My daughter has stage 4 Breast Cancer

Theresa - posted on 09/14/2012

my daughter has stage 4 breast cancer, she was first treated when she was 32 and it came back 5 years later,removed her breast and had reconstruction done

,her dr ,I have no use for took her off of cancer medication for 4 years he was my dr till I got smart and got rid of him)

he almost killed me twice thru nelgence,(I have bone cancer)then she had problems breathing which at the time I had no idea she was off of all medication,now she has lung cancer both lung cancer in her hip and spine and a lymph node pressing on her kidney which block her urine causing her to get derhydrated and not being able to eat lost 45 lbs now it has traveled to her nerve in her eye and has blurred visionshe is finally getting treatment after11 months by firing that stupid jerk,and her new doctor is trying to fix the mess of the other one This cold all have been avoided,she is a fighter,still trying to run a businessI just pray that my daughter has a fighting chance,she is 52,if we can keep her without pain and suffering for at least another 5 years,we need a miracle I'm hoping god hears my prayer and grants her a longer life ter

Betty - posted on 09/08/2012

Tell me Brenda did God heal your daughter? We just found out my mother in law has cancer in her brain, liver, breast and their thinking in her bones. For as long as I have known her she has studied the word and been faithful. She thinks God is going to heal her, but the doc. says she only has a few months to live. I believe in God. I don't think he will heal her, I am not sure why she has cancer but I think it is her time to die.

Cathy - posted on 10/05/2011

Brenda - I am so sorry to hear this and understand what you are going through. My daughter was diagnosed in 2008 with stage III. No family history of breast cancer. She did the surgery, chemo and radiation but this March it returned to her nodes and lungs. I too pray for something, ANYTHING to help my daugher. My Angie is 35 - 32 when this all started and has 2 children, a girl 14 and a boy who just turned 6. You and your daughter are in my prayers.

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Brenda - posted on 01/31/2011

Hello Ladies,
My Edna just turned 32. She has 3 beautiful children, Tara 13, Katlyn 8 and Willie 5. She and the kids now live with me as Edna can no longer live alone and care for her children by herself. I will raise her children for her since I can and will keep her children together after she is gone.Their fathers are either uninvolved or unfit to care for them properly and have expressed that they will split the children up, so I am sure that with one of them I will have a legal battle on my hands.
I pray everyday that God will give us as much time as possible so that Edna can raise her children and have more time to make life long good memories for them. I take her to Billings in 2 weeks to have the brain, heart, bone and organ scans to see where the cancer is currently and then to see what can be done to battle it . The chemo she takes daily is to keep the cancer more managable in her brain. Although she thinks I am a rock I feel like I'm crumbeling a little more every day that I see her suffer so, then when I feel like I just cant handle anymore God gives me strength and I somehow manage to get through it again.
Having you ladies to talk to is a blessing to me and I thank you so very much. Please forgive my rambling, but inside I feel so afraid and helpless. I would give anything to be able to take this burden from her.
My love and prayers to you both,
Brenda

Lee-Anne - posted on 01/30/2011

Hi Linda, My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family. I am pleased to have found you also. And also that you can vent your emotions on here. Sometimes we just need to pour all our feelings out. It may not change our situation but it just releases the tension.
My daughter casey was 29 last October.
The support for breast cancer patients in our area doesn't really cater for young people. Even her treatment was in Melbourne which is about one & a half hours away. Even though we have a hospital & cancer centre 5 minutes away. She just didn't fit the mould.
As it was she had a marvellous support team. Fortunately she could have her radiation at our local hospital. She would call in after work.
It is now 1 year down the track this week. There you are, I didn't intend to speak of myself but it just seems easy here once I start. I guess I'm in a reflecting mood today as it it 21 years since I lost my dad to cancer.
I do hope the next few weeks are kind to you & yours.
Love Lee-Anne

Linda - posted on 01/30/2011

This is awesome...and so are you two. I look here for notes daily. I am actually pretty good with a computer, however, I have to take some time to figure this site out and how the communication works etc. and I have not really had any time to investigate it all. So, when it says 'comment here' I do that. LOL Spend a lot of time at the hospital with hubby right now, we are trying to figure out if he can come home or should stay in hospice at the hospital. He wants home and I want him home, of course, but I do not want to do that with a risk of hurting him because I want him here. He is dead set against staying there, but I just do not know. SO, I did not plan to type all of that, just came on out of the fingers, so I must have needed to express it, and I did, so there.
Anyway, I am thanking God to have met both of you here. How old are your girls? Susan will be 37 on February 8th, and I know she is going to get through all of this ok, but the additional stress she is facing with her dad needing hospice and being so close to death has to be a double whammy for her. Your prayers, sharing and words are so helpful and appreciated. Know that you and your families are in our prayers as well. Good night, and God Bless.

