Lesley - posted on 11/17/2008 ( 4 moms have responded )
my son is 16 months old and the most amazing little man in the universe (not that i am biased, or anything...). we had the privelage of being chosen to be his parents and adopted him at birth. he is the light of our lives and we want the world for him. my question is about how to discuss 'race' with him as he grows up. i know race is a societal construct and should not be important, but as a brown baby with white parents he gets a good number of questions. we met his birthmother who is mixed, but did not know her own birthfather. we have limited information on our son's birthfather, and only know he is mixed but no details. it is clear from his fantastic 'fro and beautiful chocolate skin that he has black heritage and we know that he has white also... but we are not actually 'sure'. any suggestions on how we explain to him his background? i don't want to say 'we don't know what your background is, exactly'... but i'm not sure what we can say honestly, other than that... thanks in advance for your opinions.