Kids home for the Holidays

Carolyn - posted on 11/24/2008 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My younger son called today, and informed me that he would be home today, and the oldest is coming home tomorrow for the rest of the week, Thanksgiving.... I love having them home, but it is so nice when they leave to go back.

While off to college they get that taste of independence, and when they come home they want to hang out with their friends. I got in an arguement with the younger son because he stayed at a friends house, and I was worried sick, however, when they're at school it doesn't cross my mind anymore.

Anyway...I told him if he was going to do that again, he'd have to send me a text letting me know. I'm not asking where you are, what your doing, or who you are with.....Just send that text saying "I'll see you tomorrow"

Can anyone relate??????????

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Jeanette - posted on 11/29/2008

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Your reply gave me an lol moment. Of course, if you ASK them, they won't. I just start assigning with a smile. The thing is, YOURS won't want to help even if you ask, but the others will if you just say, "Ok guys, follow me into the kitchen. I'm going to introduce you to an exciting new experience. Come on, let's go." "Jon, hold these beaters. When I turn it on and the potatoes begin to break apart, please try not to let them fly all over the kitchen!" Use humor. Or, boys love to be competitive. If you've got two potato peelers, have a peeling contest with two of them. I don't know if it will work for your group. My own son won't help until the others join in and I know I can get the others to help because basically they are good boys and have been taught to respect "other" adults!

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Dina - posted on 12/02/2008

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Oh yeah!!! It's a mature thing to do. It's not about being a parent. In life you are always held accountable to someone or something. Teachers, mentors, bosses, parents, girlfriends, boyfriends, roomates even. It's a crazy world and that is just irresponsible when they just don't show up. My son tried that once and we both got on him about it and he seemed to see the sense in it so now I get a text saying he won't be home till morning. that's all I would want to know anyway.

Carolyn - posted on 11/30/2008

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I try to think positive when they are away from the house instead of always thinking the worst. The boys, well their boys so I don't worry as much as I think I will about my daughter, however, she has the most rational and mature mind out of all three of them. I was feeling my invasion of freedom when they all showed up on Wednesday, in addition to my sons being home they also brought two friends from college. Now, I've adapted, adjusted, and really enjoy having them all here, and am not looking forward to the last leaving tomorrow. We all hung out and shot some pool, watched some movies, cooked and ate, watched football, decorated for Christmas, and surprisingly, they even cleaned up the house everyday I was at work. This growing up thing really does work if you give it enough time.

Sue - posted on 11/30/2008

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I agree with you as I have a 22 year old daughter who just moved back home and she is having a hard time adjusting to letting us know her plans. I think that it is important to know where they are however, in case something does happen and you need to know where to start looking. I also ask her to wake me when she gets home so that I can rest peacefully.

Martha - posted on 11/30/2008

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Of course we can relate. On the one hand we want them independent, getting ready to do battle with the world, but on the other we want them to know that they always have their famility to come home to. We want them to go put bring back new things--songs, music, ideas, foods, friends--since it changes us. We respect each other and are both independent and interdependent.

Carolyn - posted on 11/29/2008

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Actually it's funny, i forgot i wrote this, but while I was peeling apples last wednesday to make pies for Thanksgiving my son, the one in the red actually made tuna noodle casserole. I just told him to do this or do that and before you know it my pies were in the oven and dinner was ready too. I really have enjoyed having them home, and must confess it's even been nice seeing them enjoy the food i cook.

Carolyn - posted on 11/26/2008

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That's funny....I couldn't imagine them trying to pitch in and cook, the best I can get is "Would you stick that chicken in the refrigerator for me"

Jeanette - posted on 11/26/2008

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Wow, I'm TRYING to get my college daughter to bring her friends home for dinners! We only live a couple of minutes away from her campus (she lives on campus). I was looking forward to her bringing kids by, but I think because she's a freshman, associating with other freshmen, it's all still so new to them. They are enjoying their freedom, eating at the cafe is still cool, and going out locally to eat. Maybe next year...Anyway, what about just purchasing the "fixins" and having them all pitch in to help? I think helping to prepare and clean up the meal would make it seem more homey. Just a thought.

Carolyn - posted on 11/26/2008

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That was my arguement too Suzette. They all piled in the house last night asking what's for dinner, and saying how they were looking forward to home cooked meals all week.........YUK.........I don't miss cooking everyday, that's for sure.. I work dayshift full time and the rush maybe I'll use a crockpot this week

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I always ask the boys to tel me where they are and if they are staying somewhere else when they are visiting home. And to wake me or text me when they get home. I think it is respect for me and their Dad. THey have done it that way since they were driving. without complaining too much, I tell them it is a Mom thing.

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