What are some of your witty comebacks to ignorant questions about your biracial family?

Lea - posted on 09/17/2010

ia am white my hubby is black and and in the middle she looks pure black and in the winter she looks white people give me weird stares and when i walk in to an elevator people stared talking.

Stacy - posted on 07/18/2010

It's so funny, we don't get anything in the way of comments at all. I'm black, my husband is white, and both our girls look just like me, just a bit lighter! I expect more comments than I receive!

Kylie - posted on 07/15/2010

QUESTION 1: Oh she's adorable! ....Where did you get her from?
MY ANSWER: The hospital put her in my arms after I gave birth to her.

QUESTION 2: Oh how long have you had her...??
MY ANSWER: Since she was born. She is my biological daughter.

Alecia - posted on 07/15/2010

This is sooo wrong; but, I would admit to being the nanny, and my bosses lover; and let my giant red headed husband walk over and lay one on me:)

Jamie - posted on 07/13/2010

I have a good one. I am a white mother of to bi-racial boys. (their dad is black) My kids are obviously mixed and several times I get people asking me "What do I call my kids?" I know that they mean like, do I call them mixed or bi-racial or what... BUT i always respond with, "I call them Keyshawn and Cordé!" (their names.... LOL) They instantly know their question was retarded and quickly shut up. haha.



The other one I get is... "Where do your kids get that beautiful brown skin?" I respond with.... "Well, obviously not from their mother!" People are dumb. haha

Charley - posted on 07/12/2010

i am white my fiance is black we went to walmart when i was prego and he walked off and a older white lady came up to me and said ur baby is going to be an abombanation a just laughed and said mam when my son is the next brak obama youll eat your words i also get alot of comments that biracial kids suffer in school cause they get picked on back in the day maybe but now interacial relationships is everywhere and very common

Carol - posted on 07/09/2010

The worst I have gotten is from my own family. My son is dark and looks most like me (white/black) and I joke around saying he's a latin lover baby and a surfer baby because he is so tan. He also looks so much like my dad its not even funny. Then there's my daughter who is fair skinned (she's getting a slight tan not darker) has blue eyes and blonde hair who is the epitamy of california girls and looks like her dad (white). Right after I had her we told my mom that she has blue eyes and blond hair and my mom wouldn't stop asking how she ended up like that since my son is dark has brown hair and dark brown eyes. Let me state it again my husband is white he has blonde hair and blue eyes. When my sister came to visit she asked the same thing. All her kids are mixxed one is black and white and looks almost like me then her other four are mexican and white and the oldest has white skin her two youngest have blue and green eyes and are also white. I told her the same thing and my husband was sitting right there. I belive they are both blind and simply don't listen. I'm happy and love my children I got what I wanted both times.

Karan - posted on 07/08/2010

my own doctor said this to me, "Wow, if I hadnt seen her come out of you myself I would never have imagined she was caucasian."
I am white and Dad is Mexican. She takes after Daddy.

Jennifer - posted on 07/07/2010

I want to thank you for making this post. It has been so interesting to read all the different responses and stories. It never really occurred to me that it might happen to me soon as well, but after reading all these replies there's not a doubt in my mind it'll happen at least once and now I'm an armed momma! I'm white and VERY fair skinned, my husband is from India and has milk chocolate skin tone so I'm really curious how our little girl will come out looking and what kind of replies I'll get. So far everyone has said "I can't wait to see what your baby looks like! She's gonna be so beautiful!" That always feels good to hear :)

Annah - posted on 07/07/2010

oh goodness I have had many comments and my daughter is only 8 months old. My moms parents are very racist and have yet to see my daughter in person, but when my cousin showed them a picture they said oh at least i hate this word but i quote "She doesn't have nigger lips and isnt that dark" I was astounded and I feel so dis respected that they have no respect for me! After hearing that i decided to never let them in on my life. But i have had comments like wow she has a nice olive skin tone or wow what a nice sun tan! I just say her dads black and sometimes i dont say anything because I feel like people are fishing for me to tell them that. I just like to keep them wondering if they really are that stupid!

Ronnell - posted on 07/06/2010

Good comeback Rachael,I like that,LOL :)!

