Bianka - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )
So this branches off of another post about father vs mother last names, but I never got an answer to my question, so here it is:
I had the same thoughts as you do before I had my son. I know many people who wish they didn't give their child the father's last name. I do plan to marry my son's father and I did plan to give my son his father's last name. I really don't care for my last name as it is my father's and I don't have a relationship with my father. It is a tough choice, but go with what you feel. It is what is right for your situation. You can always change their last name later on if that is what you choose as well. I know people who have changed their child's last name from the father's to their's and from their's to the fathers. Choose what you are comfortable with.
I am in this SAME predicament. I don't have a relationship with my father at all, and I myself actually went through several surname changes between my mom, dad and stepdad's names.
Although a couple ladies said they never had problems with custody and legal stuff as far as last names go, I'm worried because I'm having a bi-racial child. If the father and I won't be together, or even if we will and we don't marry soon, am I going to have more problems proving that she is my daughter because we have different last names and skin color?