Is it ok to missing kid in college 3 years?

Joe - posted on 09/05/2012

Is it a mom thing.. or a parent thing?

I looked to see if anyone but me felt like this... and I'm a dad

My son is in his third year and goes to school close enough to be home almost every weekend.

Even though I only see him a few plus hours a week It's just being there that I like.

I feel something is wrong with me he's 20 and i know he's growing up ..

What's wrong with me?

I love being a dad, it's what I do best...

Sorry, for rambling, I just needed to get it out..



Thx

Cindy - posted on 08/31/2012

I know how you feel my baby daughter just left to college yesterday. I miss her so much and I am crying like a baby. When does it get better?

Jymme - posted on 03/09/2010

It is a Mom thing really. You have raised and nurtured these children for 18 yrs and letting go is a difficult thing. My oldest graduated from Grad school almost 2 yrs ago and the youngest is a junior at UNI. She either calls me or gets me on the computer almost every day, minimum of 4-5 times a week. If she has questions she isn't afrai9d to call me. I guess it would be safe to say I worry if I don't hear from her. I think it is our right as mothers to miss and worry about our college age and adult children.

Liz - posted on 03/09/2010

yes--its ok to miss her! My 'baby' left for the Navy just after 9/11 and she is on the west coast right now preparing for graduate school. we have had only one holiday since then--she came home on leave for Thanksgiving four years ago and it's been two years since we have seen each other. I miss her lots.

Josandra - posted on 03/09/2010

Jahae, I am a South African mom and my girl is a fisrt year student. I am feeling the same way as you. I am missing my girl alot. I think it is a mom thing. Even when you kids are grown ups, you dont stop worring about them and looking out for their wellbeing.. I am thinking of you...

Deanna - posted on 03/07/2010

I have a child that is in college also. We will always love our kids and think that we can not get along without them but we raised them for 18 years to go out in the big bad world and hopefully to be good decent adults and the hardest thing after we give birth to them is to let them go. We all go through this as moms it is harder for us. But remember that they still need us to help them though tough times ahead. Be there for her when she needs you and remember to tell her you love her.

Melinda - posted on 03/07/2010

I can relate, I miss my son too, it's hard especially if you have a close relationship with your child. His 1st yr , I called so much I annoyed him, but when I backed off , he missed me. You will be ok, keep open communication, it's hard for everyone not just you.

Stacy - posted on 03/04/2010

Completely understand. My daughter graduates this May. She is our youngest and most clingy child...she lives 3 1/2 hours away and every issue she has...I want to drive down there to make it all better; and I know that I have to back off and let her try to find her own solution. Letting go gracefully, is the hardest lesson a parent has to learn.



My daughter learned how to survive by watching us. She knows she can always call us for advice or just an ear to hear her out. We try to give sound advice and keep from saying "we knew this would happen" too often.



Our son, the wanderling, lives in Alaska, and left home to go to a school near his grandparents' home in CT. The school was in Chicopee, MA & we live in MI. Every child's dream can be a nightmare for the parents; but, if you want a successful child, you err on the side of caution and let them be who they are going to be.





Being worried about how your child will do on their own is proof that you are a nuturing parent. Good Luck~~

Cindy - posted on 02/28/2010

Our oldest stay home for college. Our son. Our second child Dana only lived away one year of it and it was very hard to leave her there. She returned to finish in GB. We lost her end of Dec 2008. We then had to bring child 3 to college in Milwaukee. Very hard but tempered by the thought at least when we miss her we can still call or text her. We can not talk or see Dana again in this life. Realize that it is temporary. Find ways to show them you care and realize that they are gifts given us just temporarily. They must find their way and own identity. They will always come back for our love and advice. Cherish that.

Diana - posted on 02/27/2010

It is perfectly natural to miss the ones we love so much. The important thing is to not make your kids feel guilty about their choices or the frequency they come home. If you can, find creative ways to keep in touch. My college kids love texting, so keeping in touch via cellphone is easiest. For some, email may be a good option. nIf you haven't learned these technologies, ask your kids to teach you. If they are too far away, find a local teen to help. They will love it!

Anne - posted on 02/23/2010

NO IT IS NOT A KOREN MOM THING. It IS A MOM THING!!!!. Our two daughters left for College four years ago. Both are now graduated and living in the states their colleges are in. Our oldest lives in NC, our youngest lives in San Diego CA. What helps me not miss them as much as I could is e-mails, text messages, and a program on our computer called Skype. It allows us to talk face to face through webcams on all of our computers. Our daughters do not live real close to other family. Our oldest is 11/2 hours from my nephew and our youngest is 2 hours away for my husband/her father's brother and family. By the way mom and dad(MY husband and I,He is both of the girls father.) Live in MIchigan. We are 14 hours by car from our oldest and 4 days or most of a day by air form our youngest daughter.



When the time comes you will be able to say good bye because you are a strong and loving mom. I know this to be true, because your daughter is already not living at home, and You miss her. I hope this has helped.

Anne - posted on 02/23/2010

NO IT IS NOT A KOREN MOM THING. It IS A MOM THING!!!!. Our two daughters left for College four years ago. Both are now graduated and living in the states their colleges are in. Our oldest lives in NC, our youngest lives in San Diego CA. What helps me not miss them as much as I could is e-mails, text messages, and a program on our computer called Skype. It allows us to talk face to face through webcams on all of our computers. Our daughters do not live real close to other family. Our oldest is 11/2 hours from my nephew and our youngest is 2 hours away for my husband/her father's brother and family. By the way mom and dad(MY husband and I,He is both of the girls father.) Live in MIchigan. We are 14 hours by car from our oldest and 4 days or most of a day by air form our youngest daughter.



When the time comes you will be able to say good bye because you are a strong and loving mom. I know this to be true, because your daughter is already not living at home, and You miss her. I hope this has helped.