Rachael - posted on 07/06/2010

I am lucky that I live in an area where there are alot of mixed couples. I mostly get stares from people, or people just asking me if he is mixed and they are generally pretty nice about it. I do have quite a few people comment on his eyes, saying "oh I've never seen a baby with eyes that dark before" which is pretty much an indirect way of saying that he can't be all white and what is he mixed with. About a week ago, I was having a really bad day and this lady kept staring at me and I was really annoyed, so when she commented on his eye color I told her I put contacts on him and that's why his eyes were so dark. She got mad and walked away

Ronnell - posted on 07/06/2010

I never had those problems because I give people a look like I dare you to say something,LOL :).My kids are in college and highschool.People may stare but noone has been bold enough to ask me any of those ignorant questions and if they did,they would get an earful from me.

Michelle - posted on 07/05/2010

My husband is pure mexican and I am caucasian. I know we probably won't get too many comments on our childrens skin color versus ours it will probably look like they are just tan or something but I really like this post and it has given me ideas if my kids dont look like me or dont look like him.

Kathryn - posted on 07/05/2010

I don't give a damn if other people stare or say things, because I have the most amazing handsome chinese husband, and the most beautiful baby in the world! they don't know what they're missing!

Amanda - posted on 07/05/2010

That's exactly how mine are, my oldest is all white she is 6 and her brother is mixed black and white he's 8 mo, she tells everyone " that's my cute brown baby" I love it! My husband and her a really close, he's really dark and she is blonde and blue eyed, they get stared at all the time, and often I get dirty looks from older white men when we are all out together, I got asked once if the baby was Italian. ..lol..I looked him dead in the eys and said no he's black! They guy just walked away. ....

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2010

I know how eveyone feels. My daughter is very dark with black hair and dark brown eyes. I am white and when we go places there are looks and comments. But the best response to those comments came from my daughter. We were out grocery shopping and she was riding in the cart asking for everything she seen. ( like most kids) This lady came up and asked her where her mom was and she responded "Duh, right there(pointing to me) The lady walked away with out saying a word. I just laughed and kept on shopping. I believe the best thing we can do as moms is to teach our children to love who they are.

Corky - posted on 07/03/2010

i'm mexican and white my husband is white and one day a few years ago a girl whom i went to high school with saw me at k-mart with my daughter who has the white skin of her father and my eyes and her fathers hair but she looks like me well anyway this girl was a friend of mine when we were young who had spent the night at my house and knew my mother was white that i was mixed well she sees my daughter and says oh she's beautiful i said thanks she said oh is she yours? i was dumb founded but as quick as a whip since at the time i was buying my daughter's clothes for the coming summer season i said nope i enjoy picking up random children and spending hundreds of dollars on them with a grin even her grandmother who was with her looked at her in shock as though almost saying are you stupid or what????

Barbara - posted on 02/12/2010

I'm Filipino and my husband is white (Croatian/English). Our son looks more Filipino than not, but you can tell he's mixed (at least I think so). I remember being at the park one time when he was little. My husband was pushing him on the swings, as I sat nearby on a bench waving to him. The woman next to me says, "Your son is adorable. Is that his father?" Who the hell says that?!?! I was so annoyed by the question that I replied with a sarcastic attitude, "No, that's my male nanny." That shut her up pretty quick. Where do strangers get off questioning my kid's paternity in a park?!?!

Heather - posted on 02/12/2010

After years of questions and looks i just say"She is pretty, she has the best of both worlds" and leave it at that. I dont really feed into other peoples questions anymore about her race. I feel that it is really not a strangers place to ask questions about my child.

Tiffany - posted on 02/12/2010

This is such a great post!!! I have two mixed little girl. I'm white and my husband is mixed himself, so she not very dark but still dark enough to most people think he is just light skinned black. Well my oldest daughter is darker than my youngest! The main thing that I get is "do both your children have the same dad?" I don't know why but that bothers me! It sounds funny cause I can handle the more racial question/gestures more than that! I think it's because they are so close in age (they are only 18 months apart) so it makes me feel a little bit like they think I'm a whore (excuse my french). I don't know but I really don't get to many other comments cause both of my girls are pretty fair skinned! But they tend to call my youngest 'white' which does bother me cause I am VERY proud of my girls and their race!! lol I don't think that my post really helped at all but I really just wanted to say that this is a really good choice of conversation!!!!

Jessica - posted on 02/11/2010

Oh that makes me soo mad that people say that to you. I am pregnant with my first baby im white and the dad is black and i honestly didnt think people were still that ignorant! Guess i have to prepare myself for more than i thought.But you have been blessed with beautiful kids so I would just keep my head high and thank god for what your blessed with.

