Mixed race kids and their hair....my biggest pet pieve!

Kim - posted on 02/02/2010 ( 75 moms have responded )

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ok, we all know that our children are blessed with the mixture of many things, but when it comes to hair, I think many parents get it all wrong! Are you comfortable with the day to day maintenance of your childs hair?? Or do you find yourself always looking for something to tame and condition? Well, I first of all want to ask...please no more vaseline in these kids hair!!! As a hairdresser, the best advice is to take your child to a salon and have the stylist recommend something. Invest in good products and dont think that your girls have to have chemically relaxrd hair to maintain managability.! There are pleanty of ways to keep natural curl healthy (www.carolsdaughter.com) -great products! At any rate...please let me know your challenges, I would love to help or simply let me know your secrets so we all can be better moms to our special kids!

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Shantel - posted on 08/12/2012

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My daughters hair gets really dry and frizzy I really don't know what to put in it to help it

Shaz - posted on 10/21/2012

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I'm new to this group but I am Pakistani and my husband is black. It took me a minute to figure out how to manage my daughter's hair but what I do that is helpful is the following:



1. Wash and condition no more than once a week

2. After applying conditioner, use a wide tooth comb and gently brush it out. This helps keep the tangles out

3. As soon as conditioner is washed I apply organic olive oil and continue to comb and section.

4. As I apply the olive oil (GENEROUSLY! With curly hair texture you have to really add a lot of product whether its oils etc to keep it moisturized or the ends with break and be unmanageable and dry).

5. I use only natural products like Shea Moisture Organic products but for the most part I'm fine with just olive oil. I like Carol's Daughter's hair milk too (but I'm picky about chemicals and they aren't as green as I'd like but still better than most black hair care products).

6. Have a spray bottle of water handy to spray hair as you comb and section and apply product..this is very important because curly hair dries very fast.

7. You do NOT have to know how to braid! Just section into anything you can do (even if its 2 ponytails). Once that is done take 2 sections (amount you would need for a braid) and twist one over the other (imagine like a kid who can't braid pretends to braid!) this would never work on straight hair but works GREAT on curly hair! It stays in place all day! Add clips and ponytail balls to make it look cute!



8. Don't use Vaseline!



9. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT RELAX or "PERM" your young child's hair! Those chemicals are unbelievably TOXIC!!!!



Check out my profile pic of my daughter. It's totally manageable and allows her hair to grow and remain healthy. Message me if I can help you! :-)



P.S I can barely French braid so if I can do it so can you!



Good luck ladies!

Rachel - posted on 12/08/2012

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I wish someone would tell my mil this. She keeps telling me to put Vaseline in my 4 month olds hair when her hair is fine and mostly straight. Putting Vaseline in it just makes it look greasy and dirty because her hair is too fine.

Sarah - posted on 11/29/2012

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Do you use a leave in conditioner on it? I like Jessicurl deep conditioning treatment in citrus lavender. I like it because I can use it in the tub on my kids and as a leave-in.

Antoinette - posted on 11/03/2012

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Thanks for the advice all. The hair milk worked wonders and I DID NOT relax her hair;)

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Joy - posted on 08/16/2014

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I need a lil advice on how to care for biracial hair and the best products to use.I have one white daughter and one biracial daughter.She is the only biracial baby in my family so none of us really have experience with it. Shes 7 months old and was born with a head full of straight black soft hair it fell out after a few months and grea back in lighter brown with red and blonde tints its and curly its still very soft.I absolutely love it! I have frizzy thick strawberry blonde hair.I noticed hair goes straight after I wash it and curls back up by the next day and when its humid it gets a lot curlier.How often should I wash it and what should I use in it as far as shampoo connditioner and things like that go?

Codi Bernice - posted on 08/09/2014

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Put conditioner in it heavy (when its wet, from sprayed or bath) and leave it in. It will weigh her curls down and keep it from frizzing. I swear by this method. You can use any old conditioner but thicker is always better.

Savahna - posted on 08/06/2014

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My son has long hair and ive always used shea butter leave in conditioner and olive oil pudding and just for the last few months ive noticed hes losing alot of hair not so much that he has bald spots or anything just more than normal and noticeable on my hands when i fix it...could it be the hair products??

