessive heat from blow dryers, hood dryers, and flat irons, and fine tooth combs used on wet and dry tangled hair can be painful and damaging). If you opt to take your child to a dominican salon, and don't want the stylist to use so much heat or rough detangling, you can ask the stylist to use a wide tooth comb and not use a blow dryer or a flat iron on her curls after her session under the hood dryer.



FAMILY'S HAIR: I have done my mom's, sisters', grandmother's, and brother's hair. all of their hair is different.

My SISTER # 1 = Has 3c, 4a thin hair - SHE GETS RELAXERS (since age 21) and her hair "takes" to the relaxer, and becomes practically bone straight. She likes it. She keeps it shoulder length (relaxed hair is difficult to grow long due to dryness/breakage). It takes little time to do.My mom touched her hair and said it was so dry and felt so unhealthy. Once my sister got an 1.5 inch wide, 4 inch long bald patch at the bottom back edge of her nape due to a stylist not rinsing her nape thoroughly....Many women claim that their hair "takes" to relaxers and that relaxed hair is so much easier to manage - which is why my sister gets her hair relaxed almost bone straight (plus she gets it died brown-black). I think that only adults, not children, should get their hair relaxed (if desired) and that this process should only be done by extremely knowledgeable, skilled, CARING and clean stylists who will truly relax hair not start a process that poorly straightens hair. Tip: relaxed hair must be conditioned about 3 times more than non relaxed hair.

SISTER# 2 - has the most brown black hair with reddish highlights 3b, 3c thin hair. her hair was below knee length- (curly, it was slightly below waist length) - stylists convinced her to get a mild relaxer and major hair cut. They cut her hair to waist length and relaxed it regularly for 2 years...In two years the breakage shortened her hair to shoulder blade length. she refuses to get relaxers now..and only braids it...after 4 years..her hair is close to waist length (hip length when straightened).

BROTHER #1 - has 3c hair (his hair was 2a but hormones changed that). his hair texture changed more dramatically than ours. I brushed his hair when he was a boy and his wiry hair was dry but very straight until he was about 11. he has gorgeous uniform spiral curls now and he told me to just use any garnier fructis conditioner and water to style hair because that is what he does.
My mom's hair is mostly 3a, thin, very soft, and long. She got a mild relaxer once in high school. Her hair became pin straight. She hated the limpness of it. After that, she refused to get relaxers . She only lets her hair air dry, blow dries it with a hand held dryer with tooth attachment and flat irons it on low heat and her hair is also waist length. She has always straightened her hair. She recommends that I do the same as she does if I want to have long hair like hers.

my paternal grandmother was a natural strawberry blond and almost all of her brothers were blonds or they had straight black hair and blue eyes like john travolta. she has 2b/2c hair which she get relaxed to 2a hair. Her hair is so soft and fine, thin, no balding, and limp..I don't know why she relaxes her hair to 2a but, she colors it now to look strawberry blond which compliments her white skin, green eyes, and small facial features. I straightened her hair with a curling iron once, as she requested. her hair is so easy to style and only takes about 15 minutes to do. It did not have much hold though. I has to spray her hair with hair spray so that the curls wouldn't fall.

i never did my other maternal grandmothers hair (she looks like mary j blige) but her hair is a uniform 4a (uniform patterned hair is lovely) and the diameter of her curls is twice as small as mine. she always wore it short/about a half of an inch long, natural, and had it colored to medium brown color.her husband.my grand-da had hair that is more like native americans or Caucasians (he was more handsome than Muhammad Ali with high cheekbones and dimples in cheeks, chin)..so I guess my hair is more of a combination of theirs..my hair also has natural reddish brown highlights which are the most abundant at the temples of my forehead which can be seen when I part my hair to the side.

