What is the best way to deal with rude comments ?

Tammy - posted on 08/27/2012

You can't change people and their views, but you can ignore them. Don't say a word, nor make a face, nor even look at them, because you never even seen nor heard them.

Kim - posted on 08/14/2012

Look at that person directly in the eye, and give that person the look that you feel so sorry for them. That's what I always do to everyone who is rude to me. That person might not understand that look but at least you didn't lower yourself to them and that way you can teach your child that you don't have to act like a jerk to other people just because their a jerk to you. Just be strong and good luck. :)

Linda - posted on 08/13/2012

I had my first at 17, and I have had this issue from day one. Just tell them GOD loves them and move on. Seriously. I used to stop and argue, even fight with these idiots and nothing u can say will change how they think. I decided a long time ago I'm too good for these people to even react anymore. That's what they want u to do. Misery loves company. It's even worse when ur child comes home from school and they are crying because some little a-hole called them the n word. This stuff happens super early in school which is sad. You just have to explain to your child why ppl are the way they are and hope that they grow up with enough self esteem to know it's not them. My oldest is now 16 and I have twin girls that are 10 that are mixed too and it never gets any easier. But at least you start to figure out what works for them and what doesn't as far as dealing/coping with these isuues. Don't pay these ignorant ppl any mind.

Tifany - posted on 08/11/2012

I was 16 when I ha my first bi racial child and 24 and married we I had my 2nd one and nothing changes I got looks from black and white people even if the kids weren't around .... Just ignore it I actually in courage it because people need to get over it.... I don't see as much racism if say the mom as Asian and the dad black but it's still a bi racial couple ... The things I've been told smh... Teen pregnancy is hard enough let alo it be a bi racial one ... Email if you ever want to talk tcav55@yahoo.com

Toni - posted on 08/09/2012

I would tell you to tell them to f off but we are better then that .My child are half black and I was a teen mother as well so this hit home ..when people make there rude comments you make you comments back ask them if they belive in god and if they do the you tell them (god don't like ugly) tell then to have a bless day and go on your way....

Emma - posted on 08/04/2012

Thanks so much i aporeciate it !

Marian - posted on 08/04/2012

I always take the high road in these situations, which is less rewarding then totally going off on someone, but better for everyone involved. My son is mix racially, and when he was born he was very, very, very fair complected. I mean so fair that you wouldn't have any idea he was half black. Every time we would go to the grocery store or the bank, someone would ask me if I was his nanny. At first I used to get really upset, but then I just got tired of people making stupid assumptions. So when asked I would think of something clever like, "nope, I 'm the womb he came from," or "no, we turned down his color today, he's mine." Some people laughed, some people didn't. You will face many challenges in this world, think of this a good warm up in learning how to deal with other people's stupidity.

Emma - posted on 07/08/2012

Thanks same to you ! & Cameron is a good name isnt it :)

Jennifer - posted on 07/08/2012

I come from an area that has mixed families all around but will still get the stare and comments from ppl. I ignore mostly. Just remember that no matter where you are you are going to have ignorant ppl that can't keep their mouth shut. It's like ppl saring at a disabled child or someone who is overweight. You just have to teach your son that not everyone is nice and there are many jealous ppl out there. And just make sure you build up his confidence and self esteem. Ppl are cruel and you can't change them you just do the best you can do. I have 3 mixed(black and white) and one on the way. I have dealt with it longer than 15 years. Since before having kids and just dating. Just hold your head up high and know I'm the one who isn't closed minded and ignorant they are. Your confidence with show your son that he can deal with anything. My sons name is Cameron too. :) I wish you and your family they best.

Emma - posted on 07/03/2012

Thank you !

Rhonda - posted on 07/03/2012

Like me, you will learn over time to block out those stupid stares and comments. People are naturally curious and will probably always stare. You can't stop them. Don't beat yourself up over it. It's not worth the energy. Save your energy to love and take care of your baby. You any your son are beautiful human beings. There are more good people than bad.

