Need recommendations for my daughter's hair

Felicia (Copper) - posted on 09/27/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 3 years old and is half black. She has some spirals in her hair but it is not totally curly. My son has had his head shaved and has very dry and coarse hair that we put grease in and it works great! My daughter on the other hand...same father and mother...has hair that is a mix between mine and her father's but grease is too heavy for her hair. She used to have a thick head of hair but now alot of it has fallen out. You can see parts of her scalp where the hair has fallen out if her hair falls just the right way. I have tried pink lotion among quite a few other hair items and they are great when it's wet but make it look too greasy when it dries. I used to keep her hair up and plat it up but now I just keep it in a ponytail because I am afraid that I am either breaking it off or pulling it out. I had my son's braided and done all the time with no problems so I am at a total loss of what I could be doing wrong. I want her beautiful head of hair back again and have even tried the shampoo and conditioner from Pantene that says it is for the "women of color". Is really upsets me and I would really appreciate any help that I could get on here. I just joined tonight and was elated to find a site that I could relate to!!!!! Thanks in advance! Felicia

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Monique - posted on 05/26/2010

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I'm half black half white and I have always used conditioner in my hair. Regular conditioner that you rinse out except that I don't rinse it....it defines my curls...lowers Fri and isn't heavy or greasy...

Tracy - posted on 10/02/2009

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I have heard a lot of good things about the Curls line, my son is 3 y/o and has hair to the middle of his back (of course, when it is wet) but he has different textures also..I use the Mixed Chicks line. Tara's post is exactly what I was going to tell you also. A lot of ethnic line products that you get in the store will do more damage than good-even for hair types that they are intended for due to all the mineral oil that they load in them.
If you want to look at alternative sites, just so you know what is good for hair and bad look at these sites, they are all natural sites and have a lot of good info.
http://newlynatural.com (she has an all natural Caramel Deep Conditioning TX that is excellent)
http://mixology101.ning.com

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Brooke - posted on 04/15/2013

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I have two children, one black, and one black/white... Both children start with a basic wash and conditioning every other week and get a base of oil for moisture (dime size for my son since he has short hair, and quarter size for my daughter who has mid-back length) and I apply this every other day or before each styling session. I use "Africa's Best Ultimate Herbal Oil" if is a tan oil with a red lid and isnt very expensive and smells like skittles, so the kids LOVE it! My daughter get a special deep conditioning treatment once a month and i have recently found a product, Miss Jessie's Super Sweetback Treatment (Brown and pink label) and completely fell in LOVE with the workability of her hair after using... the tears from brushing through the knots were gone!!!

Both children get the next step of grease but different kinds... My son uses a Hair and scalp grease ("Blue Magic Hair and Scalp Anti-Breakage"...its green) since his hair is so short to keep his scalp moisturized and flake-free. My daughter uses a hair dress grease ("Blue Magic Bergamot Hair Dress"... Its blue). Both are very thick and i tend to mix both the oil and grease together before putting into their hair, but that is what works for me. I stay away from the Pink oil because since both children have dry hair it soaks it right up within minutes and doesnt give them the lasting moisture they need to cut the friizz. From here, i will simply brush my sons hair and proceed to style my daughters hair adding more grease and/or oil as i go depending on the dryness. PLEASE dont over use the oil... before you know it your child will look like they are sporting the Jehri Curl!

When I braid (and yes I HAD to teach myself how to braid/plait!) or style her hair, i tend to do it while it is damp because it will cut down on the frizziness and the style will last longer n look better. I usually style her hair either in a variety of cornrow based designs, or ponytails in two-strand twists or kinky twists. I love the Kinky twists especially when styled damp, let dry for a day, and the next day taking them out... the ponytails are in set spirals that WON'T frizz! HALLELULAH! Another tip... WRAP the hair at night with a silk cap, du rag, scarf, or even a t-shirt.... The style will last a few days longer. Mind you being biracial, the style only last 3-4 days at most....even in braids! A big help when i was "trying to find my own way through these hair jungles" was the Braids, Beads, and Beyond blog. Of course i had to pick and choose to accomodate my childs hair routine, but the styles and simple tips have helped SOOO much!

Monica - posted on 03/08/2011

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Don't use Pantene. If you are not wanting to spend $20/bottle. Try the L'oreal Nature's Therapy - Mega Moisture line at Sallys Beauty. Lots of good natural things in it and really retains moisture. I also use the conditioner as a leave in when I wet and finger curl my daughters hair each day. A little goes a long way! Trust me, I've tried the pricey stuff - Bumble & Bumble, Aveda etc..

