Should I be offended by this?

Meagan - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Okay so my 11-month-old son is of the mixed race (Black, Puerto Rican, Italian & Indian) but he doesn't really look lyke it because he's a lil darker than me (he's more of his fathers color). When he was a couple months old he was lighter than both of us but he's gotten darker. I've noticed that when I mention to people that he's mixed they usually say things lyke "oh but he doesn't look lyke it" or "but hes darker skinned". It bugs the hell outta me sometimes because I feel lyke I have to announce it all the time to people. Yeah he has more black in him than any of the other races but I think he looks mixed. They just assume he's full black because he isn't really light skinned lyke most mixed babies. Should I be offended?

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i think that generally people, unless they have or know someone who has a mixed kid, don't realise that mixed children can look all different ways. it is ignorant on their part but really you can't do anything about it. i would say just to ignore it. you don't need to announce that he's mixed. with my son i don't bother saying anything unless someone specifically asks because i don't like the after-comments/questions. it's really up to you depending on what you want to do

Temple - posted on 03/06/2010

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every race mix you mentioned is from the sunny places and there people are darker than the rest of the world. Your son is a moloto mix he is black because puerto Rican's are considered moloto black by the nation that named them. They come from black afraica's that got pushed to that region by England. But your son is beautiful and that all that matters to people with any kind of heart.

Regina - posted on 03/04/2010

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Don't put pressure on yourself, you don't have to appease people and announce that he is mixed. Either they know or they don't. I wouldn't feed into the he's dark skinned comments either because its just going to aggravate you. Depending on where you live people may not be used to seeing mixed children or even on the variations of black or brown people. That is their ignorance to deal with not yours. You have a responsible to protect, teach and raise your son. You don't need all that other nonsense getting in the way its going to be a long road ahead.

ADRIENNE - posted on 03/02/2010

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Meagan,

I think that this shows a lack of intelligence on other peoples parts. They assume that your child should be light-skinned which I think is crazy. There are some people out there that you can't tell them anything differently. I say just ignore ridiculous things that people say. I know I do. My daughter is 7 years old and people still look at her and I as if she's not mine. I am constantly telling people "yes she is my daughter".

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I use to get offended but not anymore some people are just ignorant to this topic. I am mixed (blk & mex) and my husband is black but me and my kids are all light skinned. Sad to say it's just something you have to get use to.

Meagan - posted on 03/06/2010

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Thanx ladies all your advice was helpful. I'm just not gonna mention that he's mixed and hope that people realize that light-skinned isn't the only mixed color out there :)

Lia - posted on 03/05/2010

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I am married to a bi-racial man that is light skinned but was dark skinned while we were in elementary school together. While I was still pregnant my in-laws were telling me my son will be dark skinned so I started warning my family. When my son was born he looked like he was dark for an hour and now, 4 months later, he's whiter than me. My parents and co-workers think I lied about who the father really is.

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