Debra - posted on 07/22/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter has already finished one year in college and has two more two go. She doesn't want to be at a community college, because it doesn't gi've her the true college experience. Her father and I have divorced and he hasn't helped much with paying for expenses, so therefore, she's had to take out school loans, which have my name attached to those. I'm trying not to be negative just realistic, but she will be starting out after school is all done, with school loans and trying to support herself and it concerns me on whether she will be able to. I agreed to her being in a sorority mainly for the help of scholarships and the community service aspects that it has to offer, but I'm thinking it may not have been such a smart idea on my part. I'm more concerned now about the social aspect, which is good to some degree, but what goes on at some of these social functions, parties, bothers me. I'm told that my mother didn't know what was going on with me when I was her age, which is true, but things are just so much more crazier now or so it seems to me. I don't know if I'm making a big deal with the sorority thing just because of the other expenses and she leaves in a house by school with friends which the loans are paying for all of this. The biggest problem is that with my divorce, I live in a one bedroom apt. with my son and her father lives in a house with a roommate and she doesn't feel comfortable living there and I don't blame her because her father has turned to the party scene in a huge way. I've been told by some people that this would be devastating to her if I took all of this away from her. There was a time when she would be very understandig and felt like she didn't have to have it all, but I feel that now that she has gotten a taste of having it all, she's not willng to give it up. I realize that I am the parent, I'm just so confused and need some insight as if I'm making too big of deal of any of this.