When to give a boy his first hair cut?

Amber - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My son is 9 months and my first child and I really don't know when he should get his first hair cut. He has a head full of hair right now and it is such soft curls. I don't want it to get too long so that it looks like I don't take care of his hair, but I don't want to lose thos soft curls either. No one I know has boys. Any suggestions as to how to know when to get the first hair cut.

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Alina - posted on 11/08/2009

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Ok, here's how it works. (I'm giving you the run down from my experience with my boys dad's family....it was very funny at the time - so take this with as much humor in it as you can. and just remember - it just one of those "black things" as my kids' dad has said to me on several occasions) YOU DON'T CUT A BABIES HAIR TILL AFTER THEY TURN ONE. You can do it on their birthday, you can do it when they are 12 months and 1 day, you can do it at 18 months. But NEVER before they turn 1!. LOL I was DYING to cut poor Jordan's hair. He was so chubby, and it was SOOO hot, and I wasn't good at putting it up in bands or anything....but everytime I asked his dad to take him to the barbershop - it was a N.O. - NOT TILL HE IS ONE. (what was cool - is that when he finally took him, he went to the barber that did his first cut when he turned one) Now, here's the deal with the curls and what type of cut you get.

If you get a "typical" black style hair cut - or start using "clippers" on your boys hair - those curls will not come back soft again. Period.

Little mixed girls usually have the soft bouncy ringlets - because their hair is always cut with scissors.

If you want your sons' hair to be soft and bouncy - then hey, take him to the white hair cutting places - be FIRM AS ALL GET OUT WITH THEM, even standing there watching them every hair cut till you find a regular person that you trust to only use scissors - and say, please just trim his hair as best you can without using clippers - I don't want to loose his curls or make his hair hard,course, and thicker. (just think about what happened to your legs after you started shaving, it happens much faster with haircuts for some reason)



I really wish I would have known this about hair with my first child, as he had the most amazing soft curls on his head. But now - it's bald fade every day....but he does have major scalp issues and his hair hurts him all the time. His dad never gives him good advice and I don't know what to do with it very well. The dermatologist has tried to help, but I think some of it is just that he can't scrub down to his scalp very well, even right after a very "tight bald fade". which is extremely short all over. A typical bald fade - leave some on the top - would be a good look if you ARE wanting to do a standard hair cut. But be prepared - GO TO A BLACK BARBER SHOP ONCE HIS HAIR STARTS TO THICKEN UP. Or even for the first cut. If you are a white woman with a black husband/baby's daddy - and you are going by yourself - you WILL feel odd going in there by yourself. But it's ok. You aren't the first, and you won't be the last. They are very nice. And lots of luck with your decision.

Kathy - posted on 11/13/2009

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I wanted to cut our first sons hair so bad because it was getting so long and the just would look so messy with the curls as they got longer. My husband kept telling me to wait and wait and wait so finally when he was about 17 months he agreed to let me cut it. I cut it here at home with some scissors and just did a usual trim job all over. It worked out great his hair stayed the same and looked so much cuter! Now looking back at his pictures from before the hair cut I always say, I wish you would have let me cut it sooner it is so fluffy in those pictures! I must say once I did cut it, it grew like weed and he is just like his daddy where he really could use a hair cut every 2 weeks. It can be a pain when I don't get around to cutting it and then you gotta wet it before we go out to make it look nice. Haven't cut the new baby's hair yet and won't for a while but he did come out with quite a bit of hair and long too!

Carolee - posted on 11/06/2009

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I first cut my son's hair at 8 weeks! I just couldn't take the "mullet" look he had any longer. His hair was almost to his shoulders when he was born. It's basically when you feel comfortable with getting it cut.

Lesley - posted on 11/09/2009

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I'm cutting Charlie's hair at one are around his first birthday! He has sft curls but his hair knots up so much.

MichaelzMama - posted on 10/29/2013

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My sons father and I both have curly hair, so consequently my son also has curly hair. He is two years old and it is getting to the point where he always looks like he has "bed head hair" even when I try to work with it. Not only that, but people are calling him a cute little girl. I've read the comments here and some say not to cut his curls off because they won't come back. How is that so? I thought if you have curly hair, you always have curly hair? Same with straight hair? If that's so, how? Why? And if not, would it be fine to just buzz it down and start from scratch? I'm not sure what I want to do, just a trim so all his hair is the same length, or change it drastically and buzz it down...? I hope someone can give me their input. Thank you. (I forgot to mention this is my first child)

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Eileen - posted on 01/23/2014

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My son wasn't born with curly hair but as his hair grew longer it became curly. His hair was out of control and whilst playing at the park, bees got stuck in his hair! Hubby had to pick them out. We shaved his head right when we got home and sadly his curls never came back.

Phanie - posted on 06/15/2012

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If you want your son to have a nice texture of hair for the rest of his life, like waves when he gets older wait until he is 5 years old to cut his hair and the soft curls will grow back.

Michelle - posted on 11/15/2009

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Well I had planned when I had my last son I was not going to cut his hair he had soft curls too, but when he got to be about 2, he was having a fit when I tried to comb his hair and I finally relented and got his first hair cut. We let it grow out now and then to the curly stage, he's 8 now but again I end up cutting it because we start going through the fights in letting me comb and style it. So we keep is short. I don't know if that helps you any, just giving you my experince.

Casey - posted on 11/15/2009

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my son is 9 mths also with the same exact hair! just let it grow and who cares what people think! its gorgeous and he will never have it back!

Megan - posted on 11/12/2009

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I have a 3 year old son who's mixed and I had the same fears, his hair was so curly and pretty and I was scared to death if I cut it I would cut the curls out. I cut his hair at one and we've had it short than long and short and long again and he still has the beautiful curls, I think if your childs hair is curly it will be curly no matter what you do to it.

Pam - posted on 11/11/2009

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My son was 3. He too had beautiful curls. I just made sure his locks were neatly kept in a ponytail. I'm not sure about your family's traditions or heritage, but family goes back generations on the idea of not cutting hair until a boy can talk. Mine had delayed speech.

Jodi - posted on 11/07/2009

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i waited until my boys were two years old to cut their hair.now i wish i had never done it because it's never the same after that first cut.the texture changed and the softness wnet away.now it grows like crazy and every cut looks different.whatever you decide to do,just remember to keep a few locks for keepsakes.that way you'll always have it to treasure.

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