Chastity - posted on 02/02/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I am a mother of 3 children, my last two children father died in October of 2000, my daughter had just turned a year old and I was pregnant with my son who was born in January 3 months after his father passed away. For a long time I questioned God why did I have to be the one to go through such a terrible situation being that I had a daughter who knew her father but only knew him for just a year of her life and would basically not remember anything about him as she grew up. She would only know him through pictures. Then to make matters worse I really couldnt understand why would I be blessed to have another child with this person but he would never live to see his son or his son would never know who his father was as a physical being. It was a really hard time in my life at that point. It was only a bad time because I knew my kids would never know who their dad really was, and I also knew at some point they would start to ask questions, which im still answering to this day to the best of my ability. I know for sure they long so much for their dad which will always be a obstacle for them as they grow. But what I do is I make sure they see their grandparents every week, we visit his gravesite often even when they just want to go by it just to be there, and I always reassure them that they're dad loved them very much, and is watching over them everyday and will continue to watch over them for the rest of their lives. At one point I even allowed them to write a message to their dad on a balloon and release the balloon outside and watch it go high into the air to where they believe heaven is and also where their dad is, and after that they really felt a little closer to him. And through all of this its only by God's grace and mercy that I continue to live my life striving to raise my children the right way, by God's standards of raising a child.. Its a struggle to go through it but it can be done.