College Kids Having Kids
Cookie - posted on 02/06/2010
Like I tell my own daughter....She had better be married first. If she can't afford to raise it own her own with her own job I will not raise it for her or have it live in my house. I also told my daughter if she gets pregnant out of wedlock she had better get married. No one follows proper morals and values and makes the proper committments with the responsibility. I work in an ER and the only one who suffers in the long run is the child. The child will grow up and realize his mom did not get married and how embarrassing it will be for him especially if he goes to church and learns what God meant in the Bible. There are so many "Bastard" kids running around now it is really sad.
Anne - posted on 10/17/2009
First off I would encourage my college age adult child to be in Prayer for God's Will for their life. As a Christian Mom I realize that God's timing is often not MY TIMING but His is always ON TIME.
Not try to preach or offend that is just how we do things in our family.
GWENDOLYN - posted on 10/03/2009
WE AS MOMS KNOW IN OUR HEARTS THAT TRYING TO JUGGLE SCHOOL AND CHILDREN IS VERY STRESSFUL, BUT SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO LET OUR CHILDREN BUMP THEIR OWN HEADS. BUT BOUNDARIES MUST BE IMPLICATED. TALK TO THEM GIVE THEM THE DO AND DONT'S. THEN THE SUPPORT THEM. NOT WITH BABYSITTING BUT WITH ADVICE. HECK SEND HER A PISSING, EATING, CRYING BABY DOLL. ONE THAT GETS SICK AND THROW UP FOR A MONTH THEN ASK HOW YOUR PLASTICGRAND IS DOING.
Shannon - posted on 10/01/2009
Wow. What a simple and complicated question!
The first answer that comes to mind is: Wait!! Stop!! This is YOUR time to focus on YOU, so that you can become the wife/husband and parent that your future children deserve. It is not the time to decide to be responsible for another person, at least not if you're not already pregnant.
Then, after that, I probably would need a bit more info about extenuating circumstances:
1) Is this a son or daughter wanting to become a parent?
2) Is becoming a parent ACTUALLY what he/she wants, or do they want a baby...kids don't stay babies for long, as you know.
3) Married or not?
4) What is their major?
5) What are his/her career goals?
In my experience, it is really really difficult if not downright impossible to be the best worker you can be AND the best parent that you know your child deserves...To be available when they're sick, or have a special function at school...and EVERY child wants their mama and daddy to be there for them whenever they need them.
In general, no matter the answers to my questions about "extenuating circumstances", I still think my immediate response would be the most true. Wait. The time will come when you are ready for the new little life. You're still preparing for it.
Hope that helps. :)
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