mixed babies who dont look mixed/problems because of this?

Heather - posted on 04/16/2010 ( 57 moms have responded )

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So im new here, my names heather. I have two sons, ethan almost 5 and justin almost 1. They have different dads, both mexican. However apparently my genes are dominant. Both of my sons look white. My oldest has blonde hair but light brown eyes and my youngest has light brown hair and green eyes. I know there was a similar thread like this but my questions arent so much as who out there had this occur but more along the lines of has this caused issues for you or your children? I notice that when i go to functions with my boyfriend (2nd baby daddy) whos taken on the father role for my oldest, that the hispanic kids dont treat them the same. Even the adults, sometimes i have to repeat myself that they are both mixed with mexican, like they dont believe me. Especially with my oldest. It can get annoying trying to prove their heritage. I had the same issues when i was married to my ex husband as i do with my current bf, i hear people make jokes that they dont belong to their fathers like i had some secret white guy on the side. Have you guys had to deal with this much?

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We have a set of twins that we got right from the NICU as foster children that we've adopted. The mom was white, blonde hair & blue eyes, the father was black. The twins are almost porcelin white, but they have their dads hair. Very curly & wirey. People always wonder where they got the hair & are very surprised when I tell them. The thing I find weird is when filling out forms & filling out the race of the girls. Since they look "white"...should I just check white/caucasian or should I be checking "black" or both?? Does it really matter in the end??

Maria - posted on 11/01/2013

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Heather:
The problem is that Hispanic/Latino is not a race. Mexican is a nationality. In Mexico there are people of different races, just like in the USA.
All depends, if you marry a white Mexican (Spanish or French ancestry), a mestizo Mexican (mixed Indian and European ancestry) . Your Mexican husbands could be as white as you are, or a mestizo type (mixed European and Indian).
If you married a White Mexican, there are a lot in the Jalisco State, your children will look caucasians.
Most Mexicans DNA show a mixture of European 75% and 25% indians.
Hispanic or Latino is not a race. There are white Hispanics, blacks Hispanics, native (Indians) Hispanics, Asian Hispanics.
In Latin America there were also African slaves, and received emigration from all parts of Europe, and Asia. I have a friend from Argentina that is of Irish ancestry and another friend from Brazil who is of German descend.

Jen - posted on 01/28/2013

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I don't think hispanic genes are dominant. Every 1/2 white 1/2 hispanic child I know personally looks 100% white including my step child

Kelly - posted on 11/09/2012

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my kids are black and white and both look white. their dad gets weird looks when he takes them out by himself. his family knows that they are there dad's they both look exactly like him in the face. i have had people ask me if i'm sure they are half black, even their doctor gave us a weird look and asked if i was sure. it's insulting. but i've learned to ignore them, it's really no ones damn business, i could care less if they believe me or not.

Char - posted on 03/24/2012

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I'm black and my husband is white, we have two gorgeous kids (and I'm not biased - lol). Ever since my daughter was born, she's had straight brown hair. I've been asked if I'm her nanny and people have questioned whether she is Latina, Filipino, South Asian, Greek, Turkish...the list goes on and on and on. It used to bother me at first, but now she's old enough to pay attention to my response, I take it on myself to politely correct these inaccurate assumptions. I figure, while I'm answering these very nosy people and putting them in their place (very nicely of course) my daughter will learn that it's perfectly fine to be transparent, honest and firm about who she is!



I don't want the world to place my babies in an ill fitting box labelled 'this is what a mixed kid should look like', I want them to learn their history, define their identity and be proud of who they are...a wonderful blend of mom and dad!

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Lyndsey - posted on 11/07/2013

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We have this same situation with our boys, especially our first who has blue eyes (our second has brown eyes). My husband is mixed White/Black and is asked if he's Cuban all the time. Our oldest looks white(light skin, Blue eyes, mostly straight light brown hair) and our youngest looks more Greek (olive skin, brown eyes, light brown/copper hair w a little wavy curl). They both have the same shape to their eyes, nose, and chin as their dad though.

