Mongolian spots? Does anyone's baby have them and what have you done for them?

Amber - posted on 01/19/2010 ( 174 moms have responded )

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I am white and my fiance is mexican. Our beautiful son has an olive complexion but around his lower back, all over his little rump, and on his upper thigh, he has mongolian spots. I asked his doctor about it and he said that they appear on kids with mainly asian, hispanic backgrounds and that they eventually fade down or grow smaller as the kids get older. I'm not really worried about how the spots look or anything but I'm worried about when he goes to school and teachers will think that they are bruises. What has everyone been doing about this? Like I was thinking of asking the doctor for a note to explain that the marks are mongloian spots.

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My daughter is mixed white/african american. She has alot of mongolian spots, she has a very large one on her butt that covers the whole thing and looks like a big bruise, she also has one on her right shoulder blade, and on her back...i asked my doctor about them and she assured me that they are all documented so if anyone thought i was abusing her i could just get a copy of her medical records to prove what they are..it still scares me but there is nothing we can do for them..they may or may not fade..best advice is if you take your little one to daycare you get a form explaining what your child has

Elina - posted on 03/21/2010

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considering that over two thirds of the world's peoples are prone to them, this point really ought to be moot by now, no?

Lindsay - posted on 03/20/2010

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I am the mother of 3 bi-racial children, caucasian and African-American, all three had Mongolian spots. The twins were just born in Dec. '09 and their pediatrician recommended pointing them out to ALL caregivers so that there would be no confusion. She also mentioned that if anyone did bring them up as bruises to remind them that bruises have stages of size and color and that Mongolian spots will look the same for a VERY long time. It was really good advice. This particular pediatrician has had to testify to Children's services on the behalf of other families so she is particularly aware of the issues that can be caused.

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Hi, both my sons have the spots on their backside. I am white and my husband is Sri Lankan so it is very normal for them to have it.

Erin - posted on 03/19/2010

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Hi..I am white and my husband is black. My daughter has a huge mongolian spot on her lower back and bottom...and it looks like a bruise...and people often initially think it's a bruise...but once I explain they seem to understand. Also, it looks to me like it has faded in color...she is 15 months old now...so I think they will continue to fade and won't be a problem. Good luck!

Saffron - posted on 03/19/2010

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Hi

I have 3 girls who are of dual heritage (I am white British and my husband is black British)

My oldest daughter had mongolian blue spots when she was little.

It never caused a problem but I would have just explained what it was. And if whoever is asking about them doesn't know what they are they need to educate themselves.

Good luck :)

Claudia - posted on 03/18/2010

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For some people they come and go I myself am 21 and i still have mine on my lower back I use to be self conscience about it but now it doesnt bother me. It'll be ok though its just the skin pigment my niece is White,Black and Trinidadian and she has some on her back too my sister said they'd go away

LeahDawn - posted on 03/18/2010

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My 8 month old is a mix of white and black, in fact he has spots on his body that are a little darker than the area around it. On his back, right where the back meets the butt, he has a mongolian spot. When he was born it was really, I mean really dark looking bruise coloring. In fact, I thought that maybe he had brusied there coming out cause he was "sunny side up" when he was born but the doc told me what it was. When he goes to someone else' house or stays at the church nursery I make sure to tell them so that they know about it. I wouldn't worry unless they are visible all the time then just explain what they are. Don't worry about the note unless it becomes an issue. How old is your son?

Katie - posted on 03/17/2010

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My daughter was born with one large one at the top of her bum that looked like a huge bruise. I just told her daycare teachers (while she was still in diapers) what it was & they were okay with it, especially since it didn't fade away in a few days like a bruise will. My daughter is 7 now & the spot is totally gone, in fact I can't remember exactly when it did fade. Just relax, it will go away before he goes to school (by the time he's in school, if someone is looking at his bum, you have a much bigger problem on your hands...lol).

Jaime - posted on 03/14/2010

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Does anyone's kids have them on the tops of their hands? My 12 week old has them on both hands, looks like he has bruises from an intravenous drip ... I get comments all the time but just explain the whole MS thing. He has a large fainter one on his bum, which I was totally expecting.

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Both my kids have them on their bums, my daughters 3 and hers is more of a general bluish tinge near the top of her bum and my 21 month old son has a thumb print one on his one cheek. My only worry was for caretakers to think they were bruises, but we just informed them before hand that's what they were, I'm white and my husband is chinese, my hubby has had his on his bicep since birth, and it's not showing any signs of going away and he's 31 years old, so some of them don't ever go away.

