Iphone for a 13 year old

Kristy - posted on 05/22/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My son is driving me crazy for a Iphone! All of his friends have one and he is the only one who doesn't. I just simply cannot afford it right now being a single mom and his dad won't pay for the data package for him. I know it's like 70.00 a month. What are your feelings on a 13 year old having a Iphone to keep up with the Jones'!

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Jeri - posted on 05/24/2013

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My son was 13 when he got the iPhone 4, we added him to our plan, he paid for half ($100) with his Christmas money, and he washes, vaccumes, and details our family car every Sunday to earn the $ to pay for the data. We were due to sign on for another 2 years and that's when we added him. Our monthly bill was actually lowered $20 when adding his iPhone 4. It's already hard enough being a teenager, we try to help him have what him peers have so he doesn't get made fun of. It is hard on us being a low income, very young family, living in an upper class community. But our job as parents is to make sacrifices for our children. As long as the bills are paid, roof over your heads, food in the frig, and clothes on your backs, why not? Just make sure u put parental controls on the phone and block SNAPCHAT!! Trust me, I learned the hard way. Oh, and a reeeeaaaalllyyy sturdy case for it is a must!! Good luck!!

User - posted on 05/24/2013

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If you can't afford it, then he either has to figure out how to get the money to pay for it or go without. At 13 he can't get a regular job, but he could do yard work or walk dogs or something. There are cheaper data plans - my daughter has an Android smartphone and I have an unlimited plan for her that's $35 a month (from Virgin Mobile). Hang in there - I know it's hard when your kids want stuff and you can't give it to them, but in the long run it won't hurt him to pay for it himself, and it might even help build character.

User - posted on 05/24/2013

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From personal experience, I can tell you that my mother gave me everything I wanted and at 26 I still need financial assistance from her. My younger sister is about to turn 18 and was raised much differently and could probably take care of herself better financially than I could.

Laura - posted on 05/24/2013

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Simple no. I would never allow my daughter to have one as she is irrisponsible and it's you who ends up paying. When he can pay for the credit or bill on the phone than he can get one.

Christine - posted on 05/24/2013

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When we got our son a phone he was 12. He used it for calling mom & dad when soccer practices were over & he needed to be picked up. His 1st phone was definitely not an IPhone. It was one we got for free on our Verison plan. He was able to call, text and take pictures. The service plan was all we had to pzy $10-$15 a month.

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Jenell - posted on 05/24/2013

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Not happening in my house. I got my first Nokia phone in 2001 just before I turnef 18. I want my kids to learn how to do things without technology first and foremost and when/if they sjow the responsibility and maturity to handle the cellphone privilege they might get one.

Kim - posted on 05/24/2013

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Kids are getting phones younger and younger these days. My daughters, now 21, and 20, did not get theirs until their 13th birthdays and that was young 7 or 8 years ago. Now, my 11 yr old daughter who has had one since she was 9, just got the Iphone 5 for her birthday. Of course this upsets my older girls, lol, but it really is a fact that if she didn't have a phone, she really would be the only one in class without one! I do think that kids are far more active outside the home or school than they used to be, and many instances come up, where having a phone is a definite advantage. You should look into different companies and their plans bc many offer extra lines at very little cost, ours is only $5 extra with unliimited text/talk. Data plans are usually more but the younger the child, the less need they have for the internet services anyhow. Some companies are switching it so that you have a good size down payment (like $100 for the iphones) and then just $20 per month for all services unlimited. They really are making more effort to make it more affordable I think, and it's just a sign of the times that todays kids are technology savvy at younger ages.

User - posted on 05/24/2013

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None of my kids have one. They all have smart phones but on a walmart package. It isn't that much of a difference as far as what they can do on the phone. It is a huge difference in price. Don't struggle to get something you can't afford. In the long run is it going to really matter when he is grown. It isn't something that is going to scar him for life.

Kat - posted on 05/24/2013

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Personally, I think an iphone would be a great graduation gift. In the mean time, just get a phone that allows him to upload music. However, 13 is a little young, I think. I didn't get my first phone until I was 16 or 17. My first phone was VERY basic, not even a camera on the phone. But I was happy to have one to be able to text and talk to friends. Anyway, times are changing very quickly so maybe my opinion doesn't really fit with today. I only have a 4 and 1 year old, so I won't really know until I get into this situation. But iphones I think are a little too advanced and unnecessary for young teenagers.

Tisha - posted on 05/24/2013

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I think if you can't afford it then he has to understand but maybe look at getting one of the older model iPhones and getting a prepaid card which he would have to work for by either doing a paper route or something to pay for. If you can't afford an iPhone then get a phone that is $0 and prepaid. Or join him on your plan but tell him he only has X amount of minutes a month and if he goes over he has to pay. I don' t essentially have a problem with it, he is 13 and most parents give their kids phones nowadays at that age but different families have different rules. My 8 year old was given an iPhone 3G but only because both her dad and I upgraded to a 4S and a 5 and it was still there. It does not have a card as yet but she does go online with it and pretends she can call us. She doesn't even bother with it most of the time. But I realise it's two different situations.

Meagan - posted on 05/22/2013

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It's a personal choice, but it is absolutely not a life altering issue! I know iphones are not cheap and if you can't afford it, then don't stress. He will survive and maybe this will be a valuable lesson that he doesn't always NEED what his friends have. If you can afford it eventually, then make him work for it. Make up a list of extra chores that aren't a weekly thing (like cleaning the oven), and have HIM do those things to "pay" for his phone every month. My mother did that to me, I'm going to do it to mine as well. If I didn't do the work, I lost the phone until I DID get it done. He may appreciate it more, and since YOU would have to put in the REAL extra work to get him this, he should repay you in SOME way.

For now, explain that you just cannot afford it. If he doesn't like it, he can get a paper route and buy it himself! lol

I think that ultimately, it is a personal choice on what you do and how you handle this. If it were me, there would be less presents under the tree in exchange for the phone, or I would make mine work to "pay" for it. Assign a monetary value to special chores, and have her earn the phone BEFORE she gets it.

I think that you are probably doing great as is so if he can't have one thing, he will survive. As long as he has a roof over his head, food in his belly, and clothes on his back, anything additional is just you being the best mom you can be! =]

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