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2012

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Don't do it! It will clogg the pores! If they have cradle cap it will also make it worse!

Meaghanne - posted on 12/08/2012

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i somehow was blessed. im biracial(black and white) with curly kinky hair that is somewhat unmanageable. both my boys are mixed as well. both have white fathers. my oldest had light/dark skin, brown eyes and perfectly straight dark brown hair. the baby has blue eyes, very white complexion and curly blond hair. his is probably the hardest of the two. hes 10 1/2 months old and i have to use conditioner after washing to be able to comb it.

Morgan Savannah Paige - posted on 12/05/2012

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Pantene Curly at walllmart its a little pricey but its a true miracle worker its a shampoo and conditioner

Marian - posted on 11/29/2012

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There is a great Facebook page dedicated to Mom of bi-racial kids and their hair. https://www.facebook.com/ChocolateHairVanillaCare

There are many Moms who share advice and photos. I have a boy, so I just keep his hair on the shorter side. Occasionally we let his curlies grow out. He is very cute either way.

Catherine Getty Sutton - posted on 11/27/2012

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HELP!!!



Sorry, I know we all have our issues...if anyone could please help me...explain if theres a "rule of thumb" I don't know....I have a mixed race son...when he was born he was very pale and bald/...at 3 he was very pale with very little hair. All through pre-school he was super pale with very straight hair. At beginning of 6 everyone wanted to touch these gorgeous long stretched out blonde tinged loops...



and haven't cut it, because everyone gets mad at me (even old mom in law) when I cut short...the kid is FAMOUS for his hair....but last two weeks its frizzy and frighteningly NAPPY ugly matted gross....no conditioner can save it...but TO THE ROOTS!!! Please tell me a trim will make it go back to its original gorgeous curls...please??? I can do all but nappy

Edens - posted on 11/03/2012

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For a child-friendly afro hair salon check out www.edensglory.co.uk. The owner is also a paediatric nurse.

Erika - posted on 10/18/2012

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PLEASE don't relax your child's hair - my personal choice would be don't relax EVER. However, at the very least, don't relax your children's hair when they are so young. There are SO many biracial hair blogs and natural hair blogs that offer wonderful advice. www.tightlycurly.com is a great website (created by a biracial woman who struggled with her hair for years before finding a solution) and www.beadsbraidsbeyond.blogspot.com is a great blog about biracial/African American children's haircare.

Antoinette - posted on 10/14/2012

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I have a 3 year old beautiful mixed girl named Gianna. SHE HATES having her hair done. (when I say done, I mean she will let me wash it and condition it but refuses to let me come at her with a comb!) I am frustrated because I don't want doing her hair to be a chore or something she hates to do. I try and make it fun but honestly I have no idea what I am doing!!

I wash her hair with the Just for Me Hair Milk and Conditioner and I also have an all Natural leave in Conditioner with Jojoba oil. I try not to wash her hair too much but she is very active and gets leaves and dirt etc. in her hair so I have to wash it.

My question is, how do I know the products I am using are appropriate for her hair type? Honestly, I see a little black girl on the package and I think OK this will work for her... I know it is ridiculous but I have nothing to go by.

I am afraid of relaxing her hair but fear more so I may have to so I can get it under control. Her curls are beautiful ringlets but they frizz out and looks like I dont take care of her hair:( (I guess in a way I am not)

Any advise would be so helpful and appreciated.

Thanks!

Cherrish - posted on 10/11/2012

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My child dad put a relaxier in her hair and she was not even 2... I had no idea what it would do to it now her hair is really dry.. And nappy, everyone is telling me to cut it, and other is telling me to put another perm in it...HELP

Tijana - posted on 09/28/2012

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hi i have a mixed baby she is black /white and has curly hair it looks like white people hair just never had curly hair so i dunno how to tame it when ever i comb it out it goes into a big poof and i live in a small town so they have no black ppl hair products any suggestions ?

