My son just left for medical school?

Theresa - posted on 08/08/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I know this is a group for moms of college kids. Are there any moms out there who have sent a child off to medical school? There is no group yet for this type of mom. Maybe I should start one? However, my situation is similar to moms of college kids. That is why I came here first.

Five years ago I said goodbye to this son (I have 3 sons) when he went off to college. However, that college was only an hours drive from our house. This morning I took my son to the airport so he could fly to the opposite end of the U.S.! We live in California and he will be going to med school in New York. Saying goodbye this morning was very difficult. I feel like I am reliving the college goodbyes of five years ago....but this is much worse. Our son will be gone for 4 or more years and we will definitely not see him very much (unlike the last five years). To top it off, our youngest son will leave next month for college (our oldest is married and lives nearby). The nest will be empty! After 27 years of mothering, I am finding this transition to be very difficult.

I just joined Circle of Moms today....so I will read other posts. I look forward, however, to any moms who have sent children off to medical school. Are any of you out there in Circle of Moms?

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Nancy - posted on 03/07/2013

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Hi Theresa!
This grieving process started for me 4 years ago when my son went off to Tennessee to college and had aspirations to be a physician. We live in Massachusetts and others consoled me by saying he will be back for summers and vacations. He is quite a motivated young man and started research at his University and stayed there for all summers. he came home when he could but I missed him tremendously. We are very close, and i have been supportive of his goals. He is now graduating and starting Medical school in Georgia at his first choice medical school. I am so happy for him but always still have the sadness that he is gone. It is so hard to let go. i understand your grieve.. As a mother we give so much love and support, sometimes we have to also let them go which is really hard. My son is successful and thrilled with his life so far, and i am proud but a little bit of me is selfish and wants my boy back!!

Francesca - posted on 08/25/2012

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Hi Theresa, My daughter is a (graduate) med student at SUNY Buffalo. I think the empty nest syndrome is the most difficult change I've had to deal with (especially along with health problems) but gets easier with time. Hopefully you will keep up all your friendships & not be a work-a-holic like I was. I didn't attend get-togethers as often as I could have and didn't always realize friendship opportunities, which can get much fewer as you age. I've found I usually have only one or two things in common with people - for example, I am into organic gardening, Bible study, active exercise (fitocracy online is great for this!), remodelling a home (i am just completing an eco remodel which took most of my time), nutrition, which is perhaps my biggest interest; and cooking (or raw meals). I also know few women my own age, 52. I am in various meetup.com groups which I highly recommend, but, again, often only find one interest in common and sometimes values that are opposite of mine. Right now I am assessing how I should spend my time; even Bible studies and volunteering can leave you no time for social pursuits, but I'm now assessing to prioritize what is most conducive to friendships.

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