Rachle - posted on 02/11/2010

ive been in my realstionship with my husband for 7 years who is black i used to be like you it used to get on my nerves when mainly women made comments well one day i got tired of it now i just tell them my mind they say he's with me because he can get over on me i say no he's with me because he doesn't like the drama lol

Rachle - posted on 02/11/2010

im a white woman married to a black man my daughter is reversed from urs shes got dark brown eyes and dard colored hair when im out with him and somebody in his family people always say its good your raising his kid....I just look roll my eyes and say she may not look like me but she acts like me got my atitude and my lil girl says i get it from my momma!!!! lol you just got laugh at those comments cuz they hatin on u we all need more hatters andbody out there wanna hate on somebody ima let u hate on me keep ur head up girl

Ashanta - posted on 02/10/2010

New perspectives to an old question?

Lauren - posted on 09/13/2009

Actually, I don't have a witty comment to reply to anyone for you, but I do on the other hand, strongly suggest that being very forward and honest with such ignorance....My 2 oldest are mixed and my youngest is white, so ppl look at me crazy all the time and kids say things to them like- that's not your sister....but I am very blunt about it...I love my family...I'm just glad your ignorance isn't part of it!! lol It has shut quite a few up really quick:)

Stacie - posted on 09/05/2009

I've only been asked a couple times if/when I adopted my children and I pretty much blew them off. I don't have time for rude/ignorant ppl :)

The question I have more often is 'are they mixed?'

My kids are now 14, 11 and 6 and all of them have had an opportunity to respond to an adult with what I taught them: "my mom is human and my dad is human, I guess that makes me a human. What do you mean 'mixed'???"

This ALWAYS shuts an adult up and gives my kids a chance to stick up for themselves in a non-disrespectful way. :)

Shon - posted on 09/05/2009

It is so interesting and entertaining to read all your posts! Thanks for sharing. My two year-old daughter is bi-racial (black/hispanic) and gets a lot of attention!! Most people go on and on about how beautiful she is! She has dark caramel skin, curly black hair, a huge smile, and spunky personality. I honestly worry more that she might grow up focused on physical beauty rather than her inner beauty. Once in a while we get a silly/rude question like "what is she mixed with?" or "are you her mother?" (I'm black), but I usually am too surprised to make a good comeback : )). So thanks for the snappy answers! We are fortunate to live on a street with three interracial couples and LOTS of gorgeous caramel colored kids so she sees plenty of people who look like she does. I don't get upset when people say dumb things because I don't want their stupidity to affect my daughter. She is really sensitive to my reactions so I always try and keep my cool when dealing with people.

Kandy - posted on 09/02/2009

Your children have the best of booth worlds!

Ashanta - posted on 09/01/2009

Quoting Schmikia:

I'm black and my husband isn't. With each pregnancy my kids got lighter and lighter and my youngest (who I have a pic of online) looks totally white, not biracial. My friends and family joke with me that I must have stolen her away or the hospital must have had a mix up. That's all in good fun and sport. After delivery, for a short time during his circumcision, my son had to be in the nursery rather than in-room with me. When I went to get him I was alone and the nurses questioned me. They checked, re-checked, and compared our i.d. bracelets multiple times before releasing him to me. At one point I pointed to him in the nursery bassinet indicating I was here to get him and the nurse "corrected" me and pointed to a black baby boy.

This one takes the cake for me! This just goes to show that we even have to educate the people that should know all there is to know about genetics!For her sake, the sake of her children, and for the sake of all the other mothers who will have babies that don't share their skin color, I hope that nurse learned her lesson!! It’s unfortunate that you had to deal with that ignorance before you even left the hospital!

Schmikia - posted on 08/31/2009

I'm black and my husband isn't. With each pregnancy my kids got lighter and lighter and my youngest (who I have a pic of online) looks totally white, not biracial. My friends and family joke with me that I must have stolen her away or the hospital must have had a mix up. That's all in good fun and sport. After delivery, for a short time during his circumcision, my son had to be in the nursery rather than in-room with me. When I went to get him I was alone and the nurses questioned me. They checked, re-checked, and compared our i.d. bracelets multiple times before releasing him to me. At one point I pointed to him in the nursery bassinet indicating I was here to get him and the nurse "corrected" me and pointed to a black baby boy.