Emma - posted on 07/03/2012

I live in florida but i usually just get stares & one guy said ohh god its another mixed baby , thats discusting ! Its just rude i mean my baby is the same as yours just a different color i love my baby & his father but the babys father & i get very upset . But thanks very much ! I apreciate the advice !

Elizabeth - posted on 07/03/2012

Where do you live, Emma?? It sounds like a very backwards and narrow-minded place, to be honest. I can't believe with all the mixed race children (and mixed-race adults, for that matter, I have grown up with) in our population, anyone could be criticizing such a meaningless thing! (And, BTW, I'll bet any one of them either wishes they could look like, or be with, Halle Berry, or maybe Shemar Moore (from "Criminal Minds") for just a few examples!!)



It is so sad that there is such ignorance and prejudice left in some sections of society, but don't let it be your problem. You and your baby's dad are already doing the very best you can, and that is impressive for two such young people. You both be proud of the good and responsible job you are doing as parents--love your son for exactly who he is--and if people comment, you can either smile and say, "Yes, he's mixed--that means he will be extra handsome when he grows up!" or, if they are really nasty, you can say, "Wow, I didn't know there was still so much prejudice in the world...that's really sad." Or you can simply choose to turn your back and walk away without so much as a word to anyone who has said something that doesn't deserve an answer. It is all your choice how to respond, if at all, because, as long you you stay confident and strong, nothing anyone else has to say on the subject really matters!



Enjoy your beautiful boy and enjoy your relationship with his father. Love overcomes everything!!



Best of luck to you... :-)

Livian - posted on 07/03/2012

ignore them. people say things beause they are curios to get reaction. But theres worse things to think about than that. You will only depress yourself by allowing them to hurt you. Carry on your happy self and show people you are happy. Mixed relationships are a common factor now and its perfectly normal. Im sure your child is so cute. People are probabaly commenting on your age , cos being a parent 16 is very young. Love yourself enough and no one can hurt you.

Emma - posted on 07/02/2012

Okay ! Thanks you guys ! :)

Gracelyn - posted on 07/02/2012

you know that is just normal everywhere we go there are positive or negative comments . you child is still a baby that still would change as he grow. don't you worry about that .

Tigist - posted on 07/01/2012

The best thing you could do is remember that these people are totally ignorant.Until you love your baby's dad why do worry instead ignoring the idea of other you are you and your baby's dad is your baby's dad,so please don't give a space for other!

Emma - posted on 07/01/2012

That sounds good :) my baby boy is beautiful & idk why people would make fun of him expecially a grown man come on ... My son is just like your kids he is just a different color ..

Amy - posted on 07/01/2012

The best thing you could do is remember that these people are totally ignorant. There's nothing you can say or do to an ignorant person that will make them understand how ignorant they are. I'm sure you're child is beautiful, so take the opportunity to show your child how to not allow peoples judgements to cause you to stoop lower. Show them how to be confident in who they are, no matter what race, and take the higher road........of non-ignorance. I'm sure it's difficult to not want to punch someone in the face when it comes to your child, but in the end it really isn't worth it, it just feeds into their already twisted perspective of what they think you are. Surprise them, smile and say, "Yes, I know my son is the most beautiful little boy you've ever seen, but we are trying to raise him to be modest, so please don't stare at him too long and give him a big head." :) and then walk away.

Jan - posted on 07/01/2012

I am a 63 year old grandma. I have one grandson who is the most handsome bronze boy you can imagine. His mother who was married to my son is white, my son is what, his dad is bi-racial. People often ask me how is he related, and I say by heart! Sometimes people make rude statements and at my time in life, I just chalk it up to ignorance. Perhaps you think they are judging you but look at it this way, lots of people are foster parents, adoptive parents and have blended families. Be the best Mom you can be, that is all anyone really needs to see!

Emma - posted on 06/30/2012

Thanks that was much needed & very helpfull ! My son is the most important thing in my life thats why it was hurtful . But i will next time say something when someone says something to me about my son .

Denise - posted on 06/30/2012

It sounds like you are so proud of your family..you are so young but you need to get the courage to stand up to dumb people. Everyone has a opinion and if you stay strong and show this is a blessings(because every child is white or black) dumb people will move on to something else. Good luck....