What other people say: Most people like the braid or twist out style when I wear it since my hair is so thick. Some people say that my hair would probably look nicer straight since it is a "simpler" looking style. My boyfriend who is Persian (looks like a Brazilian or Colombian model) does not care about what my hair looks like, but instead my intelligence and soul/personality are what he cares about. He says natural hair styles, or human hair wigs are fine to wear (easy, low maintenance, not time consuming, cost effective, does not smell like smoke). Sometimes he suggests that I just cut it all low and wear wigs to major functions since there are more important things in life to do than hair (that is resistant). I agree. My mom disliKes the natural look on me.she favors the straight relaxed or flat ironed conservative style because she thinks it looks neater/ more professional/ more sophisticated and would be a safer look for the workplace ..others have told me this as well...
sometimes when I wear afrocentric styles I get prejudiced piercing stares from White members of the public. my hair is 2c/3a(around and behind ears, and around hairline and porous), 3a and 3b(at crown which drapes over the 4a through 4c hair (porous)), (mostly 4a/4b (nonporous) due to under processed relaxed hair.

What I say: I love all hair types. I just think all hair looks best if it is healthy/taken care of and styled properly (the right cut) . Type 4 hair is very delicate! I didn't realize this in my teens and twenties, and stylists never told me this.



ALTERNATIVES TO RELAXERS - in terms of damage i have done research and from the research it appears that relaxers are the most damaging> which is more damaging than body perms OR thiostraightening>which is more damaging than the "Gina Curl" > which is more damaging than formaldehyde free keratin treatments.
Water changes shape of hair ..and so the gina curl skips a chemical process by changing hair shape with water instead of with a chemical which makes it easier to set the hair on perm rods = less damaging. but perms can be drying and cause hair loss too. if you opt to get a teeneager's hair body wave permed or thio permed have a stylist do a test first. let her perm a sample of hair to show you how the hair will look permed AND have the stylist do a skin test to test for allergies. keep the test strand conditioned well for 2 months..if the test strand is still very healthy and non frizzy in humid conditions and her skin does not break out before each allergy test...get her a gina or single processing body perm. some conditioners loosen curls such as the product "Serious" or herbal essence's smooth collection lisse.

BEST BRAIDS = the best braids are tree braids. tree braids uses human or synthetic hair which creates a "blanket" covering braids and natural hair to protect natural hair and braids and is free flowing and looks like a weave or wig. tree braids are less time consuming than microbraids and box braids and other braiding styles..just cornrow and gently pull or separate small sections of the synth./natural (you are adding) out of the braid you are braiding so that every half inch or so, hair hangs out of the braid looking like this image of a braid: _/_/_/_/_/_/_ (this is a tree braid) the horizontal dashes are the braid, the diagonal slashes are the strands of loose hair left out of the braid while you braided it. i braid my own tree braids and do not go to stylists anymore because i do it responsibly in a knowledgeable way giving me control over the quality of the results and the health of my hair and hairline. For example, braids should not be smaller than pencil width to avoid traction alopecia - stylists tend to braid thicker or smaller than this and tightly. all of my stylists (about 20) sort of lacked knowledge. i keep my hair in tree braids in the winter so that i can cut off the underprocessed relaxed hair.

If I were a hairstylist and I had an identical twin..I would spot perm. I would use a super relaxer for a longer time on the resistant hair, and then apply a weaker relaxer of the same brand on the less resistant hair. I would wash my twin's hair line first, and thoroughly with neutralizer, and not let relaxer touch the scalp which is what none of my hairstylists did. (But truthfully I WOULD NEVER put a relaxer on her hair). I would do something similar to a gina curl which is gentler than a curly perm.
If my twin did not want a relaxer, I would color her hair and would offer to cut her hair low with electric razor mid ear and ear to ear and leave just the non resistant hair on top uncut = only half of the hair is needed to be styled cutting down on time required to maintain it and keeps neck cool in hot humid almost year round weather. Egyptians wisely did something like this....Over time I would cut long layers and create a curly tapered bob with curly bangs.

native american sites about hair management:

http://www.whale.to/c/truth_about_hair.h...

http://www.whitewolfpack.com/2013/08/eld...

