shud we have to choose??

Cassandra - posted on 10/06/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )




i am a mother of two biracial boys n a girl on the way. my huband n i have been together for 7 yrs , when i was filling out the paper work on my boys after birth they wud not let me put biracial...they said i had t choose white or can they make u choose when ur child is both? does ne body else find this wrong??


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Serene - posted on 05/06/2011




When I had my son i was told that he was concidered black because of the father but, now there is an application that you can fill out that has mixed race on it.. More then one race or you can put black and white on it.

Jennifer - posted on 05/05/2011




That is pretty antiquated. Where do you live? I think the U.S. census started allowing people to check more than one box for their race in 2010. Yes, this is wrong that you weren't given this choice on the form for your boys. Slowly, slowly, more people are getting it right, though.

Jay - posted on 05/04/2011




there is a mixed race box to check on everything I have came across in Ireland anyway..
I would refuse to choose and there is no way they would make me! I would write underneath mixed race or multi-culture and they would have to deal with that!
My son is no more of me than his dad or more his dad than me!
I would have been peeved!! xx

Eulaha - posted on 10/14/2010




I usually just check the box labeled "Black". I'm not trying to deny her white heritage by the way.

Conesha - posted on 10/14/2010




Same thing happened to me. I tried to put both on the form and the lady said that they put the mother's race on the form because they cant be sure if the husband is the bio father, so they go with the race of the mother. That really ticked me off cause we are married and that is like calling me and all mother's unfaithful or liars. I think the whole race thing is not even that important, so if they really want the race, let the parents have the freedom to share that and not have the hospital staff to choose.

BB - posted on 10/13/2010




This goes back to the one drop rule and passing....My childrens birth Certificates say they are black with a white mother. It is wrong but in context to our society if you have one drop then/ now you are still black.On my childrens paperwork I always check other and write in what they are.It's upto everyone as parents to educate our children the way we feel is best, teach your children their heritage and what you would like them to self identify as....I have a feeling things will change soon since the census had a new option so multiracial people have something else to identify as if they choose.

Brandy - posted on 10/12/2010




I had the same problem when both of my kids were born. I threw me the biggest fit ever and they decided to put "other" which still ticks me off to this day, cause I'm like 'wtf my kids aren't other, they are mixed' You would think that today in 2010 with us having an biracial president (no our president is NOT black, he is mixed, and he needs to let that be known) that they would have a selection for biracial children instead of trying to make us as parents decide to let them be in one race group or another. Personally, I believe these biracial children should be taught to embrace the best of all races that they have within them.

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Every time I see this kind of post, it really makes me shake my head. Why would they have you fill out a "race" on any form?! And if for some reason you had to, why wouldn't they do what Kristina said and have an all that apply-style checking system? I've never had to fill out a form that asked what my or my sons race is, just what citizenship we have. Maybe that's just a canadian thing? Either way I'm sorry you have to deal with it!

Kristina - posted on 10/11/2010




The paperwork should now say check all that apply. Mine did when I had my son. But some place are still stuck back in time and need to slapped into our time.

Laurie - posted on 10/10/2010




WOW! My first daughter was born in 1994 when they didn't have the biracial box to check and I would always mark black and white. Since then they have placed a biracial box to check on most forms but if they do not I leave that section blank. There should be no reason for you to have to choose what box to check. Congrats to you both on your little girl who will soon be here!!

Nicole - posted on 10/10/2010




yeah pretty messed up! that happened to me in high school while filling out SAT paperwork Iim black and white). My teacher suggested i fill in black cause then ill get more scholarship opportunities. lmao Its just a statistics thing but you would think by now you can fill in more than one circle. I have 3 kids and i got to "fill in all that apply" (my husband is hispanic) Ur kids will encounter this question all the time on paperwork. Depending on the situation will depend on their answer. Most of the time i just leave it blank. :) just remember its just a piece of paper and it doesnt define who they are and what they pick doesnt mean they are in denial of the other part of them.

Christine - posted on 10/10/2010




They should have a place to mark black and white... they have places to mark if you are hispanic and another race... why do our children have to be considered just black, I'm white and had to give birth to her but that doesn't count for anything on her paperwork... I am in the situation where the "sperm donor" didn't want anything to with us and never will (she has a great man to call her daddy now) so to avoid problems when my fiance adopts her, I marked her birth certificate as white and put father unknown and I was gonna whoop somebody if they dared to tell me I had to mark anything else... I hated that I had to choose one or the other though, that's ridiculous.

Chelsea - posted on 10/09/2010




Yes, I think biracial should be sufficient enough!! Choosing would just make one race look more appealing when in reality you want your child to accept both white and black as their ethnicity equally.

Shirl - posted on 10/09/2010




Same thing with me I put both and they put Black on the paper work and my kids are both Black and white.In the State of maryland what ever race that the mom is thats the race your kids are. So I don't know.Its mess up....

Jackie - posted on 10/09/2010




I do big time. Its like making you deny one race. My son is half Mexican so there is a little bit of leway there. Some legal documents have a box for caucasion of hispanic desent. My friend has 4 mixed white/ black kids and she always get asked questions after filling paperwork on them. She checks the white and black boxes.

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2010




i have a similar problem. any paperwork that i have filled out for my daughter, i will put black/white mixed, but no matter what, it ends up being changed to black. i am white and my husband is black, and for some reason our daughter is considered only black. i think it is stupid and have told them that they cannot choose her race, she is what she is. it is nice to know that im not the only one who has experienced this problem.

Victorya - posted on 10/06/2010




Hell yes thats effed up! If I was you I would have yelled and screamed and made a big sene and I would have been talking to a supervisor or something. I simply mark both black and white and if I ever found out that the paper work said one or the other I'd be pissed. I'm thinking you would probably know what would go down!

Tell them your babies are not simply black or white. That they are mixed.

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