Meagan - posted on 03/13/2010

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Hi, my daughter is 1/2 black and I am white. She is 7 1/2 years old. She got them when she was about 6 months old. She still has them, with no changes, and Im not sure you can actually do anything for them. Her dad also has them, and they havent changed. I think that they are just a part of who they are, and really...they are kinda cute, LOL

April - posted on 03/13/2010

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omg, that happened to me with my first daughter! she half black, half white, and had a huge mongolian spot on the same area. my first day back at work, a friend of mine watched her for me. half way through my shift, my dad called to tell me she had called him freaking out cause she changed the baby's diaper and saw it and didn't want me to think she hurt her! i called and explained what they were. my second daughter had one too, however it wasn't as large as my first. my first daughter is 11 and my second daughter is 7 and both of them only have about a 1inch horizontal strip left. don't worry, it will be fine.

Lindie - posted on 03/12/2010

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Hallo from South Africa!! I have 2 beautiful little girls in foster care, the 4 year old is white/indian and the 15month old is white/black, both have Mongolian Spots, the 4 year old came to me at 2 and at first I also thought that it is bruises, it has dissapeared completely now. The baby came to us at 3 months and the first time my Granny saw her naked she was in tears because she thought that someone had abused the baby, I showed it to the ladies at daycare and explained what they are, and it is already fading. Good luck with your beautiful little boy. he is lucky to have such a caring mommy.

Gail - posted on 03/12/2010

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there is really nothing you can do that i know of i had one so does my son but his is his whole back side the thing with me was it faded i never did anything to it. it's common for mixed children it's well known

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Mongolian spots are common in bi-racial children. I am white and my daughters father is Jamaican. My daughter was born with them on her bottom, she is now 10 at they have almost faded completely. They are just another form of a birth mark

Charlotte - posted on 03/11/2010

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my daughter had them and when she was a baby and I had been asked if they were brusies, not to worry they do fade over time. If the doctor or anyone gives you a problem simply state what they are and that they can look them up online or you could for your protection get a note from the doctor. My daugher is15 and I never had a problem after thatone time.

Shanna - posted on 03/11/2010

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If your kids go to daycare or whenever someone babysits for you always make sure to tell them that they are not bruises and explain to them what they are. My daughter is half black and she had them all over her lower back and up on her shoulder. They are all gone now expect one the size of a dime on her shoulder.

Nicole - posted on 03/09/2010

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I have a 6 month old daughter and she has a mongolian spot on her arm and I was worried about people thinking the same thing. I am not to worried about it now I know what it is and if they ask i will inform them. I dont think that you need a doctors note I would just explain it to his teachers maybe even print a paper about it and give it to them.

Anna - posted on 03/09/2010

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I have a 9 month son who also has mongolian marks and as does my sister whose child is 18 months. We were told not to worry and to keep their skins mositursed and as they grow they will fade. My neices mark has already started to fade....so maybe the doctor was right. My son also has a mark on his right ankle and I just tell anyone who ask that its a birth mark!

Nique - posted on 03/08/2010

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Hi Amber, 2 of mines have them on one side of their butt cheek. And it's true as they get older they will get smaller. My niece has it how you described. All over her back , rump and if one does not know it does appear as bruising. There was a story in Southern Cali in which a person did call social services because of the markings. But it did not go anywhere since it was determined that it was a mongolian birth mark. When my daughter was born, it was noted on one of the forms that a mongolian birth mark was present. But being where hers is located, it probably won't cause a problem. A note should be ok form a doctor just to have handy for those who know nothing about them. (school, daycare, etc...)

Tiffany - posted on 03/08/2010

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Hi I am white & my ex-husband is from Bangladesh, we have a beautiful nearly 4yr old daughter. Here in the UK the spots are known as Mongolian Blue Stain. Her stain looks just like a hand print! As if someone had slapped her hard against her lower back! The bruised look does fade, as it is just starting to now. The only problems I've had have been when my daughter has needed to be treated @ an ER. Some nurses/doctors were not aware of the stain & it resulted in alot of questions, fortunately the stain/description is on her medical notes. The local nursery/school were notified, but they are aware of these stains. It shouldn't give you any issues. Don't worry. Your son will be fine.

Emili - posted on 03/08/2010

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there is nothing you can do. i had a nurse that had never seen them before run to get the doctor for my 1 year old daughter. lol the doctor explained it and everything was fine. the only thing you can do is deal with it if it happens. if someone says something about it explain it to them. a friend of mine actually had a daycare that had only had Caucasian babies up to that point, turn her in to the department of human services. of course when they came to her house they all laughed about it, but it was an inconvenience. if you want you could tell their teachers or daycare providers in advance and not have to worry about it.