Jamaica - posted on 08/30/2009

my husband and i are so proud to be mixed! so we expect our son to be proud also. when we tell our races to other people they always have funny comments: yall make up the United Nations, your kids are going to be confused!, and so on "i usually come back with "everyone's gonna end up the same color anyway!" ..since i'm mixed with a whole bunch of races i grew up with these comments also. the key is to just be proud of being multi-cultural. when people come up and say "oh i want a nanny just like you!" say "i'm not their nanny, i'm their mother. they are mixed and proud of it too."

Amber - posted on 08/29/2009

I AM SO GLAD TO SEE THIS ON HERE!!! I am white and my man is black..we have a 17 month old son--who looks COMPLETELY WHITE(blond hair and blue eyes) and a 7 month old daughter---who looks almost completely black...she is almost darker than her daddy who is completely black. I hate being at the store and ppl actually have the nerve to come up and say "oh different dads?" ARE YOU SERIOUS???? show some respect...i live in a tally white city and i am beginning to get worried about when they began school..i am so worried i am gonna have to go in that school and go off!!!

Mirm - posted on 08/29/2009

Hey my name is Mirm and I'm very lucky to come from a family of 6 kids....3 boys and 3 girls......we are half hawaiian and half mexican*but look more mex except for me* but my older 2 sisters and 1 brother have kids with latinos, 1 brother is with a white girl, and the other has a boy with a black girl and now married to a white girl....and im with a Scottish/Irish man........so its safe to say half of my parents kids have stepped beyond the line and expanded their horizons.
.....I know they've had problems with people saying stupid comments but our mexican background makes us really snappy and not so nice when we feel disrespected.... AND im a taurus so im not looking forward to when i have my baby and i get those comments..... i get really really angry and blunt about everything..... so if some one has something to say about our awesomely mixed baby.... im ready... i just hope they have the "cojones" *spanish for b@lls* to take it.
**i really despise racism... considering I'm from Cumming, GA where the population of mexicans were between 20-35ppl.... vandalism on mexican property made headlines weekly and the threats were like a nautical tide....they came high and mighty and went low and quitely..... and was 1 of 5 mexicans to go to my elementary school.....i dealt with it alot...now that im grown....ill be damned if my child has to go thru that too. not if i can help it!!! **

strength..thats what you need...for you and your child!!! plus i feel that it would teach the child that its ok to stand up for yourself when an undeserved remark is said!!

Shannon - posted on 08/29/2009

My issue comes when I have my oldest (who is all white) and my youngest (mixed) together with me. That's when I get the "baby sitter" questions. My 7 year old has started to answer people before I can. She goes "She's my SISTER from my second daddy". LOL Some people have no idea what to think!

Stupid people you can look at both my kids and tell they have the same mommy (they look like me!)

Bianka - posted on 08/27/2009

I've read every single post (and I will keep reading). This is my favorite conversation! :]

Thanks for all your support and funny stories! I'll have some to add soon, I'm sure.

Raquel - posted on 08/27/2009

Quoting April:

Both of my children are mixed and, at work, their usually all I talk about. After bringing my son by work one day to pick up my paycheck I was stunned when later that week a co-worker said, "Wow, April, I was surprised. You dont talk about your children like their black." After biting back the nasty things I wanted to say, I replied with, "Yeah, their not mixed at all. Their father gave birth and everything, its miraculous." I then let our GM, who also has mixed children, know about the comment. Needless to say, he has another job now.

You did a right thing by not  getting on that a-hole's level. That was rude of him to say that. People these days have no home-training, they love saying whatever comesto their minds without censoring what's appropriate. And it's sad that our beautiful children have to deal with ignorance of people in this world. And it serves him right that he lost his job, now maybe he'll learn the idea that if you can't say anything nice don't say it at all.

Diana - posted on 08/27/2009

My oldest is half Hispanic and my two younger children are caucasian, I have been married twice. We get alot of stares whereever we go---but that does not concern us. The question I have been asked is why did your other kids turn out white......I smiled and said I switched flavors......Or while I was married to my first husband someone said to me, your husband is not white.......I said WHAT, OH MY GOODNESS; YOUR RIGHT!!! I deal with it with a lot of humor, my son is 18 years old and now people think he is my husband (he looks older) and wonder why "our" children are white!!!!