4C HAIR - any hair can grow long/ shoulder length!I saw a beautiful African American woman with a perfect feminine proper personality with a face and complexion like Nia Long..she had 4c hair and she wore it in a simple short fade that looked like a flat top but was shaped like a pretty tiara!! her hair was like a crown! i have seen some women with 4c hair wear braided with extensions, or wear their hair in short very thin twists (colored strawberry blond or auburn or red or not colored at all that were very shiny, and not at all unkempt looking and that was always cut to flatter their best features like high cheek bones, wide eyes, etc.some women with 4c hair get their hair locked thin and color it..and grow it to collar bone length or longer..and tie it back for job interviews. some locks are shiny and look very attractive on some people, 4c hair is fragile, but it can be blow dried semi straight with a diffuser too. ..some women with 4c hair wear it in a short fade and just put on wigs sometimes.some women with 4c hair get their hair relaxed but i have seen the damage this can do to their hairlines/nape. all hair looks its best when it is healthy!

STRAIGHTENING
- hair can straighten by 1) heat training 2) tension (pulling hair back/ wearing pony tails stretches hair making the hair lose elasticity which loosens the curls over time 3) water temporarily "relaxes" the hair. when my mother combed my (knee length when straightened) hair, she always diluted the liquid detangler solutions in a spray bottle with water and mainly used water to "straighten" my hair. the more tangled my hair was, the more water she sprayed on the tangled area until the hair was soaked, dripping wet, looser, more flexible, weighed down, and more slippery, making the hair easier to detangle. God gave us a very cheap temporary relaxer and detangler on this earth and that is WATER. (I heard that soaked hair is weaker...but water also detangles tightly curled hair. in my experience dry tightly coiled hair breaks MUCH easier than wet or damp very curly hair. i flat ironed my hair with african raw shea butter several times, and what I learned from doing this is one should only use a small amount, it makes the hair feel heavy with grease the first day, it does not smell fragrant, and if you shampoo hair once with conditioner, the curls formed are very very moist and change temporarily from 4a to 3b or 3c depending on how much rinsing is done.

If maintaining long hair is too time consuming or if braiding hair is too difficult for you, cutting the hair short (below chin length or collar bone length) or (some pixie cuts or some short fades are less time consuming than longer hair styles) might be a good option - especially if where you are is not too humid. even if it were humid just make sure the short hair is very moisturized. if she were in her late teens she could always put on a hair "fall" (3/4 or 1/2 wig) or have someone braid extensions into her hair (hair should be at least 4 inches long) so that she can wear her hair long sometimes and shorter hair would fit under a "fall" much easier than voluminous puffy long hair. My hair is so thick and curly that my natural hair cannot fit under a wig, hat, hood, and blocks my peripheral vision unless it is cornrowed or french braided in small braids to flatten it.

* children's mixed race hairstyles: http://mixedracehairstyles.com/2014/01/1...

natural hair styles

short fade on a woman with a feminine "baby" face: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/15861121809...

heatless long curls: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIEpDL1kv...
http://aroundthewaycurls.com/pin-curls-w...


what are my solutions? - it's all about trial and error for you and for me - you have to experiment every few months or so with different returnable products, and hair styles to find what works. I will cut it to collar bone length, and add layers up to ears and wear wigs or braid extensions, pin curl, twist...especially since this place is so humid and workplace so conservative and my hair is so white. i got relaxers in my twenties- i will not get a relaxer again.

IN TWENTY YEARS FROM NOW? After retirement or when I don't have to impress anyone I will grow it long. This is place is too hot and humid to wear natural hair that long. if after ten years my hair is not long i will try maybe single processing curly perM (though a curly perm probably will underprocess or become frizzy anyway) or thio straightening. (most white salons i have walked into (before the relocation) that offered safer keratin treatments had stylists that shouted that they don't do black hair as soon as i walked into their salons) ..so since it was segregated I did not purchase anything/ spend my money there.

