My son of almost 22 has no motivation to get a full time job....he works 1 or 2 days a week. The only things we give him is food and shelter. Any ideas how to get him motivated??
Timothy - posted on 10/01/2013
I have the same problem. I am a single parent. My 22 yr old son lives with his mother.
He doesn't seem to have any motivation to get a full time job. I am not sure what his problem is. He has never had too many girlfriends either. He is so different from me. I just don't understand what he is thinking or if he is thinking ?????
Pam - posted on 03/28/2012
In today's world, they have to have Internet to be able to fill out application and send their resumes. Back in our day , you went to the company and applied. Not anymore. I have a son 26 years old who's been laid off for a little over a year, he's been delivering sandwiches 3 days a week to help pay some of his bills. Something gotta open up for him soon I hope .
Sandra - posted on 03/13/2012
Usually when we have needs such as shelter, food, clothing, social life, transportation etc. we are motivated to work to get the money to pay for these things. If he has his two main (and most expensive) needs fulfilled by you, then perhaps the money he makes with his job takes care of the rest.
My first thought is what does he give back? Food and shelter are rather expensive to get on the open market, does he contribute an equivalent amount in labour around the house? Perhaps he should. If he has no responsibilities then what possible motivation would he have to leave or to increase his employment so that he can move out?
As hard as it may be, (I know he is still your baby), it is probably time to have a talk with him about either paying room and board or coming up with a roster of things that he must do every month to earn his keep. Do the research and find out what a reasonable $ amount would be. Craig's list would be a good place to look. Rooms/shared should give you a good idea of what he might pay if he moved out. Then, do it. If he doesn't like it then this could be the motivation he needs to look for full time work.
Christina - posted on 03/12/2012
well hes a little old for grounding him but i would defly set down some ground rules. tell him he has x amount of days to get a real job otherwise he better find someones couch to crash on. if that time runs out dont crack. start putting his stuff in boxes when he sees you being serious bout him gettin out maybe that will push him to get a real job
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