Multi-racial adoptive families

Maria - posted on 04/30/2009

Bless you for adopting a bi-racial child! The color of the skin is not what matters, it's how you love and raise the child. If they realize that what's beautiful within emanates the beauty outside, then everything else becomes obscure! Your reassurance of love will matter all the time, because it gives them strength and self-confidence and shape their own identity.

Olvia - posted on 01/29/2009

i placed a daughter up for adoption going on 4 yrs now in Feb. My daughter was bi racial. Her adopted parents are whom are white. However, they love her tremendously. It is not about the skin color to them and that is how they have made it seem to her too. I would suggest to surround her with other children like her so that she would become comfortable with whom she is and skin color. My daughter that i have at home is going through the same thing. She always says that she wishes that she was my skin color and wishes she had my hair. What i do is i tell her that i wish that i had her skin color and her hair type because it is just so beautiful. I pray that everything turns out well for you and your daughter.

Justice - posted on 01/28/2009

yes!  we are white and our son is AA and puerto rican, and gorgeous!  we are also in the process of adopting another boy of minority race.  this was important to me because i didn't want my son to be the only child who looks different in our family.  but i doubt we will stop at 2 kids anyway.  i also be sure to surround him with lots of cultural experiences, both from his culture and others.  it never hurts to be globally aware.  he is only 2.5 now, but he has started noticing different skin colors.  but i enrolled him in a very diverse preschool in our city and he attends daycare now with other multiracial children.  most of our books include all colors of families and adoption stories as well.  these are all ways to make your child feel more comfortable. 

Natalie - posted on 01/27/2009

We adopted our son (now 17yrs old) who is Bosnian and a sibling group of 4 (ages 1, 4, 6, and 7) who are Native American. While the younger children don't see any difference, strangers do. I had a lady ask me where my children got their good looks. I said, "I guess from me?" I don't feel the need to answer such comments. They all have dark black hair, olive skin, and dark brown eyes while I am blue eyed, brown haired... They all know they are adopted, though. (except the baby) It is something we will have to deal with as we go.

Michelle - posted on 01/27/2009

We have adopted 2 children, one is 1/2 puerto-rican and 1/2 african american and the other is all african american.  They are only 3 and almost 2 yrs. old, so they haven't asked any questions about their color.  I don't think that they have noticed yet either!   We live in a predominantly white community, but there are a few of other races.  So far we mostly get reactions from people that are good, our 3 yr old daughter is forever getting the "you are so cute" from people when we are out shopping.  I think that  we just need to keep telling them that they are beautifaul, just the way God made them!

Tami - posted on 01/26/2009

Jenna is the only brown skinned kid in her class. She has only been laughed at once, thank goodness, because she drew a picture of herself and her family, and she colored herself brown. She was only in Kindergarden, so she didn't really get upset about it, but I did. She is in a catholic school right now, because I love the teachers, but I am not sure if I should move her to a more mixed school, or keep her where I know she is getting a good education. In two years, her school is combining with another, and there are more non caucasian kids at that school, but I don;t know if I am causing harm in the mean time.



She knows how loved she is, and how gorgeous her skin is, but I want to make sure I do the right thing by her. Thanks for all of your responses!!

Beth - posted on 01/26/2009

We adopted both of our little AA beauties... We live in a predominantly white town and our family is pretty white...with a few sprinkles :)

We try to make sure that our girls are exposed to people of many different races whenever we can. We've also joined a playgroup that is made up of other transracial families. The number one thing that we do every day several times a day is let the know how much they are loved and how beautiful they are.

Kim - posted on 01/25/2009

We have adopted our son, who all we know is his mom is african american, he is very light complected, looks mexican or arab... he's only 3 so he hasn't asked any questions yet...but I am interested in responses as well, as I know the questions will be coming soon.

Lauren - posted on 01/25/2009

Although I haven't adopted, my son is mixed-race- black and white. Although he lives with me, I'm black and obviously my family is (lol,) we live in a primarily white city. I'm just going to try and make sure that my son is around kids like both his mother and his father. I look out for playgroups, daycares, events and schools that have all races of children so he doesn't even pay attention to such things or question why his skin or his mother is brown compared to the other parents. Hope this helps, or if you have any questions hopefully I can help...

Carolyn - posted on 01/25/2009

There is a lady on here named Leslie, and she has an adorable little boy, I'm sure she could be of some help.