Maria - posted on 11/01/2013

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Heather: All depends, if you marry a white Mexican (Spanish or French ancestry), a mestizo Mexican (mixed Indian and European ancestry) . Your Mexican husbands could be as white as you are, or a mestizo type (mixed European and Indian)/
Hispanic or Latino is not a race. There are white Hispanics, blacks Hispanics, native (Indians) Hispanics, Asian Hispanics.
In Latin America there were also African slaves, and received emigration from all parts of Europe, and Asia. I have a friend from Argentina that is of Irish ancestry and another friend from Brazil who is of German descend.

Gina - posted on 11/09/2012

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My son is mixed (black white) and my daughter is white. I have had people ask me if he is adopted ...even though he looks just like me only with brown skin. After about the 4th time i just tell them that i ordered him online under "buy a mixed kid.com" it pretty much shuts them up after that. Unfortunately some people are just ignorant! As long as they know where they come from it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks :)

Lynnette - posted on 10/20/2012

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Well I have five children they all have different hair textures but my five year old has perfectly syraight hair and his dad says he's never seen a mixed baby with straight hair so he don't belive he's his I am white and dad is black

User - posted on 05/10/2012

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there are 3 races white, black, and asian. Mexican are a mixture of all three.

Rikki N - posted on 03/23/2012

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My daughter's father is Vietnamese and she came out looking 100% Asian.. We live in Little Saigon and I get plenty of comments, but never negative... However, the only problem I have run into is when she was admitted to the hospital the social worker came to ask me to present a birth certificate to see if I was her mom? That was a little irritating

Janessa - posted on 03/15/2012

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Lisa your story is amazing. But I am not sure if your father would tell you this but majority of middle eastern or arab people already of african ancestry in them. Because the ARABS were huge in the slave trade.The slaves that were brought into the Arab world were majority women from East African. They were way more slaves brought to the middle east then that of the new world called the Americas.

Lisa - posted on 02/09/2012

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My mother was Irish-American and my father was Assyrian-American (his parents immigrated from the Middle East during the WW1 era.) Although my mother was very fair skinned and a redhead (with brown eyes) my siblings and I all came out with very dark brown or black hair and varying shades of olive skin. As a child, I was always the "darkest" because I spent so much time playing outside and I tan very easily. Growing up in the San Francisco Bay Area, this was never really much of an issue because the area is so racially diverse. Although I have an olive complexion, my racial classification is "white or caucasian." If my mother ever got weird looks or was asked if we were hers, she never mentioned it and I never noticed anything. I am married to an African American, and our son, who is turning 13 on Valentine's Day, is obviously bi-racial, although he pretty much looks Black. We moved to Springfield, MO when our son was only 2 1/2, and I have certainly gotten some weird looks and questions over the past 10+ years of living here. One day when I was picking my son up from an after-school program when he was in 2nd or 3rd grade, another child asked me if he was adopted! I just smiled and said, no honey, he's all mine! I am not so naive that I don't realize that there are bigoted people everywhere, but racism is much more overt here, with both Blacks and Whites. I guess because most of the White people in this area are of German and Irish ancestry, they are predominantly blonde and blue-eyed, so I don't look like the typical white around here, but it still shocked me a bit when I was asked by a black man ( a relative of my husbands's) "what are you?" Meaning, what race am I. I wish it didn't matter. I worry how things are going to go for my son when he starts to be interested in dating and most of the girls he knows are white.

Maria - posted on 02/05/2012

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The only problem I encountered was at the boys' high school, when for some reason, my youngest was often mistaken for Hispanic, which didn't really pose a problem until some adults treat him differently than his brother who happens to look more Caucasian like their Dad. I curbed that problem when I started dropping them off and picking them up together at the high school, bringing one or the other when one of them is playing at a baseball tournament and my husband would show up after work to catch the game. Every function they're both in, one tags along with us so everyone knows they're blood brothers. And that's how they were known until they graduated! :)

Jayla - posted on 02/03/2012

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I'm Puerto rican I was born and raised there until I was 17 My mom is Brazilian & From Spain & she is Puerto Rican Born & Raised My father was Puerto Rican born with Arabic and Greek; Irish parents from Israel as well



So Imagine that big mix in me, I'm 43 so I dealt with where are you from all my life,



My oldest Daughter is 20 her father is Half Arabic and Puerto Rican as well. He's Lebanese-Syrian from Saudi although he was born in Connecticut Massachusetts. With puerto rican born parents just like mine.

