My son looks nothing like me…nothing at all…

Marie - posted on 09/18/2010

I am Black and my spouse is white and my middle son looks nothing like my husband!!! ppl always ask him if he is a friends child and all he can do is laugh, oh by the way my hubby has blonde hair and blue eyes so with a son that looks totally black sometimes it is pretty funny to see ppls reaction when they find out they are father and son LOL, what can you say...

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/18/2010

@Mindy W...Thanks :-)

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/18/2010

@Cindy Seckinge...Thanks :-)

Gabrielle - posted on 09/17/2010

I am black and white and my husband is Vietnamese and our daughter looks 100% like him and I get the same exact looks when it's just me out with her. At first I really just felt like a wet nurse to her but now that she's a bit older she calls me yaya and has a lot of fun being out with me. But I know exactly what you mean with the slick looks and confused faces. We just gotta live with it cause that's the way they gone be towards us. But I feel your plight.

Cindy - posted on 09/16/2010

I think asian genes are pretty dominent. Your son is so cute!

Natasha - posted on 09/16/2010

I'm right there with ya hun. I must have very recessive genes, bc only one of my sons took after me. He has most of my features and he's very light complected. His brother on the other hand looks like he crawled straight out of his dad's butt! They are identical, down to facial expressions n all and he is darker skinned and the funny thing is they have the same father. I'm 36 wks pregnant now and with these awesome new 4d ultrasounds they have nowadays (didn't have those last time I was pregnant) I can already tell this one is another spitting image of his father! At least he's good lookin'! LOL ;)

Caroline - posted on 09/15/2010

I am mixed race and my husband is vietnamese and our oldest son looks nothing like me. Once I was in the department store and he started throwing a screaming tantrum and I was dragging him out when I got stopped by security because an older couple had thought I was stealing him!!!

Kelly - posted on 09/15/2010

Girl I am in the same boat! I just had my son 17 days ago. I am white and his dad is black. This boy looks nothing like me! He is so brown and has every single feature of his daddy....I mean I guess I gave him the "mixed boy curls" but that's it!

Mindy - posted on 09/15/2010

My daughter looks nothing like me..as of yet at least! my daughter looks like the spitting image of her daddy just lighter skinned. She does however have my smile (eyes squint lol) It was opposite when I was little I looked like my mom then as I got older I changed and look nothing like her now..so maybe down the road our kids will resemble us more! But asian's have very strong genes, a lot of bi racial children with asian backgrounds will take on that gene. He's still your son and still adorable and thats all that matters :)

Heidi - posted on 09/13/2010

Hi :)

I just wanted to say to you that babies so often change the way they look during the first 2yrs of life. I am South African and mixed race (Zulu, Dutch and Spanish) my hubby is Jewish-American so our son has very light skin and very curly hair. he does not look like either of us!!!! He has changed so much over the past 2 years...don't worry about it. You will begin to see so many similarities as they grow like how they like their tea(just like mommy) or how they enjoy the same games you did as a child. There are so many things you will have in common like stubbornness and the same laugh that you won't even notice the way you look, they will be, undoubtedly your child! :o)

Enjoy your time with your kids and don't bother about stares, people stare because you have more flavour than they do!! Soak it up ;o)

Much love,
Heidi

Nicole - posted on 09/10/2010

I know how you feel. 2 out of my 3 kids look nothing like me and they all have the same father. My daughter has my complextion (im black and white) and most of my features but my 2 boys are white with light brown hair, and one of them has blue eyes. Everyone thinks that my youngest (the blue-eyed one) belongs to my mom when we go out (shes blonde with blue eyes) The thing that throws people off is the fact that my husband (hes puerto rican) is fair skinned with black hair. and hazel eyes. When i go out with just my kids i get all kinds of looks (mostly from old people) probably thinking "OMG how many baby daddies does she have!!" The kids dont even resemble each other. I even had to doc ask if the boys were mine when i brought them in for doctors appointments. ITs frustrating but at this point you know they are yours (even though theres no evidence except the hips and streched out whoha lol) I enjoy having a little rainbow family. I grew up like that. Me and my sister have similar features but alot of different ones too and niether one of us looked like our mom (shes white) but now if i go out with my mom strangers are alway asking if we are mother and daughter cause we look alike. (im even darker now than i used to be when i was younger) Babies change too. He might tan alot easier becasue he has your skin more than you think. My oldest son was ghost white and jet black hair until he was like 1 and then he started tanning in the sun and his hair lightened up to a light brown. Im curious to see if my blue eyed lil man keeps his eyes and starts to get a darker complextion (hes only 3 months).





