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HELP! Right now I do not like my daughter, I do love her, but I can't take the rudeness anymore. She is a college student who lives at home, she has a part time job, and does pay her own car and cell bills. My problem is that she thinks my home is a flop house. That she can come and go as she pleases, sometimes not coming home at night (staying with boyfriend). I have informed her of the "rules" of living at home...be in school, keep her room clean (doesn't happen - ever), help out (rarely happens) and let me know where she is. She has a lenient curfew (2am), but often comes home later. We had this problem before and she moved in with her bf, but she didn't like living there, and came home. They broke up, got back together and are now talking marriage. She thinks that because she plans to marry this guy that she can stay there overnight - I disagree. I told her that she needs to follow the rules or move in with her father or bf. She constantly yells at me when I remind her of the rules, and says that she is an adult, and that I shouldn't be concerned with what she does. (WOW, writing this out, I think I need to kick her out...still hard to let go, I know that when she does not live here, she will not finish school). When she behaves, she is a pleasure to be with, but this "I am an adult" thing has to stop.