having to let go of your kids
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Carolyn - posted on 11/25/2009
I believe that letting go is really, not butting in to there lives. Be in the back ground someone they can come to for advice and maybe even help. We love our children all the same, with all our hearts. We need to guide and encourage as they grow and explore the world. I don't believe in letting go, I believe in loving, giving, sharing and teaching, respecting, learning as they learn and trusting that all you have done will not ever leave them or you. Unconditional love is a powerful thing and it is given and received at birth. God Bless Everyone!
Janet - posted on 11/24/2009
I too had to let my daughters go. For the first one is was so hard to do. Her four years of college was difficult for both of us yet the best thing in the world for us to grow. I am now about to be a grandma to her beautiful baby girl. She finished colleg, married a good man, and is on her way to a great career, and being the best mom she can be. My youngest is the most together college kid I have ever seen. I am so proud of her choices and life style, I beam with pride. She has one more year to go and will be soaring with the eagles when done. Not a minute goes by that I don't think of them, however they are both great young adults. I know I did my job. If you let go they will always come back to you. Love them, teach them, pray for them and let them go. All will be good.
Tonya - posted on 11/21/2009
Well, I only had to drive my son to Atlanta (less than 200 miles from home) but I still had to acknowledge that my little DJ's gone for good! We have to remind ourselves, though, that this is what we've been preparing them (and hopefully ourselves) for all along. We want our children to be strong of mind and character and to have the drive to pursue their own dreams and goals. We're still included (for guidance and encouragement) but our primary job is completed. We're no longer raising them. Our new job is to support them, listen to them when they call for advice or just an ear, and pray constantly for their safety and success. Since you're a good mommy, you've given the tools for success. It will be all right. That doesn't stop us from missing them and crying about it. Just make sure you do the crying where they can't hear you. We wouldn't want the kids to feel bad for doing what naturally comes next (getting on with their lives)...
Janice - posted on 11/21/2009
Dropping off my daughter to college 500 miles away this past August was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. To give her that one last hug and kiss then walk away tore my heart into a millon pieces! It was the longest ride of my life. But on the ride home I realized that I had done a great job raising her. I taught her to be a responsible, strong and self confident young woman. I still worry about her and miss her very much but at 18 they are ready to go out in this big world and make thier way. We gave them our love and wisdom now its time to let them fly and flourish. My daughter knows how much I love her and if at any time she needs me I am always here.
Anne - posted on 11/20/2009
Hi Tracey, I am not real sure what you mean. But here goes. AS moms we start letting go of our kids the Minuet the DR. cuts the cord. Because my husband and I truly believed we were raising future adults, and not children we put our Children in God's hands even before we were married by Praying for them years before they were born. Please understand I do not mean to sound like we were so Heavenly Minded we were No Earthly Good. --- We just knew that as flawed people we would kneed God's help raising our future children to be the young women they are today. I am sure that this belief helped when our daughters both left for college four years ago within 3 weeks of each other. Our youngest will be finished with collage in DEC. She is going to a small Nazarene University in San Diego, CA. Our oldest graduated from a small university in Charlotte NC this past May. WE live and have all of our lives in MI.
There have been SO MANY TIMES in the last 4 years that God has protected our daughters in such mighty ways that we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that ONLY GOD could have protected them. So to answer your question yes we have let go of our daughters. WE Love them and Pray for Them Daily, but we know that God can do a much better job of protecting them than we ever could.