Why does it seem that many mixed kids don't look like their parents. However kids with say two black, and/or two white parents seem to look more like their parents?

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Amanda - posted on 10/07/2012

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My father is mexican, and he's dark, very dark with very distinctive features. My mother is almost entirely Irish and I don't look like either of them. When I'm with my Aunts on his side I can see only a couple things that resemble them and I'm much lighter skinned than their children, all of whom are also mixed with white. It's the same when I'm with my mothers family, there's no real family resemblence. I married a white man and one of my kids looks straight up white, blonde hair, blue eyes and freckles. My second looks just like me and my third looks like his two brothers mixed together, but was born with skin the same color mine gets when it's tanned. So I guess I'd be inclined to say a mixed child born to a mixed parent has a better chance of looking like the parent than the first generationg. But then, that's just my experience.

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i haven;t really found that. most of the mixed kids i know, and i know quite a few because the area i live in there's lots of mixed race children, they usually look like one of their parents. my son looks alot like his dad except alot lighter with red hair but his facial features are almost identical to his dad's

User - posted on 06/13/2012

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Charlene please read the question, it said Seem, DOn't be easily offended. I seen the pictures of your kids they are cute, to me they look like little black boys.

Charlene - posted on 06/13/2012

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Children of any set of parents will pick up features from both sides of the family. Most children take a stronger look to one side of their family then the other, but usually take some features of both parents. To say that bi/multi-racial (or lack of a better term) seem to look less like there parents is silly. My oldest son is a light skinned version of his dad, but also has enough of my features to look a little like me. My youngest son looks like me, but has some features of his father. The only difference, which is usually what other people get hung up on, is the different shade, whether it's lighter or darker then the parents.

Denikka - posted on 06/13/2012

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I did not say anything meaning to offend, and I'm sorry if it came across that way. It is true though, that many people of African descent have broad noses. *Blacks* don't JUST come from Africa though so there's still a wide variety of genetics at work there. In your case, it may be that somewhere back when, one of your ancestors was white or something else, and those features have become dominant. I don't know. Or it could be that one of your ancestors genes came together in such a way that created those features and then they have become dominant and passed down. Anything could have happened.

The point remains that in different regions, different features are more prominent. Not everyone from Ireland/Scotland has red hair for example. But they ARE more likely to have red hair or to carry the gene for red hair. In other places it's nose shape, eye color, lip size, whatever it happens to be.

When you take two people who look similar and they have a baby, the baby is going to look similar to them also. When you take two people who look very different, the baby is going to be a melting pot of both of those people.

And recessive genes can play a big part in things too. If you have a dark skinned person whose great grandmother was white, and that dark skinned person has a child with a white person, there is a chance that the baby is going to come out with much lighter skin. It's not JUST the parents who are involved when it comes to genetics. I've known people who look nothing at all like their parents, but who are the spitting image of one of their grandparents, or even great grandparents.

Genetics are funny. You mix that much material together, and there's a chance you'll get just about anything out of the mix.

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Cc - posted on 07/14/2012

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I find otherwise...my first son looks like his father's twin with lighter skin and my second looks like my mother. That's not to say I don't know mixed race kids who look like neither parent...but I can think of just as many single-race kids who don't look like either.

Alyeene - posted on 06/29/2012

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I disagree. My son is mixed. He looks a lot like his dad and I both. It is comical when people see him. They comment on how much looks like me and I resopnd "Yeah, until you see his dad!" They don't believe me until dad walks up. THen they are like, "Oh, I don't know which one he looks more like! He looks so much like both of You!!!!" My son attends a school with several mixed children and they all favor one or both of their parents....

Janessa - posted on 06/19/2012

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Agree with you Brown black people have so much diversity.We come in different shades, hair textures,features and I would say at least 40% or more black people have squinty eyes sorry Denikka Green it isn't just asians that have that. We blacks also have high cheek bones and lets just say we have all of the features of man kind that is why it is hard to put the negro race in a box because we are your ancestors.

Alesha - posted on 06/16/2012

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my daughter looks exactly like me when i was a child and she looks alot like how her dad does now

Tresha - posted on 06/16/2012

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I've got mixed kids and they are 50,50 of both parents but slightly different colour but Absolutely Gorgeous x.

User - posted on 06/14/2012

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Black is beautiful, is a black slogan thats all, you didn't pick up on it. Its just a cultural thing. White and Asian are beautiful too.

