rude bi-racial comments

Christopher's - posted on 04/12/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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i am white and my soon to be husband is Mexican we are expecting our first child in no time due May 2011! My family really loves my boyfriend and they know he will be a great father and treat me great! recently my "sperm donor" made a rude comment about my biracial child me and my sperm donor do not talk and do not get along it just made me mad that he made such a comment.. i kinda expect comments like this in the future so how do i deal with them? b/c i would really just like to punch these people in the face!!

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West - posted on 04/27/2012

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Well if you feel that way stay off of the group for moms of bi racial children. That's like if I went to a group for people who don't believe in mixing races and make a rude comment. You're exactly what this post was talking about. Oh btw check your blood line and see whats mixed in it

Karen - posted on 05/04/2011

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I am really sorry that some ignorant person with a big mouth hurt your feelings! Some people are just stupid!
no-matter your race, you have members who range from most eligible bachelor/ette to the opposite. Unfortunately, you and your child will face this probably indefinitely. You can use this to teach your child tolerance...what a great perspective to insure your sweet baby doesn't become as rude and ignorant as those people.
FYI; if you have any questions about what to take/avoid etc while your pregnant/breastfeeding you can go to www.OTISPregnancy.org or call 1-866-626-6847. (OTIS is Organization of Teratology Information Specialists; a TERATOGEN is anything that can harm the developing baby...including your condition!)

This is a pregnancy risk line where genetic counselors work. They answer questions about what will/won't harm the baby while pregnant/breastfeeding.

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Jay - posted on 05/04/2011

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Dont mind them hun, and I would say the sperm donor is just annoyed at how well things are going with you and your new partner, now that you are having a baby he probably feels left out a bit...
I got called a ''nigger lover'' (excuse the lang) by a girl who I had known for years! it was before we were married or had our son. It really got to me and I she has said sorry but its not the same between us anymore... I still have to see her because she is dating my cousin.
Other than that rude comment most people tell me that my son is beautiful. some ignorant people give me looks but I just smile extra big for them.. :D xxx

Serene - posted on 04/23/2011

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So you are pregnant by someone else and you are getting ready to marry your boyfriend right? If so you just have to not associate yourself with these dumb ignorant people, even if they are part of your life. I have gotten rid of a bunch of ignorant friends because they would make smartass comments about me dating out of my race. I got rid of them because I donot need all of the drama. I also ignored them and moved on. I don't know how your "sperm-donor" is involved in your pregnancy but, you don't need him neither. Sorry maybe I think like that because my 10 month old "sperm donor" has been out of our lives since day I was 25 weeks pregnant, so its not a big deal to me if hes there, and thats how I feel about lot of men. Just because you produce a baby doesn't make you a father.

Char - posted on 04/12/2011

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Girl you just have to remember some people are just ignorant. Mixed heritage kids are more common nowdays so you may not have as much of an issue as you are anticipating. More than likely your ex is just jealous because you are happy. Stay positive and have a healthy pregnancy.

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Brittaney - posted on 05/17/2012

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Do what I do when people ask me ignorant questions. Look at them straight in the eye for 1 to 2 minutes without saying a word. Give them a confused stare, then ask, "Is it hard being that "limited" or do you have to work on it everyday?" They'll get the hint as keep moving ahead.

User - posted on 05/07/2012

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People kill me with the term Bi-racial. There is only one race the Human Race..There is no bi-racial. There are mixed kids kids but the race is Human.

Kelli - posted on 04/29/2012

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Love is beyond race! I was made for my hubby by the same god who made him for me

Kelli - posted on 04/29/2012

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Haha i bet one if us white women stole one if tashas man hahaha dnt lusten to people im white my huby hispanic our daughter is a brown hair blue eyed angel to say our live is diff bc ur wit the same race tasha is plain dumb of u!!! I get the ohh white girls stealing good mexican me um no excuse me he prefers white wome like i prefer him and love him. Ignore people like that if u love him nothin else matters im here if.u ever need to talk.

Ashley - posted on 04/27/2012

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@ Tasha Your comments are so ignorant... You can't help who you fall in love with! Also, who cares what color ppl are... As long as they treat you right. You definately need to stay out of this group! You are exactly who we are talking about... Ignorant, Small minded ppl with nothing better to do than worry about what us mixed ppl are doing. Maybe you shouldn't spend your time worrying about something that doesn't concern you. Oh yeah, I'm willing to bet you are not "ALL BLACK" lol have you done you geneology?! Do you know that for a fact?! I doubt it!

Ashley - posted on 04/26/2012

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WOW... Tasha, you can't be serious! I am biracial white/black, so are my kids and we are BEAUTIFUL! Oh and I look just like my mom. So... You wrong! You must be blind or stupid because mixed kids are the cutest!!!

West - posted on 04/25/2012

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At Tasha maybe your kids are ugly but mine ain't and they all look either me or their dad. Why are you even trolling on this group to be rude.

Tammy - posted on 06/07/2011

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This is the 21st century and I just can't believe people still behave that way! If you look at anyone's family history, you will see that everyone, practically is bi, tri, quad, etc. -racial. Just some show it more in their skin tone, hair type or colour, facial features or other visible characteristic. If someone makes a dumb comment, like for example, like what one of the other women here said how someone called her a "N" lover, just say "why yes, in matter of fact, I am a N lover, what of it?" And just walk away. I bet that they wouldn't know what to say after that! Agreeing with a bigot is always best, it leaves them speechless!

Kimberly - posted on 06/07/2011

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People are ignorant theres not much you can do about it. Don't let it get to you. I had a high school teacher once find out I am half black and say "But you look normal." When I asked her why would I look any other way she said "I thought black/white babies had spots." All I could do was explain that that was untrue and at no time in my young life ever have spots.

Candace - posted on 05/04/2011

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Just try to ignore it. Sadly it's only the beginning. People don't realize how their ignorance cant affect other people. My husband is white and i'm black and his grandmother isn't too accepting so whenever we take our baby to visit her she says something that's negative and as much as I would love to just curse her out and let her know how I really feel I just ignore her. She's not going to change and there's nothing I can do to change her

April - posted on 05/03/2011

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Don't listen to ignorant people. Bi-racial/Multi-racial children are BEAUTIFUL and interracial marriage is just as loving and beautiful as a same race relationship. People who make a big deal about it are just racist. Don't let stupid people effect you.:)

Kayna - posted on 04/25/2011

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Girl I know how you feel! All 3 of my kids are half black. And they have been called the "N" word several times. It makes me mad and sad at the same time. I have been called a "N" lover. I just roll my eyes at these people because they are so ignorant! Sometimes I wonder if maybe they are just a little bit jealous because bi-racial babies are so beautiful! Keep your head up!

Karli - posted on 04/24/2011

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Don't give them any mind, you just teach your child that they are unique, special and beautiful. The fact that other people have close-mided look on the world is their disability and you can choose to believe that they are the ones that have the problem...not you.

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don;'t waste your time getting upset. there are alot of ignorant people out there and if you spend your time concerning yourself with what they say you will always be mad. just let it go.

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