is anyone else's child big for their age?

Lauren - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 2. She is tall (34 in). I can't tell you how many people come up to me and tell me she is SO big! They always think she is 3 or 4. I mean honestly, I know she's tall I am her mother. I don't know if I'm being oversensitive or if people are just being rude. My sister in law even told me that she didn't want a big baby like mine. But she is rude anyway. It's just so annoying. Does anyone else have a "big" kid?

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Lyndal - posted on 09/27/2009

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I hear you but have a few other points to share.
My daughter is 8 months and for me she is a normal size but raising her here in Ghana she is bigger than a lot of babies here. It seems to me that Ghanaian children (with 2 Ghanaian parents) are genetically much smaller for longer whereas my daughter is growing fast now.
But I think you really need to put things in perspective and I see this a lot in this community here on Circle of Mums.
What do you expect people to say? Why are you really considering them rude? Is it THAT bad? I spoke firmly to a man today who was staring at me and my daughter and calling to his wife to come and see the white woman feeding her baby, aka I am a monkey in a cage at the zoo. I could let it get to me but I don't and I can't. Life wouldn't be pleasant or go on if I did. I just told him that for me what he was doing was rude and could he please stop and just go on with his day. He said 'oh, ok sorry' and did. Cool - got it sorted with no angst or sadness or anger or ... anything.
Don't worry so much about what other people say or think. People say and think things about everything in life. If you are that concerned and worried then why have a bi-racial child?

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Leslie - posted on 09/29/2009

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Well maybe i will make you all feel better... my husband is only 5'3 I am only 5'4 his daughter (my step) is 14 and already 5'6 and still growing. We have a 6 year old together and she is already at my shoulders.... not to mention she is very "grown" for her age I am pretty sure she dip and roll her head with her lil attitude better then most of the grown women I know. My oldest son is 13 and has not even caught up to me yet. My 10 year old daughter is taller than my 13 year old son and weighs more than I did whe I was 16! My 9 year old son is almost as tall as my 13 year old son. Now I really dont care what no one says. Talk it up all you want I really dont care. All 5 of my children are some of the best ppl you could ever come across. We have a great sense of humor at my house and we can go toe to toe if the time calls for it. I dont think Lyndal ment anything by her remark except if you were worried about ppl talking about your child or even you for that matter than you should not have had a bi racial baby. Which means you knew they were goin to open they dumb mouths anyways. I love the way my children are and it does not concern me one bit.My oldest dont let ppl that talk about her hieght get to her she challanges them in a reaching contest, my 13 yo old son ask you to race, they know that what they are lacking or have to much of they have something else or to much of soemthing else somewhere else and it all evens them out in the log run. lol

Kelli - posted on 09/29/2009

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My son is one and is 32 1/4 inches tall and 28lbs! Everyone tells me he is huge.

Cecile - posted on 09/29/2009

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i do have a son and he is 38 inches , his father is 6.6 so i was expected he will be tall
i get comment like that also "oh he is big for his age"but honestly i don't care at all.
my son will be tall what a blessing i think
good luck

Katrina - posted on 09/28/2009

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My daughter is 4 and she is 4 feet 2 inches. She is about the size of your average 8 year old. It's unreal how everyone things she is so much older.

Lyndal - posted on 09/28/2009

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Thanks Michelle,
Circle of Mums does a lot to help me feel connected to other mums too. :P

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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Your in Ghana, i did not realize how far reaching this whole circle of mothers would be. It's my first day and wow I am starting to feel connected to a whole world out there, and finding that women every where share thins. You repsonse is very thoughtful and good advice.

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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Quoting Cadence:

My son just turned 4 about a month ago, he's 27kg and comes up to my boobs (he's just under 4 feet tall). One of my neighbours thought he was 5 when he was two and a half. I get the "oh my god he's so big" all the time when i tell them his age. its hard because people treat them like they're older than they are and expect more of them when they're so big. When they know thier age they still sometimes forget.



I can relate to the treating them like they are older, yes my son too is tall for his age, and we have always heard it too. OMG he's so tall. He's 8 now and I guess we will hear that well for the rest of his life, but for men it's a good thing. The only down side is as you said people expect more of him, his father and I have even had to remind our selves sometimes that he's only 8. I am glad that he will be tall and actually see some advantages to it for him. Stats say tall men seem to be more successful. Noah is use to the comments and he likes being tall too.

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2009

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Yes but for me it's like a compliment because it's my son. he has been off the charts since he was born and at 8 he's just about five feet, we hear it ALL the time,it's really clear when i see him with kids his own age he towers over them, and I'm not sure if it's his height or having older parents but he acts older most of the time too. I personally think tall women are desirable and you can't miss them when they walk into the room. Steer that girl towards volley ball or basket ball where she will meet girls just like her. She is going to be fine.