My oldest daughter always has to explain where she is from no one believes her she looks so different its a gorgeous mix, & I tell her to be proud of it but she always felt not Spanish enough all the Spanish girls would tell her she isn't. She has fair skin hazel-green eyes & to me she is pure gorgeous, She has fallen in love with the mixture she has, and doesn't mind what other latina girls say, she feels latina and arabic regardless.



My second & soon to be born third Daughters father

is Mexican/Indian My ex husbands mom is Mexican & his estranged father was from India Chandigarh.



My pre-teen is gorgeous but the opposite of my 1st daughter,

she is light tan black jet hair and very Indian/Spanish looking but she is now facing the same judgement my first daughter dealt with a couple years ago.



My third daughter I'm sure will look like my second we will see all these mixes you can never guess how they will come out.



IF you have another child he/she may take after the father its just a matter of genes and how they come in to play.... Regardless my whole point of this was to show you we are all multi-cultural even those that say they are pure ___(fill in the blank) so don't mind idiots.

Leanne - posted on 01/28/2012

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Yes Omg, all the time, My son is half Maori, My partner has brown skin, brown eyes, and dark brown hair, I have brown hair now, but as a child i had blonde hair and I have blue eyes. Our son has brown eyes, yellow based skin and browny/blondey hair. Its so frustrating when his family say he doesnt look Maori at all.... to me our son looks half and half of both of us, Cian (pronounced Key-in) has big almond brown eyes like his Daddy and a nose like his Dad, he has my lips and shaped head. His family keep going on about how he doesnt look Maori, and how hes so white etc.

I think some people let the colouring of the child influence them rather than the actual features

we saw some family friends of my partners family out the other day and they were like wow your son looks so Maori etc just like his Daddy, my partner later told his Mum and she goes but hes so white.....

its like um ok yeah hes paler then him but his eyes and nose are just like his.....

its crazy like you feel like they dont approve....

I dont care anymore what people think of my son, hes beautiful and handsome and i think he has the best looks from both his Mummy and Daddy, stuff em! lol

Diane - posted on 01/20/2012

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Janessa, I'm aware that there are Mulatto Hispanics which I mentioned in my previous post. Not all people in Cuba are mulattos, some are white Hispanics.

Janessa - posted on 01/16/2012

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Diane their have Hispanics who are mulatto Hispanics. The last time I check Dominicans and Cubans are those and many other countries that have mulattos in Latin America.In Haiti we like to use metis instead and Europe metis is also used. In Spain and Portgual Mestizo is used for black and white mixed.

Diane - posted on 01/13/2012

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The term Hispanic isn't a racial term. Many Hispanics in Mexico, Puerto Rico, Guatamala, and several other countries are mestizos which means they have both European Spanish and Indigenous ancestry. Some mestizo Hispanics don''t have dark features. There are also mulattoos Hispanics in some places which are people of Black and European Spanish.



Children who have a white parent and a mestizo parent technically aren't biracial. They are mostly white children and they fall under the castizo phenotype.



There is not specific way for anyone to look Hispanic/Latino, it is not a race. It is an ethnic/cultural definition. They are black Hispanics, white Hispanics, and the previously mentioned Mestizo Hispanics.



The term Hispanic is miused as a race and it will never be a race.

