I need help! My son's father just tagically passed away...

Kerry - posted on 07/28/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hi, I am a 24 year old single mother. I have a 4 year old son and his father just passed away on the 22 of June. It was his fault for what happened. He was drunk and driving excessively fast and lost control and hit a tree. He was in ICU for a week. He was brain dead and severed his spine in half, so even if he had survived he wouldn't have been the same. I am not taking this well at all, I am engaged to another person who is the greatest thing to my son and I, but, I'm still having a hard time dealing with this. I am extremely depressed, and I cry ALL the time! My son knows that his father is in heaven and I told him that a puppy ran into the road and that his daddy swirved to miss the dog and hit a mail box. He is so intelligent and he understands what happened to his daddy. I don't know if he is taking just really good cause he understands and also has my fiance in his like too, or, if I am going to be dealing with a major breakdown with him 1 day when he really realizes that daddy is no longer around. He only saw his father 1 day a week as it was so he wasn't in his life on a daily basis nor did he call everyday. I just would like to see how others handled this..

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Nguyen - posted on 06/02/2013

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Nguyen - posted on 06/02/2013

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Cindie - posted on 06/29/2011

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I have been a widow now since April 7th, 2010...sudden...he just didn't wake up on April 7th! We have one son, he's 12. He is taking this WAY BETTER than I am. They say that kids are resilient (sp) - and I also got him into counseling. I don't understand if you are worried about YOUR son or if you are worried about YOU honestly...it sounds a bit like perhaps YOU are the one that still suffers from his passing (which is quite normal...he was your son's father.) If you are worried that your SON will have problems from this then by all means you just need to keep your lines of communication OPEN with him and honestly I think that by you getting married again (because he is so young) is going to be your saving grace. G'luck with this. :)

Elizabeth - posted on 06/19/2010

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I am sorry for your loss, my story is somewhat similar but my son's father died from diabetes 1 month before his 30th birthday. I was already seperated from his dad and with someone else. My son also saw his dad every other weekend. My son was 5 and found his father deceased. Time heals all wounds, it has been a year since Erik has passed and I still freak out and we were seperated for 5 years before he passed. My fiance has been awsome through the whole thing!! Just keep God close and He will heal your heart. Sorry for your son and your loss, May God Bless You both!!

Ayanna - posted on 04/15/2010

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Hey, I am new to Circle of Moms and to this group.. Had I known that there was a support group out there for this type of pain, I would have joined this group a long time ago... I was six months pregnant when I lost my son's father... It's a pain that I will never forget, but it is something that I have healed from. I watched my best friend leave this earth without ever having a chance to see his baby boy.. My son now is missing the important things that comes with having a father... Kerry --- take it as a blessing that you have a supportive fiance that is there for your son in this time of lost... learn that everything that has gone wrong could always be worse...



Much love for you sweetie.. hope to keep in touch



Ayanna

Trina - posted on 08/04/2009

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Hi Kerry, My heart is going out to you and your son right now. The only advice I can give you is allow your son to talk about his father as that will help him remember. Tell him the truth it will be better for the long run. My daughter was 3 when her father died and she understands that he is in heaven but still frequently asks when he is going to come home. She knows he is gone but does not understand that it is permanent. I have handled it by having her see a counselor, letting her have some of her fathers belongings and allowing her to talk about him as much as she wants no matter how bad it hurts me. The one thing that I can say that I had done for both of my kids was at Christmas time I had purchased a necklace and charm for each of my girls. One said Daddy's Angel and the other Daddy's Princess. I wrapped them and signed them love daddy. My girls to this day still believe that their daddy had bought those necklaces for them.