Jessica - posted on 09/25/2012

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Hi! I have found the best product to use daily for moisturizing my daughter's hair, It called UBH satin creme. I love this stuff and it is the only product order special. the $10 bottle will last you months as you only need about a nickle size amount. I've tried mixed chicks, miss jessie's etc all products designed for biracial hair in my opinion just dried out my daughter's hair and was a waste. I use store bought shampoo and conditioner. sometimes I'll use $1 gel from the dollar store for sleek ponytails which works great too. My advice to moms of biracial children is just find 1 or 2 product that works great for styling and don't waste alot of money on products. i've been there and done that and it isn't worth the stress and disappointment. As a baby we just used baby lotion on her and it worked just fine until she was about 2. Hope my post helps you guys! Bye!

Kim - posted on 08/14/2012

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Hi, ok I don't know all black people and i don't know all black men. BUT I don't know ANY black men or women who use vaseline in their hair. My brother has very nice hair and my other brother has "good" hair and my uncle is a hair stylist and they weren't sure why your husband would use vaseline in his hair. Putting vaseline in infants hair is just as bad- it dosen't help with the cradle cap; i call it cradle crap. Anyway there are lots of products now for mixed children.

Ericka - posted on 08/13/2012

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My boys texture of hair can sstand grease...I really like coconut oil infused...for my 15 more. daughter the best product I hv found is tee tree oil after washing n conditioning 1-2 ttimes a week...I do her hair in different styles often being a 11yr cosmologist...I love doing her hair and also feel you HAVE to know how n have to do something with mixed texture hair or you just have urban child looking a hot mess...I must say with the boys I slack on cuts but after 9.5 hrs work days and 3 hrs of sports practices I just don't have the energy to cut 3 heads...proudly ,their father (who is black, I am white) has been a barbeer for 18yrs and when I cut their hair he gets compliments from ppl thinking he has cut their hair....tee he he being he is my ex husband take that...brushing off my shoulders :-P

Cari - posted on 01/18/2011

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I am so worried my LO will have hair that I have no idea how to take care off, its going to be curly, I can tell that much, but I don't know how curly. Her older sister is also mixed and I always just combed her hair while wet and used leave in conditioner then put it in braids or whatever she wanted, I hope my LO's is that easy lol.

Adrian - posted on 01/18/2011

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Hello,

Sorry I'm a dad, not a mom but I really had to post a question here.

Are there any special products that will help with a dry scalp? My daughter recently started scratching her head recently. Thought it was lice which it isn't (thank goodness) and it seems like her scalp is becoming too dry.

Any advice?

Current product used are the Kinky Curly curling custard.

Jessica - posted on 03/30/2010

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My daughter is mixed and has very fine hair with very tight kinky curls and her used to always be frizzy till I found the Curls hair line. It's www.curls.biz, and they have a line for kids and for babies. I use the Curly Q's products which is the one for kids. I use the Curlie Cutie Cleansing Cream, Coconut Dream Conditioner, and the Curly Q Milkshake to style her hair. Omg I love love love these products. They are a little expensive around $14 each but they last forever. I don't like the Moist Curls Moisturizer/Detangler because it just squirts out instead of sprays. I even tried changing it to a different bottle and it still just squirts so to me its pointless and the conditioner does a really good job so its really not that hard to comb out her hair. I want to get the Curly Q Gel-les'c which holds differently than the Milkshake. I love how beautiful these products make my daughter's hair look. I've had people in the past tell me just to use grease in her hair but that doesn't make hair beautiful and I won't do that to her. These products are all natural too and the shampoo smells like cupcakes!

Betty - posted on 03/18/2010

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hi my problem is not how to look after my daugters hair but what can i do to make it grow i use the curly Q products and i wash her hair once a week and plaite it every night but it just dont seem to grow she mixed with guyanese indian, black and white her hair is very fine and very curly and soft she is nearly 4 her hair has been at shoulder lenght for the last two years any suggestions would be helpful thanks

Bevlyn - posted on 03/15/2010

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I love Mixed Chicks and now my white friends with textured hair are using it too!

Tahisha - posted on 03/10/2010

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hey, I have a little girl who is only four months old and her hair is very fine. I am Puerto Rican and her father is half black half white. I was shocked that her hair was so fine. My hair is very very curly and hard to manage. I have tried Carol's Daughter which works very well. As a kid my mother kept my hair in braids most of the time and when she couldnt deal with it anymore she decided to relax it. I am natural today for three years now. Its tough and if my daughter's hair grows thicker I will NOT use chemicals to process it.