FAIL PROOF HEALTHY guaranteed solutions in a tropical climate for now are :

1) tree braid in winter - my hair is too thick to be also adding in extra hair and wearing double the hair in the summertime
2) blowdrying and braiding in the humid summer and spring (takes 1.5 hours and lasts 11 days depending on how oily the scalp is)- natural 4 type hair is fragile and always gets single stranded knots and gets matted/tangled too easily if it is wet, or loose, not straightened, and not twisted or braided - so wash and go's don't work since wetting hair daily dries hair out, creates jumbo knots, and dryness causes frizz. so the solution is to straighten it indirectly using a blow dryer (with a diffuser) and deep conditioner - and braid or twist it after it blowdried. Only blow dry hair until it is 50 or 75% dry and then moisturize and braid the hair. Alternatively you could just add oil to hair and braid it while wet...but in my experience...4a hair that is not blow dried shrinks a lot, and the braids are bulkier, harder or coarser, and feels less conditioned when it is not blow dried with olive oil using a diffuser on low heat.

Blow drying helps hair to stretch, evens hair textures, and minimizes tangles and thus helps to retain length - in my senior year of high school and freshman year of college i blow dried only on medium heat and did not flat iron for 2 years and my hair retained 4 inches of hair making it bra strap length! before returning to school for sophomore year i went to a stylist who was supposed to only straighten the hair and she begged me to trim my hair - she hacked off 5 inches of hair. after two chops with the scissors i looked at my hair and complained that she cut too much off and she apologized and said that my hair needed a cut not a trim and so she took the liberty to cut it. that was the longest my hair has been since eleven. anyway this works:
a) i blow dry slightly damp hair with tresemme heat protectant (water is a main ingredient) and OLIVE or COCONUT oil (i dip a finger into the oil and apply it onto an entire section) - i use tresemme only on the ends. also, the oil penetrates into the shaft and thus disappears leaving the hair conditioned and non oily. I use the tension method and a paddle brush (only sometimes) to blow dry..
b) to style it (takes 30 mintues) i apply a half dollar sized amount of creamy leave in conditioner and spritz blow dried hair with water, and then make 5 or 7 french / fish braids (i have a lot of hair) on my head's crown, and put braided and non braided hair into a fancy bun. on the second day i leave it in a bun or unravel 3 inches of the crown's braids braid in yaki synthetic or natural hair which gives my hair length, weight, and protection (takes 30 minutes). to tame fly aways at the hair's crown i spray braids and hair line with a little water, and dab not brush coconut or olive oil along hairline and put on a du rag (men use this to create waves) or silky scarf for ten minutes. this creates beautiful uniform waves everywhere. i usually undo just the front french braids before i put it into a bun or braid in the extensions because it rounds the corners of my temples make my face appear more round instead of long, and puts less stress on hair line. i don't watch tv anymore but only read*...so 2.5 hours every eleven days = only 15 minutes spent on average per day...pretty good and not too much time is wasted. sometimes i unbraid my hair and leave it wavy and put it in a bun or pony tail.

alternatively you could just use a diffuser to speed the drying of wet hair that you applied a leave in conditioner to and braided to the ends..after it is dry, it should be easier to come on a daily basis.

VERSATILITY. What is great about french, corn row, or fish tail braiding close to the scalp (not tightly) is that high school age kids and up can clip in extensions or wear falls, attach fake pony tails, wear 1/2, 3/4, or full wigs, or undo braids leaving it wavy, soft, and easy to style in an updo or ponytail as I have seen high school and college aged students do.

WHY IT IS A SOLUTION Blow drying on low or medium heat with a deep conditioner and maybe a watered down silicone with hydrolyzed protein protectant creates big puffy hair not flat limp sleak hair...but it sure is soft, easy to comb every other day if desired, easier to fit under a hat or hood, and quick and easy to detangle and braid, and if wet it reverts a little..but who cares? the objective is not to have super straight hair anyway - just hair that is easier to manage! Also..blow drying works for me because as I said ...my hair is very heat resistant..so it is about trial and error to find what works for your kid(s) hair type. but i think low heat helps to open my hair's cuticle(s). If you cannot braid you can do hair "banding".

I use products that only have water soluble silicones....thick hair and the scalp is a challenge to wash especially when non soluble silicones are on it.

