Rhea - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
Im at a complete loss with my 12 turning 16 yr old stepdaughter. Her mother has always disliked me and I fear its rubbing off on the kids. She is taking her clothing to her mothers home every time she leaves (she alternates weekly with her mother). The biggest issue at hand though is how she tries to control the situation to her advantage. She comes on Friday with a chip on her shoulder for me and it just doesnt go away. Im polite to her and when her father isnt around and I talk to her, her replies are flippant and uncaring. I have talked to her and her father to no avail. I find it very unfair to my 13 yr old son who has to deal with her behavior towards him as well. Daddy can do no wrong and when he puts his foot down when he finally witnesses her behavior, its my fault. She only has a few chores when shes here to which she does when she feels like and not when shes been requested to do them. I have animosities growing for my stepkids and it scares the snot out of me. I dont want this, and have tried doing things with her and her brother (who hasnt talked to us in almost a year, doesnt like our rules) with no luck either. It just turns into what can I get this visit? Help! Xmas is coming and I dont want to buy her clothes if she keeps taking them, but Im not giving them money either, her brother has gotten into drugs and smoking. Counselling has told us we are doing ok.??