is anyone here the parent of a black/mexican child?

Malina - posted on 09/07/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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so apparently i'm the black parent & my son's dad is mexican. sometimes while walking down the street, people give us looks, say stupid things about us or congratulate us. the worst part is when a hispanic person says something in spanish and assumes i dont understand what they're saying. meanwhile, i am bilingual. i'm also part puerto rican. any other black moms of half mexican children get this? its so annoying

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Jasmine - posted on 09/07/2010

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i kinda know what your talking about and where your coming from. im full black and my sons dad is full mexican, me and his dad dont date anymore or anything like that so no one ever thinks he is my son. my best friend is mexican and when ever we go out in public and im holding him someone will walk up to me and her with him and say "oh what a beautiful baby is it yours?" and point at my friend. my sons dad side of the family is extremely racist like they hated the fact that we even hung out so we never told them wen we dated his family doesnt even know about my son. i hate walking around and getting ugly looks or strange looks from people because my son isnt black like i am. why cant people just accept the way things are in life and move on?

Toni - posted on 09/12/2010

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yes it get annoying i am the mother of a black/mexican girl which is 7 months old. i hate the stires, i just wish they would say what they got on there minds. But i get it worse from the mexican women, they look at me like im the devil and stole one of their men. the black women they would just come out and ask me is she mine, thats whats funny to me also. anyone having these problems let me know. oh by the way im black (lol) and he's the mexican one.

Carolee - posted on 09/07/2010

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It's not just a black thing. I'm white and got the exact same reaction when I was with my son's father. I couldn't believe some of the things that they (other Hispanic men) would say to my ex right in front of me while assuming that I don't know one word of Spanish.

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Giant - posted on 11/08/2012

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Yes I have 3 Mexicans As children I dont know where they came from but they just popped out. Then I realized I had taco residue in my ovaries so that is how I got pregnant. Taco bell uses Mexican seamen in their secret sauce and I just happened to masturbate with it. Then Stuff got real. Mexicans after Mexicans came out of my vagina I need help do any of you have a good exterminators number. Please hit me up on blackpeoplemeet.com ;)

Danielle - posted on 08/30/2012

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Not only am I Mexican and Chinese while my husband is black and Mexican, but we are 19 and 20. So if the interracial part doesn't catch people's attention, our age does. It bothers me more than my husband. I've had African American girls our age stare me down, stare at my husband in a flirtatious way, or even flirt with him when our son and I are right next to him. Then there's the older couples who stare at us in shame! I forgot to mention the middle aged black people who are friendly but has to touch our son's hair, I find that funny. It's horrible that we are in the year 2012 and are still judged in some sort of way because of our interracial family.

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My hubby is black and Im mexican, and although I'm pretty oblivious to the stares, my hubby ALWAYS notices and constantly asks me translate when Mexican people pass by talking and looking in our direction. Before our son, the stares weren't as much, mainly from older mexican couples. Being in a military base and bordertown, you would think it wouldnt be so shocking. My hubby was deployed for 8 months and had to leave when our son was 2 wks. NOW we get all sorts of people coming up to us, young and old, wanting to touch our son's hair and give us compliments about our son. It still makes my hubby uncomfortable but realized its our son thats giving us so much attn and he is being good about it. I'm used to it thou, I get approached at least 3 times in a store even from men (which i find kinda weird lol ) about my son. the other thing about my son is that he's gigantic so if it isnt about his hair or his eyes, its about how big he is. people are naturally drawn to babies but when they see a 20 + lb 9 mo old... they always gotta comment on how big he is. lol what can i say, bi racial babies are the most beautiful babies and I'm proud to have my little one. :)

Jenny - posted on 09/12/2010

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If you're puerto rican you're a black latina not just black. But I'm not mexican or black. And people don't think I'm bilingual when they speak in spanish sometimes because it's only my last name that's actually spanish. Also I speak portuguese. I find that an advantage cuz now you know what they don't want you to hear. It reallydoesn't bother me at all rlly.

Alisa - posted on 09/10/2010

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I also understand. My children's father is Mexican from Mexico and I'm Eastern European. I felt he had a lot of pressure. Sometimes people would make nasty remarks in Spanish about him being a sell-out. I think this made him feel insecure. I also think he felt it from other white folks as well. People definately stare in an offensive way at times. It hurts because I was always proud to be with him and proud of us being together. After we split up, I started to get the impression that he felt like he should be with, "his own kind." That also hurts a lot because I feel like people are people. We are all humans and yet society puts on so much pressure. My children are beginning to struggle as well. They are confused about who they are and where they fit. Neither speaks Spanish and feel insecure around Mexican children who speak only Spanish and yet they recognize that they are also drawn to the same children. I feel frustrated. Now that their father and I are not together it is difficult to give them exposure to both cultures equally. I feel you!

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