Peas in Pods

Krista - posted on 08/21/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I'm white and my husband is Korean. We have a beautiful 4 month old daughter who looks nothing like me. My husband loves that our daughter looks like him and always says that he and she are "2 peas in a pod." I wanted my daughter to look Asian, but it also kind of hurts me that I don't have a child who looks like me and probably never will. :(

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Maria - posted on 09/13/2009

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She's only 4 months old, honey, give it time. My oldest son was a mini-me of my hubby at birth, everybody called him little Patrick! At a year old, his eyes started looking like mine. Now that he's 17, some people say he looks like my husband and some people say he looks like me. Some semblance of your daughter will be yours over time, whether it's physical features or mannerisms.

Shauna - posted on 09/10/2009

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I am caucasian and my husband is Laosian. Our daughters didn't look anything like me except there skin was pretty light. Our oldest is now three and her features are filling out more and we are starting to see more similarities between us. The asian genes are strong but just give it time.

Jessica - posted on 09/01/2009

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I'm hispanic and my boyfriend is cambodian; our first born was an exact copy of him, he looks nothing like me. But, our second is all me. Your children probably will have some resemblance to you, but they will all probably have the slightly slanted eyes.

Caroline - posted on 08/30/2009

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I am biracial and married an asian man. Our first son came out looking like him but with my nose, our second son looked like a dead ringer for my baby pictures except for the slightly slanted eyes. You truly never know what mix of genes will come out on top.

Annina - posted on 08/30/2009

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I am white (finnish) and my husband is ecuatorian. Our three children are a perfect mixture of the two of us. For the finnish they are small and tanned with dark eyes an hair and for the ecuatorian people they are bix and blond with honey eyes ;-) And the three of them are all different and all so beautiful. I can see my features in them and many things from my family but it is evident that there is something else in them too and that makes it so important to make them learn both two languages and cultures.

Krista - posted on 08/28/2009

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To Lolita:
I don't consider it a bad thing at all! I think my daughter is absolutely gorgeous! Every parent wants to see themselves in their child though. I might not see mee in her physically, but maybe she will have my personality. I would love a blond haired blue eayed child too.

Lolita - posted on 08/27/2009

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When my daughter was born, my mom said that if she hadn't seen it with her own eyes she wouldn't have known she was my daughter. She looks so much like my husband. Many people during the first couple of years thought I was here nanny! (which is wrong on so many levels!) But as she gets older she is becoming a beautiful blend of the both of us, yet her own beautiful unique self. You never know what your other children will look like, but does it really matter? Would you love her any different if she had blond hair and blue eyes? Would you love your next child any more if s/he has blond hair and blue eyes? I myself am a bi-racial child and I know that because I looked more black than filipino I have been judged and not favorable while my cousin who is half white could do no wrong (even when he was!). Don't fall into that trap...embrace your daughter for her own unique beauty and individuality and don't make her feel less than she is because she looks more like dad than you! Im sure that there are more of your characteristics in her than you see b/c the "asian" characteristics dominate right now, but believe me, no baby looks the same from the 1st to 2nd to 3rd years!

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I have two daughters. I am white and my husband is black. My first is light brown with light brown straight hair (or as my family says "white people hair", no offence to anyone). My second is light, almost white, white black curly hair (but still the texture of "white people hair"), given she's only a month and most likely will darken up. Anyways everyone I know and their mom's all think my first born, Riley, looks just like my husband. It makes me so mad. Even to this day when people say it. She doesn't look just like him. If people would just look a littl closer they could tell she looks a little like me too. Well my second, Reanna, looks just like my mom, but with a wider nose. You never know how your children are going to come out. Mine look nothing alike. Total opposites you could say. Dont let it discurage you from wanting more.

Amanda - posted on 08/22/2009

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I wouldn't bet my life on your never having a child that looks like you (unless you're only gonna have one!) My husband is also Korean (with some native american) but I'm about the whitest thing that ever walked the planet. When our son was born, we were both very surprised to see white skin and blonde peach-fuzz hair. The only thing asian about him is his eye shape and color (darker than daddy's). It's been two years and he has largely remained this way, except his hair has turned red.



I always think of mixed kids and am reminded of that quote from Forrest Gump. You really, truly never know what you're gonna get.



ADD: To support this, I just had my little girl Friday 28th and lo and behold she looks EXACTLY like Daddy. :-) You just never know.

Nicole - posted on 08/22/2009

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my son looks nothing like me either. im black and white and my husband is puerto rican. my daughter has skin like me but my son is white like my mom with light brown hair. lol. he was born with black hair and even paler skin than he has now. It doesnt matter. people used to always ask if im his mom. Now the strange thing is my daughter looks more like my husband (even tho she has my complexion) and my son's features look more like mine (he does have a little tan now lol)

Lesley - posted on 08/21/2009

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She is still young give her time. Eventually she will look something like you.

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