Kerri - posted on 01/19/2009 ( 35 moms have responded )
My boys are bi-racial, father african american, me caucasion Australian. Never had this problem when we were living in the States (bi-racial kids more common), but as soon as we arrived back in Australia (which i regard as very liberal minded and less racist than the US), some people, mainly in their 40's and older, began asking from which country did i adopt my children, or which adoption agency had i used to get my kids, etc etc! I politely told them that they are a product of my own eggs and their african-american father's sperm, and that i thought their question was quite offensive and none of their business. My mom told me not to get so uptight about it, until someone asked her when she was out with the boys one day! She told them they were Australian, and the guy asked again, "yes, but what country are they from?", again she replied they were australian. I told her she should have told him that it is possible for a white person to produce such a thing, and to never ask someone such an offensive question again. The funny part is that my husband thinks i overreact too, but then i said to him that whenever he takes the boys out no-one ever expects that because they are lighter than he is, that they are not his children, to which he agreed!
The quick answer would be to tell someone it's none of their business, but i do want these naive people to know that it is possible for a white mommy to produce a beautiful brown baby!