Rhonda - posted on 10/11/2009

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Dont know if you have found any help with your daughters hair problems but if you rub a little bit of Tea Tree Oil on her scalp that will work and grow back the hair. For the softnest of the hair try some TCB spray it works well on any hair type and it works well for my 13 yr old son who has the afro curls but his hair texture is to soft for just plain hair grease. and he loves it cuz it doesnt hurt when he combs his hair.



good Luck

Leslie - posted on 10/08/2009

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I have 3 mixed daughters and all have different hair texture. My oldest needs just a lil grease every now and then no big deal, my middle is just like black folks, I have to grease, perm it flat iron it, right now she has micro love them!!! My youngest is just like what you said, grease is way tooo heavey, pink oil is too so is the olive oil lotion. I use this stuff i used to get at the dollar store but it is at walk mart now, Soft and Beautiful Just for me. I use the little green bottle that boost the curls, and then I use the smoothin gel. I do not use alot just a little. None of my girls wash their hair everyday. When my youngest gets up I take a water bottle and spray her ahir just like if she just got out the shower, i brush it with a soft brissele brush then put her hair stuff in it. Then I blow dry on low just like us white folks do when we have a perm. I do not put rubber bands in her hair I use the cloth pont tail holders. She never sleeps with her hair up and she wears her hair down alot. She has really thin hair but this product really helps. I know with my middle daughter I just had to do a trail and error until I found what works for her. I can not tell you how mauch hair stuff I have went through doin this. The best of luck to you, you will get there.

Samantha - posted on 10/07/2009

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I put either gel/babyoil or a product called optimal or something like that u can get it at walmart it comes in a yellow contaner it wrks good. My daughter had thick hair and i put beads in her hair all the time and he hair go thin to maybe cause i plated it to tight i dont know but i stoped the beads and put it in one two or three ponytails and its starting to thickin up more.

Crystal - posted on 10/05/2009

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Affordable= the just for me brand at walmart. it's in the hair isle, it's for little girls and works totally awesome. they have a detangler, curl smoother, relaxing kits (haven't done one yet) etc.

Valorie - posted on 10/03/2009

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First of all, stop putting her hair in a ponytail because it pulls her hair right out of her scalp. My daughter is biracial and I put her hair in ponytails all the time and she started to go bald around her forehead and above her ears. If you have to put her hair up, only use soft cloth hair ties and take them out as soon as you can. I have biracial girls in my daycare with beautiful, curly hair and I keep it moisturized with pink lotion or a leave in conditioner. Their hair is never greasy looking when I do this. Don't worry, though, her hair will grow and it will be just beautiful. My youngest daughter didn't start getting hair until she was over 3 years old. Just be patient. Also, if you notice her hair coming out in chunks, definately contact her pediatrician.

Therese - posted on 10/03/2009

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My daughter (aged 14 years) has an African father and I am white. Her hair genes are all from her father! It is very tight and curly especially at the back of her head. She usually wears it in braids with the fringe (bangs) combed straight - with the help of GHDs. Her scalp seems a little dry and flaky at times. Any advice to have it easier to comb through - she would like a break from the braids more frequently. Also any advice for the scalp?

Thanks.

Amy - posted on 10/03/2009

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My daughter is a.a. and caucasian with hair that goes from dry to super dry. Try Mizani products, specifically Mizani Rose H2O. It's worked wonders although it is a little pricey.

Jeannette - posted on 10/03/2009

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My daughteris blak ans white I love a product I get online called mixed chicks and I put a little olive oil threw hair hair her curls look great best of luck!!

Shannon - posted on 10/03/2009

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My daughters hair has spirals all the way thru, but gets very dry. We wash it with Johnson's shampoo plus conditioner for curyl hair (green bottle), use the leave in conditioner & add pink oil lotion. It works very well, and we wash her hair every nite in the summer, every other nite in the winter. I use Johnson's detangler and brush it after it's washed before it dries. She has beautiful hair. I just don't know how to braid though. I put it up on top of her head, or a little pony on top. We get lots of compliments on her hair though.

Brianna - posted on 10/03/2009

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I have very dry hair and not until recentley when a product from the hair dressers was recommended has worked called nak hydrating shampoo and conditioner (brought in seperate bottles) used with a moistering moose has done wonders might be worth a try good luck

Heather - posted on 10/02/2009

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well first of all don't wash it every day but do condition it every day. Use a boar bristle brush or wide toothed comb, and I read that Pomegranate oil or coco nut oil helps with girls ethnic hair. It would work great for your son too but especially for girls to get the long locks they need healthy hair and products in the tend to have mineral oils or petroleum and those will weaken the hair, so it is recommened bymy hair dresser to use the organic oils.

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Hey I just found a product that really works. It is Garnier Creme Gel. It is a "white" product but it has just enough moisture (but not too much) and enough hold to stop frizz. It also makes my daughters curls really tight and bouncy instead of weighed down like it was with oil or grease. I was having the same problem with African American products. They were just too heavy. Even the leave in conditioner spray. I put the creme gel in wet hair and comb it through. It has also made combing it easy and I can leave her hair down sometimes so it doesn't always have to be up. Hope this helps.

Tracy - posted on 10/02/2009

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Quoting Lilianna:

great advices...what about the fact that my daughter hair seems not to grow? any thoughts?



Lilianna, are you putting any type of "grease"  or mineral oil in her hair?  These products are difficult for the skin to absorb and they clog pores causing all kinds of issues.



My youngest son is 16 mos and his hair grows very slow.  He has maybe just as much hair now as he did when he was first born.  It could be just her and that's the way her hair grows. 