Natalia - posted on 01/24/2014

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Do not perm or texturize at all! Her hair will never be the same! You can try some of the other products people have mentioned, but truth be told not all mixed hair is the same. My mother is black/white, father mexican, husband black, because of this my 2 children have different hair textures. My mothers hair is fine and thin no texture just waves. My daughters is curly like Merida from brave my sons has more of a tighter curl more coarse. The techniques I use work for both of them. Start wash, and heavy condition! "I'm not crazy". Mayonnaise, and what my kids call magic oil (moroccan oil) are really the only thing you need for hair care unless styling. For the mayonnaise first wash, and condition with whatever shampoo you use. I buy the cheap $2 jar at walmart, and Moroccan oil at walmart for $6 (make sure its in the gold box not all are the same). I use about 1/2 cup on my daughter work it into hair real good. Leave on for 5 to 15 minutes for my son closer to 15. Rinse out, do not use shampoo afterwards. Honestly once rinsed the only thing left behind is the oil that has no smell. If there is a smell the moroccan oil will take care of it. Comb hair ASAP braid into tight Pocahontas braids (do as many as you like), dry overnight. Undo braids in am style as normal. When I do this her hair will stay manageable for 3 to 4 days. EASY TO BRUSH, hair shines like silk, other products are too heavy, and weigh down her hair! My sons hair is short these steps define his curls, and make them easy to brush, and shiny!

Meredith - posted on 10/07/2013

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There is a website chocolate hairvanilla care.com it is really helpful. My daughter is mixed too! And this website is very helpful.

Monica - posted on 10/04/2013

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We use pink lotion in my daughter hair who also has mixed of hair so I would try that !

Felecia - posted on 06/03/2013

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Mixed chicks works great, i looked on the bottle today after using it for 2 weeks and im in shock it has alcohol in it. But i can get my daughters tangles out in the bath in 2 min. PLEASE DONT COMB HER HAIR DRY, ONLY COMB HER HAIR IN THE SHOWER WITH CONDITIONER IN IT, AND WHEN SHE GETS OUT WITH LEAVE IN. I co wash every night i have to my daughter plays hard and hair gets dry, when wet use a curl cream theres tons try a couple see what you like let AIR DRY! LESS YOU TOUCH THE LESS FRIZZ. i dont think anything makes hair completlely frizz free but good conditioning leave in and curl cream helps

Colleen - posted on 05/20/2013

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I have the same type of hair (Im biracial) and I would personally advise you not to use a relaxer unless...you are going to bring her to the salon and pay for her to get a wash/set/and flat iron or blow dry every month at a salon that does african american or dominican hair. (because I ahve done this and I regret it the relaxer, just damages and dries out your hair more, and and it still curls and takes basically the same time/effort to straighten out the hair.) For curly wet styles/ you have to use conditoner in the shower while the hair is soaking wet, and you will be able to comb right through it with a wide tooth comb. Also I would reccommend a leave in conditoner or just leaving regular conditioner i the hair make sure its moisturizing not volumizing (that will make it puffier) for the whole day, because curly hair need lots of moisture. You have to use alot of product on the hair because it is thick!!! that sthe trick! You can use some gel with a brush around the edges to keep it looking neat if she wears ponytails. Some good product lines are cream of nature, mixed chicks, miss jessies, I have to think of more...I will write later.

Stacey - posted on 03/13/2013

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my little girl is going to get her hair braided on friday. her hair is very very dry and brittle. she is half white and half african american. what are the best products to use on her hair to get it ready to braid. her hair is extremely dammaged from perming (not my doin) so im worried that braiding will damage it further if her hair does not have some kind of moisture to it plus her braids will look frizzy.

Adrienne - posted on 02/26/2013

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I have had this same issue for over 9 years first of all regular hair care is key you must trim their hair every 3to 4 months biracial children are not like either black or white. Second content condition is great don't use products with alcohol in them all natural olive oil products are the best. Never relax their hair that's asking for trouble. I have always used a small spray bottle with about an ounce to two of conditioner and then the rest water. Shake and spray then use a wide tooth comb or a wide bristle brush. Keep your kids hair braided not cornrows braided. I know it's beautiful down but then you risk an hour the next day of screams and crying. I was also told WEN is great for their hair they also have a brand similar at Sally's hair supply. Good luck.

