When little boys have no father.

Tone Lise - posted on 01/18/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My husband died when our son was 2 years old. Every day he asks questions abuot his father,why do boys/men do this and that and so on.

In my family there's just women,and all my male-friends have children on their own. Is there anyone who can tell me,or give me some ideas what to do bringin up my little boy to be a man?

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Beti - posted on 01/20/2009

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My first husband passed away when our son was 2 years old... the biological father of the youngest never wanted to know... my youngest is now almost 8 years old and i remarried in 2007 to a wonderful man that loves him as if his own. For along time i found myself with the same worries... the answer is honesty, good friends and loads of love. The rest it will be as it has to be and it will all fall in place.
Best of luck xoxo

Krista - posted on 01/20/2009

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I've been a nanny to 2 children who lost their father when they were 4 and 2. the worst part was their mother never took time to tell them about their father. She's a doctor and got remarried and has another child so she's been really busy and didn't put much priority in that aspect of her children's lives. I used to tell them stories about their dad b/c he and I were very close ( he was my sunday school teacher). they loved it and it filled a void they needed. I would also bring them with me to hang out with my male friends to let them skateboard and do other "boyish" activities they loved it. Maybe find him a big brother in your community to help him see the world from a male perspective (and also someone who's not his parent). I think that would be very helpful to him.

Jamie - posted on 01/19/2009

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My oldest son, who is 23 now, grew up w/o a father. He is one of the most caring, compassionate, and loving humans on this earth. I never really worried about whether or not his masculinity would remain intact. I just wanted him to have a happy childhood. When you don't know the answer to something...be honest! He'll appreciate when he's older, trust me. Just show him love...that's what he needs from you the most right now...the rest will follow. Besides, who says Mom's cant teach boys about football, cars & GIRLS...

Tone Lise - posted on 01/18/2009

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Sorry to hear.



My son will be 4 years i May.



I hope your son will get to know his dad.  :)

Julie - posted on 01/18/2009

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I'm in the same situation... my son will be 3 in two weeks.  My ex husband didn't pass away, he just left.



My heart goes out to you.

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