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We have a girl but my husband keeps buying boy stuff

Marianna - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My husband and I just had our first child that turned out to be a girl. Of course I was super excited and he seemed to be as well. She is 4 months now and I look around and all I see is blue this and boyish toys there. I know his intentions are good but I think he is being a lil passive-aggressive with the boy toys and I'm a girly girl so naturally I wanted pink this and pink that but he said he didn't want to much pink. Now the only thing that is made for a girl in here is her swing, which I still didn't get a chance to pick out. The next item up for grabs is the high chair, and come hell or high water I want a girly pink chair with butterflies and flowers. How do I let him know without hurting his manly feelings that he is sort of ruining my experience as a first time mom to a girl.

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Denise - posted on 05/18/2010

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my daughters father is the same way he has her green michigan state 'ed out but i made sure all my big items were nutral color so we could use them for kids to come but i dress her girly and i let her wear green it turns out its her birth stone and her favorate color is blue im thinkin of getting her a small blue cake for her first b day in a week so dont worry she will define herself my daughter crosses her legs alot so i know shell be a girly girl but im a black woman and her dads white so i know shell b able to hold her own

Margaret - posted on 05/17/2010

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I would say to just sit down and tell him how you feel. When it came down to buying stuff for my daughter it was my first time but my husband has another daughter. So there were times that i had to remind him that this is all a first for me. That the little things mean alot to me even if they dont to him. Also maybe your husband is getting boy stuff cause thats what he likes and not realizing that he should be getting pink stuff for his daughter. I know men arent always in tune to that stuff. I know if i let my hubby pick things out they wouldnt be the same that i would want. Although he does have good taste sometimes i wonder what goes thru his head. Just make sure to say its important to me that its pink and girly. Hopefully he will understand.

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