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How do I tell my daughter her Dad is "opting out"?

Km7309 - posted on 01/06/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a 7yo daughter. Last time she was with her Dad she came home a different child with signs of stress and anxiety that (I found out a fortnight later) was due to some physical and emotional abuse by her father. I was obvisouly devastated, but followed the correct procedure re: Doctors, DOCS, child psychologists, family relationship centres with hopes to mediation for new parenting rules and to basically force the father to get some parenting education as his discipline methods are as cultural as they are his personality. When I told the father about the mental health of the daughter after the last visit, the psychs, Drs, etc and then asked him to particpate in mediation which would include attending parenting courses, he opted out altogether. How do I tell my daughter? AND if he changes his mond at some point, how do I explain that as well???

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Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2012

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Don't bad mouth him. Which to me it sounds like u wouldn't anyway. I would let her know that her dad is going through some things and hopefully he will work it out so he see her in the right way. She is def old enough for an explanation. I have a 7 year old daughter and I kno she would want to know. good luck with everything .

Cynthia - posted on 01/07/2012

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i wouldnt tell her anything. i would leave it up to him to explain himself.

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