Jeannie - posted on 02/25/2013

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Please please please do not straighten her hair. "Mixed chicks" is an amazing product!!! You can find it on line ;)

Jessica - posted on 02/18/2013

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wash it only a few times a week with a really good, moisturizing shampoo. Use a good moisturizing conditioner, you can use one made for curly hair. In the shower, with conditioner still in, brush it out and rinse. I only brush my daughters hair in the shower with conditioner in it....otherwise, it is IMPOSSIBLE.lol. In between washes you can use conditioner instead of shampoo. Also, braid her hair in one long braid every night before bed to keep tangles at bay. For styling, I used to use no more tangles. But now her hair is past her bottom and I use infusium 21 mixed in a spray bottle with water (1/4 water to 3/4 infusium). Occasionally I use mouse to hold the curls, but I don't like the way it makes her hair feel, so I don't use it often.

Kelly - posted on 11/02/2012

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my opinion is DON'T use a relaxer. You could try some pink lotion (it is a hair product you will find in the african american section.) It keeps my daughters hair nice and soft and smells good too.

Tiya - posted on 10/24/2012

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Hi Heather i would recommend just S-curling her hair its similar to a relaxer but very mild get a professional to do it I use Luster's S-Curl. It tames the hair without fully straightening it and eventually will go back to a natural state. I have been using it for years and would never go back to relaxers. It gives me the option to have my hair flat pressed straight should I decide I want it straightened for a week or 2 and soon as I wash my hair it goes right back to curly state but a tamer version. You can have the best of both worlds. Hope this helps. xx

Sharnice - posted on 10/19/2012

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I am biracial and I comb my hair out in the shower when it has conditioner in it. When rinsing you can leave a little conditioner to help with the frizz..to style just add some mosterizing lotion. Curly hair needs moistur...you should not perm her hair..you can try flat ironing it if she is old enough to receive the same results and easier to manage during the week

Annissa - posted on 10/12/2012

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My daughters hair is easier to do than mine but I found shampooing everyday dries it out.

I use a light conditioner & a wide tooth comb when it's wet to get the knots out. Before

It dries I will use a tiny bit of light weight oil (light grapeseed oil) and when it dries its shiny

and super curly. Every other month ill take her to get it trimmed & thinned out just a little & not

too close to the top, this allows it to lay right & keeps the frizz down.

Good luck & I highly suggest staying away from relaxers. Young hair isn't fully developed

and this can really damage her hair at the root. It may never be the same.

Balat - posted on 10/03/2012

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I completely understand... my daughters hair is down to her waist. And its very kinky curly.. Shes half Palestinian and half African American... It took us 21/2 hours to comb it out yest after wash. I need help as well. I put a texterizer in her hair. It worked at first, now one month and half after treatment its back to getting tangled again... Please Help. Does anyone know of good products for mixed hair.

Tiya - posted on 07/23/2012

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I just noticed this post is 2yrs agao but, you can try S-curl it is very mild version of relaxer I use it and it give me the option to wear my hair curl and controlled or completely straight. speak to a hair stylist. :)

Felicia - posted on 07/22/2012

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I now use a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner once a week. I like Herbal Essences Hydrating shampoo in the blue bottle and totally twisted in the purple bottle. I love how totally twisted makes her hair so curly. Then I spray her hair with Soft and beautiful 2 in 1 detangler. They also make a moisturizing cream/ detangler that is really good too. This makes it very easy to comb out her hair and then I style as usual. On a daily basis I will just use the two detanglers as needed. I will also co-wash during the week if her hair seems dry or brittle.

Christyanne - posted on 07/20/2012

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Stop shampooing her hair and start cowashing it (using conditioner). Do not use products with alcohol in her hair. It only dries it out.

