My husband tired of strange looks.

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My Vietnamese American husband is tired of the strange looks he gets when he is traveling solo wth our biracial Irish-Asian kids. I think it's surprise that a Dad flies solo with little ones, but also the stranger danger fear that these kids and the adult "don't match". Strangely I do't think I've ever had this experience. Although I have had experience of someone thinking my kids are adopted. What do you all think?

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Jami - posted on 07/24/2009

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My husband who is white once took my all black son to Chick-fil-a and had a stranger ask if he was a part of the big brother program. How rude is that!?! My husband just said no, this is my son. Which it isn't, but why must people ask such rude questions?

Renee - posted on 07/23/2009

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Hi Nora my name is Renee and I am Black American and my fiancee is Caucasian (Dutch, German and Jewish) our son complexion is of a Caucasian. I am tired of people thinking I adopted our son b/c they look at my skin tone and then his, it gets very annoying. Steven's hair texture is a mixture of curls in some places but, mostly straight and brown/blond places. People act like a Black Person can't make a white baby with a Caucasian. What do u think?

Amanda - posted on 07/22/2009

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O let me tell you about my starge looks.I have 2 mixed kids and 1 step mixed child. So that in its self gets strang looks, seeing as how we live in Mobile,Al. the deep south where there are alot of white racile groups still around. Then I baby sit these little girls alot.There mother pasted and both girls are the same age as my two but they are white. So any time we go some where the littlest which is 17 months sometimes calls me mommy because I am with her so much and I do correct her but she still does it from time to time. So we have people asking us all the time which kid is yours and which is his. O it drives me nuts lol. I told this one lady that that my son and one of the girls where both mine seeing as how they are both 6 years old she was tring to figure that one out. LOL I had to tell her I was just joking. People I dont think really think some times before they speak.

Amie - posted on 07/21/2009

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I have been asked in the past if my daughter was my daughter. I politely smiled and said well no she isn't mine I borrowed her from a friend to play house and I am taking her back when I am done with her...she just calls me Momma cause she is playing the role. She is only 2. So of course they looked at me like I was crazy, and I laughed and walked off. I have also been told that my daughter looks like she is full black and not mixed. I don't let other people's comments or stares impact me. I laugh about it, pray for them, and move on with my life.

Juanita - posted on 07/11/2009

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I agree with the rest of the moms on here. Don't let it bother you. What other people think shouldn't matter. I have a son who is bi-raicial and I am nothing but proud to walk the streets with my son, and so is his dad. Even though we arent together anymore. The looks I get or he gets are from people who tell me that my son is so adorable. No race is 100% pure so those that have a problem with it, its just their problem.

Karen - posted on 07/11/2009

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I had the same happen to me at Euro disney,as my son darker skined then my daughter....

really peed me off..



karen basra

Isobel - posted on 07/09/2009

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My husband is Thai and our daughter looks European. When we lived in Bangkok the Thai people there found it hard to believe that he was her Dad. He was even asked if he was a male nanny. It didn't bother him though as he thought it was quite funny. Really it is a good thing if people are taking notice of children around them as if anything was wrong action might be taken more quickly.

Sonya - posted on 07/08/2009

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I get lots of odd looks and people have asked me many times if my son misses his real mom. I AM his real mom. He looks nothing like me. I just blowit off. If I let others bother me I know it will affect my son.

Brandy - posted on 07/05/2009

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He shouldn't worry. I see white couples with black babies, asian babies whatever and just assume they're are adopted and respect and admire those people. Hopefully I'm not respecting and admiring any kidnappers.

Lesley - posted on 07/04/2009

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It doesn't bother my husband at all. I have two boys that are my husbands step kids and they call him uncle. People do look at him different but we know what goes on in our home. They we always have people who don't like the situation but its not what they think its what makes you comfortable.

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Thanh does mention it in an LOL context, but I do think as we become a more diverse country it is helpful to have forums like this that acknowledge there are cultural growing pains. Family bathrooms at rest stops help moms and dads traveling solo with little ones. When a Disney movie like Up shows a cross cultural/age mentoring friendship it helps enlarge our society's view of relationships that matter.

Helen - posted on 07/03/2009

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You never really know why people are staring anyway. Maybe it is because your kids are so cute! :) Spin it positive and let it roll off your back. What other people think really doesn't matter as long as they keep thier mouth shut. :)

Maria - posted on 07/03/2009

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I think that your husband shouldn't show that it bothers him. Your kids are likely to pick up on this and wonder why dad is stressed when he is with them. I think as long as people aren't asking rude questions to ignore the stares.

Maria - posted on 07/03/2009

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I think that your husband shouldn't show that it bothers him. Your kids are likely to pick up on this and wonder why dad is stressed when he is with them. I think as long as people aren't asking rude questions to ignore the stares.

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