Is it too late for my bi-racial daughters to learn another language?

Rosa - posted on 04/03/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Before I start ranting about my dilemma, a little background on my family. I am Mexican & my husband is Black. We have a 2 daughters, 6 & 3 & I want to know if it's too late for my 3 yr old to learn my native language, which is Spanish. I always said I'd want my daughters to know both english & spanish & when we first married, I spoke a lot of it at home but overtime, and since my husband didn't really understand me, I reverted back to English only. Lately, my parents and other relatives have been pestering about my daughters not understanding or speaking spanish.My 6 yr old understands a lot of it, but speaks it very poorly. My 3yr old however seems to not want anything to do with spanish. Everytime I try and speak spanish to her, she'll literally tell me she doesn't understand me and tells me to "stop talking like that". Also, my husband just started a new job. He is in insurance & learning spanish is a MUST for him now, which I think is amazing and he is more than willing & excited about learning it. The only solution I have, is to revert back to speaking spanish only at home and letting him do the english speaking, but again, I want to know if maybe it's just too late for my daughters to get it. Also, I'm considering switching my 6yr old to a dual-language class in school, but my husband fears she'll just fall behind in learning to read/write in English...any tips? Please? I would really appreciate it!

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Shamekia - posted on 05/26/2012

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As a biracial woman, I do not think anything is wrong w/the wording of this post. It IS in the moms of biracial children section SMH My child is multi-racial. I am bi-racial. & as a person who has dealt w/this issue in my own life, I found this to be an interesting discussion. Please get it together people...

Carol - posted on 05/26/2012

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No, its not to late i learned french and spanish in high school. Its never to late for anyone to learn somethign new. It will most likely be easier for your children at that age anyway.

Heather - posted on 05/25/2012

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Go for it! Teach them all your native language...it's never too late to learn or teach. Good luck :)

Jen - posted on 05/19/2012

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Rosa, I think what she's trying to say is that it doesn't really matter if your children are biracial or not when it comes to their ability to learn another language.

Rosa - posted on 05/19/2012

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"What does her being biracial have anything to do with her learning another language. Man you moms on this site are killing me."

What do you mean Brittaney?? I posted this because as a mom to mixed children, English will be their primary language, unlike me, who am Mexican Born & Raised, and was raised primarily on Spanish. I am wanting for my daughters to embrace both sides of their cultures and in doing so, I believe that learning to speak both English & Spanish fluently plays a crucial part in their upbringing. So to me, being biracial has EVERTHING to do with learning another language, IF both parents are from different cultures with different languages :)

Jen - posted on 05/18/2012

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@Brittaney, I was wondering the same thing...

@OP: it's never too late to learn a new language. I think everyone should know enough spanish to know how to ask where's the bathroom, where's the beer, and how are you? ;)

Brittaney - posted on 05/17/2012

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What does her being biracial have anything to do with her learning another language. Man you moms on this site are killing me.

Deborah - posted on 04/16/2012

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It is not too late for children to learn a second language, you could even make it a fun family activity since your husband needs to learn Spanish too. Just incorporate the Spanish words into everyday activities, your three year old might just realize she likes it. As for the dual-language school I have heard wonderful things about those schools, I've heard children thrive in those environments. Just don't force the second language, take it one word at a time, talk to your relatives about helping you incorporate the second language into family conversations without pressuring your youngest one. I hope that everything works out for you.

Shamekia - posted on 04/09/2012

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Please teach your children Spanish. I wish my mother had taught me. My cousins learned & they were quick learners in school. I regret not having learned when I was younger. My grandmother only speaks Spanish & her memory is fading, but I cannot speak it fluently. What I learned of Spanish was picked up in high school. Please please don't have them be like me. I'm sorry if this seems emotional, but I really wish I could speak to my grandmother & teach my daughter Spanish...

Ellie Richardson - posted on 04/08/2012

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im biracial an in my opinion i dont think its too late.Kids are like sponges an can absorb info easily.The trick is making it fun.

TINA - posted on 04/06/2012

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If you are lucky enough to get into a dual language program do it. I am going to try to get my little girl in when she starts kindergarten. She may initially be behind other kids that are in English only schools however studies show that after the 3rd grade or so she will may be more advance then children in the same age group. They also have the advantage that other children don't have in that they fully fluent in a 2nd language where as other children simply speak or just understand the 2nd language. As far as your 3 year old she should have no problem speaking and understanding Spanish. She is choosing not to. You could do just as she is doing and refuse to speak to her unless she talks to you in Spanish. My mother did that to me when I was little and I am grateful for it because although I am not fluent Korean (im half white half Korean) I know enough to help me in the workplace. It may sound mean but its not that you are mistreating her but you speak to her only in Spanish and have your husband do the same and she will start to interact in the same way. Another way to enforce it is to turn on the SAP for any television she watches. This shows her that lots of people including her favorite characters speak spanish as well and it will help your husband as well. LOL

Good Luck!