Candice - posted on 07/15/2012

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I also have mixed children and I keep both my kids curls looking cute and they have very different textures and types of hair. My 5 year old has a more course, dry curly hair I like to use conditioner in it some people buy a leave in one I don't I just take the same conditioner we use when we shower and rub it in when I do her hair while its wet, with her hair I also use an oil I really like Aragon oil you can get it at a beauty supply store. My 3 year old has soft curly with a texture that is much like mine. I do the same with her but leave out the oil because then her hair will look greasy. If she is playing during the say and it starts to frizz just wet it put in a little conditioner and comb it and her curls should look cute. You actually can use a relaxer but get an organic one and only leave it in for the amount of time it takes to cover her hair from top to bottom then rinse out maybe 5-8 minutes. She will keep her curls but they will loosen and soften the texture.

Mya - posted on 07/09/2012

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STOP DO NOT PUT PERMS OR RELAXER IN HER HAIR!!!!!!!!!

Olive oil, detangler and braids. you can straighten their hair with a curling iron but wait until she gets older she will be asking you to do it over and over again.

Denise - posted on 07/09/2012

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Hi there are many different techniques for getting bi-racial hair to wear well. the main thing is to keep it moisturized. Please be sure to comb her hair out while it is wet as opposed to after drying, also much easier to comb before you wash out the conditioner. There are several great blogs out there that give advise on natural curly hair the one that helped me most is CurlyNikki.com. I personally would advise against using chemicals on her hair(personal preference) It is possible to have healthy and manageable naturally curly hair. Hope this helps.

Carol - posted on 07/02/2012

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My daughters hair is pretty much exactly like yours. If you are on facebook I suggest beads, braids & beyond. She has a blog spot on the web as well. I love BBB. they have pics of styles & can give advice on anything hair related. They love using all natural products to help with healthy hair. Check them out. They may be able to help you.

Gracie De - posted on 06/30/2012

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Hello Heather, i hope i didn't come too late to help you and your daughter...

The best of the bests produts i have founded for me and my little one is: (One 'n Only Brazilian Tech Keratin Lusterizer). it is amazing....Only one produt will give you everything that you are looking for....the whole line is wonderfull, but for my daughter that is just 2:), that all i use. The atendent from Sally recomended this produt for my daughter, she has a fine,dry curly hair...

I have been using on her since she was 1. i only shampoo her hair once a week, but i conditiner her hair about 2 times a week, or whatever i think is necessary,during bath time.

i use the Lusterizer every day, one bottle last over a month, because she doesn't have too much hair...So, I wet her hair a little in the morning and apply a pea size on my hand and work all over her hair, than style the way i like, some days i leave curly, some days i comb, to get a little straitish...

If you go to sally website you will be able to check the reviews for the line. it says that is for chemically treated hair, but it is chemicall free and its safe and light to use in kids, it has been for my princess. OMG, i hope i have helped not only you, but many mothers like us that has been looking for the miracle produt for they little ones:) good luck and always love your daughter's hair, it will make it easier to take care of ;)

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Mixed Chicks was recommended to me by my family hairdresser and I saw the difference in the first application. If you go to their website and put in your zip code, you can find where to buy it in your area. Best of Luck.

Kristi - posted on 06/20/2011

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I also use Mixed Chicks products on my daughter. Absolutely recommend them!

Donna - posted on 06/19/2011

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Mixed Chicks and Carols Daughter work for my 4 year old. What a difference they make, and well worth the cost not to have the neighbors think I am killing her when I do her hair!

Monica - posted on 03/08/2011

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If you are not wanting to spend $20/bottle. Try the L'oreal Nature's Therapy - Mega Moisture line at Sallys Beauty. Lots of good natural things in it and really retains moisture. I also use the conditioner as a leave in when I wet and finger curl my daughters hair each day. A little goes a long way! Trust me, I've tried the pricey stuff - Bumble & Bumble, Aveda etc..
Also you comb curly hair in the tub when you are conditioning it to detangle with a big wide tooth comb. After just blot - do not rub dry with towel. Putting her hair in ponytails will help control it too.

Felicia - posted on 04/06/2010

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I use motions hair lotion in my daughter's hair. It is a little heavy, but it makes her super curly hair very managable.