Amanda - posted on 02/28/2010

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Omgosh! I went through the same thing with my daughter when I put in here daycare as a 2 month old baby. It looked as if she had a huge bruise across her hiney @ the tail bone area. I just made sure to tell the ladies about it at the beginning so there would be no mistake. They were fine with it. They had to know that if it was a real bruise, it'd fade out pretty quickly, & then new ones would appear if the child was being hit. Also, they will probably fade to some extent, maybe even completely, by the time he's in school. Hers faded out completely before she was 18 months! She's almost 6 now & you'd never know it was ever there....I hope this helps. :o)

Amy - posted on 02/28/2010

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My now 13 month old has a very dark thumbprint size one on her right butt cheek. I absolutely love it! I am very white an my husband is very dark.

Holly - posted on 02/25/2010

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My daugther also has mongolian spots on her lower back and butt. She is now 3yrs and there is one small barely visible spot on her butt, and the back is very light only really noticable because I know its there. My daughter is mixed white and black.

Dawn - posted on 02/25/2010

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My youngest daughter was born with mongolian markings across her lower back, and buttocks. She is olive skinned, maybe a tone darker, and now 15 years old. Although it was a concern for me when she was younger, all went well and when we changed pediatricians we simply made sure we informed them of all of our childrens ethnicity's. This was also noted on the school registrations. At this time the markings are barely visible. .

Hayley - posted on 02/25/2010

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my children both have them they r half african im white. my oldests is horrible she looks like she been kicked real hard up the bum.. lol.. it covers all her bum and goes up in spots up her spine has it on both shoulders and in her groins.. i was told they fade in time but hers seems 2 be getting darker.. my youngest has it in same place on her bum but its not so dark

KRISTEENA - posted on 02/22/2010

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I had 3 of them on my lower back as far back in time as I can remember..now I only have 2...one disappeared, I don't think that you'll have to worry about teachers thinking that they are bruises. I never had that problem when I went to school or saw my doctors.
I am sure that some of them will fade in time. I don't think that there is anything to be done to get rid of them...just think of them as extra kisses from God :)

Lisa - posted on 02/22/2010

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I am white and my sons sperm donr is black. My 5 month old son has mongolian birth marks on his butt. The doctor said they usually fade by school age. However I have a biracial friend who is 29 and she still has hers and they never got smaller either.So it varies, sometimes they go away by school age, and sometimes people have them their whole life.

Falyne - posted on 02/21/2010

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Its true they do fade...my daughter is black and white and she has pail skin and she has one on her lower back around her butt. She is 2 now and the taller she gets the more it goes away.

Ashly - posted on 02/19/2010

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Im 21 i have a son whos a yr now n when i first brought him home n seen it i thought the car seat was bruising him it wasnt until i took him in for his first check up they told me wat it was. They said it will eventually fade away but i was so nervous to bring him out because i didnt want ppl thinking i was abusing him or something. my son has his on his lower back and ontop of his booty.

Ashley - posted on 02/19/2010

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I was told by my daughter's doctor that with how dark her's are if they were not fading or starting to go away by the time she was about two or three they would probably stay there. her spots are not really spots. she has a VERY dark line across her back from the bottom to almost the middle of her back. one that goes from the left side of her back on the bottom to the very middle, and one dark line on each sholder blade. the whole inside of he privates are a very dark shade of purple. she was just in the hospital and had to have a cath and the nurse took me out in the hall to ask me if she had been touch sexually by anyone. I told her no that it was a mongolian spot. She said that children dont get them there and went to get the doctor. he looked at it and told her right in front of me that she was very wrong ti was a spot and no one had touched my daughter.

Ashley - posted on 02/19/2010

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my daughter is half mexican and her mongolian spots didn't show up till she was a month old. she has four across her back from the top to her bottom and it looks like someone took a metal rod and wacked her a few times. she also has one inside her pee pee. The first time I noticed it my brother-in-law was living with us and he likes to drink alot. I thought he did somthing to my baby. I made her a doctors appiontment. That same night i saw the spots on her back. We went to the doctors and she documented every spot she had and told me as long as I make sure everything is in her records at the doctors office it will be ok. It is a good idea to let the daycare or school know,& alot of times the teachers are not told so you might want to let them know too.

Jessica - posted on 02/19/2010

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I always have the dr note them in the medical records just so people don't think it's child abuse. My children all had them fade too. My 10 month old now still has alittle one on his lower back, but it seems to show off more in the winter.

