Ashanta - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 68 moms have responded )
I am a biracial mother of 5 years old twins and a 2 1/2 year old -- all girls. My husband is white and as you educated women would guess, our girls are all very fair. They all have blue eyes, one has reddish brown hair, one has light brown hair and my little one is blond. Ever since my daughters were infants I have been asked all sorts of unimaginable question -- "how long have you worked for their family", " where can I get a nanny like you”...I have even been accused of lying about being their mother. I've realized that some people are very ignorant, very racist, and are happy being that way. How do we get through it? By being grateful for having been very blessed with such wonderful, beautiful children! Instead of getting angry (as I used to) when an ignorant stranger questions me about my family, I see it as an opportunity to educate them. If I have the time I give them a "free lesson about genetics". If I don’t have time, I suggest they educate themselves about it. You should see some of the looks I get with my responses – quite funny at times! What’s wonderful about it is my 5 year old daughters feel very proud that they know more about genetics then a lot of adults do!
I was curious as to how some of you Moms’ deal with the ridiculous questions --because I know you get them. I figure if we all share our “best of the best responses” then we will always have a good comeback. This may even help arm a new mother of a biracial child who will undoubtedly experience many ignorant questions in their future.