Lisa - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 82 moms have responded )
I have a daughter who lives 6 hours away in college. I pay her tuition, rent for an off-campus studio, car note, food stipend, and until recently her car insurance. Her job has been to focus on getting good grades.
What the issue here is a combination of factors: she has this sense of entitlement and disregard for the sacrifices made on her behalf; she is sometimes mouthy and does not respect when I tell her that I disapprove of her mouth or her attitude (varied topics); and she is very disrespectful towards my fiance' (who lives outside my home, but with whom I have been involved with for 6 years). My two younger, teenaged daughters emulate my oldest daughter's negative attitude when she is around, but reverts to their own selves when she is away. When attempting an outing with all my children and my fiance', I get to the point where i even dread a vacation or outing for "fear" of the attitude that my oldest will generate and how this can impact the spirit of the event.
Lastly, my fiance' though a silent observer to this behavior, is a vocal critic when one-on-one with me. Often, i am left feeling angry and resentful.