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My granddaughter just turned 2 she too is tall. but so are both of her parents. I just shrug it off when people tell me she is tall . It could be worse there could be medical problems. Being tall sjust means she's growing.

Dawn - posted on 09/25/2009

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My son is 6 and people think he is older then he is because of his size. He is over 4 feet tall and weighs about 120-125. Nobody ever believes his age. They say oh my god he is so big....I thought he was older. It gets old

Cadence - posted on 09/23/2009

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My son just turned 4 about a month ago, he's 27kg and comes up to my boobs (he's just under 4 feet tall). One of my neighbours thought he was 5 when he was two and a half. I get the "oh my god he's so big" all the time when i tell them his age. its hard because people treat them like they're older than they are and expect more of them when they're so big. When they know thier age they still sometimes forget.

Elise - posted on 09/22/2009

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My first son is tall and big for his age. We have heard that since he was born. Add to that the fact he is blonde and I am tan skinned, and short, people have gone so far as to ask if he's mine. They are going to comment because they think that an observation gives them the right to comment. It's like, keep it to yourself, ya know? As long as she's healthy is what I'd say. My son is big, and its ok, its his body type. Now that he's five he's used to people asking and he tells them how old he is and that he's tall:)

Michelle - posted on 09/22/2009

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My daughter is almost 4 and 46 inches tall. Whenever we go to eat or the movies or anything where kids 3 and under do it free and i tell them her age they think I'm lieing. It's annoying and gets old.

Jennifer - posted on 09/21/2009

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I understand I have a 1 year old that is heavy for her age she weighs more than my 2 year old and I hate when people have to comment on her weight all the time. I just try to ignore it because I know sooner or later she'll even out. Plus hey if they were smallerthen we would be accused of neglecting them lol. I love my big baby!!!

Mary - posted on 09/21/2009

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My son who will be 3 oct 8th looks and talks like he could be 4 or 5. It does get old when they say "he's only 2?" Im like yea only 2. "Wow he's big and talks very well"

Julie - posted on 09/21/2009

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My daughter is now 14 but when she had her development checks the health visitor said that according to the measurement chart when she grew up she would be 6ft tall. On taking the fact she was a girl into account she then said she would be most likely around the 5ft 10"..........at 14 she is already 5ft 9" and still growing!

Akita - posted on 09/19/2009

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My daughter is 8 years old and the first reaction I get is wow you are soo tall. She is already wearing a size 12 1/2 plus clothes. We have asked our doctor why she grew so much from age 4 or 5 til now and he told us some kids are bigger. I worry about her being so much bigger then her other school mates, but I know that my daughter is well-fed and loved. She will be starting soccer classes today and basketball in the spring. We feel that as long as we are her biggest fans and supporters it doesn't matter what other people say about her height. A polite smile and a twinkle in her eye and they forget about her height almost instantly. :)

Summa - posted on 09/19/2009

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my soon is now 8 months n been in size 1 since 6 months he is almost twice the size of other babys his age but he was a very small baby, isnt doesnt bother me at all obviously hes healthy cus hes growin

Ashley - posted on 09/17/2009

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Both of my kids are big for their age.My daughter is 7 and everyone thinks she is 9 or so..My son he is 7 months and weighs18 pounds and is 29 inches so he is a big boy.But if my daughter comes up to me and asks me something about her weight or height I just encourage her that she is BEAUTIFUL,and that seems to help her..

Debby - posted on 09/15/2009

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Hahaha! I have this problem all the time with my son! He alway's looked 4-5 months older, when he was 3 month's a lot of people thought he was 6 months now that he is 8 month's everyone think's he's a year! it's nuts! he is 8 month's and 24 lbs and very tall

Lauren - posted on 09/15/2009

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thanks..i think her being tall is a good thing too! i always wanted to be taller..and have curly hair! she has everything i wanted when i was young! i just don't like people judging her by her size. she is biracial so i already worry about people being stupid about that so it just makes it worse they think they have something else to give me crap about. my sister in law especially bothers me. she is black from Cameroon and she always finds something nasty to say about my daughter. her daughter is also big (bigger than my daughter was at her age thank you) but she doesn't see it. She doesn't like me and I wish she wouldn't take it out on my kid. I don't take it out on hers!

Anna - posted on 09/14/2009

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I have been asking myself the same questions.. I have 2 children and people always think they are older than they are. I don't know the answers here, I just try to be positive around my children to not give them any complexes.

Melissa - posted on 09/14/2009

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my daughter is six and she is the size of a seven year old I look at as a good thing whos going to mess with someone thats way bigger then they are.Also she will be picked first for sports

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