April - posted on 08/26/2009

Both of my children are mixed and, at work, their usually all I talk about. After bringing my son by work one day to pick up my paycheck I was stunned when later that week a co-worker said, "Wow, April, I was surprised. You dont talk about your children like their black." After biting back the nasty things I wanted to say, I replied with, "Yeah, their not mixed at all. Their father gave birth and everything, its miraculous." I then let our GM, who also has mixed children, know about the comment. Needless to say, he has another job now.

Michelle - posted on 08/22/2009

WOW, i'm blown away at all the ignorance of the world and to verbally express it is even more mind blowing!!!!I have 3 daughters. my oldest is "white" I am a pale North American Indian, my other 2 are also Filipino. Only once did someone comment. My middle daugher was just a year old and this old man came clear across a parking lot just to ask if i was babysitting. I told him "no" he replies "well that baby can't be yours!" "Uh, well, she is" I said. then he says "well what the hell is she" I was so angry but i could help but laugh " fillapino." he says " oh, whatever the hell that is" and walked away. Everyone around me was staring at me with their mouth open. By this time i was belly laughing!! It was so funny to me to see this old man make his way across the parking lot to get his 2 cents in. I thought boy is God gonna have a chat with you when you get up there!!!

Raquel - posted on 08/22/2009

Quoting Amy:

LOL, people are so stupid! You would think now-a-days they would have figured out to keep their mouth shut. I had a woman at a friend of mines birthday party say to me "Look at your cute little Mexican baby!." My son is white/black mix. I just stared at her and then she says "His skin tone is so pretty, how did you get him?" I was laughing on the inside at how stupid she was, but without cracking a smile I told her I had hired a Mexican surrogate mother, paid her $50 a week and let her stay in my basement until she had the baby. The woman stared at me and then quickly walked away. I don't know if she ever figured it out or not. I feel like I don't owe people an explanation so I just come up with the stupidist story I can, for their very stupid question. Good Luck

Dear Amy,

I'm a mother to a daughter is bi-racial (black and white) and stupidly people always assume she's mexican or another hispanic ethnicity. I really wonder about people's home training and if they know how to censor themselves. I went to the doctor with my 4 month to receive her shots and took along my little brother whose seven. And the nurse comment on assuming my brother was my other child and said something along this line, "Let your mom sit in this chair and you in the other." When i politely informed her that he was my baby brother, she ignorantly, " said oh i just thought different daddys and pointing to my daughter  saying "oh and this one is just a little more whiter!"  I just couldn't believe how free spoken she felt without being embarassed by her own words...For some weird reason, people just don't know how to act  around parents or people who are mixed. And they love cracking jokes and using the ethnicity of being mexican as a target...

Lyndal - posted on 08/21/2009

I raise my child in West Africa and I am caucasian and her father is West African. So I get a LOT of attention and comments every time I step out my front door. (with baby or not but more so with baby cause it's not usual) Those people who know me are cool with the fact my daughter has got my light skin tone but looks EXACTLY like her dad.



My way of dealing with things depends on whether people are polite or not. Here greeting someone is a huge deal so if someone greets me first then I answer them calmly and politely and have a short conversation and a laugh with them about how light she is or the father. Because of her nose and hair they realise she's half West African anyway.



If they are rude I ignore them as if I haven't heard them - depending on their age. A lot of adults will send their children up to make comments. I ignore them. If they are little children I greet them and smile. If they are teenagers I usually turn around and say 'I am old enough to be your mother. You should really show some respect' (or words to that effect) and that puts them in their place when they see i know their culture so obviously I am not just any foreigner.



I have been thinking about our future, perhaps back in Aust., and how I would deal with comments. I think I'll go along the same lines. Sometimes people are just curious and that's ok. I see it as an opportunity to educate or connect with someone. If they are rude to me then I'll make a short comment like 'Yes, she is my child.' and just walk away. Or I might just look at them, smile, raise my eyebrows (as in oh you've noticed something good for you) and move on. There's no reason to entertain them or take up my time with them being rude.



There are times when it's all a bit much though I completely agree. That's also when I just give a short smile, raise my eyebrows a little and continue on with my day. I hope to teach my daughter to deal with things in the same way.

Esther - posted on 08/20/2009

I have adopted a son, so it is not the same as you guys. It is 'n mixed race family and not bi-racial. I also get comments, but mostly people just think that I am entertaining the child of my maid.