»-(¯`v´¯)-» Yanira (ñïå) - posted on 01/12/2012

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I could be wrong or perhaps even naïve but I could care less what anyone thinks. I have an open mind and I am mature enough to listen but I don’t let differences affect my character or future. In a perfect world everyone would agree to disagree and life would go on peacefully. I believe it is our duty as parents and advocates educating our children to crossed reference at home what our children learn at school; bearing in mind that we teach them to always respect their facilitators. As for racial and appearance concerns… I was born in Puerto Rico and raised in NYC. My mother’s side of the family is blond hair blue eyes; my father’s side is a dark complexion with black curly hair and brown eyes. I have black hair, brown eyes and I have a light complexion. My husband is black. Our daughter has hazel eyes, black hair and of light complexion - she is gorgeous!! It is our responsibility to educate our daughter about BOTH cultures. I anticipate educating my daughter on every culture and religion that exists so she is well informed. I will also love, nurture and remind her that she is beautiful, intelligent and strong and that racism, poverty, crime and even bullying exist and perhaps it may not go away, but when you are a strong educated woman you can accomplish a whole lot more in life. If we all try to educate our kids the best way possible perhaps we can create a better future for them! Sadly nothing in life is perfect but always remember to Live, Laugh and Learn!

Anisha - posted on 01/12/2012

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Lol I live in Trowbridge in the UK and lucky there are lots of mixed babies in this town. I still get asked are you sure they have the same daddy lol, of course I would be sure afterall my husband and I were both in the same room when we conceived. My daughter has dark brown curls and my son has blonde hair, they look exactly the same that when I was on holiday in Germany people asked me if they were twins. So sometimes things like this just boil down to how much ignorance people have, also there exposure to other cultures I don't worry about it ever I just tell people who comments they seriously need to get out more, the world is one big melting pot and in 100 years from now everyone will have a little mix somewhere in their DNA unless they have been living alone in a cave. My children know they are mixed I want them to know all their heritages as I was privileged to. So I am very proud to be a parent to beautiful unusal children

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I wouldn't have to say there has been problems with Colette not being recognized as half Native American. I am white and her father is Native American , he is so dark but she is fair skinned like me. She has the very dark hair and his dark eyes. She is so beautiful. She is not really recognized as Native American if people see her alone but when she's with her father she is recognized. I have had no issues from it though and it doesn't bother me. She looks perfect :)

Ashley - posted on 09/12/2011

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I had that problem with my family and my ex-boyfriend's family. My daughter's dad is black and I am white. Our baby came out with blonde hair and blue eyes. Her skin is lighter than mine and I am pretty white. Even my closest friends doubted that her dad was really her father. It got so aggravating trying to tell people that he was her father and I wasn't with anybody else. We had a DNA done and it solved a lot of problems. But, people who aren't really close to me and don't know me well are like, "Are you sure he's the father?" or "That baby is too white to be his!!" I have almost gotten completely use to it and even gotten a little thrill out of seeing how people react to my babies looks.

Rachel - posted on 09/10/2011

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I dont worry about what race my children are they both look white but my oldest who is 4 is half PR and my daughter is half Aztec Indian. My son has dark hair and eyes but light skin. My daughter has light brown hair almost blond and has very bright blue eyes. Her father who i am with has black hair and green eyes. And i have my nephew 5 days a week and he is half black and has blond hair and very light brown eyes. And they all just look like they have a year round tan. But they all including my nephew look like me so when i take them out people think they are all mine. And my boyfriend is adopted so no one in his family looks like him. I wouldnt worry about it. If you dont make a big deal about it they wont even notice. So many kids are mixed this day i dont think it really matters

Charlotte - posted on 09/07/2011

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m not a mum, but have a similar situation. my mum has 4 brothers and 4 sisters and they are from the caribbean. my mum and one of my aunties live in england, while the rest live in america or the caribbean. me and all of cousins are olive skinned-medium skin toned and quite dark. but 2 of my cousins and white with blonde hair, but they are also English/Caribbean. when they tell people this, they think they are joking and they also dont believe that they are my cousins! they assume that they are cousins from my father side (both our fathers are white & english) this has just made me laugh as people are so ignorant to think they know more facts about my family than i do!!! i know its easier said than done, but just have to rise above it. im sure the people who talk about you dont have a life and have to find their entertainment somewhere, unfortunatly it is in your expense. but this just shows they are bullies. you souldnt have to prove anythihng to anybody, especially a multiple of times. just have to explain it once, then if they cant accept it, then its not your fault. they just have to deal with it/learn to accept it. if they cant, then they are just narrow-minded. just leave them to it and you get on with your life. good luck x

Beverlie - posted on 04/23/2010

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Heather, I have two adopted children, one puerto rican and one biracial, my husband and I are of Italian desent. So you can imagine the stares we get. People have even given me the "trailer trash mom" stare and think we have two kids with two dads until they see my husband and get that we are adoptive parents. We live in a predomintly white town and our kids have been accepted so far but they are stand outs in terms of their ethnic heritage. It has not phased them and besides getting use to just loving them as kids and your children will help them to see that they are just like everyone else. You know who your kids dads are and you know where they come from so enjoy that and teach them to appreciate their heritage and what they can get from it.

