Tired of Being stared at while in public

Michelle - posted on 04/28/2009

Well I have simular issue but my sister-in-law is going through the same thing you are. Let me explain, My husband is Puerto Rican and his brother's ex-wife was Asian. They have a beautiful daughter but from the time they were dating and then got married, her family hated him. It took years for her family to accept him and their daughter. When they would walk down the street with there daughter, people would stare and point and shake there heads with disapproval. But they did not let that stop them from living a normal life. They are good friends now. So so sum up this story, we just have to zone out the evil people and focus on the beauty of your family.

Monica - posted on 04/27/2009

I mean to say in a sense.

Monica - posted on 04/27/2009

Oh yes! I am African American though my mother was also mixed race and father's mother. My husband is German and I live in Alabama!!!! I get a plethora of stares that have several different meanings if you know what I mean?:). In a since we are breaking another barrier. In my community black women still don't date outside of their race that much and especially in the South. Girl, we could talk for hours.

Maria - posted on 04/26/2009

Hi, Jennifer! I get the reverse treatment. I'm Asian (Filipino/Spanish/Chinese) with Caucasian hubby and have two teen boys, and my boys and I still get stared at in downtown SF of all places! I blend better in Seattle LOL Sometimes, I stare back and give them a dirty look myself. Sometimes, I restrain myself from going down to their level, and just ask them point blank, if I know them. This way, they look away. It can be irritating.

Gabrielle - posted on 02/03/2009

I used to notice all the time when people stared at us (my husband is Italian American and I am Jamaican American... we are currently stationed in Arkansas although we are both from metropolitan areas on the east coast. Now that I am comfortable in who I am and who I am with, I rarely notice not unless its blatant and they are coming at me with their ignorance. But we have had more than stares, people have a lot more audacity the further you get away from diversity. We've had people not take our order in a restaurant, close their lanes in Target, bring questionable food out (no, we didn't take our chances and eat it, lol).... so, even though its tough to continue to see the stares, just know that its ignorance and sometimes even jealousy and you are better than that.

Nicky - posted on 02/03/2009

yes I have when we vacation to other countries, but I did what you do, "what!" and they usually turn away. or we totally ignore them. Jealous! thats all! or they wanna see what your baby looks like.. don't let it get to you.

Regina - posted on 02/03/2009

It's funny that when my fiance and I first got together it seemed like EVERYONE was starring at us all the time. It was completely uncomfortable and we live in NY which is pretty diverse and metropolitan. However, once time past and we got more comfortable with each other, I don't even notice anymore. Usually we have our daughter with us and most are smiles and compliments of how cute she looks. So hang in there, most Asian cultures aren't used to the men dating "others" as long as you guys are happy and love each other, it doesn't matter who stares. Good Luck!

Carla - posted on 02/03/2009

I am Peruvian but always get mistaken for someone from the Middle East and my husband is African-American -- as a dating couple I noticed more of the stares and bad attitude towards me both from African-American women and Latino men. On occasion my husband would notice it too but he basically let it roll off his shoulder -- like Kynyetta said dont let ignorant people get to you and keep on going. Now that we're married and have a daughter I have noticed almost the reverse from African-American women -- whether it is new acquaintances or folks at work -- once they realize that my husband is black then all of a sudden i get smiles, hello's and even a conversation whereas before i would get the cold shoulder -- go figure!!

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Kynyetta - posted on 02/03/2009

i go through that alot, my hubby doesnt seem to care or he doesnt notice but i do. My hubby is Dominican and when i go to places where there are alot of spanish woman they look at him and then maybe i will grab his hand or he will show me affection and they make this face..as if someone gave them a lemon or something...Sometimes i hear little comments like "oh look he must like black girls...or thats probably his friend." i use to get upset but its been so long now i just trained my eyes and ears to ignore ignorant ppl. It sucks we have to have ppl act like that towards us but that makes us stronger...