Charlene - posted on 06/14/2012

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@Julie, thank you. You have beautiful children as well.



@Brown, like Julie said, you are absoultely right, black is beautiful, as is being white, asian, brown. You are also right, many people will and do see my children as black, although I find more and more acknowledge them, at least in my country and circle, that they are mixed. In Canada, though respecting and acknowledging all of one's heritage is important. That's why for me, it's important for me to teach my children to embrace all of who they are, not just black, they have a vast rich heritage and I think they should respect it all.

Julie - posted on 06/14/2012

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Brown - I couldn't agree more as far as there being nothing wrong with being black and being black is a beautiful thing, My children are beautiful and I would love them no matter what color they were. However they are not beautiful just because they are black, they are beautiful because they are a perfect mixture of me and their father. As far as being out in public, I get alot of compliments on how beautiful they are. Some people have said my girls look exotic, I've been told my youngest daughter looked egyptian and another person asked me if she was hispanic, my son has also been told he looks hispanic. When my oldest daughter was a baby, I had people ask me if she was hawaiian, so basically in my experience as a mother of mixed children I have come across quite a few different opinions on what my children look llike and it doesn't bother me at all as long as they don't have anything negative to say. Just out of curiousity since as you said "many mixed and black kids look just alike, some where you can't tell if they're mixed or not" ...what does a mixed child look like to you, what would make you say to yourself that kid is clearly mixed (one black parent, one white parent) or do you just find all mixed (blk/wht) children/adults to look black?

User - posted on 06/14/2012

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@Julie your kids look black too. THere is nothing wrong with being black, being black is a beautiful thing. When your kids are out in public, most likely they will be viewed as black, and anyway who cares as long as you love them.

User - posted on 06/14/2012

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Black people look like a mixture of people since thats what they are a Mix of black and white due to slavery. Especially the ones in america. Many mixed and black kids look just alike some where you can't tell if their mixed or not. All black people in america don't look like all black people in Africa.

Julie - posted on 06/13/2012

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Charlene your boys are absolutely adorable and If I was to see them out in public I would for sure guess that they're mixed and not fully black but cute as can be!

Julie - posted on 06/13/2012

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My kids all favor their father as far as their features, with the exception of having lighter skin and my eyes and like Rachael, most of the mixed kids I know look alot like one of their parents. It's actually kinda funny, my son is almost an exact replica of his father but at the same time people say he looks alot like my dad (and I look exactly like my mom). DNA is a funny and fascinating thing, especially when you have a mixture of ethnicities, you never know what you're going to get :)

Charlene - posted on 06/13/2012

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I did read the question, and if you read my response you would see that I said they don't look different then their parents, and the only reason people seem to THINK they do is because they look strickly at the skin colour, and SEEM to have the inability to look pasted the different shades of white, brown or black. Most (not all) people I know, do see past that in my case, and see how my children look like both, including different features.



And I wasn't offended, just responding to your post.

User - posted on 06/13/2012

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Don't be sorry, I wasn't offended at all. But blacks came from Africa, we were just shipped to different places around the globe. I do agree however with some of your points.

User - posted on 06/13/2012

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Blacks having broad noses is a stereotype, because I am black and have per se white features. I am told this all the time. Pointy nose, little lips, keen features, so does my mother and grandmother. I don't have any men in my family with broad noses. I am approached by more white men than black men, and I am brownskin. Now I have seen many white people with huge noses. I have cousins who are black that look asian go figure. My brother and his son's mother are lightskin, their son came out darkskin, seriously.

Denikka - posted on 06/13/2012

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Well, it kinda makes sense. Certain races have certain specific characteristics. Such as squinty eyes in Asians or broad noses in Africans. So when you take, for example, a white person and a black person, the features that are specific to one race or the other are less defined. Same as skin color. A very dark person and a very light person will produce a baby that is somewhere in the middle.
When you have 2 people of the same race, those features are coming from both parents, not just one and so come across more dominantly.
I view it like taking 2 colors. Say red and blue. Mix them together and you get purple. Or blue and yellow makes green. It may look a little more like one or the other depending on how much of each is mixed, but it's still going to be it's own color, separate from its *parents*.
Going with 2 people of the same race, it would be more like mixing 2 shades of the same color. Like sky blue and baby blue. It's still going to be a shade of blue, not a completely different color.

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