Mindy May - posted on 04/22/2010

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here is a wonderful short situation that I love to share to all those with mixed kids who have been blamed for cheatin and did not... I am a military mom with 3 mixed(black and white) girls. I am white and my husband black... I live next door to this couple for nearly 4 years of my career. They were a mixed family as well however, they were black and full Portarician(excuse the spellin its not a strong point). they had a set of identical twin boys who are the same age as my oldest daughter. being that we were the only 2 mixed families on the block our children hung out all the time. my oldest is very dark for being mixed. All 3 kids were in the 1st grade. my husband went to the school house to pick up our kid and the twins from next door. another child was teasing them for all having a afro of some sort. he also kept calling the twins "liars and stupidheads". when the kids got home they told me and trish(there mom) what had happened. Mr. trish sat all the kids down and talked to them about being different and how it makes us all special.... my daughter asked why would othere kids call the twins liars? They are twins and they look exactly alike. and if you can look exactly a like why would you not be twins?
Oh yah the main thing I forgot to mention earlier on was that even though the twins are identical, one is extremely dark and the other is extremely white..... how is this you may ask... while still in the womb, one of the boys had more dominent genes and took all the skin pigmentation from the light one. so even though they are identical and neither parent is white there still is a white kid in the family. and both of them are a spit image of there dad!! they look nothing like mom......

Mindy May - posted on 04/22/2010

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I hear you on your issue, I too am in a mixed family. I am white and my husband black. we have 3 little girls. our oldest is dark like him and was born even darker that what she is now(we had a late delivery 43.5w). She is turning 8 soon. my middle one she's 4 now. when she was born she was very, very pale, actually pale is not even the word--- she was whiter than I am. Her skin pigmentation did not came in til about a year ago. and my baby turned on today. she was born kinda pale but her color is startin to come in. people made comments all the time. i tried not to let it get to me. Generally whiter skin is more dominent. my oldest one has dark hair and eyes that turn blue. most people do not know that when even straight black kids are born they are pale or even white. for some mixed kids it can take up to 4 maybe even 5 years to get dark or even get there natural skin tone. my neice who is mixed white and mexican, she is very, pale more so than her mom. yes she has the straight jet black thick hair but her eyes are blue as the ocean.a lot of time when you have white and mexican mix the kids will come out very white and stay really pale. for your bf family don't worry so much. You do not have to prove there heritage. I can almost bet that your boys have a spot on either there bottom, shoulders, or even face that is a little darker than the rest of them. if not in those spots the check the finger nail beds or behind there ears. its most likely to be darker than the rest of them. this only happen to people who are mixed with white and mexican, white and black, and white and asain. als it happens to those who are mixed with different types of asian. white and white can only make white with birthmarks. all 3 of my girls have dark or white birthmarks, which your boys may have both too and my youngest and oldest both have a cherry mark (or reddish birth mark).
when my family or even people out in the world say stuff, I just blow them off and think to my self.... my kids get the better end of the deal cuz they can learn and live with two different cultures and when they get older racism will never be and issue.
over all its people like us who make the world a better place to live in, life without putting race first and growth in love for not just our culture but for all those around.

Good luck to you and your boys!!

Kizzy - posted on 04/22/2010

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I have a three month old son named Ayden. His father is from Trinidad and Tobago and he is black, I am a white Canadian...our son is mixed but looks pure white like me. I even had to go so far as to tell my step grandmother that she is no longer in my home until she can learn to have some respect for my son and I. She had the nerve to sit in my livingroom and hold my son and say "I really don't think that there is any need to lie about who the father is, just tell us. We will still love you no matter who it is." I repliep "Clinton my ex boyfriend is his father and yes he is black and yes he is from Trinidad." To which she said "Stop the lies it is only going to hurt you and Ayden in the end." I stood up, walked over and took my son and told her to leave my home and that she is no longer welcome here.
Haven't heard form her since that day!