You can try Miss Jessie's products. They have a product for children and also give you tips for how top style kid's hair. Some products like just for me have hair creams and smoothers that can be used without relaxing. If you go to a beauty supply store there are other products you could use for children. I havent had to use them on my daughter...im just recommending this from my own experience!

Keisha - posted on 03/10/2010

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Vaseline!!!!!...People do that forreal??? Wow thats a new one for me...lol!

Jackie - posted on 03/08/2010

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most people don't realize how difficult half-asian hair is to manage. it grows down, does that make sense? it's almost as if you can't comb it back at all. I"m tyring to grow it out now, but before I just gave him a crew cut.

Emili - posted on 03/08/2010

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i struggled with my first daughters hair. then i discovered pantene relaxed and natural. along with a moisturizing hair lotion it works great on my three oldest kids' hair. and they all have completely different hair types...one has nappy hair lol...one has soft curls (i dont use the lotion on this one)...and one has coarse ringlets.



i am on a tight budget having 4 kids and to be able to get all the hair care products they need for around 10 dollars is a HUGE help to me.

Rita - posted on 02/19/2010

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I seen this post and I don't really know if this is where my question should go or not but thought I would try. I recently moved to Italy and god help me I have not found one product of leave in conditioner of any sort so needless to say my daughters hair is very dry, I do put rinse out conditioner in it daily but this still doesn't really help us. Any suggestions for me?

Char - posted on 02/19/2010

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Thanks for all the advice. My two previous children are african american boys one with curly managable hair and the other with something else all together. All they require is some dax, a brush and a dew rag. I realize I will not be able to care for my daughter's hair the same as I do mine but other than pink lotion I had no clue about other products.

Terri - posted on 02/12/2010

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my oldest is 14 and her hair is pretty soft and fine w/ big, loose curls. she fixes her hair herself and can get by w/ leave in conditioner and mousse so i don't worry about her hair much. my little one on the other hand...she was born w/ a head full of very coarse, kinky hair that i am completely clueless as to how to condition!! i have no trouble putting her hair up in clips or pony tails, but her hair is beautiful and i want to be able to leave it down sometimes. she's only 10 months old so i'm still washing her hair w/ baby shampoo since it's tear free, but i don't know what to put in it afterward. i've been using a coconut oil cream to detangle, then blue magic coconut oil hair dressing. that seems to condition and make it soft and shiny...except in the back where she rubs her head against her car seat. that one area in back of her head is always dry and nappy looking no matter what i do or put in it (except when it's put in pony tails of course). do any of y'all notice that when you wash your kids hair or try to wet it the water almost beads up and rolls off...like it doesnt absorb water or absorbs it too much or something? i'm really not sure how to explain it. my two older kids have such fine hair i'm just at a loss w/ the baby!! also, i have two biracial nieces. my oldest niece's hair is pretty much the texture of totally blk hair, while my younger niece has hair that literally feels synthetic. she is 12 now and my sis has never been able to find a product to keep her hair soft and curly w/ out frizz. she has been to several different salons, talked to tons of stylists, and used countless products, but nothing ever works. as soon as my nieces hair dries it kinks up and frizzes out into a huge fro around her head! her hair is long enough to pull to the middle of her back, but when it dries it actually shrinks all the way up to her shoulders! if anyone has any advice on what to use in her hair we'd appreciate it! i think i'm definitely gonna have to try some of the products y'all talked about here for my kids...thank y'all so much!!

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Thanks fso much for all the product names. I cant wait to order and give them a try Thank you for all the help moms!!!!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2010

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I am pregnant with my first baby and he is mixed. The one thing im worried about is his hair and how to take care of it cuz i have no idea like i know all mixed babies hair is different but like how do i know how often to wash it and what to put in it? Help!!!