Venessa - posted on 04/04/2010

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Heather, I am now 30 and decided 2 months ago to shave my head and let my hair come back natural. My hair has been relaxed or permed since I was 11.

My Mum is white and Dad is black, as Dad worked overseas, I was raised by Mum, and she had no idea what to do with my very tight frizzy hair, Dad's answer cut it all off. When I was old enough they let me get it relaxed and this is where it all went wrong for me. I started with this idea in my head that my hair needed to be straight.
Don't lead her down that track until she is fully aware of the consequences. Besides the financial cost, the affect on your hair is emmense. Make sure your daughter knows how to look after her hair, I never did, and now at 30 I'm having to learn.

Get a good organic Deep Conditioner (you can find recipes on line) and use it once a week. Completely saturate the hair, cover it in a showercap (I use clingwrap on mine lol) then wrap a hot, damp towel around my head and leave for 30 minutes. Have a look on the web, their are heaps of natural hair sites.

Cathie - posted on 04/04/2010

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there is a lotion called PINK it is in the ethnic section in walgreens but all stores sell it. My daughter is 17 years old now and she still uses it. She has the same hair texture.

Pam - posted on 04/04/2010

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There are 2 solutions this this. I use either Carol's Daughter, which you can oder online or visit Sephora, Macy's, Dillard’s stores to buy. The 2nd on is Mixed Chicks. I used both on my daughter's hair. Her hair is thick and really really curly. When it's wet, her hair is bone straight, as you start to towel dry it, it will curl up. I like Mixed Chicks better because it was created by 2 bi-racial women who had problems keeping their hair miosturized. So they created someting for every race to use. It keep Rose's hair moisturized real good.



The websites are :

www.carolsdaughter.com

www.mixedchicks.net

Leona - posted on 04/04/2010

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One more thing.... as a mixted child of a black woman my mother used many black product in my hair such as grease, since getting older and researching into afro hair and why it is different I found out that there are many things in black hair product which are bad for the hair, such as grease and petroleum they do not add moisture but clog pores and stop hair from growing... Instead it is better to use products which add moisture so look for a good moisturising shampoo and conditioner, I have found creamy shampoos work better on my hair instead of just normal yelow ones like johnsons, I found Wen by Chaz Dean to be very good, although quite expensive however there are cheaper ones which are add moisture.

Leona - posted on 04/04/2010

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My hair is very similar to what you have explained and it has taken me many years of trying to figure out whats best for my type of hair. As my hair is very curly when wet I find adding a bit of conditioner to the hair when wet really helps... this is not leave in conditioner but conditioner u would normally wash out, just a small blob left in while wet. Another thing u mentioned combing the hair.... u should shampo the hair then condition it... only comb the hair wet whilst the conditioner is in, then wash it out and add a small amout of conditioner again to the wet hair, get it evenly through her hair and dont comb just leave to dry naturally, as combing interfers with the curls.... this adds moisture to dry curls

Also when she is older and you may want to experiment with straightening her hair, please do not relax, it's really bad and everytime i've relaxed ive had to cut my hair off, you may see from my picture, my hair is straightened and is totally naturall and very similar to the hair you have described. What i do is while hair is wet and clean from all conditioner, I wrap hair in rollers and use a hooded dryer to dry, this is a way of drying hair without having to worry about the direct heat of a blow dryer drying out your daughters hair further and you can always use straightners to finish off the look... u will find that straighening your daughters hair you will see the shine and body more than with a relaxer, a relaxer will make the hair thin and lifeless, although this straightening method is long it is healthier for your daughters kind of hair, I wish you the best and hope my info is usefull for you.

Tracey - posted on 04/03/2010

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go to a beauty shop and get "cantu" leave in cream and it works wounderfuly. i think that is how it is spelled.

Janelle - posted on 04/03/2010

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Use Carol's Daughter products! I use them and they make my curls so soft and manageable! It is all natural so it reduces frizz and is made for natural hair! Also please don't relax her hair! She was born with what god gave her and it will severely damage her hair! I just use a flat iron when I want my hair straightened and it looks like I have a relaxer. Teach your daughter to be proud of her hair and the texture she was born with!

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