Danielle - posted on 04/22/2010

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my son an daughter are mixed, they have some features but they are very light skinned, my son has green eyes curly hair.. & my daughter has wavy black hair. alot of people tell me they don't look black & then others tell me they do look mixed. I think it doesnt matter, when they look like because as long as you teach them about both of their heritages that's all that matters. I've had people tell me my daughter doesn't look like she belongs to her father, an i laugh it off because other then her skin not being black... she looks alot like him. Some people cant see past the skin color. it's sad but i don't think it'll ever change.

Jen - posted on 04/21/2010

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Heather i have to deal with those comments all the time everyone trys to tell me i slept with the milk man bc my daughter looks so white and she is mixed with black. This does cause issues with my daughter bc she has the textured hair like a black person but kids will ask questions like why is her hair different from mine or my daughter will ask me why her hair isnt like the other girls she sees either at school or her girl cousins. So i feel u soo much on the getting annoyed part but i just keep telling my daughter that she is mixed with black and that we are not all alike everyone looks different.

Mydelight - posted on 04/21/2010

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Wow...my son is black and white but looks white. He has my features but his color he got from his dad. He has been having some problems at times. Sometimes kids ask him if he is adopted. Other times, after they find out he is my son, he actually gets picked on for not being brown-skinned. I had to have a long talk with him because he was feeling bad about himself and watned to be brown-skinned. My how times have changed that people would pick on you for not having color instead of the other way around. I feel for him though because I know how he feels. I thought times had changed when it comes to bi-racial children but I guess not. Even though both of my parents are black, I have white and west indies indian in my blood also. So when I was growing up, I was extremely light-skinned. (I was even born white) As a child, people would always pick on me and say: "what are you anyway?" Black people would pick on me for being light and white people would pick on me for being black. There was no win. Honestly, I think that most children get picked on at some point in thier lives for one reason or another. I just feel that we need to teach our children to love themselves and have self-confidence. To not bother with what the world thinks and to let them know that as they grow older they will meet more open minded people. For now teach your child to be strong and don't take offense to ignorance...see it as such and pass it by. Don't worry about proving anything to anyone. Just let your children know who they are and tell them to be proud of both sides of thier heritage. Your family is what matters not the outside world.

Mary - posted on 04/21/2010

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wow, people are sometimes so ignorant.....my baby is half African and half white, she looks exactly like me but has darker hair and brown eyes.....never explain yourself or your children, you know who their dad is and that is what is important. until those acting juvenile can learn how to grow up just breath in and out and leave them in their ignorance!

Anisha - posted on 04/21/2010

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All I can say is my babies know who I am and thats all that matter to me what everyone else thinks is their problem. People in this world are far to concerned about colour and if I begin to make it an issue then my children will begin to think their is something wrong with their colour we are all people

Trisha - posted on 04/20/2010

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to all of you who are really truely concerned with wat ppl think about your mixed babies....who cares wat they think! the baby is yours and only yours not the worlds. as long as you love the child for who they are and not wat they are who really cares wat other ppl thinks. and i do have to say i have never ever had anyone 2 ask me the race of my child let alone my own doctor or her doctor. if it comes to that point maybe you need to change doctors. in the end love your child for who they are and forget wat other ppl say or think.

Kellye - posted on 04/20/2010

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my youngest is mixed white/salvordeno. her father is dark with black hair and im really white with dark brown hair. now our daughter is darker than me with light brown hair. she looks just like my 2nd child who is white/irish/native indian. but my oldest who has the same father as the 2nd one is the total oppisite she had flaming red hair and green/blue eyes and whiter than i am. when we are out i know people talk because my oldest doesnt look like any of the rest. by boyfriend(my youngests father) get stares to because his daughter doesnt look hispanic she looks white. so i know what everyone is going through but i have to say. it doesnt matter what ignorant racist people have to say. our children are beautiful and will overcome what others think.