Rachle - posted on 02/11/2010

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what i do with my daughters hair is i wash her hair in Dr. Miracles shampoo and cond. and then i grease her head everyday that grease doesnt block there pores or anything i keep it in ponytailes either with beads or hair bows do it every two days its a task but it will look better and it break there head off either

Michelle - posted on 02/11/2010

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I started using products on my daughters hair once she turned 15 months, But thats only because I'd never heard of them before. If I had found the moisturiser beforehand I probably would have used it from around 8/9 months cause she had lots of curly hair.

The carson sheen baby love can be used from birth..but I dont see the need until the hair seems unmanageable.

Shantel - posted on 02/11/2010

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At what age do you start using these products and where can I find the mixed chick conditioner?

Angela - posted on 02/09/2010

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My oldest daughter has very curly hair that is frizz prone. To maintain the curls I wash it once a week with a curl enhancing shampoo and apply a small amount of Aussie 3 minute miracle mouisturizing conditioner everyday with the Aussie I just apply it, comb her hair and leave the conditioner in. I also use Dream Curls by John Frieda when I'm leaving her hair down so it doesn't puff out everywhere.A good comb and detangle spray are also important, for hair ties I use Goody brand ouchless ties, they also make some with rubber grips built in that stay in her hair really well.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2010

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elastic bands for afro carribean hair are fine...all afro carribean hair salons use them. They put them in my daghters hair when they braided it, but told me to cut them out and not pull them out. They are different to the 'rubber' bands you use to tie up packages etc.. (stationary ones).

Brandi - posted on 02/08/2010

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I have learned when I put conditioner in their hair i will pick it out then comb it then let it sit for 10-15mins b4 rinsing. I can only do hair when its wet. I have a water spray bottle that I add conditioner and water. Keep rubber bands out their hair! If you put it up PLEASE use the cloth skrunchies.

Michelle - posted on 02/08/2010

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Sherie, does the elastics snap when your trying to taken them out??? cause you should always cut them out as it will damage the hair, but if they snap when your trying to put them in, try a different brand, some are really weak, the first lot I got cost £1.50 and were thick but snapped, the 2nd lot I bought from an indian clothes shop cost £0.50 and a great.

Nicole - posted on 02/07/2010

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i have two daughters who are italian indian and african american i think there hair is beautiful and im also an stylest i agree that alot of women have trouble doing there childrens hair i use carot oil or castroil oil its also to hotoil treat thier hair once a month donth wash it everyday it dries it out.also there is colesterol treatments to.alot of my friends use plain water or cut it or straighten it ruins there hair and dries it out.my husbands mom was good for puuting in vasoline in the hair and on there bodies they all tell stories about it and are scared from it.lol i would also love to help women out there and even teach them how to email me here or at nikkim2007@yahoo.com

Sherie - posted on 02/07/2010

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Do you find it breaks the elastics??? I have tried to braid the girls hair after and it snaps all types of elastics....

Janessa - posted on 02/06/2010

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Great post and i am black amd i have no idea how to do my hair properly lol. Thank god i do not have a girl i would not know how to do her hair ethier. But i will try these products on my hair:)

Allyn - posted on 02/06/2010

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when they are small hair was never a problem for meNow that they are getting older and want to wear their hair down and so forth i just take them to a salon...stop straightneing your childrens hair it is going to fall out. My rule is when you can take cre of it yourself you can tell me how you want it done.

Sherie - posted on 02/06/2010

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I tried Mixed Chicks and love it... Ican not get it locally so have to order online which can be a pain at times.

Catina M. - posted on 02/06/2010

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Unfortunately my two were blessed with the beautiful hair but it tends to look too dry when nothing is in it, so for years now I have been using Blue Dutches Oil Moisturizer that keeps it manageable and not so dry looking. The only store that carries it is the Family Dollar Store here in Richmond,KY. My son is 17 and he manages his own hair now. The people here in town him as my son because of his long beautiful hair.

Carmen - posted on 02/06/2010

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@ Sue Davis - I use the Creme of Nature shampoo with the Kinky Curly(Knots Today) conditioner. I find the creme of nature shampoo at Walmart. Have you tried looking for it there?

The Kinky Curly line of products can only be found at a Whole Foods Market and I truly HIGHLY recommend it. You won't need anything else in your hair afterwards.

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