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Candace - posted on 09/09/2010

I'm in the opposite situation. My son looks just like me and nothing like his dad. He does have the same exact feet as his dad and a cleft in his chin but other than that you can't tell that he's my child's father. He hates that so much because everyone is always telling us how my son is my twin and he hates that!! Babies change though so over time the babies looks may change!

Catherine - posted on 09/08/2010

Aww!! My son's almost 15 months now and BOY do they change between 6 months and now! His skin colour started darker, went lighter in the winter and the summer sun has made him brown! He looks so much like his dad... people tell me that all the time.. Or they'll say, oh he's so beautiful! Me must look like his father lol.. Not that they're insulting me on purpose, they just look at him then me and say it. People who are close to me try and convince me he looksl ike me too, but I really dont see it. He has my chin maybe.. and just a shade darker than my own brown hair.. but still. I feel for you!! But just try and be patient, he's going to go through so many changes in his life and one day maybe if he never looks like you, he'll have your personality! My son certainly is JUST like me as a kid haha. I can feel good about that at least ;)

K - posted on 09/08/2010

I have been having the same thing but opposite lately haha if that makes sense. My son is almost six months old and looks more like me than ever. The only things he has like my ex are the nose, feet and bellybutton lol. I have people all the time say how he still looks white or even that he looks more white than he did before. Some people can tell he's mixed but some people who didn't know my ex that ask what he looks like are always so shocked when I say that he's black. People that did know my ex when they first see my son always do the "WOWWW" too. It's funny how genetics work though, especially when you have a vision in your mind of what they might look like and it turns out nothing like that haha. Either way, they're still perfect! Looks can change so much over time too they could start looking more (or in my case less) like us as they get older.

Tara - posted on 09/08/2010

I have 4 kids and not one of them looks like me at all....lol!! I mean they got nothin from me what so ever!! My oldest looks just like his father, and my second son looks like his grandfather to a tee. My older daughter looks like her Auntie Dawn she even has the same raspy voice like her, and the youngest looks just like her father they even have the same birthmark on the same ear. My Malcolm does have my eyes though they are a greenish grey color so at least I took part in something...lol!

Xenia - posted on 09/08/2010

That's just like me. I never thought my son would come out White like me. And I'm WHITE WHITE lol. He is very slowly changing, he has become a little 'yellow'. I don't care, I just never thought he'd be this light. His dad had a huge prob with it, 'are you sure he's mine' 'why's he so white' etc etc etc. You never know he may change still because every childs different. I seen people on here saying thier child has started darkening up at 1. You just never know.
I get so Many comments. When my partners cousins came to see our son the first thing they said was 'damn he's light' it's like so what, get over it. Makes me mad!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 09/08/2010

It does get frustrating…but I wouldn’t change a thing for the world…the remarks are getting old…after 5months..goin on 6…..
I knew he would come out with slanted eyes because of his father and the fact that mine are to..but I also thought he would come out a mocha color…like coffee with cream, he is half a shade darker then his dad…and at almost 6mons my guess is he will stay that completion..

Xenia - posted on 09/07/2010

I'm with you... My son looks nothing at all like me. All he has Is my light skin. Lol. I'm White and my partner is black. Our son is light skinned but looks exactly like his dad. That's all I ever hear 'he's nothing like you'. I'm like ' yeh thanks I just carried him for 9 months and experienced PAIN' lol...
Seriously, don't worry. Let people look and wonder, it's none of their damn business anyway. I always get people stare at me because of how light he is. It uses to really bother me!