Heather - posted on 04/20/2010

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I had to put a race on my youngest sons birth certificate and it really didnt have a spot to put bi racial or mexican/white so i wrote it in haha. Yay with my older son he looks just like his dad but white so people who arent stupid can see it but my youngest looks just like me so we do get a lot of stares like i have these two white kids and am dating a mexican guy. I dont mind if people ask hey what are your kids, or are they mixed or even nicely asking if thats their dad. Its when you get people who act like your crazy or a liar like your trying to pull one over on them that drives me nuts.

Heather - posted on 04/20/2010

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OMG!! I had to deal with that with my first baby-daddy My daughter is almost as white as me and has blonde hair and blue eyes he is black.His family had him question it several times ofcourse we are not together but i guess my genes were stronger.Now my son is dark just like my husband and looks mixed but they don't even look like brother and sister so I get alot of b/s from people.

Ellen - posted on 04/20/2010

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That's a bit insensitive. I didn't have to put any ethnicity on our son's birth certificate, (that I recall). But, do you really want to label your child as one race or another?

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so far me and my fiance only have one child. but our son is beautiful! A great mix of me (caucasian mix) and him (native fijian, east indian and a small bit chinese) He's tanned, with his grandmothers flatter-shaped nose, my full lips and face shape, and his dad's beautiful dark brown eyes, and dark brown hair. I have green eyes, dark brown curly curly hair and very white skin. Whenever I go out I have people doing the double take because my son doesn't "obviously" look like me, although if they'd seen me as a baby, they would know! I've had people come up to me, of the same background as my son and tell me "he's hispanic" or other various races. I just shrug it off most of the time, though sometimes to the right people who are just curious, or have mixed kids themselves I'll explain. I'm fortunet I live in an area where mixed kids is normal, so I dont think he'll have problems in school.

Jill - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have 4 kids, all with my ex-husband who is of Irish decent, I am predominately black and all of our children look different. This is something really weird: my ex had a great grandfather from India, and one of my daughters looks black and Indian!! You never know what is going to come out. My son looks Irish, even down to the reddish hair!! I have had people stare at me when I am out with him, even though he has some black features (he has my full lips and a mixture of mine and my ex's noses). At the end of the day, you really have to ignore another's ignorance. I think it is sad the way America is so race crazy!

Christine - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have 2 children...a 13 yr. old daughter and a 2 yr. old son. Both children are mixed..black/white. My daughter is noticably mixed. My son on the other hand looks white. He dad used to be in the Navy and we have both been asked if Sam (my bf) is the father or did I get pregnant while he was deployed. It really kinda pisses me off and although he has never said it, I sometimes wonder if he thinks the same thing. But, I have told him and others that if our son is not his then he is the result of an immaculate conception because there is absolutely no other way that he is not Sam's. I have even had a Middle Eastern guy ask if my son is Arabian.



I am like everyone else...I don't care what anyone else thinks. They are my children. I know who the fathers are. They are not breeds, races, etc....they are people! Period!!

Nicole - posted on 04/19/2010

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Im white and native american and my childrens father is half mexican and half african american. So my daughter is tanned skin, dark brown eyes and dark straight hair, my son on the other hand is very light skinned, green eyes and has light brown hair with a blonde hairline. People ask all the time what they are and if they have the same father. My response is there american and they are brother and sister end of story. Dont let it bother you that people are confused, its just their curiosity of how they became so beautiful. Biracial children always have a unique look that just has people feeling jealous. Embrace their uniqness and love it.

Michelle - posted on 04/19/2010

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I have the same issue with my son. He is from an extensivly varied background of ethnicities. His father looks black and I look white though. When he was first born the nurse told me to just put other on his birth certificate....I was furious.

Amanda - posted on 04/19/2010

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My son doesn't look like either of us really.... I am white with straight blond hair and green eyes. Michael is black, but extremely light skinned with light brown eyes. Tristan looks different every day almost.... his hair is straight but dark. His eyes are brown for now, but look like they could lighten up. I have had people ask if he is hispanic, asian, indian..... you name it.
To me, he is beautiful. People can be very rude. When people ask me what my son is, I tell them he is my son and that's all that matters.