Brenda - posted on 01/30/2011

Hi Linda,
Oh yes your daughters hair will grow back just as beautiful as ever. I am glad that your hubby;s hair grew back twice. My daughter Edna has been bald for 6 months with the exception of a 2 inch patch at the base of her neck. The radiologist told us that it may not grow back this time, she has no new sprouts or even fuzz on her head but she accepts it like a trooper, that is why she loves to use a variety of wigs. Thank you so much for the prayers and encouragement, it is greatly appreciated. I am so glad that you and Lee-Anne responded to my post, it is so nice to have someone to chat with about this sometimes, so thank you ladies for being there.
May God Bless You,
Brenda

Linda - posted on 01/26/2011

Brenda, I see that you said your daughters hair will not come back due to the brain radiation. My husband had preventative brain radiation after they treated his lung cancer,and his hair came back. Unfortunately the cancer managed to bypass the preventative radiation and got to the brain anyway. He had to undergo a second course of brain radiation and his hair is coming back again. So, there is always hope. My daughter is handling her breast cancer like a champ, and she is strong and even not overly upset about the probable mastectomy. But, she is concerned about losing her hair. She has 2 wigs to use in the interim, but we are hoping it comes back as beautiful as before, or even better since it will be all NEW. Praying that your daughter gets all of hers back as well. Thank you both for sharing here, it is very helpful to know there are others out there dealing with the same types of things, and sharing. God Bless each and every one of you.
-Linda

Brenda - posted on 01/26/2011

Lee-Anne,
You are so right about the emotional trauma on cancer patients. Casey's beautiful hair will grow back and in the short term she can wear wigs that she will enjoy playing with in many colors cuts and styles. My daughter Edna's hair is permanetly lost since they had to do radiation on her brain but she loves to play with a variety of wigs depending on her moods, she is like watching a little girl playing dress up all over again. Its important that she is told and knows that she is beautiful with or with out hair. As a matter of fact we all play dress up with her wigs and its alot of fun, so maybe you and Casey can do that as well.She has to find fun and laughter and that will do wonders with her emotional state. Our daughters are grown but they are still our little girls and we can remind them to be that little girl all over again and laugh and play and just be silly for a little while, you will see what I mean and you will have a blast seeing her that way, it rejuvenates you both.
I hope you try this suggestion and that it does for you what it does for us, good luck and may God bless you and yours.
Brenda

Lee-Anne - posted on 01/24/2011

Thank you Brenda. Your family are in my prayers also. My daughter Casey goes for a checkup with her oncologist next week.
She is having a bit of a struggle at the moment. Cancer not only messes with their bodies but thier minds as well. It's hard for a lot of people to understand that at 29 years of age to lose your beautiful long hair is a huge loss.
I guess they think you have come through your treatment so all is well, but that's certainly not the case.
It's such a rollercoaster ride with her.
It so helpful to be able to talk to people such as yourself.

God Bless
Lee-Anne

Linda - posted on 01/24/2011

WOW you are an amazing woman, and I am sending prayers and love to you and your family. It seems that no matter how bad some people have it, others are going through more. I do not like that it gives me strength, but it does, and I hope knowing you are not alone in this gives you strength as well. My daughter had a CT scan, and from the results it seems the cancer is localized and she is undergoing treatment now, and will have a double mastectomy, and it should all be removed by His Grace. My husband seems to be getting worse as the days progress and I pray that he does not suffer a whole lot, and I continue to do as much as I can for his comfort. Many Blessings to everyone here, and out there that needs love and prayers and support.

Brenda - posted on 01/24/2011

Lee-Anne,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. I pray that her cancer was caught early and that she will beat this horrible disease. Please feel free to contact me anytime and I will do my best to help. May God bless you and yours and give you strength and healing.
Brenda

Brenda - posted on 01/24/2011

Linda,
I am so sorry that you are haveing to go through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you as you travel this bumpy road. I know your pain and confusion and the torment of being so far away from your child. After a year I finally got my daughter (Edna) to move to be with me. Her cancer is now in her brain as well. She and my grandchildren are here so that I can take care of them as they go through this transition and believe me when I say I feel like I just cant take any more but for some reason God knows that I can so here I am doing my best as a mother, a wife and grandmother to keep somewhat of a normal family life. My heart goes out to you and the struggles you are facing. You will make it through this you are a strong woman. a wife and a mother, there is no greater earthly strength then yours, we do what we must and endure what we have to in order to take care of our loved ones. I will keep you and your family in my prayers and please feel free to contact me anytime and I will try to help as best I can. May God bless you and yours and give you strength and healing.
Brenda

Linda - posted on 01/13/2011

Help me please. After coping with my husbands lung cancer since June 2009, it went into remission, and has now metastasized to his brain, we just learned our daughter has stage 4 breast cancer, and I am beside myself. I live 300 miles from her, and am the only caretaker for my husband, and she called me today so distressed and I want to be near her, and with her, to help her through this. My husband cannot travel. HELP I need some words of wisdom and loads of prayers please?

Lee-Anne - posted on 02/20/2010

My daughter was diagnosed 4 weeks ago. She is 28. She had a lumpectomy and her first chemo was last Thursday.