My son going off to college how do you cope

Margaret - posted on 09/21/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I lost my husband in the line of duty back in December of 1998 my son is all I have left and he is going off to college. I know that it will be a big adjustment for both of us. But I am trying to keep a open mind and let him go. Its hard but our kids have to grow up sometime. May his life be full of joy and and his heart full of love. I love you son. Do a wonderful job in college and make us proud of you your dad is watching over you even though he isn't here with us in body.
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Colleen - posted on 09/26/2009

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I sent my first daughter off to college this year, she's almost 6 hours away, I'm in NY and she's in PA. She calls once in awhile and we chat online at least a couple of times a week. It was more in the beginning until she found friends, she does have her car there so if she really needed to come home she could. But I honestly think if she were to come home more then that would have been alot harder on her. I think the distance is good, she needs to know that as much as i love her she really need to, one make her own choices and depend on herself and grow as an individual. She needs to be ready for a very cruel world when she's done with school. It gets easier as time passes.

Sara - posted on 09/24/2009

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My daughter moved away to go to college this year - we are in Kansas and she is in Chicago -- it is very difficult -- I just keep thinking of the wonderful experience it will be for her and that makes me happy even though I miss her like crazy.

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I had to do a lot of praying and a lot of calling myself. Independence is great but they still need their mom's guiedance. My son wanted so bad to do well he tried to handle everything on his own and not ask for help, thats where my calling came in to play. We are wishing you well in all you do.

Christi - posted on 09/23/2009

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I am so sorry your husband's life was taken too soon; sounds like he is a hero but I know that doesn't take the pain away.

I have two sons, ages 16-almost, and 18. My oldest, Karl, went off to college this fall. I will never forget the day. I drove him to school, helped get his dorm in order, but of course we had to make a flying trip to WalMart to get a few things he'd forgotten. When I left, I was tired and not looking forward to the drive back but pushed myself on toward home. I was really ok with him moving away except that he didn't have a phone yet and there would be no way for me to reach him for a while but I had to live with it; I couldn't get him a phone and he was planning to buy one in just a few days so I just had to deal with it. About two miles from home, I got to thinking about him all alone there and what if he gets sick and I won't be there to take him to the Dr.... then came the tears -did I say I was just two miles from home? Oh, ya, I did. I even cried when I told the story of it to friends/family. Two weeks later, he came home for the weekend. Then two weeks after that, he came back for the weekend. Now I'm telling him it isn't necessary to come home every other week!! Once a month would be great, especially since he doesn't have his own car and at the last minute calls me, "moooommmm, will you please come get me?". Naturally, off I go to get him. I think that between the two weekends he's been back in town that he's actually been at home less than 8 hrs!! I think he needs to find friends who have cars and he could catch a ride just paying gas money..... do they EVER do what you know is best? Oh well, we only live once and I'm sure I'll still go pick him up when he asks.....

Crystal - posted on 09/23/2009

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Hello it gets easier I sent my oldest off to college last year and this year was much easier. Try not to mother him to much as he's gone it will make him very home sick. Good luck and hang in their.

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