Jayde - posted on 04/18/2010

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all my girls look hispanic and its strange because they are all mixed white and black. We live in an area where people call my daughter who plays tennis over the summer and gets very dark that she is a beaner. I don't even bother explaining to people what my kids are I just let them try to figure it out on their own. Once they seem me and my husband together with the kids they get it. But they do wonder why my kids dont have lighter features since my husband is very fair skinned, I just smile and tell them that my genes kick ass.

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Hmmm... My son is half anglo-Canadian (me) and half Chinese-Canadian (bio-dad). Because he takes after me most and my husband (stepfather) is also anglo-Canadian, no one ever realizes that he has Chinese ancestry. Since his bio-dad isn't really involved with him and lives in another city (same situation with the mom of the other kids in the family - my stepkids), we don't even seem like a blended family, and everyone just assumes that we're both the biological parents of all the kids. It's not really a problem, except when they're doing heritage projects at school. No one ever believes him about the Chinese part of his heritage. They think he's making it up. Fortunately, we've made sure that he's very proud of his heritage on both sides, and he has quite a bit of knowledge to back up his claim. It is dicouraging, however, for him to have to "prove" half of his heritage - especially within the educational environment where other children who are more visibly of mixed heritage don't have to do the same. The bottom line for us? It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks - we're proud of him, he's proud of himself and he feels good about who he is - regardless of DNA on either side.

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I have that issue at times w/my youngest who is half Arab/Palestinian her father has strong features but she didn't inherit much of them and her hair is mainly the same texture as mine, so when I go in public, anyone who knows her dad doesn't believe she is his. It is so annoying. Especially when there is a c.sup case going on and DNA has already been established that was only necessary for the purposes of filing the support. Its hard when you know the truth and everyone else debates it only based on how my child looks or does not look for that matter.

Betty - posted on 04/18/2010

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i have the same problem my son whos 9yrs is half guyanese indian and half black coloumbian and he came out darker than both me and his dad and looks asian indian and my daughter whos 4 is half guyanese indian and half jamaican and she came out looking half white, half black with blue eyes and light brown hair and her skin colour is lighter than both me and her dad so i get it alot people dont think my daughter is mine and when she with her dad they think the mother is white, and people dont believe my son is half latino they just think hes asian indian and he gets picked on alot at school about this..so i know the feeling but i just told them there not a colour they are a person and if people cant like them for who they are and not were they come from than there not worth being there friend

Muslemah - posted on 04/17/2010

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yeah i wonder how school life will be for my daughter i just pray she doesnt get picked on like most mixed kids that will hurt me...

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yes. i've had people jokingly ask if i'm sure of who the father is. it's really rude and offensive and i don't get why people think it is okay to ask that kind of thing. i'm not sure if it will effect him when he gets older since he's still pretty young.

Maryann - posted on 04/17/2010

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i have the same problem my daughter is almost 8 and my son almost 2 there father is mexican,but my gurl has brown hair lightbrown eyes and my son brown hair blue eyes.my daughter tells me often that she gets picked on about being mixed because she looks white,i get asked almost every other day are you sure there father is mexican.and its even worse since they have spanish names

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Heather, I wouldnt worry about trying to prove their heritage to anyone. At the end of the day, your family is what's important to you, not the people who are so ignorant that they don't understand that mixed children come in all shades, and will snicker behind your back. You know what your children are, their fathers know, your children will know, your family will know, and that is what's important! I have the same problem as you, Muslemah. My son is half salvadorian, half black, and the fathers genes completely dominate. From the hair, skin color, facial features of his father, etc. When all three of us go out in public together, they ask him questions about our son, and people are suprised to learn I am the mother!

Muslemah - posted on 04/16/2010

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gets to the point to where when ppl look at me then look at my daughter then double look back at me i jus say "omg shes half mexican she is my daughter!"

Heather - posted on 04/16/2010

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Yea i can see how that would be hard. I wondered what that might be like with both my boys. I assumed they would come out looking mexican and i thought people might not think they were mine. But it ended up being the other way around. That would def annoy me if anyone thought my kids werent mine

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