Geri - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
This may have been brought up but I am so confused!?!?!?!?!?
When I turned 18 my mom and dad told me "Well, for 18 years we have taught you as much as we could and we know that you may have many more questions and need help, we will be here for you when that happens. It your turn now to step out that door and create your own life!"
Well, I am finding more and more parents that are trying to force their kids to do things they don't want to! Could you imagine going to a Doctor's office and knowing that it's possible he hates his job! He is only there because his parents made him!
Can you imagine, finding the LOVE of your life and wanting to marry her or him but your parents give you a choice college or marriage? If they chose marriage without the college they would be worse off! If they were able to have both they would be happier! Would they resent you for making them choose college? Would they come to HATE you?
Letting go was THE hardest thing I am having to do! My children have made their own career choices, that I know of, and they sound happy. They call me often wanting advice on this or that. They let me know when it has been hard to work all week because of classes and need a little extra until the next paycheck. I try not to intrude because I know they are busy getting their life together but could I have really held them back from being happy?
Am I wrong to allow them to live their own life? Am I wrong to allow them the ability to make the wrong choices and learn from them? FREE WILL can I just allow their free will to be mine? Am I supposed to FORCE my children into submission or push them until they hate me and become terrible people?
Why do people do these things to their children????