Carin - posted on 10/01/2009

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I am a single mother of two Bi-Racial Son's......I do keep ther hair clipped short,Much neater,cleaner, cooler etc.....I am also a Cosmetologist~I would recomend the Cream Of Nature~Shampoo/Conditioner as well or the Motion's Shampoo/Conditioner ...But,The from my experience is the Paul Mitchell Leave in Spray Conditioner..Do not wash her hair daily....Also the Paul Mitchell Baby Shampoo is Wonderful...Anything,with Rubber Band's~Covered R.B's Or Not Will Pull Any Hair Out! Only keep hair,In R.B's when needed~School,For Dress Etc......Good Luck!

Gillian - posted on 09/30/2009

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im half black and half white. as far as i know when i was younger my mom did not put any kind of prodiuct in my hair she just smothed it out an dput my hair in big box braids all the time. but now i use just store brand gel. to hold my hair and maybe some hair spray. i dont use any black hair products. as far as her hair falling out, i never had that problem so im not sure why its doing it, maybe you should ask her doctor. the only advice i can give you on that is Ovation Cell Therapy. i know a couple people who used it on there hair and it worked. it makes hairloss stop and helps grow thick healthy hair, so you should give it a try it might help.

Lilianna - posted on 09/30/2009

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great advices...what about the fact that my daughter hair seems not to grow? any thoughts?

Melissa - posted on 09/30/2009

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My daughter is 75 caucasian / 25 black mix and she has similar hair to what you describe your daughter to have. I use cream of nature shampoo and condition every other time i wash her hair. For a detangler I use silken child, i bought that at the local beauty supply store, it is a spray that i apply to wet or dry hair. It makes her hair look like it has gel in it but it is not crunchy feeling and still allows the curl to bounce.

I also use Dove conditiner for severely damaged hair and it feels like silk after using that.

I hope that helps!

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I have two half-black, half- white daughters. They have two very different texture and grade of hair. My youngest sounds likes she might have the same texture as yours. Her hair is thinner and grows out long and down instead of of out. I use mixed chicks on her. I shampoo and condition once a week, then apply the leave in conditioner when it is still wet. Wrap it at night and spray with water in the morning. The leave in conditioner defines the curls and is light weight. My oldest uses Miss Jessies because her hair is very kinky and dry.

Coretta - posted on 09/30/2009

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My daughter has two different textures in her hair. Tight and spirally on the top but on the back of her head it's fine and wavy. I use a product called Le Kair, colesteral (I spelled that wrong!!!) conditioner and once a week I put a shower cap on her head for an hour with the conditioner in it. It's much more manageable. She hates the shower cap, but loves the "no tangles".

Ryan - posted on 09/28/2009

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I recommend No More Tangles by Johnson and Johnson. I am Bi racial and my hair is very curly and very dry and my duaghter hair is fine and with very big curls, and it works well for both of us.

Sharon - posted on 09/28/2009

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Looks like she has combination of both textures of black/white. Keep all products out of her hair, no grease or grease products. Use regular baby shampoo, do not plat or cornroll. My daughter had the same texture when she was little, all I used was moisturizer on her hair or leave in condidtioner. She know has beautiful hair. Also do not use rubber bands for they will break it off, use the ones that are covered. Hope this helps

Felicia (Copper) - posted on 09/27/2009

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Thank you both soooooo much! The frizz is bad but the breakage and falling out REALLY upsets me! I will definately look into both of your suggestions and let you know how it goes! Any other suggestions you may have are welcome as well! Believe me!

Bambi - posted on 09/27/2009

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My daughter has her dads curls my texture. I use a product called organic root salon olive oil. We use the shampoo, conditioner and hair lotion, we get it at the beauty supply store, but I think you can get it at walmart. it is quite pricy 12.00 for a 23 oz bottle but it is worth it it is great as a detangler and a regular hair lotion.

Tara - posted on 09/27/2009

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I am so sorry that your little girls' hair is falling out! I also have a 3-year-old & she is african-american & caucasian as well. I was really confused in the beggining so I started to do some research & found a great website you should check out : www.curls.biz/

I LOVE their products & swear by them for my daughter's hair!!!



That said, I know there's also a website that I've checked out & may try the products: www.mixedchicks.net/



PLEASE be careful about the QUALITY of products you're using in her hair! NO MINERAL OIL...check the labels because it causes pores to clog & hair to fall out! That may be the reason for your daughter's hair loss, I know pink oil contails mineral oil so please stop using it. You might be wondering why companies would put an ingredient in hair products that is terrible for hair as I did...bottom line is mineral oil is cheap & they can make more money.

Also ponytails cause breakage so make sure they are loose & you are using soft holders & do not let her sleep with her hair in one! If you are trying to prevent tangles a simple braid with a soft holder at the end is what I do at night & I have a satin pillowcase for her, cotton causes breakage. As for how to do her hair during the day I would also recommend braiding loosly. Braids are great as long as they're not tight to the scalp & pulling. I leave Ava's hair down since the curls products are so great.



I hope this helps...please feel free to contact me again if you have any more questions!

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