Nicole - posted on 08/19/2009

Well i had a young girl who was ringing me out at our local grocery store (im black and white) ask "OMG your skin is great where do u go tanning??" I had the straightest face i could keep and responded with "oh yeah about 9 months in my mother's womb, does it every time you should see my sister" then she pretty much didnt look at me after that. lol. it was kinda funny. I also had a girl when i was at the work place call me an oreo. idk what is is about being called an oreo but i hate it. well in front of a whole staff room of coworkers i stood up and told her "i dont really appriciate getting called your little sweet snack cause i am definently not filled with cream" i think she wanted to crawl under her seat and never come out after that but i think it was more the dirty evil look that had more of an impact than what i said. lol.

Solveig - posted on 08/19/2009

I havn't experianced much when it comes to comments. But once a lady asked me were my son came from. I answered that his father is nigerian. She got so embarresed. She thought my son was adopted from India, because he looked like her children that she adopted 30 years ago. And one time a woman asked me if my daugther were 'imported'. I just answered that I don't import children, but only good hudbands!...

It usually goes with stares here in Norway.

Jessica - posted on 08/18/2009

I have the opposite problem. My son is very dark for a mixed child and actually looks hispanic. I have been accused of being the nanny etc and I just smile and ask them if they want to see our matching butt freckles....lol it makes people feel very uncomfortable and although it makes me uncomfortable as well I figure I am saving the next mom who may be on the receiving side of a nasty comment or stupid question! My daughter is much lighter but she is so young we haven't had any questions yet.

Carolyn - posted on 08/18/2009

When my son was first born he was very pale. He is mixed with black and white. A women came up to me in a store and said it is very nice when people adopt kids. I told her he is mine son and she looked at me like I was crazy. I just brush it off and don't feed into it. It even happened his first year in school. His teacher assumed he could speak Spanish because of the way he looked and wanted him to help the other kids that couldn't speak English. His father went to have lunch once day and notice the teacher kept putting our son with a Spanish child that couldn't speak English. When he asked what was going on. The teacher told him she thought Djuan could help the child since he knows English and Spanish. No one ever told her my son could speak Spanish and on no paperwork did it say he could. She assumed because of his skin color.

Brianne - posted on 08/18/2009

My bi-racial son was born very light skinned. One of my supposed best friends made the comment that he was a "white" baby. And then went on to say how she didn't think my fiance was his father. My response was ... Obviously you know absolutely nothing about genetics ... when a baby is made they receive genes from both the mommy and daddy ... the genes mix and surprise you have a baby ... I also told her she needs to mind her business because he looks exactly like his daddy with the skin tone of his mommy! Obviously she is no longer my friend and I figure if a friend can comment like that what are others to say? Thanks for the helpful responses!

Kathleen - posted on 08/17/2009

Oh, you all gave me some good laughs!!!! My oldest looks downright Asian sometimes, so that causes some stares when he's with one parent or the other. My husband, who is Jamaican with Chinese ancestry (his great-grandmother was Chinese) is the source of our oldest's wonderful eyes! The little one is darker but has my mother's Ukranian face! We haven't gotten the "what are they" question so much...

But I have a sister who is 15yrs younger than I am and is adopted. She is Mexican and black, so every one thought she was my kid, not my sister. My favorite story about her happened about 20 years ago: I was picking her up from daycare and another child and his father were also picking up. The little boy, white, said to his father, "This is my friend, Andrea, and she's black." I thought Dad was going to choke, but I smiled to kind of reassure him. Then my sister put her little hands on her little hips and replied, "I TOLD you! I'm not black - I'm BROWN!" LOL!!! I guess kids know who they are and what they look like!

Bianka - prayers to you and your new family! You and your BF love this little gift from God and dont' let others get to you. When my husband and I started dating, there were little moments of opposition that went away with time. Now our families are all on board and our kids are very much loved!

Ashley - posted on 08/17/2009

Wow! I'm very glad this topic is on here. I'm black and my hubby is white, with the strong genes, so as you can see our boys look like they are 100% white. My 2.5 year old has a little tan to him, but he still looks like he doesn't have any black in him and our 2 month old is the same. When I was living in Hawaii with my older boy, he was a couple of months old at the time, I would get the stares all the time. At the time my hubby was away. Nobody really had the balls to come up and ask me about him. Now we're living in upstate NY and I get the same thing, only that a very few number of people have asked me "is he mine" if I'm out with one, or "are they yours" if I have both of them. I've told people: "No, I just went to a hospital and grabbed the first baby I could find." I love to make people feel as stupid as the question they just asked me. It is hard to do but you just have to let it roll off your back. Stay strong mamis!