MK - posted on 06/07/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
My soon to be 20 year old son was accepted to college on a full scholarship when he graduated high school. His freshman year was a joke- he never went to class & ended that year with zero credits. He took the next year 'off' to figure out what he wanted to do & work. He did work, but for my husband & I and we overpaid him for what he did. I accept responsibilty for making a huge mistake by letting him work for us. He has been seeing a girl with a lot of issues for the last year & half. They bring out the worst in each other and I have caught them smoking pot on a few occasions, which I blew up over. When my husband & I told him he wasn't working for us any longer and we would help to a point with his expenses only if he went back to school with us being able to verify his enrollment & grades, he decided to move to Las Vegas with his girlfriend and get a job and an apartment & go back to school. Well, he has run out of money, cannot find a job and is living with his girlfriend & her parents. He keeps flip flopping on staying or moving back east where we are. I am in communication with him almost everyday, but I cannot see him, so I don't know if he's taking care of himself. How do I stay out of this & let him fail? What if something really bad happens?