Marina - posted on 02/17/2010

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Both my children and grandson were born with Mongolian Spots. This is very common although I did have a few nursery employees ask if they had fallen or injured themselves. They should know of all people. I even had a nurse ask me once what happened - in the Pediatrician's office, but generally speaking, everyone else has been aware of this. They do fade after a while. My daughter's took quite a long time to fade but my son's and grandson's disappeared. My grandson is nearly two and they are gone. Minus one small "shaded area". This usually does appear right in the waistline above their little bottoms - on the back. No worries....they will fade and everything will be fine.

Jennifer - posted on 02/14/2010

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My daughter had Mongolian Spots when she was born. She is 4 now and they have been gone for a while now, but I had the same fear about her going to school or daycare because they look like bruises. Her doc put notes in her record so if there was ever any question there was record of it. They are pretty common and although I had never heard of them before my daughter was born no one ever questioned them and most of her caretakers knew what they were.

Krista - posted on 02/13/2010

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My oldest son had one - kind of blue-ish, almost like a bruise. I think it faded by 4 or 5 years old. His was where his back met his butt. Nothing to be overly concerned about in my experience.

Suzanne - posted on 02/12/2010

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Hi Amber,
My daughter (we adopted her when she was 2 1/2 months) had those when she was an infant. She is now 18 yrs old and they have totally disappeared.

KRISTIN - posted on 02/12/2010

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My daughter has one, and I didnt realize until this December what it was. I always thought it was a bruise because of its color, but it is right where her tailbone is and up her spine. I kept wondering why it wasn't going away!!! I am white and my fiance is Puerto Rican, so she also has an olive tint to her!

Emma - posted on 02/12/2010

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my son has a mongolian on his lower back i do not htink it is anything to worry about i had a little trouble with ti when he started nursery as staff who are trained with children did not even know what it was so they thought it was brusing i just think if you know a nappy is gonna be changed by a stranger e'g nursery playgroup just explain before hand about it to save problems i spent 2 hrs in managers office explaining boput it as i don't think she believed me at first.

Becca - posted on 02/12/2010

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My daughter (now 9 in 2 weeks :) ) was born with Mongolian spots. She is 1/2 black. They were on her butt, and she had just a few spots on her back. My Ob informed me that it would be very important to have her pediatritian document them, because they do look like bruises. I had no problems, however. Her daycare knew about the spots, so they did not question. They were gone by the time she went to kindegarten. One tiny mark remains on her back, that has faded so much, I'm sure I'm the only one who can see it! :)

Debbie - posted on 02/12/2010

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When my daughter was one and I forgot to mention to the teacher about her spots they had written it up and brought it up to my attention, I then went to the doctor and asked them to kindly write a letter to avoid this situation again and to make sure to give it to the day care before dropping off the child and physically show them where all the spots are so they don't mistake it for anything else. But in time the spot does fade away, I don't see my daughter's spots anymore and she is now 7. I hope this helps out

Cindie - posted on 02/11/2010

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I did for that very reason. Here is your history leason for the day, my mom was a sub one day showing a film on Gengis Kon or how ever it is spelled anyway. The Mongolian spot is so his desendents can be traced through the generations. So anyone that has that birthmark is a desendant of Gengis Kon.

Ann - posted on 02/11/2010

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That has been a problem in the past. Apparently many social workers didn't know that they are a natural phenomena and thought the children were being abused. Your best bet is to always be very involved and familiar with the people who teach and care for your children. If they don't know about the spots, they will probably ask you about them if you are readily available and known to them.

Amanda - posted on 02/11/2010

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I have 3 children and each of them have had mongolian spots, I to was concerned about what schools or daycares would say about them if they were to see them so I asked our pediatrician and he told us to make sure that we are both there when the children are enrolled in daycare/school so that the teachers know that they are bi-racial children and explain to them that there are spots on their bottom and what they are called. My son is 4 years old and his spots are extremely small now to where you don't even notice them.

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I'm white, my husband is Vietnamese, and our 2-year-old daughter has a very light Mongolian spot right where her lower back meets her behind, at her tailbone. A friend of mine was babysitting her for me one afternoon, and while I sat with color processing on my hair, I got a frantic phone call from her, wondering if she was seeing a bruise during a diaper change. I had never thought to explain it before I left my daughter with her. Since then, I've left her with other sitters, and she's been going to a Mom's Day Out group every Tuesday since she turned one, and no one has ever mentioned it to me. My daughter's spot is very light, though, and hardly noticeable. If your son's spots are very noticeable, I think I'd personally mention it when dropping him off with sitters or the like. Many children have them, so if he's left with a very experienced group daycare or something like that, they've probably seen it before. It's better to be safe than sorry, I think, though.

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